Do You Think Youve Ever Rejected Women Because of a Defense Mechanism?

[qeeqoParticipant 1168]

Anonymous wrote:

Since going MGHOW, I reject women on a much more regular basis. My blue pill friends think I’m crazy for not having sex with these easy women. I sit there and think about how many c~~~s she’s taken in the past 24 hours if she’s willing to f~~~ some guy she does not even know. I could be the most demented sick f~~~er on the face of the Earth for all she knows, yet she wants to cheat with me on her boyfriend. I’ve had a f~~~ing string of these lately.

It’s amazing what sticking your dick in crazy will do for you.

I remember one about 12 years ago that I met on the internet. I broke it off after the 3rd or 4th f~~~ and she called and threatened suicide unless I got back together with her.

Would that be cremation or burial and do you have a living will?

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

Yeah, I think it might be a defense mechanism, but I’d say I was more aware of it all consciously. Not really the fear of getting hurt emotionally, as so many women suggest, but a look at the facts. I’ve learned to be very observant with people, and you can tell when someone is trying to manipulate you. They might be subtle or not, but anytime I see it I make a conscious effort to avoid it. My reasoning being: If she’s manipulating me now just by verbally ignoring me, treating me in shady ways, then how would she be if we had sex? It’s common knowledge women withhold sex if they’re mad, even blue pills admit that. So hows this going to turn out if we do f~~~? If we get married? If we have kids? Yep, she’s not worth spending ANY time with.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

For a bunch of virgins typing in our mom’s basement, there sure seems to be a lot of guys here with stories of sexual experience. Makes you wonder if the women stereotyping us that way are stupid, not listening, trying to project the problem onto us, or don’t want to face the fact that they have become a liability. Negative net worth to a man’s life. Failing a simple cost / benefit analysis. Overplayed their hand about the price a man is willing to pay for access to the golden vagina.

I believe the short-hand definition of that is hitting the wall.

I have a sudden urge to get on my eTrade account and buy more stock in box wine and kitty litter. Later gentlemen..

Order the good wine

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I always avoided the easy lays. I just figured I’m not some kind of super stud, if she’s throwing it out there for me she’s just a slut and done the same thing for who knows how many more guys before me, and definitely not worth my time.

Anonymous wrote:

I’m glad I never got married. However, the left overs are truly horrible. The women, and many men are terribly out of shape. The former NAWALT who spent 25 years in an abusive relationship either shuts down or goes f~~~ing wild and has issues that only therapy can fix.. The sluts are still sluts though now sporting 1/4 mile dick heights. The dreaded single mom who has 4 kids by three different guys. It’s a f~~~ing wasteland.

When I was younger I didn’t care if I didn’t get married til I was a little older…I thought it would just give the future fatties a chance to plump up, the burn outs time to burn out, etc. When I got into my late 20s I started looking around noticing this exact same thing. The wall is definitely not kind to women. I was so glad I didn’t get married because I realized the odds I would have got something I really didn’t want 5-10 years later was about 104%, and when I look around at whats left the pool is pathetic. I’m barely even interested in dating anymore.

I’m not a religious person, but I thank god every day he made feminist sluts too stupid to lock a good guy down when they are still young, hot, and in their prime, if he didn’t make feminists so stupid I’d probably be trapped in a miserable marriage right now.

[NotMyProblemParticipant 965]

I do this on a daily basis. Due to my job, I encounter tons of females every day. I know I can bed many of them but something just kicks in and I can’t bring myself to do more than flirt anymore…

I know where that brick road leads.

They are truly pitiful creatures and I just don’t want anything to do with them anymore.

Not my property... Not my problem

[OldBillParticipant]

As a MGHOW, I reject women both automatically and unconsciously.

Over the years I’ve deliberately crafted a public demeanor which allows me to reject women. It’s much less tiring to be proactive in this regard than reactive. Projecting the proper demeanor means I only have to react or reply to approaches by the most clueless Wall-victims because those women paying even the slightest bit of attention realize that they are not welcome to approach me.

Teaching women to “pre-reject” themselves makes the process much more easy.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

I think of defense mechanism as irrational. My ex was like that…she’d assuming I was accusing her of some wrong before I said or did anything

I dont know why youre equating a defense mechanism with being irrational. What your ex did wasnt a defense mechanism. It was attacking you.

Whats irrational about avoiding an hour or two of pleasure (sex) at the potential risk of a lifetime of child support, a disease, or false rape accusation? Absolutely nothing. It would however be irrational to accept that risk for the reward of a one night stand.

Dont get me wrong- Im neither a virgin or some monk. I was just reflecting on many advances and opportunities I passed up over the years based on gut level instincts; and now Im realizing what I was subconscioysly thinking but didnt bother putting into words at the time.

Resident cynic.

[Everything is all we’ve gotParticipant 233]

It’s got to the point for me where acquaintances assume I’m gay because I just don’t bother with girls as much as other guys, only the friends that know I’ve dated know I’m straight.

It’s been a year since I’ve dated or got laid, in a way it’s actually good being unemployed because you have zero worth to a girl thus no prolonged female attention.

"You can suffer from a life experience, or you can learn, move on and thrive."

[RennieParticipant]

I know I’ve indirectly rejected women before because I didn’t trust the lot of them then and I sure don’t now.

[Anonymous 26]

I recently rejected two women not out of a defense mechanism, but because they were F~~~EN NUTS!

ok so maybe in hindsight since I don’t need nor desire any crazy bitch cutting my little buddy off while I sleep, that is is a form of a defensive mechanism….. as well as a form of self preservation.

The dangerous combination is when they are hot looking and mentally unstable! I think after a certain age that once our main head is in complete control over the little head that rejecting a hot chick (for what ever reason, maybe she isn’t nuts, but maybe she’s jobless and flat broke, etc…), it gets easier to justify to oneself and accept the decision and not humping that route.

When your mind is in control you can justify thinking….”yes she was attractive and hot, but she also had this and that, and this as well against her”. The logical shows itself clearly and you are left having made the right decision in the end.

Decisions are definitely more difficult to make if your in the process of getting blown at the same time (AND she’s good at it).

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

The dangerous combination is when they are hot looking and mentally unstable!

I dont think I was clear in my original post. Basically Im thinking back to scenarios where some hot random chick is giving you the f~~~ me eyes, or overtly sexual comments but you dont even give her the chance to find out if shes mental. You had the gut instinct to avoid her altogether and not act on her/their initiative.

I know there were many times I did this. In looking back Im thinking it was a defense mechanism in realizing the girl was hot and a slut and couldnt be trusted because she could get dick all day long and she knew it. Realizing the power trip young good looking women have when using sex as a means of manipulation to get whatever they want, even if what they want is dick, they have access and control over sexual encounters much more than men do.

Resident cynic.

[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

qeeqo wrote:

When it comes to women I have nothing but self defense mechanisms left.

For me it’s not so much a matter of a subconscious defense as it is as overt conscious defense against real danger. I have found women to be unsafe, unfriendly, conniving, destructive, and not worth 2 shakes of a s~~~ pursuing. They have nothing intellectually or stimulating to talk about, and if it wasn’t for their easy degrees which men don’t give a s~~~ about they’d have nothing at all. Thank God I am not a young man in this steaming pile of s~~~ of a world that women have turned it into. Let society collapse. I’m out. It’s all been an illusion and a painful one to wake up from.

I also have defense mechanisms as regards snakes, bears, and wolves, as well as myriad other things that can kill me.

Keymaster wrote:

There was just something about her that wasn’t right, I couldn’t put my finger on it exactly, so I just went with my manstincts.

Whether one prefers to think of it as the Holy Spirit (my general interpretation), or the “still small voice”, or whatever your cosmology prefers, it’s generally worth listening to.

I no longer date, and most of the time no longer wish to date. My experiences with women have been uniformly awful. The experiences of *everyone I know (under the age of 55)* with women have been uniformly awful. The experiences of *almost* everyone I know over the age of 55 and under the age of 70 with women have been uniformly awful. Feminism has destroyed women, and destroyed relationships.

All Grenades Are Like That.

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I never had to do this much, because I tend to not put myself in situations where that would be warranted.
It appears to me that unless someone’s either actively dating onilne, trolling on FB or going to bars – situations you are describing do not simply present themselves. Because I don’t chase tail at all – I have nothing much to speak of.

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Absolutely agree.

I have it honed to a point know where it’s almost like breathing. Second nature brother.

Fuck this planet.

[Anonymous 29]

In retrospect, I think I didnt fall prey to many womens advances in my youth, largely due to a defense mechanism to protect myslef against them;

No such defense for me.
For more than four and a half decades I f~~~ed anything that was still walking, warm, breathing, slim and not too fugly.
Always and for ever a man should set the goal posts and not let her shift them. If they so much as look like they will do it . . . .”pack your bags and f~~~ off ” . . . . . . . . . ” next !”

[Anonymous 26]

You had the gut instinct to avoid her altogether and not act on her/their initiative.

Yup Ancient Wisdom I get what your saying and I’ve been in that situation where it was blatantly obvious to my instincts that she (the uber hottie) was prowling to take advantage of someone. I’ve seen this happen to me personally and I have witnessed it happening to buddies…. and 90% of the time the broad was stinking drunk looking for a free ride home, OR acting drunk and looking to roll a dude over for everything of any value on it.

Call me a skeptic but chicks don’t tend to be that aggressive or that openly easy without some kind of personal gain or pay back to her!

[GrumpyParticipant]

After a few hard learned lessons. I would say yes I think I have rejected a lot of women as a defense mechanism.
I would go so far as to expand that statement as a self preservation mechanism, in every aspect for myself. For me, based on my relationship experiences so far, I can’t see how I could enjoy the adventures and pleasures in my life being tied to a post, inside a locked corral, in the middle of a burning field.
I prefer to have my little illusion of being free, by being alone.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[BDParticipant 1146]

My best modern defense rings in my head every time it happens, Messenger Rising’s words of wisdom, “It starts with a smile”

“It starts with a smile” … It really does, your wallet being emptied, the endless nagging, the never ending attempts to control your free will….

Ignore these smiles and go on with your day, enjoy your life.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

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