Can't be bothered (to date)

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

I wasn’t sure if this fit better in Central or Dating so apologies if I chose wrong.

I recently reached a point where I just can’t be bothered to date. At all. In fact, searching around, I really relate to this older post.

I’ve been following and involved with MGTOW since my separation about 5 years ago, though I did date and try to re-create my “old” life quite unsuccessfully right after my divorce. (Luckily I learned from that)

I was casually dating a women over the summer for a few months and just as it was becoming exclusive, she ended it, for reasons related to her lack of self-awareness. She dumped me the day before my 40th b-day, which I then ended up sending alone.

Since then, I took a short break from dating, and recently went back on to Online Dating (OLD). I’ve never have an issue with it, within a few days I can usually have 3-5 dates lined up.

Recently, I chatted up some ladies (all attractive, ranging from 9-3 yrs younger,) and found that I just can’t close. I’m just not interested in putting the effort in, driving to see them, making conversation, listening to them, paying half or all, dealing with the awkward first kiss, etc.

I’d rather be out on my motorcycle, hanging with friends or just plain by myself, reading.

I don’t hate women. I accept female nature for what it is.

I should also add that I also, re-entered sober life as that’s just the way I prefer to live. I moved closer to some (single) male friends and we spend a lot of time doing guy stuff and that’s been hugely positive for me.

I’m not sure why I wrote this, I guess I just needed to express my feelings to some like-minded individuals. I want to know about similar experiences, and, I want to ensure that what I’m feeling isn’t unhealthy or depression. (I feel mostly content, but a little sad over my understanding of female nature)

Tired.

[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

This is well said. I appreciate it and relate. Especially that last part. It’s sad understanding female nature. Like you’re always at a magic show where you know how all the tricks work; and you used to love magic.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Im just 33 and the sole idea of all that effort makes me tired.

No f~~~s given.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[ghostParticipant]

There is no point putting in extra effort when that effort isn’t being reciprocated. You should only do what you feel comfortable with. If you are going to regret something, I think you should avoid doing it. Your own past will tell you what is worth doing and what is not.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Just “thinking” about dating, and jumping through all those hoops tires me out.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 1]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I’d rather be out on my motorcycle, hanging with friends or just plain by myself, reading.

I can relate. Life is so much more peaceful this way.

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I don’t hate women. I accept female nature for what it is.

Well said.

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I moved closer to some (single) male friends and we spend a lot of time doing guy stuff and that’s been hugely positive for me.

Red pill friends are great to have around. In a way, you can also get the same type of benefit from this forum.

Great post, thanks for your story.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

ghost wrote:

There is no point putting in extra effort when that effort isn’t being reciprocated.

That is the exact point of MGTOW. There is no return on one’s efforts.

[DocParticipant]

Just walk away. Women are nothing but pain.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[xanthineParticipant 4903]

There really isn’t a point to it anymore. The only positive to dating is you sometimes get sex…but even that is not nearly enough to outweigh all the negatives. There’s really no reason to talk to women anymore. They have nothing to offer. They will add nothing to your life except drama and bulls~~~. It’s just not worth it anymore.

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I’m not sure why I wrote this, I guess I just needed to express my feelings to some like-minded individuals. I want to know about similar experiences, and, I want to ensure that what I’m feeling isn’t unhealthy or depression. (I feel mostly content, but a little sad over my understanding of female nature)

Theres nothing wrong with you. Doesn’t sound unhealthy or depressive at all. Youve been honest with yourself and sometimes the truth hurts. You get to the point where you realize the whole thing fails the cost/benefit analysis. Why even start when you know the how the story plays out? Its like reading the same book over and over, the ending is always the same. You have that book memorized, put it down and go outside and play.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[Chase PesosParticipant 2136]

Xan,

If they aren’t on the pill, I’m taking no chances. IDK wtf is wrong with them. Not compromising my freedom for a quick rush.

Monk mode ad on infinitum.

Chase a check, never chase a chick...

[OgreParticipant 5863]

I “dated” once. Decades later I don’t let the lizard run things.

Never again.

Dating is throwing coins in a wishing well. Wishing she’ll like you. Wishing she’ll love you. Wishing she’ll be loyal.

Regardless of the limited payback, you have to pay in too much first.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

Rorschach,

Why even start when you know the how the story plays out? Its like reading the same book over and over, the ending is always the same.

Definitely. Its kind of like meeting a new person and starting a relationship when you know you’re moving in a few weeks. #Pointless.

Tired.

[Anonymous 3]

Sounds to me like you are very much an MGTOW.

[JosephParticipant 274]

Once it starts feeling like work thats the point where you have to quit. Working for free against one’s will is slavery.

This site was sold by its original owner in secret. There is new management that doesn't care about quality. The new site is much better https://theindependentman.org

[Silver FoxParticipant 2766]

Excellent post, brother.

I’m at the same point. My ex left in January 2015. I have not been on a single date since that time although I could have.

WanderingMGTOW wrote:

I’d rather be out on my motorcycle, hanging with friends or just plain by myself, reading.

This sounds like a fantastic way to spend your afternoons. Savor them and don’t ever forget how much you enjoy the peace and tranquility.

"Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife." --Apostle Paul

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

Couldn’t agree more.

Tried dating once after my divorce and it was disastrous. The stress, pressure and constant texting was insanity.

To repeat myself from a previous post – these days the thought of sticking my todger in a diseased meat-hole is now physically repulsive.

Freedom, health and wealth are much more preferable.

Well done brother.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[OldBillParticipant]

Like I wrote in the previous thread, what little enough women have to offer is no longer worth risks enough women pose.

I have a much better time out and about without a women than with one.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[AposematicParticipant 2671]

No dates. No cheating. No Jealousy. No invasion of private space. No reluctant travelling. NO CABBAGE PATCH KID MOTHER IN LAW. No nagging. Spending 20% of previous living expenses.

I am currently earning 25% of what I earned 10 years ago.

My savings are growing and are a good 6 years living expenses.

I am a man of means now. When I was married, I saw limitless debt…. to the eyeb~~~~.

Afinogyny.. from the Greek Afino {to abandon/ to set down/ to leave /to allow/ to let } + Gyny {Women} MGHOW’s philosophy to not engage women without “hating them”. Narcorca =Narcissistic Orca typically spouting to a bathroom mirror taking an arms length selfie ; Wallinate describes post wall females whose SMV is terminally negligible New Years resolution "To not make women happy" . Instadestitue: yet another Neologism for Men that cohabit with women that decide to pull the handle of intervention orders.

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

I am a man of means now. When I was married, I saw limitless debt…. to the eyeb~~~~.

Me too man. Me too.

The difference is unbelievable!

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