Brand New MGTOW Struggling With Oneitis

[MTGMGTOWParticipant 235]

I just got out of a five-year toxic relationship but I still can’t kick my feelings for this girl. When I was in high school I swallowed the blue pill and fell for this girl HARD. Despite some problems we kept having, my feelings for her kept growing every time we were able to see each other (it was a long-distance relationship). This ended up being a blessing in disguise because I wasted so much less time and money on her than I could have.

She was my first love and I lost my virginity to her. So naturally the harpy was able to dig her talons into me from the beginning and never let go. If you care for more details you may read my intro post /forums/topic/wish-i-found-mgtow-earlier/

Basically I started being friends with her after the breakup and it ended very poorly for me. I’m having trouble moving on and I discovered MGTOW after the damage was done.

I know intellectually that this is not worth worrying about but five years of blue pill devotion is very hard to remove subconsciously. I was ashamed to admit how much of a mangina I was in my intro post. I am not ashamed, however, by admitting that I have shed many tears over this c~~~ and there may yet be more tears before my fresh wounds heal. This is what women do to men. Play with their emotions. I know better than to get involved romantically with women ever again. Pump and dump.

As pathetic as my issue may seem, I am only 22 years old and I was 17 when this relations~~~ started. I had no life experience, and my heart is not yet hardened by the worst life has coming for me.

During my blue pill phase, I always blamed myself. Sure, I made mistakes but nothing like what this bitch was doing to me.

I need advice on steps to take to cure oneitis and how to remove myself from this shrew emotionally. Thank you MGTOW for showing me that I do not have to relive this pain and the true nature of women.

I've had to learn lessons the hard way more times than I should. I've been very fortunate to find MGTOW when I did. Swallowing the Red Pill saved my future.

[Anonymous 54]

Time.Not what you wanted to hear probably. But once you intelectualy become aware, it takes the emotions a while to catch up.
Try not to think about her.
Try to have a pre planned thought of something pleasnet ready to go. When you find yourselve thinking about her, block it with the other thought.

[Mister StealthParticipant 362]

Welcome to the other side brother.

First press play on some music and start reading and enjoying our MGTOW brother stories.

Sounds like you were in an unhealthy co-dependent relations~~~ – The good news is you are already a winner. You have the XY chromosomes – you are the master of your own future.

I typically always have the same advice for anyone post relationship get into a new schedule. (do up your own list of goals)
– my goals included : gym/fitness, learning how to cook more healthy foods, reading more, watching youtube channels about red pill/mgtow/philosophy, spend more time outdoors and going different places.
These are my short term goals to keep busy. As time goes on you should start thinking long term – whats important to you ? [religious beliefs, knowledge, money/power, political standing, building with your hands, mastering music or other languages]

Myself I started last month downloading MGTOW channels and comedians I enjoy for when I have longer drivers in the car. (Driving from point A to point B nothing thinking about how that bitch betrayed me and BAM! random song on the radio hits and it makes me start to think I should get in touch or maybe I need a woman to be happy and it just ruins that moment for me)
As you can tell my now my advice is TIME

Now I’ll give the advice that my co-worker/friend/brother give everyone. Go drain your b~~~~ in her sister. [this is followed by a laugh as he typically punches me in the shoulder and says “okay thats not for you… maybe you like them older… f~~~ her mother? – than she will have to call you daddy again”]
– I only share his advise as it cracks me up – I personally need time away from woman but he has a valid point in for some people getting a few nuts off with other will help you forget about the last one – just don’t fall for a crazy bitch and end up in another relations~~~, or getting someone pregnant.

Steel sharpens steel

[Anonymous 13]

First of all, DELETE this bitch from your life in every way.

It’s part of the purging process and it really works, it’s symbolic.

Delete ANYTHING to do with her, any stuff at all get rid of and bin.

Delete all photographs, letters, cards, social media connections.

Seriously PURGE all this s~~~ so it’s like she never existed.

This is symbolic and WORKS!!

If you keep ANY of it you will look back and keep moping. These things keep you connected so delete them.

Get her out of your life, keep her out of your life and move on.

I’m not saying it’s easy, hell I know.

You have to do this.

Delete. Delete. DELETE.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Get a dog. Seriously…

[Anonymous 5]

Anonymous wrote:

First of all, DELETE this bitch from your life in every way.

It’s part of the purging process and it really works, it’s symbolic.

Delete ANYTHING to do with her, any stuff at all get rid of and bin.

Delete all photographs, letters, cards, social media connections.

Seriously PURGE all this s~~~ so it’s like she never existed.

Brickwall her, there’s no other way.
She’ll use everything from terror to tears to guilt trip and torture you and keep you from moving on.

Don’t think you’re so special that you’re the only man to be heartbroken and emotionally destroyed by a woman.
Every morning you’re ok and you can logically understand why you want that toxic human being out of your life but by nightfall you’re missing her smell, the sound of her voice and her touch.
By nightfall you’re back to believing that your life will never never have any quality again without her. (it’s the same logic your lizard brain uses on you with any addiction, no matter how toxic)

Only time will drain your system of the chemicals that cause “Oneitis”
You should do some googling on the chemical changes in your body when you allow yourself to succumb to Oneitis. It’s a very high HIGH but like all highs you pay a price. Withdrawal is a tough thing to go through but you can beat it one day at a time.

Cold turkey, f~~~ her off completely.

Any idiot can fall in love or smoke crack. Don’t do either.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

ONEITIS IS A BICH !!!!

It’s even a BIGGER BITCH when you are young !!

The ONLY thing that IS a BIGGER BITCH then you can POSSIBLY EVER IMAGINE is how much of a COMPLETE TYRANNICAL BITCH your lil cupcake WILL turn into !!

I RUINED the BEST girlfriend/friend/lover of my LIFE by marrying the deceitful, useless, untrustworthy LOVE of my LIFE !!

YOU are MILES AHEAD without her, the ONLY problem is that YOUR YOUNG BLUE PILL TAINTED mind can’t see it YET !!

Hang around, read, learn, participate, and EVERYTHING WILL get BETTER then you can possibly IMAGINE TODAY !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Anonymous wrote:

Time.Not what you wanted to hear probably. But once you intelectualy become aware, it takes the emotions a while to catch up.

Mister Stealth wrote:

As you can tell my now my advice is TIME

Anonymous wrote:

Delete. Delete. DELETE.

I am not original here, TIME. I think it’s the hardest one to grasp because it doesn’t happen immediately. We’re men, we want to solve problems now. This is why you’ve taken the red pill. It will work slowly and perfectly over TIME.

Spirit’s advice is also excellent. As a young man in a digital media world, you probably have tons of data on YOUR EX.

Make her an EX. Do not allow her anymore freedom to move about your peace of mind.

[Anonymous 42]

When a man abandons women to their own devious ways he sees things that otherwise he’s blind to.

In time you will see everything clearly, then and only then will you discover abandoning the modern paradigm of man woman relations~~~s is anything but a mistake!

I know that sickening feeling when your heart is broken, but trust me, all that will go away and not return unless you’re foolish enough to have another go at the world’s WORST GENERATIONS OF WOMEN!

The poison spreads and spreads and spreads, there’s no stopping this highway to hell!

All modern females lead men to the same place, and that place is personal destruction.

[bladeParticipant]

Only if i knew now when i was young .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[narwhalParticipant]

I agree with the others above, but I wanted to add…do the things you felt you couldn’t or shouldn’t do while you were in a relationship with her.

– hang out with the boys
– go to a strip club
– wear the clothes you like
– cook your favorite meal.
– do what you like to do.

This may not apply as well in a long distance relationship, but some will. Women generally have control over a man’s behavior in a relationship. Often, he doesn’t eve realize it. When she’s gone, it can feel like a part of you is missing. Replace that part with the part of you didn’t feel like you could be when she was there.

Ok. Then do it.

[Anonymous 42]

blade wrote:

Only if i knew now when i was young .

When we were young, blade. We were innocent as the machinery blueprints of feminized destruction were being drafted, implemented, and executed.

Women started acting on their hatred of men and built what is now a well oiled machine, an Albatross of enormous invasive government, pecking and chewing men to pieces wherever they can ferret them out!

Millions of men became destitute unemployed as this landscape changed to employ more and more women while the manly manufacturing jobs vanished overseas. They struck deals to empower and enrich themselves in their trade agreements for our jobs and their enrichment! Any other time in history when men reigned over women and society, people like the Clintons, Obamas, Bushes, and all the other elites would be f~~~ing SHOT like Benito Mussolini! Un f~~~ing real they all wright one another a f~~~ing pussy pass! Justice is a FARCE!

The young men of our western civilization have been gutted of all their manly instincts to wither and rot away (until international MGTOW was born).

The education system is festering with feminism and gynocentrism (cultural Marxist), the men are ridiculed, scrutinized, demonized, and crushed on a whim from every woman on campus and uncountable, untouchable, like royalty in every single way! F~~~ING OPPRESSION!

It doesn’t start there, it starts in the first grade! Marxist feminist culture twisting c~~~s have taken over the entire education system! AND IT SHOWS IN THE POOREST EDUCATION SYSTEM EVER GONE COMPLETELY OUT OF CONTROL! GONE INSANE!

Guys in college;

the lucky 40% of graduates (men).

The gynotrocity system still gives the 60% graduates AFFIRMATIVE ACTION BENEFITS!

Weather you’re educated or not, the deck is stacked so far against you it’s time to be a ghost! Be a transparent chameleon they cant see or hear, lay low and avoid being burned to the steak!

The gender war is still in full swing like the teeter totter of a pendulum style guillotine blade, they have the spirit of man himself strapped to the table!

They butcher a guys dick then laugh hysterically on national f~~~ing TV! (something I got rid of 2005).

We’re not being pricks to society and women in general, we’re being pricks to a society that’s made every effort to DESTROY US! F~~~ THEM AND F~~~ THAT!

Don’t be a fool and let your guard down, this society is headed for utter collapse after its efforts to utterly destroy the definition and well being of men!

We owe this society NOTHING for the threat women have placed on it!

WE OWE THEM ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! NOT EVEN THE TIME OF DAY!

^^^^^That’s MEN GOING THEIR OWN WAY

[Sparticus66Participant 508]

1)You must adopt the no contact rule.
Don’t e mail her, text her or talk to her. Block her nunber
2) delete any photos of her
3) write out the five worst experiences with her when she made you feel like s~~~. Keep that list with you. Whenever you have ‘in love’ feelings, just read your list. Take yourself back to those feelings. Those s~~~ feelings were when you were in contact with her
4) treat yourself. Do things that you enjoy. Everydsy away from the butch deserves a small reward
5) don’t drink or take drugs especially while going through this s~~~
6) remember you are young. You can now have a fabulous life of self fulfillment
7) stay in touch either good men, on here and in your life

[RennieParticipant]

To escape oneitis you need to realize three things.

A. All women are whores.

B. There is always another better one.

C. They are all the same inside.

[Anonymous 42]

Rennie wrote:

C. They are all the same inside.

Ding ding ding,,, I’d choose C. for 100 Alex, “they’re all the same inside”;

Wet, pink, and highly a-dick-tive!

[Anonymous 43]

simple method for solving this problem, slam yer thumb in a cabinet door every time you think of this girl. next time, slam a finger. then another finger. in fact you owe one slam for posting here. when u run out of fingers, move onto smashing toes with a hammer.

don’t like this? how about writing out a check and mailing it to her, say $500. every time you think of her, mail her $500.

she is laughing at you knowing she got to you.

dude, age 22 and you know women are s~~~…powerful stuff there. I am 47 discovering what an idiot I was…wanna trade lives?

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

I’ll just pop in to say that since you even know the meaning of the term “oneitis,” you’re pretty red pill. Have you ever heard of a woman having oneitis? No? Why do you think that is? I’ll tell you why. Women are already working from the assumption that they can always do better. You become completely disposable the moment she finds someone better. Time for you to adopt a similar attitude.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[Sky-OParticipant 18934]

Skydive

[KeymasterKeymaster]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

I need advice on steps to take to cure oneitis

OK.

“ONE chance. Per chick. Per lifetime. No exceptions”.

She f~~~s that up? No problem.

ONE chance. Per chick. Per lifetime. No exceptions.

MTGMGTOW wrote:

Basically I started being friends with her after the breakup and it ended very poorly for me

Basically, exes are exes for a reason. No “friends” with an ex. Understand she’s not your “friend”. You’re Justin Case at best. That’s your name: Justin Case.

• Just in case she gets fat
• Just in case she needs a date on national holidays
• Just in case her plan to trap the guy she’s screwing today with a pregnancy fails.
• Just in case she needs a wallet
• Just in case the guy she’s sleeping with dumps her
• Just in case she needs to hang a picture
• Just in case she needs a shoulder to cry on when he cheats on her
• Just in case she needs a free ride from the club after the bar closes
• Just in case she needs to make an entrance somewhere
• Just in case she falls off the carousel
• Just in case it doesn’t work out with the other one she has on hold
• Just in case there’s a bump in the night and she “feels scared”.
• Just in case she turns 31 and ruined all of her previous prospects.

Never be that guy.

You want a friend? Get a dog.

MTGMGTOW wrote:

I always blamed myself.

That’s normal. Dump that baggage at the door. Be very careful what you blame yourself for. When you examine it carefully, you’ll notice A GREAT % of the time, it wasn’t “you”.

MTGMGTOW wrote:

This is what women do to men. Play with their emotions.

Yup. So understanding it means it’s not a problem – unless you allow it.

MTGMGTOW wrote:

know better than to get involved romantically with women ever again. Pump and dump.

Is that really realistic? Is it even “YOU”? I’ve never really been much of a “pump and dump” guy going in. I HAVE slept with them and lost interest quickly though, but I didn’t TRY to restrict my interaction with her to “pump and dump only”. SHE did that.

Leave a lot of it up to HER and the kind of woman she is, and you’ll realize you don’t need to put that much thought into it. Are women running after you making you offers you can’t refuse to be a in a relationship with you? They expect YOU to do that. All you need to do is be very discerning about who you get “involved” with beyond a friendly shag.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TicParticipant 4329]

as you grow older, it gets easier to let go of a relationship. However, you need to get into the right mindset. And that is, you are a man, self sufficient, strong, and independent. You don’t need a woman to make you happy. You have to make you happy. It will takes years for you to get there.

Its never a good thing to be so emotionally attached to anything, whether a woman or an object. Learn to let go. Don’t let anyone dominate your life. When a woman knows you are emotionally dependent on her, she will take advantage of you, because in general, they are vile creatures, without much remorse. That’s how they can jump from one guy to the next, because in their core, they have a need for manipulation, stemming from the fact that they are the weaker sex.

God bless peace and freedom.

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