advice needed on anxious, ranting girlfriend

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

First thing. Get down on one knee and propose marriage to her. She’s a keeper — put a ring on it. Next, honeymoon at Niagara Falls, NY, USA. Next, jump in the water just above the falls — enjoy the ride.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

the nice girl you met in the beginning wasn’t really her. that was her sunday best behavior to get you hooked. how she is now is the real her and the more you put up with it, the worse it will get.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10917]

Bobby wrote:

4) Whenever I go through a period of living with her after a period of weeks to months, I end up feeling like I am about to have a nervous break down with all her ranting and talking about negative things. It takes me time to recover.

Bobby wrote:

7) I would have left her sometime ago, but guess she would be broken if I leave her.

Sir, ask yourself what’s more important; her mental stability or yours? She sounds VERY unstable so, calmly reach for the eject button, press it and don’t look back. She’s going down like the Titanic and if you let her, she’s going to take you down with her. Do not be a life raft for her. It will not get better.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[SimpleLifeParticipant 439]

Yeah…… I’ve been with crazy women. This s~~~ is not going to get better. Peace of mind is worth far more than the company of a stressful nut.

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Bobby wrote:

Anyway her psychic healers determined using their super special powers that I needed to pay them for their services to “clean” me of my negativity.

Try to find a psychic healer that tells you TO LEAVE HER. It will be worth the payment and it will clean you of her negativity.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

It might have been mentioned in the replies above mine, but make space between you and her. You’re trying to be a nice guy and support her through her ‘rough time”, it will never end, it’s self-created.

All of the positives the you attribute to her are the veneer that she expects you to love and want to take care of. All of the negatives are the real person that is sucking your soul away.

On another note. Let the main MGTOW.com page come up, and actually read it. Nowhere in your posts was your sovereignty mentioned, stop trying to make her better, she doesn’t want it. She wants to feel sorry for herself and she wants to drag you down with her.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

OldBill wrote:

Bobby needs to punt this c~~~ pronto. She’s on the bullet train to Crazy Town, she wants him on board for the crash, and he’s too c~~~struck to think straight.

That is about as succinct and anyone could have EVER expressed it. Your phrase should be planted /spelled out in a tree arrangement so large it can be seen from SPACE!

[MeisterParticipant 2093]

Get rid of her.

Go your own way.

Simple as that.

Monk

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

It sounds like you are in HELL…

Reminds me of when I was married & tortured for over 16 yrs.

Time to end the misery & heed the men that have already nailed it.

Don’t waste years & wait for years to roll by like I did…unless you want your story to be like mine.

OldBill wrote:

needs to punt this c~~~ pronto. She’s on the bullet train to Crazy Town, she wants him on board for the crash, and he’s too c~~~struck to think straight.

It will live in my mind as a great modern day quote!!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Bobby wrote:

1) My girlfriend gets angry at trivial or imaginary problems. She shouts and rants at me. She doesn’t just blow up for 5 minutes, but will rant for hours. This is painful for me. She is getting better, but she still rants at me from time to time.

IMAGINARY PROBLEMS?

Bobby wrote:

7) I would have left her sometime ago, but guess she would be broken if I leave her.

That’s the whole PLAN, man.

She needs someone to terrorize, and sociopaths “break” when they don’t have someone to terrorize. Too bad for her.You don’t stay with someone who is SO OBVIOUSLY bad for you, because you’re afraid of hurting their feelings.

Clearly, she doesn’t give a F~~~ about YOUR feelings – or breaking YOU.

So why do you care?

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

Keymaster wrote:

Bobby wrote:

1) My girlfriend gets angry at trivial or imaginary problems. She shouts and rants at me. She doesn’t just blow up for 5 minutes, but will rant for hours. This is painful for me. She is getting better, but she still rants at me from time to time.

IMAGINARY PROBLEMS?

Bobby wrote:

7) I would have left her sometime ago, but guess she would be broken if I leave her.

That’s the whole PLAN, man.

She needs someone to terrorize, and sociopaths “break” when they don’t have someone to terrorize. Too bad for her.You don’t stay with someone who is SO OBVIOUSLY bad for you, because you’re afraid of hurting their feelings.

Clearly, she doesn’t give a F~~~ about YOUR feelings – or breaking YOU.

So why do you care?

Keymaster I swear you must have taken this from a chapter in my personal life experiences book. I had an ex-gf and an ex-wf mad at me because I cheated in their dreams. How f~~~ing insecure can they be? I guarantee you Bobby will have a similar experience. Another gentleman pointed out treating her like an employer would a potential employee. Would she be hired? I think not. All around this is bad news waiting to turn into worst news.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[sidecarParticipant 35842]

Awakened wrote:

Are you waiting to knock her up to completely ruin your life ?

If he doesn’t knock her up, Chad will do it for him. The knocking up part, I mean. He’ll still be stuck with the child support bills for her little chadspawn.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Bobby wrote:

5) This time around I went back to her thinking that things would be better and that there couldn’t be anything more to go wrong. I was mistaken. She has met some psychic healers to help with her problems. Anyway her psychic healers determined using their super special powers that I needed to pay them for their services to “clean” me of my negativity. This was the final straw as it upset me. After feeling a little bit out of it for a day or two, I realized (slow I know!) that these psychic healers are either misguided or confidence tricksters bilking money out of people for low-grade services. Sure I guess, that talking about your problems to these healers can help and maybe they have a placebo healing effect. But really I went back hoping nothing bad would happen and then this psychic healing crap surfaced. I’m surprised my girlfriend believes in these people. Still they may actually help her via talking.

The first thing you did not realize is that your girlfriend told them a story blaming all her problems on you, and that is why they said YOU were the negative one and had to get rid of your negative energy. She will not take responsibility for her actions the blame will always be placed on anyone else but her. Anytime she talks about you it is in a negative light to all her friends and relatives she just knows how to hide it from you. This is typical of all women these days as they are children in woman’s bodies.

As others have said the sex is only good now until she traps you into marriage or having a baby once that happens you will no longer have sex and frankly I think that is the only real thing that she has to offer you. If she loved you she would not treat you the way she is right now and you know it. You love her and put up with her s~~~ yet she refuses to do the same for you. Men love women take that is how it has always been. You know the answer to all your questions it is time to kick her to the curb and learn from this experience.

[Anonymous 43]

yall had me at #1

[~BSParticipant 3266]

http://counsellingresource.com/therapy/self-help/understanding/

Read through this and see if she is similar to any of these profiles.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[~BSParticipant 3266]

Core Features of Personality Disorders

Self-Centered

Refusal to Accept Personal Responsibility for Their Behavior

Self-Justification

Entitlement

Shallow Emotions

Situational Morality

Narcissism and Ineffective Lives

Social Disruption

Manipulation As A Way of Life

The Talk and Behavior Gap

Dysfunctional Parents – Or “life traumas” as you put it.

Judging from your post, she probably fits the profile for most of these items. People with these personality disorders are highly manipulative. What you see as “normal” in your relationship would be viewed by outsiders as highly irregular.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[SuperBeeParticipant 65]

The other guys told you what you have to do…its common sense,but for this one…

Bobby wrote:

7) I would have left her sometime ago, but guess she would be broken if I leave her.

Guess what she would do if you were in her situation. 🙂

Save yourself my friend,don’t let your years pass by like that…you owe it to yourself.

Life turns on a dime

[KimmurielParticipant 480]

If you want a child to take care of, adopt.

"You meet a few exceedingly forsaken, Sit around the cooler refusing domestication" Aesop Rock

[Anonymous 11]

Bobby wrote:

My girlfriend is a decent, honest, academically high-achieving woman. I have been living with her for some time. She is not a money grabbing woman. She is kind. She is somewhat taken advantage of by some of her family, who look down upon her, but are keen to use her for their crappy tasks.

Many years ago she suffered some life traumas. The problems have gone now, but she hasn’t got over them. She has mild obsessions, but not to the point where they are major. They are at the level of annoying. She has seen pyschologists in the past, but they haven’t helped.

I live with her now, but as of late have been living back by myself for some of the time.

Here are the problems.

1) My girlfriend gets angry at trivial or imaginary problems. She shouts and rants at me. She doesn’t just blow up for 5 minutes, but will rant for hours. This is painful for me. She is getting better, but she still rants at me from time to time.

2) She is very messy. She refuses to throw away old train tickets, receipts, bills, envelopes, free newspapers, magazines, adverts etc. I do all the cleaning, shopping, cooking and laundry, but now lack the energy to tidy up her papers. Anyway she shouts at me if I touch her papers. I am self-employed and work from home. I like a peaceful and tidy environment so I can be creative and do my work. I don’t have that when I live with her.

3) She talks endlessly about the same negative topics concerning modern living. Her views can be expresssed in one or two sentences, but she talks for ever about them. All this negative talk brings me down. I can’t do my creative work if I am constantly made temporarily unhappy by her negative talk about the world around us.

4) Whenever I go through a period of living with her after a period of weeks to months, I end up feeling like I am about to have a nervous break down with all her ranting and talking about negative things. It takes me time to recover.

5) This time around I went back to her thinking that things would be better and that there couldn’t be anything more to go wrong. I was mistaken. She has met some psychic healers to help with her problems. Anyway her psychic healers determined using their super special powers that I needed to pay them for their services to “clean” me of my negativity. This was the final straw as it upset me. After feeling a little bit out of it for a day or two, I realized (slow I know!) that these psychic healers are either misguided or confidence tricksters bilking money out of people for low-grade services. Sure I guess, that talking about your problems to these healers can help and maybe they have a placebo healing effect. But really I went back hoping nothing bad would happen and then this psychic healing crap surfaced. I’m surprised my girlfriend believes in these people. Still they may actually help her via talking.

In a nutshell, the problem is that I’m self-employed. I work from home. I need to study for my work and be creative. So far I’ve had success before I met her. But I can’t work when I’m living with a woman that occassionaly shouts at me (not just for a few minutes, but intermittently over hours) and has constant, never ending tirades about aspects of modern life. Negative talk depresses me temporarily and when I feel down I can’t be creative, work and earn money.

6) I have told my girlfriend my needs are for a quiet and tidy environment. This seems to just bounce off of her.

7) I would have left her sometime ago, but guess she would be broken if I leave her.

8) She constantly interrupts me to help her with trivial, silly tasks she should do herself. I can’t work with interruptions.

What are your opinions?

How much does she weigh? How old is she? Does she have a pretty face? How much money does she have? How much money does her family have? I’m available.

[narwhalParticipant]

Bobby wrote:

7) I would have left her sometime ago, but guess she would be broken if I leave her.

And why is that a bad thing? Did you consider the possibly that continually allowing her to behave s~~~ty without consequences is the reason she’s continue to be such a s~~~ty girlfriend? Her actions DESERVE you leaving her.

I’m not saying her issues aren’t real and hard to deal with. It’s irrelevant though.

Ok. Then do it.

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