Womens duplicity

[Sparticus66Participant 508]

I had an affair lasting years with a woman. It started when she was married ( I’m not proud of doing that to another man – I was a f~~~ing blue pill beta helping the enemy) but he left her for another woman. Anyway we therefore had a legitimate relationship, including a lovely holiday that was very romantic and she was all over me. Sex was great.
A few months later and she left her I pad at my place. I was watching TV when it pinged. Turns out its logged in to receive all her messages. Lots of really caring messages to ex husband which was expected. But I then did a search of my name. It cane up once on a to do list, to get me to give her some advice. Then I found a long note to herself describing how much she adored her ex. How sex was sometimes great with him. How they could have worked at their marriage. The only reference to my 6 year relationship with her was a point about her ‘not being an angel’ and succumbing to some ‘instant gratification’ too.
It was basically a hymn to their love. The note was written a couple of weeks after our holiday as a couple where she declared me her soul mate. How f~~~ed up is that? I’m still angry about it two years later.
Can I trust any of these f~~~ers?

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Sparticus66 wrote:

How f~~~ed up is that?

Completely f~~~ed up if you’re a man. Perfectly normal if you’re a woman.

Sparticus66 wrote:

Can I trust any of these f~~~ers?

NO.

We’ve all made the same mistake of believing that women think like we do. Critical error.
They view us as:
1. ATM’s. “He would be a good provider.”
2. Appliances. A “to do” list to give her advice.
3. A Fish. “He would be a good catch.”

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[OldBillParticipant]

Sparticus66 wrote:

How f~~~ed up is that?

About as f~~~ed up as you violating her privacy.

If a woman – or anyone for that matter – picked up your cell or tablet and began digging through all your personal information and private data you’d be screaming blue bloody murder. Yet you had no qualms about digging through life of someone else.

You have no idea of the context behind the notes, letters, and other entries you read. That missive to herself musing about how she could have and should have worked on her marriage – a marriage you were actively helping to destroy by the way – could have been nothing more than a type of Pro vs. Cons list.

The questions about just what is was and just what context it was written in are moot, however, because you never should have been reading that file in the first place.

Over the next few days you need to mull over the fact that you do not give other people the same considerations you demand for yourself. You need to face up to and admit the fact of your own hypocrisy before questioning the hypocrisy of others.

Tend to your own dirty laundry. There’s more than enough of it, so you needn’t to go looking for laundry belonging to anybody else.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[EntropyParticipant 902]

Monkeys swinging from branch to branch…

"Compare your lives to mine and then kill yourselves" -BBR

[Sparticus66Participant 508]

So if you thought someone was trying to kill you and you checked their phone and discovered they were trying to kill you, you’d just berate yourself for invading their privacy. Self rightous price

[Sparticus66Participant 508]

Looking at that i – pad stopped me
1)moving jobs to be wuth her
2) moving in with her to look after her and her kids
3) to no doubt be dumped when she got back with her ex or a better offer
It was totally worth looking.
Who do you think you are? Some father confessor figure/Saint?

[OldBillParticipant]

Sparticus66 wrote:

So if you thought someone was trying to kill you and you checked their phone and discovered they were trying to kill you, you’d just berate yourself for invading their privacy.

There’s a vast difference between feckless curiosity and actual cause. The former isn’t justified while the latter is. She gave you no cause to invade her privacy. There was no looming threat and no questionable behavior on her part, just your pathetic desire to peek.

If you truly were contemplating changing jobs to be with, moving in with her, and supporting her and her child you could have learned about her character through other means. And, if you were going to do all those things without knowing her character, you would have deserved the problems that resulted.

Integrity is what you do when no one is looking. We all now know what you do when no one is looking.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 16]

OldBill wrote:

About as f~~~ed up as you violating her privacy.

sorry bill but F~~~ YOU.

I got no skeletons in my closet. I come out clean all then time, that got me in some troubles through my life, and people get angry at me.
But keep secrets and they will be there next week to rip your head off.

OldBill wrote:

Tend to your own dirty laundry. There’s more than enough of it, so you needn’t to go looking for laundry belonging to anybody else.

privacy is just a name for people who have s~~~ to hide.

[Anonymous 16]

OldBill wrote:

There’s a vast difference between feckless curiosity and actual cause. The former isn’t justified while the latter is. She gave you no cause to invade her privacy. There was no looming threat and no questionable behavior on her part, just your pathetic desire to peek.

Well in my opinion guy just saved his life, and saved himselft from a treacherous maniac.

WELL F~~~ING DONE SPARTICUS.

[Sparticus66Participant 508]

You sanctimonious f~~~. What are you doing on here? The women who f~~~ over men have the police, the courts, the government, the churches, other women and men like you. Men are dying from being fooled by this s~~~. And you invade this space with your preaching you white Knight.
And I did have good cause – an instinct honed from being f~~~ed over before by others and her. And I was f~~~ing right.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

You were lucky, the saying all fair in love and war as I see you did nothing wrong, she was clearly lying to you.

The view you invaded her privacy is PC ,Mangina, she would have done the same.

She used you, like women have used most men.

Its a pill to take but its fact, they use then Monkey branch.

[narwhalParticipant]

@sparticus, I don’t get how you have any surprise that she’s not completely loyal to you. Did it not occur to you that if she was willing to cheat with you, she would also cheat on you?

Regarding your invasion of her privacy, if you had an instinct that something was wrong, that she was still emotionally tied to her ex-husband, did you talk to her about it before you started going through her things? If you want to have a trusting relationship where honesty is important, why not start there? If she had an instinct that you were not 100% faithful, wouldn’t you want her to talk to you first before going through your things? Old Bill is right, unless you talked to her first, you’re throwing stones at her for not being honest and trustworthy with you, yet you’re doing exactly the same.

Of course, given the fact that she had 6 years of cheating and lying on her belt, with you supporting and enabling the behavior, you could expect that she wouldn’t tell you the truth. That’s the woman you knowingly started a relationship with.

Ok. Then do it.

[OldBillParticipant]

Sparticus66 wrote:

You sanctimonious f~~~. What are you doing on here?

Sharing opinions and experiences just like you are.

The women who f~~~ over men have the police, the courts, the government, the churches, other women and men like you.

I agree with all of that except the last. I don’t excuse female behavior. I also don’t excuse your behavior.

And you invade this space with your preaching you white Knight.

If you think I’m a white knight, you haven’t read anything that I’ve posted.

And I did have good cause…

No, you didn’t and your initial post said as much.

You describe yourself as a “f~~~ing blue pill beta helping the enemy” f~~~ing another man’s wife. He leaves her and you begin a “legitimate” relationship with her which lasts six years and includes a “lovely holiday that was very romantic”. Then, one day towards the end of you six years with her, the tablet she left at you house pings, you picked it up, read some messages, searched for you name, and kept on digging.

In six years you hadn’t doubted her until you searched her tablet.

… an instinct honed from being f~~~ed over before by others and her.

Instinct? Hardly. You admit you were a besotted fool up until the moment you searched her tablet. Other women may have f~~~ed you over, but in six years and even while she was married to another man you hadn’t doubted her up until the moment you decided to search her private property.

You were so besotted with her for so long that what you read was such a shock to you that you’re still whining about it two years later.

And I was f~~~ing right.

You were wrong from the very start. You were wrong to f~~~ another man’s wife. You were wrong to interfere with a marriage. You were wrong to spend six years in a relationship with a woman who would cheat on her husband. You were wrong not to question what kind of a woman would cheat on her husband.

The evidence was always there and any suspicions on your part should have been there, but you were too blind to see that evidence and too besotted to have those suspicions for six long years.

It wasn’t until you went snooping that you suddenly decided to open your eyes. And now, two years later, you’re blaming her for acting like all women have always acted instead of asking yourself why you were so willfully blind for so long.

You should have known she was a duplicitous bitch years before you chose to search her tablet. She’s a woman and she cheated on her husband with you. How many other hints did you need, you c~~~struck fool?

I expect women to act like women and, because of that, I don’t trust them one whit.

I do, however, give every human I meet the same consideration I demand they give me and I give them that consideration until they give me cause not to.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[narwhalParticipant]

Buller100 wrote:

The view you invaded her privacy is PC ,Mangina, she would have done the same.

Sounds like you’re saying that Sparticus should hold himself to the same standard as the woman he’s saying behaved badly. I thought we were supposed to be better then that.

And you’ll have to explain how honoring privacy is PC/mangina.

Ok. Then do it.

[Sparticus66Participant 508]

I said I was wrong to have an affair. I’ve learnt alot since then.

You however are currently a White Knight on MGTOW. You ought to go back out there and do some more research with those women you are so keen to protect

[Anonymous 16]

OldBill wrote:

You should have known she was a duplicitous bitch years before you chose to search her tablet. She’s a woman and she cheated on her husband with you. How many other hints did you need, you c~~~struck fool?

He is totally rigth. 🙂

but i still dont swallow privacy bulls~~~.

i come from the caribean rigth… Well i know this dude, married with 2 kids.
Thing is he buyed a gun. And wife was nagging him to death.
One day he comes drunk home, and she nags about the gun.

Her: why do you have that thing? bla bla bla.
Him: to protect my childrens, my house and you. And also shoot you if yo cheat on me.

Next day she went to talk with her mother, abd told her beloved son menaced her with killing her if she cheated.
The mother answer?

Mother: Are you gonna cheat on him?
Her: of course not.
Mother: then why are you soo worried?

Silence was made.

You need need privacy when you keep secrets.

[Anonymous 16]

Sparticus66 wrote:

I said I was wrong to have an affair. I’ve learnt alot since then.

You however are currently a White Knight on MGTOW. You ought to go back out there and do some more research with those women you are so keen to protect

Sorry pall but he is rigth.
She is a c~~~ and you are an idiot.
🙂
Accept it and remember. Idiots migth learn, but c~~~ness cant be cured.

[OldBillParticipant]

Sparticus66 wrote:

I said I was wrong to have an affair.

You were wrong to have that affair. You were also both wrong and willfully ignorant not to be suspicious of a woman who would have such an affair.

I’ve learnt alot since then.

I’ll have to take your word for that.

You however are currently a White Knight on MGTOW. You ought to go back out there and do some more research with those women you are so keen to protect.

If you think I’m a white knight or that I’m keen to protect women, you really need to read more of my posts.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[narwhalParticipant]

Sparticus66 wrote:

I said I was wrong to have an affair. I’ve learnt alot since then.

You however are currently a White Knight on MGTOW. You ought to go back out there and do some more research with those women you are so keen to protect

No one is defending her. As you just admitted, it’s possible that you both were wrong.

Anonymous wrote:

You need need privacy when you keep secrets.

But keeping a secret and invading someone’s privacy are not the same thing.

Ok. Then do it.

[Anonymous 54]

This was a relationship that was not built on trust.

For myself I would say that if I find myself wanting to peek…its over anyway. Thats not a healthy base to build on.

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