Do you ever feel like the people around you suck you dry?

[MaverickParticipant 811]

By sucking you dry, I mean leaving you physically and/or mentally drained after interacting with them.

I find this often to be the case at work. I work at a place where I interact with many different personalities over the course of the day. Being in IT, I often deal with people who are stressed.

There are people in other departments (mostly women) are very self-centered and think they are the center of the universe and think you are supposed to jump at their command (instead of going through proper channels) in order to serve them. They don’t care how busy you are or that there are others that are ahead of them…even if their request is no big deal. It’s a power game, just to say how important they are in comparison to others.

I went to a relative’s house the other day who fixes cars. He spent most of the time bitching and moaning about the model of car I bought (because I didn’t follow his advice and buy what he wanted me to buy) and about how much of a pain in the ass they are to work on. If I don’t take it to him then he tells me that I’m getting ripped off. No matter what I do, the guy will find fault with what I say or do.

I have another family member that bitches and complains and likes to dump his problems on me as if I don’t have any problems and I’m suppose to feel sorry for him because of problems that he created for himself. It seems that some people love to dump their problems onto me (or try to get me to carry part of their burden) but none care about my problems.

Is it just the people I’m hanging with or is this common these days? Where do all the cool people hang out?

[OneTrueMisfitSpectator 2690]

Don't care

[ghostParticipant]

Walk away. You deserve better.

Zero f~~~s given.

[Anonymous 43]

I am an introvert. being with people is draining.

[Anonymous 14]

Maverick wrote:

Is it just the people I’m hanging with or is this common these days? Where do all the cool people hang out?

Most of the cool people hang out here.

And yea, most people in real life are draining… Over the years I have trimmed down my personal contacts to just a handful of reliable, intelligent, non-lecherous friends.

I would rather be alone reading a book than dealing with most people. Also, there are very few true intellectuals out there, most people bore the f~~~ out of me with their nonsense. I mean I get along great with people on a day to day basis when out and about, no worries there. It is when a relationship develops where the problems come into play. Best to drop some of the dead weight in life when you can as fast as possible, it makes for a smoother ride.

[Anonymous 6]

I had a chick do that once….Best BJ i’ve ever had too

[bladeParticipant]

Maverick wrote:

By sucking you dry, I mean leaving you physically

Yes i have been sucked dry .

Dyd , may7 , sky’o and the rest of the crew do the milk run .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 6]

blade wrote:

Maverick wrote:

By sucking you dry, I mean leaving you physically

Yes i have been sucked dry .

Dyd , may7 , sky’o and the rest of the crew do the milk run .

I think @JoeBauers and @hitman were in that group as well lol

[nagolbudSpectator 674]

All the time man.. some people just literally are draining.

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[MaverickParticipant 811]

ghost wrote:

Walk away. You deserve better.

Zero f~~~s given.

I probably should have walked away years ago rather than continue to spin my wheels. I think about leaving….and then think that perhaps I would be jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire.

[MaverickParticipant 811]

Anonymous wrote:

I am an introvert. being with people is draining.

I think that’s part of the issue. There are a few introverts in my group, but most of the people in the other departments are extroverts.

[Anonymous 12]

I’m very introverted so it has happened a lot. At the moment we have a trainee at work who is more like a woman than a man. He just talks and talks, he also has no idea that he is the new guy and tries to stir people up etc. Trying to train him is just a waste of time and space.

I’ve even felt crowded at times by friends I only chat to via email!

My mother wears me out too, I try and give passive, neutral answers she doesn’t get the hint keeps pushing. Every now and again I will just tell her straight up and she gets upset at my responses. I explain to her that is why I tell her bulls~~~ answers.

She doesn’t get it. I have heard songs that have been better friends to me than people.

[MaverickParticipant 811]

Anonymous wrote:

Most of the cool people hang out here.

I can’t argue with that.

Anonymous wrote:

And yea, most people in real life are draining…

I thought it was mostly the crowd that I’m around. I’ve been in the same situation for so long that I have forgotten what it was like before. I recall interacting with a greater number of interesting people in the past, especially when I was younger (20 something). There seemed to be more people that were up front, honest, and capable of intelligent conversation. Not sure if it was because I was younger or because it was a different time. Or maybe I’m just looking at the past with rose colored glasses.

Anonymous wrote:

I would rather be alone reading a book than dealing with most people. Also, there are very few true intellectuals out there, most people bore the f~~~ out of me with their nonsense. I mean I get along great with people on a day to day basis when out and about, no worries there. It is when a relationship develops where the problems come into play. Best to drop some of the dead weight in life when you can as fast as possible, it makes for a smoother ride.

Same situation here. I do have good social skills and manage to keep most of the people happy, but they take it for granted. I went out of my way to help a co-worker with a few issues that none of the co-workers in my department were able to help her with. While fixing her issues, I made a small mistake that was really no big deal, and she got on my s~~~ about that, even though I’m the one who goes out of my way to help her. As they say, no good deed goes unpunished.

[MaverickParticipant 811]

Anonymous wrote:

I’m very introverted so it has happened a lot. At the moment we have a trainee at work who is more like a woman than a man. He just talks and talks, he also has no idea that he is the new guy and tries to stir people up etc. Trying to train him is just a waste of time and space.

I have a new co-worker just like that! He is a 20 something that thinks he knows everything. He is a very bright guy but all talk and no action. Very smart but very lazy. I have found myself covering for him on more than one occasion because he doesn’t seem to want to do anything unless someone is pushing him. I’m not paid to be a supervisor though. When the boss yells at this guy (in a cowardly e-mail rather than confronting him), he’ll include me or other co-workers so he doesn’t have to confront him directly. My boss and his boss are more concerned with organizing potlucks and nagging for the sake of nagging than they are in getting s~~~ done (and they are men).

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

A woman is the biggest drain on a man. Manginas do not help, since they only simp to women, since they think it’s going to get them some pussy (they may get a little, if they are lucky, but far less pussy in return for what they do for the woman). I do not bother with them and I ignore them. They are not worth my brain-power nowadays. There is nothing worse than seeing a man pussy-begging/pussy-chasing. You’re a man, so ACT LIKE A F*CKING MAN.

[ghostParticipant]

Maverick wrote:

I probably should have walked away years ago rather than continue to spin my wheels. I think about leaving….and then think that perhaps I would be jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire.

I have been there, bro. It’s not an easy decision but you will know when you’re ready. You will just make it and you won’t look back. It will just happen. It will feel amazing but you must be ready for the fire. You will have to face it head on. Believe me.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

I recently went from working with all men to working with about 10women. Let me tell you… it was quite a wake up call.

I don’t give in to their requests. I’m actually the new guy and already call shots with some of them because I like to take initiative to get things done.

I can totally relate OP. Ever since being around more people(including other men) their negativity starts to drain me but I look past it and continue on my path. If someone is talking to me about negative things I literally call them out for it or just walk away. I don’t have time or energy for that. However, if someone genuinely needs help or advice, I’m always willing to help others.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

All the f~~~ing time, I deal with my s~~~ alone.

Why can’t everyone else do the same?

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Fr JackParticipant 926]

My mother is like this, even a 5 minute phone call will leave me feeling drained, it’s always constant mind games. If you are not feeling depressed before speaking with her, then you certainly will be by the time you have finished.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Maverick wrote:

Do you ever feel like the people around you suck you dry?

Only if I tolerate it. So, NO.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

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