Borderline Women

[ZehmParticipant 59]

I’ve just come out of a relationship with a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder. It has been, by far, the most chaotic relationship I have ever had. I would like to share what I’ve learned about them so that other men can spot the signs of these abusive, controlling, bitches and AVOID! AVOID! AVOID! For the love of God, Stay the hell away from these types of woman. They are incredibly dangerous.

ENTRAPMENT
Borderlines have an uncanny ability to mirror the qualities and outlook of their victims. Meeting a borderline woman is a magical feeling. It is like living in a country where you can’t speak the language and then suddenly meeting the only other English speaker in existence. Your values, your experiences, your morals – as they come up you will find that she embodies them all, and this builds a trust that that will open you up and make you want to expose your deepest hopes and fears. She will of course mirror these too and this will only make you fall in love all the faster. The love that you will feel for this person will make any past love feel shallow. This person, or at least who they pretend to be, will feel like your soulmate. People with their own mental health concerns are the borderline’s favourite prey. This is in part because the victim’s are more receptive due to a lack of female attention or feelings of alienation, but also because the borderline’s self-loathing won’t allow them to measure themselves against someone who is healthy.

MANIPULATION
Pity is the weapon of the Borderline. They are riddled with pain and suffering. Their lives are chaotic and in shambles. Because you will see so much of yourself in their projected persona, you will want to help them. And because they are pretending to share your own outlook, you would expect them to have the same regard for you. But they will not. You will bend over backwards to meet the borderline’s demands, but it will never be remembered or appreciated. And if you expect consideration or support in return, they will let you down every time. They will sidestep any issues you may have, invent reasons to be upset that you would bring it up, and then blame you for their lack of compassion or the behaviour you have a problem with. Over time this will condition you. You won’t want to hurt this person, and their reaction to any criticism is so extreme, to the point of self harm or suicide attempts, that you are constantly treading on eggshells around them. It becomes impossible to set boundaries without been met with abuse and rage. But unlike a traditional abusive partner who uses physical or emotional violence to condition their victim, the borderline abuses themselves to cause guilt.

Another tactic the borderline will use against you is to provoke a reaction, then use that reaction to blackmail you in the future. If you are ever anything less than 100% understanding and compassionate regarding their hurtful behaviour, they will hold a grudge against you and use it to excuse their future actions, or bizarrely, the very thing that you are angry about in the first place. The initial reason for your anger will be forgotten, and if brought up it will be dismissed or outright or denied to have happened at all. In the mind of the borderline, they can do no wrong, because admitting they have would mean confronting their self-loathing and guilt. This behaviour is tolerated by the victim because despite how disgusting the borderline is acting, you have seen a better side of them and are waiting for to it re-emerge. That person who you fell so deeply in love with must be in there still, right? They have an illness and will be better once this long, dark, episode passes. If you could only be more understanding or helpful they will return to the state they were when you first met. But it’s a fools errand. That person was never real in the first place. The ugliness is what is real and that can be very hard to accept in someone you love.

WHY DO THEY DO IT?
Who gives a f~~~. They should be put on a list for the safety of the public. No matter their motives, they are predatory creatures who prey on vulnerability and destroy men for their own gratification. They are emotional vampires who only love to be loved, without a shred of empathy, honesty, fidelity or trust.

RED FLAGS
She tells you that she is borderline. (she’s telling you so she can excuse her behaviour later).
Her past doesn’t match up with the persona she is presenting to you.
She will have multiple children from different fathers.
She might have a cuckold ex who still lives with her.
She will tell you that she has been in multiple abusive relationships as the victim.
She may be under close scrutiny by the law or social services.
She will be very generous in the bedroom and sex is all about pleasing you.
She has no or few friends other than online contacts.
She has scars from self-harm or suicide attempts.

[HermitParticipant]

I say avoid and stay away from all women because from what I’ve seen, every damn one of them is bipolar, or has some type of personality disorder on varying levels. ALL of them……..even the very nice women………even the cool ones………even the honest sluts. I have never met a woman who isn’t f~~~ing nuts on some level.

There is no logic in any woman.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Zehm wrote:

RED FLAGS
She tells you that she is borderline. (she’s telling you so she can excuse her behaviour later).
Her past doesn’t match up with the persona she is presenting to you.
She will have multiple children from different fathers.
She might have a cuckold ex who still lives with her.
She will tell you that she has been in multiple abusive relationships as the victim.
She may be under close scrutiny by the law or social services.
She will be very generous in the bedroom and sex is all about pleasing you.
She has no or few friends other than online contacts.
She has scars from self-harm or suicide attempts.

RED FLAGS
She tells you that she is borderline. Manslation: S~~~ test. Every woman qualifies as a “borderline.”
Her past doesn’t match up with the persona she is presenting to you. Manslation: This is EVERY woman. AWALT
She will have multiple children from different fathers. Manslation: Welcome to 2018. The Everest of female accomplishment — spreading her legs.
She might have a cuckold ex who still lives with her. Manslation: They all have 4-6 orbiters willing to give cash/prizes for access to magic vagina.
She will tell you that she has been in multiple abusive relationships as the victim. Manslation: It’s a woman’s highest aspiration to be seen as a victim.
She may be under close scrutiny by the law or social services. Manslation: See above — multiple children/fathers.
She will be very generous in the bedroom and sex is all about pleasing you. Manslation: This is temporary.
She has no or few friends other than online contacts. Manslation: They already KNOW she’s a c~~~ and avoid her.
She has scars from self-harm or suicide attempts. Manslation: These are attention getters — nothing more.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

As a former firefighter I have learned the fire triangle. In order to have a fire you need three things: heat, fuel, and oxygen. Take away any of the three and the fire goes out. Surrounding a fire with fire line is taking away fuel, as is back-burning in front of the fire. Water takes away heat and oxygen. Why do I mention this?

Because the borderline woman is the heat source, anything you’ve ever shared with her is the fuel, and the amount of attention you give her currently is the oxygen. When she wants to start s~~~, she is going to bring up anything in your past that she thinks will rile you up (applying heat to fuel). Or, knowing about your past, she will hit the heat to something she THINKS will get a response. If you give it any attention (oxygen), you have now completed the fire triangle and will be gaslighted accordingly.

So, what do you do?

Fuel: Shut the f~~~ up. Stop telling her anything. It can and WILL be used against you.
Oxygen: Learn not to let her start a fight. Go passive, do not engage.
Heat: Drop her and get the f~~~ away. Ghost, never talk to her again.

Of course getting as far away from the heat source as possible is your best bet here if you can. If not, you have to deny her fuel and oxygen.

Order the good wine

[ZehmParticipant 59]

Don’t worry about me. I’m out of it now. Kinda funny how it happened actually. She dumped me one evening for no reason. Instead of asking why, I said “That’s probably for the best, I don’t want to be with you anymore either”. She really wasn’t expecting that. Sent her mental.

[HermitParticipant]

Zehm wrote:

Don’t worry about me. I’m out of it now. Kinda funny how it happened actually. She dumped me one evening for no reason. Instead of asking why, I said “That’s probably for the best, I don’t want to be with you anymore either”. She really wasn’t expecting that. Sent her mental.

Ha, my x used to threaten to leave me at least once a year. She thought it would keep me in line and under control until one day I told her that I didn’t think we belonged together either. Really set her back on her heels.

Stupid f~~~in’ women.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3753]

Good to hear you’re out of it. How long did it last, if I may ask ?

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Many woman share varying degrees of these lovely attributes plus many other equally charming characteristics..

I guess this ONLY MATTERS if you’re looking for a “relationship”.

it DOESN’T matter to me !! LOL LOL

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 1]

WOW! All the things I like about a women. Then again I won’t go to a strip club unless all the girls have cesarean section scars. The definition of eternity is the time between when I cum and she leaves.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Hermit wrote:

Ha, my x used to threaten to leave me at least once a year.

My ex did the same s~~~ test to me.
The first time, I said “There’s the door, leave anytime you want….”, her bluff was called.
The second time, she left(leaving her things behind), and showed back up 2 days later.
The third time, she packed up and left, and I changed the locks.

Looking back, I should have changed the locks the first time…

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

This is for you:

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[ZehmParticipant 59]

Only lasted for about 5-6 months. I;m not going to say that I’m not hurting from the experience, and that fact that I was sucked in like I was means that I need to take a close look at myself and why I let that happen, but yeah… I’m out of it now. She was cheating on me too, so I doubt she’ll come knocking on my door or anything while she has that going on.

It’s her other ex’s that I feel for. The one she lives with has been cucked so hard that now he is housebound, stuck looking after four kids that aren’t his, and forced to endure a string of guys passing through her bedroom. You’ve got to be pretty beaten down to allow that sort of thing.

The other ex, the one before me, was with her for a year and lived with her and the other ex. He is now stuck in a custody battle for his kid and is in therapy for PTSD from the experience.

[ZehmParticipant 59]

It only lasted for about 5-6 months. I’m not going to say that I’m not hurting from the experience, and that fact that I was sucked in like I was means that I need to take a close look at myself and why I let that happen, but yeah… I’m out of it now. She was cheating on me too, so I doubt she’ll come knocking on my door or anything while she has that going on.

It’s her other ex’s that I feel for. The one she lives with has been cucked so hard that now he is housebound, stuck looking after four kids that aren’t his, and forced to endure a string of guys passing through her bedroom. You’ve got to be pretty beaten down to allow that sort of thing.

The other ex, the one before me, was with her for a year and lived with her and the other ex. He is now stuck in a custody battle for his kid and is in therapy for PTSD from the experience.

[HermitParticipant]

XSDBS wrote:

Hermit wrote:

Ha, my x used to threaten to leave me at least once a year.

My ex did the same s~~~ test to me.The first time, I said “There’s the door, leave anytime you want….”, her bluff was called.The second time, she left(leaving her things behind), and showed back up 2 days later.The third time, she packed up and left, and I changed the locks.
Looking back, I should have changed the locks the first time…

Dumb, childish bitches. My x’s last attempt to bring me back under her control was to kick me out of the house. (The fact that they can legally do this, is unacceptable.) She thought that maybe I’d stay somewhere for a while and then come crawling back to her. That is so f~~~ing laughable. She was that stupid to have no idea that I finally saw my beautiful escape to freedom at last and there was no way I would ever go back into those chains. My divorce decree, which is proudly displayed on my living room wall, is my certificate of freedom. I am no longer legally bound to a f~~~ing soul sucking c~~~.

They’re so damn stupid. If it wasn’t for society’s f~~~ed up laws, they’d be helpless.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Anonymous 18]

Hindsight is 20/20.

You can’t run away from a borderline/narc/BPD type of women. A man can only lick his wounds in the aftermath.

I have yet to encounter a man who jumped the ship because the woman love bombed him, sucked his dick twice a day, and f~~~ed him doggy style till his nut sack went dry….

Men get delusional once they stick their dick inside a woman.

Women get delusional once their ovaries go extinct.

[ZehmParticipant 59]

I found this video that made me laugh. I’ve had so many arguments with this girl over the smallest, or largest thing. No matter the topic, her responses are always the same. Just a string of borderline tropes. The video is some guy breaking up with a borderline, but I can assure you I’ve had this exact same argument from the break-up, to not going with her to her appointments, to not making her a cup of tea when I made one for myself. This is the true borderline once the facade falls.

[Anonymous 1]

The big problem with that video and real life is that there is way to much talking. Sounds like he’s trying to find a reason to stay and she is saying everything to get him to go.

[AragornParticipant 277]

Count your blessings, my friend! You are the lucky one, the one who got away. (and believe me – you wouldn‘t want to know from what you got away …)

Once you’ve been to hell and back,
you don’t look behind you when the floor creaks
and the sun is always up at midnight
and things like the eyes of mice
or an abandoned tire in a vancant lot
can make you smile
once you’ve been to hell and back.

(C. Bukowski)

If you change the rules on what controls you, you will change the rules on what you can control

[ZehmParticipant 59]

Anonymous wrote:

The big problem with that video and real life is that there is way to much talking. Sounds like he’s trying to find a reason to stay and she is saying everything to get him to go.

That’s kind of the point. He IS looking for a reason to stay. You want to reach these people, shake them, and tell them to wake up so the wonderful, loving, but ultimately fake, person that they tailored for you comes back.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Zehm wrote:

You want to reach these people, shake them, and tell them to wake up so the wonderful, loving, but ultimately fake, person that they tailored for you comes back

That goes for a LOT of Women.

Initially, when YOU ARE “NEW” TO THEM, Many will play the Chameleon game, and transcend themselves into whatever they think that you want them to be. Many are skilled at picking up subtle hints, and honoring direct requests, in all types of areas, and YOUR MIND/EMOTIONS DO THE REST.

Then, for whatever reason(s), AFTER they have reeled you in and set the hook, they get tired of “playing”, and they show THEIR TRUE COLORS. The really skilled ones don’t let this out fully until AFTER you are married, and probably have a couple child support payments as well. Then, they REALLY LET THEIR HAIR DOWN, and you get to see the actual pig that you invested YOUR entire PRESENT and FUTURE LIFE INTO. SURPRISE !!

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