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C Leafs 2 years, 6 months ago.
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They are always with another Chad they chose over you. No excuses. The sooner you learn this, the better it is for you to ghost her. I’ve had it happen plenty of times, and they always seem to use the same excuse. Hours before our first or second date, suddenly they “have a family member in the ER.” Funny how it’s always the same excuse. And it’s always a relative that isn’t immediate family, like a cousin, an aunt or an uncle. If you guys are getting that message in a text, what she’s REALLY saying to you is: “I found a Chad, he’s hotter/more money and I’m going out with him tonight and probably laying him, and I’ll reschedule with you only if and when I find out that I cannot manipulate him to commit his resources to me.”
That’s what she’s actually telling you.
So when you get these texts on a first, or even second date (for example, I had a second date send me this an hour before we were supposed to meet, even though the first date went extremely well and I chose to not lay her on the first night), it means she’s found a hotter guy she wants to bang or get resources from. Simply pick up on this, pick your pride up and then ghost her.
Block her digits. Right then and there. De-friend on facebook. Whatever you have to do, so she cannot contact you again. Simply reply with “OH, I’m so sorry to hear that!” and then ghost her. Give her NO ammo. And make sure you block her so she doesn’t contact you again to try to sucker you in. Girls like this are notorious cheaters. They’ll always leave you for another Chad at the first sighting of one who shows a sniff of interest.Now, some of you may say: “Don’t reply back with anything, ghost her!” And to you guys, I say that’s not a bad idea, and can work, but:
If you have a good reputation in town, don’t do this. Because then she can say “Oh well he was an asshole and didn’t respond.”
So respond, but be nice, then block her ass. She won’t be able to process it. She’ll think “Well he was nice, and said he hopes I am ok, but I can’t find him anywhere!” It’ll drive them crazy. But they won’t be able to divert any anger towards you.I’m sure more of you could also relate to this happening, but this was an experience I have shared that I feel I could pass on to some of these younger MGTOW’s who may be going through this. DO NOT CHASE. Do not do anything. The big red flag is if she doesn’t offer to reschedule with you in the same text. If she says: “oh this came up, but let’s reschedule”, then that means maybe, just MAYBE she actually likes you and MAYBE it’s a legit cause. But if she doesn’t bother to reschedule with you? It means she’s found another Chad, and she’s wanting to bait you in just in case it doesn’t go the way she wants with his resources and sex.
Just. Don’t. Do It.
Stay MGTOW my friends.Don’t schedule a date for any activity that you wouldn’t do on your own for your own enjoyment. If the c~~~ doesn’t show, her loss: you can still have fun (maybe even more fun). And yeah, chasing women is pure blue pill. If they’re not pursuing you aggressively, then you’re being used, simple as that.
Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.
Agree, any sort of messing around the timing of the first few dates are a sure sign that she does not give a s~~~ about you or any guy. You can overwhelm her and still get her but just a matter of time before the truth comes out.
Let the good times roll
Anonymous7If a she devil wants to be with you… she will be with you.
She will make it happen – come Hell or high water!
The female will search high and low to find a babysiter, money, clothes, transportation, etcetera, to get to you.
Don’t be fooled – AWALT!
If you are stood up, she has better entertainment.
If she doesn’t contact you, she has something more intriguing to attend to.
If she is not responding, in any way, you are not to last long.
Disloyalty, lack of integrity, and outright lying is subject to…
MGTOW!
They come up with excuses. Some are more clever than others. Some may even have you fooled, but look at the results, that’s all that really counts. Is she putting out? Is she going after you? Because like LoneStar said, they don’t mess up when they really want you. And remember… AWALT (it’s your surest bet).
MGTOWKnow when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.
If she wanted to be with you, she would.
If not, she is wasting your time.
Why let her?Meh
There are more than enough monkeys in this jungle, another one will swing by shortly and you really dont even have to be patient about it.There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it
The female will search high and low to find a babysiter, money, clothes, transportation, etcetera, to get to you.
Don’t be fooled – AWALT!
If you are stood up, she has better entertainmentAnd the better entertainment for her that night might simply be watching tv alone in the company of a gallon of ice cream!
You must own a better Crystal ball than ISpend enough time in the field, and any man will calculate the flake rate is roughly 75%. Three out of four times you can expect this s~~~ test, and it’s just to see how you’ll handle it.
But you can stop it before she tries it, and you make her feel like a piece of s~~~ – before she can do it to you.
“You’re definitely going to be there, yes? Because I don’t tolerate flakes”.
EVERY one of them will say “Oh yeah definitely! I’m not like that!!”. So now you have her cornered. If she STILL doesn’t show, postpones or cancels – you make sure she never hears from you again. No explanation. No reply to her text. No acknowledgement of her apology no matter how desperately she blows up your phone. No more discussion. She does not exist. SHE f~~~ed up and she knows how.
It’s ALL on her, and you don’t need to say another thing.
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There was a girl (much younger) who I have a history with – for years. She’s usually very cool, very fun, very easy going and reliable. We hadn’t chatted in a long time, and she very enthusiastically wanted to meet after work one night for a bite to eat.
We arranged a time, she confirmed, I wrote back “flake and die”.
She “lol-ed” and said NO WAY would she flake on me. “See you tomorrow!”As regular as her period, 2 hours before we were supposed to meet the next day, she opens BEGGING for an apology, because she had to “take care of her mom’s dog”.
She never heard from me again, and my phone exploded for days.
She didn’t think I was serious. They never do. They don’t think you have the b~~~~ to just forget about her altogether – and permanently cut her off. Especially if she knows you already.
“WTF?? ARE YOU SERIOUS?? HOW CAN YOU DO THIS YOU F~~~ING ASSHOLE!!!!”
Music to my ears.
I’m not the asshole here. SHE is, and she knows it. With no effort from me ( because I set it up to be all her fault if she flakes ) it festers in her mind for days / weeks / months and you stand out as the ONLY guy who doesn’t f~~~ around.
You just can’t cave or give her a second chance – no matter what.
One chance. Per chick. Per lifetime. No exceptions.
If you need to have the last word, let that ^ be it.Women think you’ll be there no matter what. They think they can treat you like an “option” for as long as they want, and you couldn’t possibly be sincere. When they realize they are wrong, this is the kind of thing they WILL remember when they slam face first into the wall. It’s ALL their own fault.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.Just another example of my own personal philosophy:
“Do NOT listen to what they say, SEE what they do as that reveals their TRUE intentions!”
Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.Eh, I have a slightly different view on this.
First, I’m always going to text an hour or so ahead of time to confirm. If she doesn’t confirm, I don’t show up. If she confirms but then doesn’t show, then I break contact.
If she cancels for whatever reason, at any time, then it’s on her to make plans for a reschedule. I don’t pay attention to her reason, because it’s irrelevant and really not my business. It’s still on her to make the next (or first) meeting/date/whatever happen. 9 out 10 times though, she’ll never contact you again. Either she isn’t interested anymore or believes that it’s still your job as a man to make it happen. That’s fine with me.
If she does contact you though, I’m under no obligation to talk with her or go out with her….I never was in the first place before the cancellation anyway.
If she put in the effort and setup another meeting, then cancelled that, I can’t imagine I’d be up for anything more. She simply doesn’t have the time or interest, and either way, I’m not interested.
This isn’t really any different then I’d treat a guy friend in similar situations. Life happens and you have to cancel sometimes when you don’t want to. It does happen, although people lie about it all the time. I can be understanding, but I’m still hanging out with you/her to have fun, and cancellations aren’t fun.
As far as blocking goes, I wouldn’t bother with it until she starts being annoying. Chances are you won’t have to put in the effort to blocking her since she won’t initiate contact.
Ok. Then do it.
Anonymous11I used to have this happen to me quite a bit back in my younger blue pill days. It was always a Chad, or some dweeb whose father had a fat wallet. Whatever she says is nothing more than an excuse. Any semi-attractive woman will always have an orbiter swarm, she always takes the best offer for her.
You definitely want to walk away forever. It speaks volumes.
Don’t schedule a date for any activity that you wouldn’t do on your own for your own enjoyment.
This. This is the secret to “dating”. Stop dating. Instead, go where YOU want to be and do what YOU want to do and if someone you maybe spoke to about it earlier shows up, good for them. If not, someone else who is also into it (and who made the effort to be there) WILL show up and you hang out with them instead.
If that someone happens to be a woman and s~~~ happens, it happens but it’s not the point of you being there. If you’re at a place you don’t want to be waiting around for a woman who isn’t coming just because you hoped to get some pussy, well you’re reading the wrong forum. Go watch a few hundred hours of Sandman and come back.
Doing what you want to do for your own reasons is the very essence of going your own way and once you start doing it, you quickly realize how unimportant the idea of “girls who…” is in your life.
Anonymous13Breaking dates is a sign of low interest level. A girl who has high interest will rob banks for you and even if she breaks a leg, she’ll come to the date on crutches.
The ONLY time a broken date is acceptable is if she reschedules. Note, SHE must reschedule, NOT you.
If she doesn’t forget her number.
For me, I’m not chasing women anyway. I couldn’t be bothered to put time, energy and money into something that has nowhere to go.
All Relationships now come with a breakup by date.
They all eventually fail, what a waste of time and money, I’m simply not investing in some woman’s meals and entertainment.
Not. F~~~ing. Interested.
Beautiful post, KM.
She had to “take care of her mom’s dog”.
Where the f~~~ do they even come up with these…
One chance. Per chick. Per lifetime. No exceptions.
One of the best lines I picked up on this site. I’ve always followed this principle, but I love having it worded so succinctly.
Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.
…or you can tell her something along the lines of: “I am going to be at *so and so place* by *so and so time*. You can join me there.”
That way, you’ve not only asserted control on the “date”. You’ve also sent a message across that; whether she likes it or not, with or without her presence, you’re going to have fun/a nice time.
If she doesn’t show up, that doesn’t affect you in any way & it’s her loss.
No further calling or texting to ask whether she’s still going to show up or not. If she calls you to flake, your response should be: “ok” and hang up. If she sends you a flaking text, simply ignore it.
Go there, have a nice time and leave.
-that’s my contribution.
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As far as blocking goes, I wouldn’t bother with it until she starts being annoying. Chances are you won’t have to put in the effort to blocking her since she won’t initiate contact.
^this!
My brother make you no follow sheeple o. Look them and Go Your Way.If she doesnt treat you like the best one, on to the next one.
"You meet a few exceedingly forsaken, Sit around the cooler refusing domestication" Aesop Rock
I LOVE this board, it discusses how things REALLY are! Thanks for putting the simple truth into words @previous posts! ^^
The blue pill forums/guys on the net always give ‘the benefit of the doubt’ to the woman: “oh, she’s probably very sad she had to cancel 10 minutes before the date’, ‘oh, she will definitely make up for it’, ‘oh, she will appreciate it if you suggest an alternative day/date’, ‘oh, learn to live with it, that’s how it is these days’… blablablabla F~~~ NO!
She is treating you like disposable SCUM, she’s f~~~ing rude and inconsiderate as hell and if you were to die tomorrow she couldn’t give a s~~~ — and, by the way, tomorrow she’s f~~~ing CHAD again anyway.
How about THAT, my blue pilled friends??
I’m done with giving women a “second chance”. I still remember a tinder match a few years ago (lord have mercy on my soul), – we were texting and I suggested we’d meet up. (Um, that’s kinda WHY you’re on Tinder: to meet up, no?) She seemed very interested, but of course ultimately gave me the speech: “I’m sorry, I don’t feel like dating at the moment, too much going on in my life right now, maybe later we can meet up if you still want, yadayayada…”
This broad was a 35 y/o woman, a 6/10 at best….. And she probably had a stack of thirsty White Knights begging for her approval that same night.
I was very close to having digested my red pill at that moment in my life, so I just wrote back: “OK, have a good day” or something like that, INSTEAD of suggesting “OH OF COURSE my princess, we can meet up when you’re 46 and have finally slammed the Wall, THEN you may have time for me, my dear princess…”(She probably thought: ‘hm… this guy didn’t like me..?’ before she put Chads’ 12 incher in her mouth that same night…..)
As others have said, and I REALLY WISH every young guy will KNOW this: if she likes you and wants to f~~~ you, she WILL make time for you, she will make it breathtakingly EASY… always! NO bulls~~~ (not until later in the relationship anyway, haha)
Meh
There are more than enough monkeys in this jungle, another one will swing by shortly and you really dont even have to be patient about it.Men still care FAR too much over this s~~~. Who f~~~ing cares? It’s blue pill PUA based thinking. There are loads out there. Ice the ones who aren’t KEEN if you MUST play the game. Dates with women suck anyway if you aren’t guaranteed to get SUCKED.
If you fall down 7 times, get up 8
Don’t schedule a date for any activity that you wouldn’t do on your own for your own enjoyment.
This. This is the secret to “dating”. Stop dating. Instead, go where YOU want to be and do what YOU want to do and if someone you maybe spoke to about it earlier shows up, good for them. If not, someone else who is also into it (and who made the effort to be there) WILL show up and you hang out with them instead.
If that someone happens to be a woman and s~~~ happens, it happens but it’s not the point of you being there. If you’re at a place you don’t want to be waiting around for a woman who isn’t coming just because you hoped to get some pussy, well you’re reading the wrong forum. Go watch a few hundred hours of Sandman and come back.
Doing what you want to do for your own reasons is the very essence of going your own way and once you start doing it, you quickly realize how unimportant the idea of “girls who…” is in your life.
Golden advice. I usually have a funner time WITHOUT women, hanging out with friends or on my own. They bring complications and stress most men do well to avoid…
If you fall down 7 times, get up 8
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