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Anonymous26So I work with a real c~~~ guys…. she has good days and bad days, and mostly bad days. We are a total of six in our department and she’s the only gash in the group. She asks me questions where I need to explain it to her, cuts me off in mid sentence and oozes sarcasm.
The day she started she said to everyone that she has mental issues like depression and anxieties, etc…. yawn, blah blah blah!
The situation is like this…. (and this is me imitating her in my sarcastic Redonkulus mocking voice), “I want everyone to talk to me nicely because I have issues, but when I fell like it I’ll bite your f~~~en head off for no reason”.
I’ve seen her do it to EVERYONE in our group, and a few others in the company…. however, I’ve only seen it when it involves men.
I’ve got to work with the bitch, no avoid it. I’ve researched and watched some “working with the opposite sex”, and I cannot simply run away, nor do I want too. But my patiences is starting to run thin.
Need some counseling here lads………
Anonymous42Stop showering and stink like hell! That’ll do it!
Tell her you have issues too, like strange sexual fantasies of rape and torture! That’ll really do it!
Act insane and drivel on the floor, reach for apples that aren’t really there, get sicker than she is (if possible).
I don’t work with women for a good f~~~ing reason! THEY’RE WOMEN! Be real f~~~ing glad it’s only ONE!
Anonymous26oh she f~~~en knows not to p~~~ me off… when she first started we car pooled and she helped pay my parking. But after the first time she flipped on me I told her…. your taking the bus again!
Our boss…. The f~~~en department manager had a complaint on him (done at her hands) to the office manager about him stinking!!!!
I can’t f~~~ up my meal ticket bro, am in a house of cards here…. I lose this job over a woman, my ass is in the streets.
Dude, just whatever you do, don’t get yourself fired unless you have a solid backup plan.
Be sure to keep as many options on the table as possible, and remember, if she complains to her supervisor, you’ll likely end up in big trouble.
Maybe try this: Every time she cuts you off mid-sentence while you are explaining something, just purse your lips as if you have a really good comeback, nod, chuckle silently, wait for her to finish, and ever so quietly ask, “are you done?” if she says yes, say, “are you sure?” before you keep going. Make sure you take your time doing this, and whatever you do, stay polite. Just be the quiet guy that doesn’t get p~~~ed off easily, but don’t be afraid to have mild passive-aggressive body language.
Remember: You are a man, she is a woman. Don’t let her get into your head, as that is what she is trying to do. She is no more of an annoyance than a fly, and will build your patience and self control. Try different tactics to make it harder for her to annoy you (like every time she interrupts you, just walk away and tell her to talk to another guy who can explain it, and that you are done with her right then). After you find the right technique, you will be able to make it so she must approach you on your own terms, and she may not interrupt you while you are answering her questions, or be sarcastic, or she will simply not get her answer.
It’s like training a puppy. “You want to pee on the carpet? Fine. You may not go on the carpet”
Hope this helps, brah.Just a misogynist virgin hiding away in his mother's basement. Nothing to see here...
Anonymous26It’s like training a puppy. “You want to pee on the carpet? Fine. You may not go on the carpet”
Laughing my ass off… yeah I wanted to spell it out! Thanks Pvt. (someone needs to promote you), very useful advice. This morning when she cut me off I got up from the chair that I had pulled to sit beside her…. I put the chair back and crossed my air and gave her “your annoying me look”. For the rest of the day today she gave me peace and quiet and walked on egg shells around me.
The ace in this game is…. everytime she f~~~s up everyone sees and hears it in the department (open concept no dividing cubicle…. f~~~ now that I think I wish I had an office to close the door on her). When I told her that she’d be taking the bus again, she feared losing her job because of her mouth.
I told her once, because she was starting to share her life’s problems with me…. I said “listen, everyone has their own s~~~ to deal with… your 40 years old, and there’s nothing I can or will do to help, I’ve got my own pile that’s my pile to deal with…. deal with yours”…. end of topic!
The best thing to do is stay cool and keep my composure!
Long term? Work on your back-up plans. Update your resume, start networking, and schedule interviews. Start looking for your next job.
Short term? Start saving more, cut expenses, pay down any debt. Get ready for a move and/or short bout of unemployment.
Day to day? Be polite yet terse. Do not engage in any conversation with her that is not immediately work related. No chit chat, no personal information, don’t even discuss the f~~~ing weather. If necessary, cut back on social conversations with your male co-workers as she may well be part of the group conversation. When she asks a question, answer it in as few words as possible. When she demands more help – and she will – direct her to your supervisor because you “don’t feel comfortable training your peers.” Keep our mouth shut and your opinions to yourself.
Remember, polite yet terse.
This woman is more dangerous than the usual “worthless c~~~ at work” because she’s already complained about your department manager. She and the c~~~s in HR/Personnel – the archetypal female corporate job – have marked your manager as a “possible problem”. That means he’s going to be worried about his job and so can’t have your back.
If your department were larger, you could possibly avoid her often enough to protect yourself. Sadly, 6 people doesn’t leave you a lot of room to maneuver.
Finally, don’t mention any of your problems with her in your exit interview. That interview will be on file with HR/Personnel and, after they read that you’re leaving because of the woman in question, the c~~~s there will be happy to defame you to any potential future employer who calls.
Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.
Anonymous26I’ve never shared any in-depth information with her about my personal life. Yeah I’ve whined about women on the dating scene to her, but I stopped that quite a few months ago. If the situation was reversed I could have gotten her into beaucoup big time trouble because I have had to ask her to stop touching me! yeah your read that right! Get the f~~~ out of my personal space!
If your department were larger, you could possibly avoid her often enough to protect yourself. Sadly, 6 people doesn’t leave you a lot of room to maneuver.
She sits right behind me….grrrrr!!!! Hence I don’t have a lot of breathing room.
Excellent advice OldBill, greatly appreciated!
The best thing to do is stay cool and keep my composure!
I think that’s really the key. You’re not going to change her. She’s a useless bitch, and will always be one. If she’s made it to 40 without understanding how to interact with other adults, it’s unlikely that you’re going to be the one to teach her.
Calm, cool, and collected. When people interrupt me, sometimes I forget where I was. Sometimes I have to start over. Not sarcastically, of course, I just forget where I was. Sometimes I have to muse about it and ask where I was.
I’d avoid conflict if at all possible, and try to avoid her to the extent possible. It’s good she’s f~~~ing up a lot. That’s a good thing. If this job is critical to you (and in this economy, what job isn’t?), try and just keep your cool. Women enjoy playing games. If she gets some kind of response out of you, she’s winning.
If she’s already complained about your boss, then she’s probably not long for this world. That’s corporate suicide.
Good luck.
"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."
Also: Eventually, someone else may decide that she is their enemy. Let them fight it out, and stay the hell out of it. There is generally no victory in quarrels like this. Disengage, disengage, disengage.
"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."
Anonymous5The day she started she said to everyone that she has mental issues like depression and anxieties, etc…. yawn, blah blah blah!
Three of the very worst women I’ve dealt with in the workplace introduced themselves in the same way.
The very worst of them also threw in a “weak” heart as well. She used this whenever she didn’t get her own way, feigning heart problems at will whenever she was challenged.The best solution is also the best therapy to deal with her.
Keep records.
Keep a list of points each day on a scrap piece of paper and then write a quick report each night.
Create another email account and send each report to your own email on the same day.Use recording devices. They’re cheap and discreet such as spy pens (ten dollars ebay). There are many, including your phone.
I’ve done a mod on a spy pen that now uses an 18650 battery. It goes all working day.You’ll quickly find that every c~~~ act she does is a bonus instead of ongoing stress and frustration.
You’ll actually look forward to her c~~~ acts, and the bigger the c~~~ act, the better.Don’t ever let it get down to “Her word” V “Your word”. You’ll lose every time, especially when it’s almost always after she’s managed to get you to have a negative reaction.
She’d be used to manipulating workplace kangaroo courts and she’ll play victim of male privilege like a pro.
If you have accounts and recordings showing her behaviour, you’re better than fine, you’re a victim!!!!!
Anonymous26I’ll watch from the side lines as she sinks…..!
Yeah not to boast or anything but am the main producer, no one matches my volume and quality or work, she however has experience and knowledge that I do not, that’s her edge.
But she is sure to continue on your path of attitude because that’s all she knows. Obviously not a team player especially in a team and work sector predominantly male. There is no prescription on the planet that can help, and if she gets herself into a situation where she’s going to tank be it professionally or otherwise….. and backing away (as in keeping eyes on her so I don’t get stabbed in the back while am in reverse gear).
…wait for her to finish, and ever so quietly ask, “are you done?” if she says yes, say, “are you sure?” before you keep going. Make sure you take your time doing this, and whatever you do, stay polite. Just be the quiet guy that doesn’t get p~~~ed off easily, but don’t be afraid to have mild passive-aggressive body language….
Can vouch for this. Bitches fkn hate it. 😀
Just play it smart and let her hang her self
Never fuck a crazy chick.
Anonymous18Use recording devices. They’re cheap and discreet such as spy pens (ten dollars ebay). There are many, including your phone.
That’s a must have when dealing with a crazy woohmahn.
I am an Android guy but I did have a 3G (ifune) back in the day and there was a app that recorded last 2 minutes of conversations once you tap a button in it whenever she has her moments and says crazy stuff.
So instead of rummaging through hours and hours of daily life, you can have a similar app on your home screen, launch and tap it.
You will get plenty of evidence to showcase her crazy to your boss or jury (whichever happens first… Lol just kidding).
I bet she looks sweet and harmless from outside.
All psychos have mastered the wet puppy look.
As already mentioned do not let a crazy inside your head.
Keep cool, calm, and collected. It will drive her crazy, but that’s her problem. It’s not worth getting into a verbal brawl with a petty individual.
She asks me questions where I need to explain it to her, cuts me off in mid sentence and oozes sarcasm.[/quote
Getted interrupted while taking the time to explain something, that is solely for the benefit of the person that is supposed to be listening, is one of the top ways to get oneself onto my personal s~~~list. Business included.
I work “on site” 99% of the time, and come across some of these in the form of customers. Never have I had negative feedback from handling it in this manner.
They:????
Me: Professional tone answer…
They: Cutoff with argumentative tone.
At this point, I stop everything. Give them 100% expressionless attention. Nothing else matters. It gives the impression that I actually give a s~~~ about their ignorant overriding rebutle.
Then the fun part.
Eventually, they always run out of s~~~ to say. Due to them at some point, realizing that my expressionless expression is not from me being interested, but merely me retaining composure while watching and wondering how much MORE ignorant bulls~~~ can someone actually spew from their mouth.
This is furthered by retaining said expressionless expression for a duration no shorter than awkward, after they finally empty their bulls~~~. And thats when I ask them for more.
At this point, I usually almost always received an apology for the interruption. And receive a much greater deal of respect in future dealings.
Hope it helps. Works for me.
Anonymous26You will get plenty of evidence to showcase her crazy to your boss or jury (whichever happens first… Lol just kidding).
Well I was thinking earlier this evening…. if the shtf someday and lawlessness rules…. am gonna put me steel toes to her [sorry Keymaster… your gonna nail me this I know it….kidding], but definitely a good call guys on keeping records and evidence!
I bet she looks sweet and harmless from outside.
if only…. she’s a total butterface…. always a smug look, almost reptilian looking!
At this point, I stop everything. Give them 100% expressionless attention. Nothing else matters.
Over the course of the summer I gave her a week’s worth of stonewall, not even a good morning. On the bright side of that, I got away with it. No reprimands or discussions about it.
Want to p~~~ her off and eventually make her change her behavior? Only talk to her when required. Smile often even when she’s being a total bitch. She is trying to make men angry and hurt you need to reflect that.. Think of a moment of your life when you were really happy and mean really visual it. When you get to that state, touch your thumb with your pinky. Do this at least 12 times. Now when you touch your thumb to the pinky finger, you should be happy if you’re not then doing what is described. This is called NPL and it’s a technique called anchoring.
"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle
Try anchoring this is something every one does it unconsciously. I can’t post youtube videos on here so you will have to go on my wall.
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"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle
Anonymous26Stealthy Mgtow… what an absolute HELL those ten years must have been for you. You’ve stated a lot of information and questions so this will take some for to answer.
First off… am 45 and I’ve been an AutoCAD specialist now for over 20 years. I honestly do not have the educational foundation/background/credentials, or the funds to go back to school especially university.
It will be a delicate balancing act to work this out in the office, see we started on the same day. I had worked a month for them February 2014 when the next senior left for surgery. You see…. February 2014 was the only month I worked a legit job for the whole of 2014. I used up all of employment insurance, worked under the table with a buddy doing carpentry, and even had to get onto welfare to survive. Every day I looked for work… off the internet, newspapers, employment resource centers, I was relentless.
Then finally by December 2014 my boss calls me to ask if I come in for a sit down. It was his intentions to bring back full time, but admin red tape ya know…. on and on. SHE….. had been interviewed.
Lately my boss however has been a huge FN mangina, praising her for her work… this recent event I had asked him to interject and explain things to her…. the f~~~er threw the ball back in my face to explain it.
You are not your job and they rent you, they do not own you.
Thanks for that…..good quote!!!
An option I had tried back in winter 09 was after another brutal bought of unemployment I got approved to get funding to take a course. A heavy equipment operator in four machines (hoe, dozer, excavator, grader), and get my A truck driver’s license class. Well I got the heavy equipment.. the A class got completely f~~~ed up because the MTO was on strike, the school completely miss managed my hours and wanted me to go test after 20 years of training. Hey ok I was getting the 18 speed transmission, but still learning handling a 53 foot trailer in Winter. Well you guessed I kyboshed that!
And that sucks…. because if I was trucking…. I would be solo in my cab. Downside…. having to deal with all the idiot drivers out there. The heavy equipment paradox…. green with no experience, no one bothers to give you a shot. It’s like starting back at ground zero again.
I think I’d honestly would like to go completely off grid… debt free, stop paying taxes and live in an extremely remote part of Northern Ontario…. ghost out, specter out, Live off the land, live trap a doe and rub one out [ ok yeah that was bad ]
Good story about the dog… honorable act indeed!
A lot of really great input guys… gonna need some more help in the tech section at work. iLearn you had some comments about setting up a mic. We use laptops docked to a station, I have no idea if it has an internal mic or not, I’d ask the IT guy…. but guess what they go have lunch together. So wouldn’t mind some tech info/help.
Greatly appreciated bros!
I can add only this: I have quit better jobs for less provocation. If it comes to that pass, then you can find a better job (I ought to know; I’ve done it a time or two). Or, you can wait out the sociopath until she finishes self-destructing. Either way, you can figure out a winning strategy in this all-too-common situation.
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