"You're nice"/"You seem nice"

[VictorParticipant 124]

What the f~~~ does it mean…????

I keep getting this as a response on these online dating sites.  It’s always followed-up with something like: “…but I’m looking for someone closer to where I live.”  In fact, that very excuse line has been used on me now several times.  I suppose I should be thankful for a response at all.

I bet if I posted a more flattering photo or casually dropped mention of wealth/career success, they’d soon change their tune.  Distance would be no obstacle.  Mountains…oceans….deserts….would be traversable.

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

“I’m gonna keep you in a little box in case I need your help when I’m done riding the c~~~-carousel. So here’s a compliment, so you keep hope and think you might have a chance with me in the future. Like that you’ll stay disposable just like I want you to be”

Translated from female language to honest language by Mango-slation™.

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

Mango Ingaway wrote:

Translated from female language to honest language by Mango-slation™.

Lol.  Do you have an app?

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[WolfParticipant 890]

You’re nice = not interested.

Start acting like an asshole, and you’ll have better luck. Be a mysterious bad boy that is full of games. Make yourself sound adventurous.

[FermatParticipant 3478]

She is likely uninterested. For reasons such as these I await the day online dating evolves into a female’s world of narcissism where they become so picky on the men they want, they end up finding no one and use online dating to boost their ego and not actually find a mate. I refuse to feed into their nonsense.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

What does it mean? Translation: “Im giving you backhanded compliment because I prefer jerks and assholes who treat me like crap”. Always assume that’s what it means. Mango nailed it (above)

“You seem nice” is a woman being a condescending t~~~ who is projecting some kind of idea that “all men are bad” so she types “you seem nice” as if it should make you feel “special”. It’s a throw away comment. Women love to pretend they can “get to know you” in emails online. No. Refuse to let them. They aren’t actually clever.

There is only one way to respond: “Great. But you don’t seem like anything to me, yet.”.

… and let it stew for a while.

Most women are not clever original or creative enough to come up with a funny response.

Get her out in the real world AQAP … if you want meet her, append it with “… Meet me for a drink on Monday at 9 so I can decide if you’re nice”. If she doesn’t grab her purse with enthusiasm, next that bitch and move on. She’s one of those lazy c~~~s who likes to sit at her computer and prefers to imagine what men SEEM like …. rather than the way you actually are.

That’s something you can tell her in your next response if she attempted to “reject” you. That would be funny.

•••••

Email her “what time are you having dinner on —–day?”

She will answer you. “Oh about 7” (because she thinks you’re about to ask her out for dinner)

YOU: “GREAT! You should by done by about 9PM so meet me at 9 and we’ll have a drink.”.

Now the same bitch who said “you seem nice” will tell you that you “seem like an asshole”.

I would have some fun with this one.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[VictorParticipant 124]

Fermat wrote:

She is likely uninterested. For reasons such as these I await the day online dating evolves into a female’s world of narcissism where they become so picky on the men they want, they end up finding no one and use online dating to boost their ego and not actually find a mate. I refuse to feed into their nonsense.

I think this is what is happening already.  I have seen every indication that it’s just a place where women seek validation, and for the majority of them, it’s not a real-world exercise.

Keymaster wrote:

What does it mean? Translation: “Im giving you backhanded compliment because I prefer jerks and assholes who treat me like crao”. Always assume that’s what it means. Mango nailed it (above) “You seem nice” is a woman being a condescending t~~~ who is projecting some kind of idea that “all men are bad” . It’s a throw away comment. Women love to pretend they can “get to know you” in emails online. No. Refuse to let them. There is only one way to respond: “Great. But you don’t seem like anything to me, yet.”. … and let it stew for a while. Get her out in the real world AQAP … if you want meet her, append it with “Meet me for a drink on Monday at 7 so I can decide if you’re nice”. If she doesn’t grab her purse with enthusiasm, next that bitch and move on. She’s one of those lazy c~~~s who likes to sit at her computer and prefers to imagine what men SEEM like …. over the way you actually are. That’s something you can tell her in your next response if she attempted to “reject” you. That would be funny.

Great insight, thanks.  I may try this gambit and see what happens.  I’ll update this thread to let you know.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Keymaster wrote:

She’s one of those lazy c~~~s who likes to sit at her computer and prefers to imagine what men SEEM like …. rathe than the way you actually are.

Her “you seem nice” is a great way for you to turn it around find out if she cares more about PERCEPTIONS – than realities. If she isn’t willing to FIND OUT what you’re like rather than how you seem, then she is not worth a second of your time, and her comment was throw away bulls~~~. Make it work in your favor. You could even ramp it up further and give her a little jab “Don’t put too much stock in your own perceptions.” and make her feel moronic for saying it. She tossed you the comment not expecting a man to play with and mock her on the other end.

Best part is, you can find out A LOT about her this way, BEFORE wasting your time meeting her.
DOn’t pay attention to what she *types* (or says) pay attention to what she DOES.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Victor wrote:

What the f~~~ does it mean…????

I keep getting this as a response on these online dating sites. It’s always followed-up with something like: “…but I’m looking for someone closer to where I live.” In fact, that very excuse line has been used on me now several times. I suppose I should be thankful for a response at all.

I bet if I posted a more flattering photo or casually dropped mention of wealth/career success, they’d soon change their tune. Distance would be no obstacle. Mountains…oceans….deserts….would be traversable.

Stop online dating.

That being said, if you choose to continue: It means if she doesn’t has a date she’ll use you for a free meal and movie. If she starts texting during dinner it’s the guy that broke her original date and will be using the nutrients you just bought her for energy to f~~~ that guy six ways from Sunday.

They’re looking for a unicorn and like the ego boost. Nothing more.

We’ve all done it. We’ve all done social experiments on those sites. The threads exist here. Next time you’re on POF, check out what they think they’re entitled to and what a good first date is. Then delete your account.

Online dating is an asylum where you voluntarily commit yourself.

Fuck this planet.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Fermat wrote:

She is likely uninterested. For reasons such as these I await the day online dating evolves into a female’s world of narcissism where they become so picky on the men they want, they end up finding no one and use online dating to boost their ego and not actually find a mate. I refuse to feed into their nonsense.

That’s right now. I got separated in 2009 and there are women still on these sites from back then. Still single, but have to change ‘average’ to ‘a few extra pounds’ or ‘curvy’.

Fuck this planet.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Of course Cap’s advice to get the f~~~ off dating sites has some REAL value a woman will never add to your life. Like time spent you can better be doing ANYTHING else rewarding. Like taking a good dump. Or getting high score on your favorite video game. Or going to the gym.

Online dating is for women and gays.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Keymaster wrote:

Of course Cap’s advice to get the f~~~ off dating sites has some REAL value a woman will never add to your life. Like time spent you can better be doing ANYTHING else rewarding. Like take a good dump. Or getting high score on your favorite video game. Or going to the gym.

Online dating is for women and gays.

Did all three today. 100% on Arkham Knight and a bike ride.

To the OP, just go out to the grocery store or out for a drink and you’ll see they act completely different than what they do online. I’m 43 and women my age still act like junior high girls.

Bitch: “My friend thinks your cute.”
Cap: “Is this a f~~~ing junior high dance? Tell her to come talk to me.”

They’re afraid and fear rejection. Can’t have that. Off to POF to get their fragile egos stroked.

Fuck this planet.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

I have nothing to add after the

GET OFF DATING SITES

[VictorParticipant 124]

Keymaster wrote:

Of course Cap’s advice to get the f~~~ off dating sites has some REAL value a woman will never add to your life. Like time spent you can better be doing ANYTHING else rewarding. Like taking a good dump. Or getting high score on your favorite video game. Or going to the gym. Online dating is for women and gays.

OK men, the Eagle has landed – message sent.  We’ll call this Operation Aaron [random name selection].

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Look at this pretentious t~~~s idea of a first date:

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=8124276

F~~~ what you like to drink.

God damn dude. Don’t waste your time. Please. Every damn profile will have at least two red flags in it.

1. Travel
2. Wine
3. I love life
4. I love to laugh
5. My kids come first
6. Not interested in games
7. Any real men out there?
8. First date should be spontaneous

And so on. Tell me you haven’t found at least two of those in every profile you’ve seen. Save yourself.

Fuck this planet.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

I found it!

Look at this first date:

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=79623803

Are. You. F~~~ing. Kidding. Me?

Run Forrest.

Fuck this planet.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

ILiveAgain wrote:

I have nothing to add after the

GET OFF DATING SITES

I do. As an afterthought….and for anyone scratching their heads about “what women mean” when they try to tell YOU what YOU are like (see how insane that is?)….

Until you have shagged her, her opinion of you is worthless and totally insignificant. You’re not there to figure out if she likes you…. you’re there to figure out if you like her. The shag won’t happen if you put any stock in what a woman thinks, types, or says about you. Until you are toweling off BigJimAndTheTwins with her facecloth, her approval doesn’t matter a damn. The ONLY thing that matters DO YOU LIKE HER?

In this case, that’s why I suggested (top) incorporating that in to you your response and let her know you don’t care whether “you seem nice” to her. You only care how she seems to you. You’re trying to determine if you like her… and NOT the other way around.

Most women are not expecting this. They think men should care about her perceptions of him, or what she thinks and says, and he should be devastated by her “rejection”. But she hasn’t met a MGHOW yet… and we already know that every “rejection” is her doing you a FAVOR.

Cap285 wrote:

Look at this first date:

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=79623803

Are. You. F~~~ing. Kidding. Me?

I just loved the toilet selfie (on a dating profile) holding a c~~~tail in the bathroom…while a woman can be seen in the background drying her wet leg under the hand dryer. And she started with a lecture on “dignity” and “class”. Or is that a paper towel dispenser and she’s shoving a wad of them up her skirt, because she didn’t have a tampon handy. WHO f~~~ing posts a picture like that on a DATING PROFILE.

WHO.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[WolfParticipant 890]

Fermat wrote:

I await the day online dating evolves into a female’s world of narcissism where they become so picky on the men they want, they end up finding no one and use online dating to boost their ego and not actually find a mate.

This is pretty much how it is today.

Cap285 wrote:

And so on. Tell me you haven’t found at least two of those in every profile you’ve seen. Save yourself.

Most profiles have about six of those red flags!

[Anonymous 12]

Nice = Safe/Plain/Normal/Future Husband and Father. They aren’t interested as they are looking for Mr Bad Boy to come along and spend a heap of dough on them as well as slap them around a little and have all his friends gang bang her.

But once she is done being f~~~ed around by him and his crew she will give you a call.

 

[ArchGHOWParticipant 42]

There’s nothing to add here since everything has been said already but just to be blunt…

The ‘you seem nice’ comment is a throw-away piece of meat on a rope to string you along to thinking she might actually care – it’s like the random text message you might get from a woman months after meeting her when she needs attention. It’s a sign that she’s trying to put you in her back pocket for later when she needs your attention.

KeyMaster is right; say this: 

Keymaster wrote:

“Great. But you don’t seem like anything to me, yet.”.

Always remember that the ‘you seem nice’ phrase is one used to make you feel like a special little snowflake amongst all the rapists, perverts and heathens that all men are in her view. She is angry that she hasn’t found a willing sacrifice for her altar. The truth is she’s just trying to jab a fishing hook into your b~~~~ to string you along.

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