Women's Dating Contradictions

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What they want is a pair of banks:  sperm and piggy, all in one package.

 

[VictorParticipant 124]

Anonymous wrote:

What a woman wants as I have heard it said and written by many women. I want a man who is strong and tough but is gentle and vegetarian, a man who can survive in the wild but doesn’t kill anything including vegetation. A man who is reliable and steady yet fun and can make me laugh. I want a romantic man who will take me places and also help with the housework and knows how to cook. An intelligent and well educated man, highly motivated and ambitious but still down to Earth. A man who desires me and wants to f~~~ me all the time but only when I want to but still pursues me despite my rejections. I want a man who will love and cherish me and marry me even though I think there still might be something better out there. And he has to be taller than me and good looking too but not like really vain good looking just handsome and well dressed but doesn’t spend all his time in front of the mirror. A man who is confident and sure about himself but not overpowering or dominating, a man who will let me have my way but pull me into line when I need it, a man who is creative and handy but also good with computers and knows how to style hair. Get the picture?

Yes, thanks – I think all that makes sense…..

[WolfParticipant 890]

I will say though, that when I was trying out online dating, the one type of woman I would refuse to have any contact with at all were the ones that had nothing in their profile. Some women would type like “I have to type 120 characters jaldskfjalsfjlasfjalsfjlasfjlsadjfldfjsad” F~~~ those bitches…if they can’t even take 2 minutes to type something as simple as “Hi, my name is XXXXXXXX, I have a dog named Buddy, and I graduated from XXXXXXXXXX college 3 years ago and have been working in the finance industry since,” they are literally not worth 2 seconds of your time. Especially considering the ones that do this seem to almost always be the ones that upload a dozen slutty selfies. That should tell you a lot about what they have to offer you in a relationship…nothing but some well used V.

I agree with this, and I’ve also taken the same approach with profiles that say nothing. They are simply looking to gain attention with their looks, then they will demonize men for it.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

OP, you asked “Do women seriously not know what they want? Do they really have such low levels of self-awareness? Or does it result from cognitive dissonance, itself stemming from what society (read: feminism and/or female friends) says they *should* want versus their own biological urges?”

From my experience – no, women do NOT know what they want, and their wants/desires are dictated by a “heart” full of emotions that change on a whim, and the reason why their emotions change, THEY themselves do not even know. Chasing women or trying to understand them is like grasping the wind: an impossibility.

 

Yes, their “ideal man” is entirely dictated by what other women so call “value”. I will never forget one time I was at a friends BBQ, and several girls were talking about men they would like. One of the girls mentioned being “tall” (like you mentioned). A girl from Russia responded and asked “what is tall”? Meaning she wasnt aware of this concept, and needed to know the exact measurement of “tall” to qualify a man. It was transparent that this notion never crossed her mind before and it wasnt requisite. But NOW she hears what other women value, so NOW she herself can only accept a man who is “worthy” in the eyes of other women.

Complete. Utter. Horse s~~~.

The entire height concept is a travesty, IMO. Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, and many other so called “sexiest men alive” are not really tall, and certainly not muscular.

Im average height and this entire notion escaped me for many years. I remember in my twenties when I was in great shape from body building, I was at a VERY upscale lounge. Two cougars invited me over to their table. They kept complimenting me on my physique, and LITERALLY fought (only for a moment but it was memorable) over sitting next to me. Turns out the one who invited me over was waiting for a date to show up (a SHORTER, and unattractive dude….BUT he was a doctor lol). When he arrived, she made a point to flirt with me in front of him merely to make him jealous. I end up with the older less attractive one, and now she needs a ride home. We bar hopped for a while. We ran into one of her male friends. She memtioned she needs a guy in passing conversation (not saying she wanted him, but a guy in general) and the guy asks “whats wrong with him”…him being me. Her reply? Hes too short.

Aftet ALL of that flirtation. Both girls inviting me to their table. The compliments. Fighting over who gets to sit next to me. Then I am deemed “too short” by a middle aged, divorced, saggy old hag?.AND she needs me to drive her home? The f~~~ing NERVE of women to say such toxic, rude things to men. Wish I didnt give her a ride home, but I made many mistakes in my 20s.

My point is: women are f~~~ing clueless as to what they want. They only care about others approval. How is it one minute your salivating to sit next to me, then the next Im “too short”? They want their fantasized prince charming, 100.different requirements all rolled in one package. All I want is an honest, attractive girl. I dont have a height or breast size requirent.

The fact that men have such an insatiable desire to f~~~ a creature who is driven by such whimsical emotions is truly the comedy of man.

Resident cynic.

[WolfParticipant 890]

@ancientwisdom: yeah, the height thing is a big issue for a lot of women. I see it all the time. I personally like women to be shorter than me, so I don’t entirely object. With that said, I don’t think I would unilaterally reject a chick just because she wasn’t shorter, but she would likely reject me. I’m 5’9″ and I’m apparently too short for women that are a half foot shorter than me.

I lost count of the “must be 6ft+” on females profiles. I wonder how it would go over if guys specifically stated weight restrictions on their profile? It would probably go over like a lead pipe to the head.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

Wolfie,

Im 5’9 as well. We are spot on average height for men in America. Women NEVER think in “normal” terms. You are never a normal height. In her eyes you are either tall or short. I dont let it get to me anymore because Ive realised if you want some tail or even a relationship, at the end of the day “tall” isnt a panacea. Witty humor coupled with a b~~~~ deep attitude of demostrating you dont give a s~~~ about what they think is what truly pulls on their ever so whimsical heart strings. Women ALL say they want a “confident” guy. That is true, but its mutually exclusive to a self absorbed, arrogant, vanity-man who thinks hes gods gift to women. I dont care how tall and attractive a dude is, if he is obsessed with his looks (to the same extent women are) its a complete turn off to women. Its as though women are so intimately faliliar with that toxic arrogance (because they themselves posses it) that they know its wrong.

 

Oh, btw the “half foot taller than the girl” rings true. Thats because they want to wear 6 inch heels in order to make their ass and t~~~ stick out, while making their legs appear longer and skinnier. Such a f~~~ing pretentious parade.

On that note: a few years ago (when I started getting grey hairs in my side burns) I used just for men, because I wasnt used to that look. I told a romantic interest this, and she acted shocked. “You DYE your hair”? As though Im some fraud. This same chick not only dyed her hair, had FAKE double D t~~~, got a FAKE spray on tan twice a week, wore wear paint to the nines, and complained about not having enough money while LEASING the latest Benz.

Un—-f~~~ing—-real.

They want us to be the hairless (manscaped) pretty boy portayed in the movies, yet if we use any means to achieve that we are not “manly”. Virtually no man is hairless and that type. Yet they themselves use EVERY f~~~ing trick imaginable to alter their appearance and its acceptable because they were born with a vagina. Small boobs? Push up braw or have slits cut under their t~~~ and place a plastic bag inside to look fuller. Face dimensions off? War paint. No ass? High heels. Still not attractive? Shiny jewelry and tight clothes in candy wrapper colors.

Deception, manipylation, double standards. Nothing to see here. Move a long.

Resident cynic.

[JasonParticipant 282]

You guys know what really irks me about the height thing? The woman’s height doesn’t matter; they *all* want a man of above a certain height – usually somewhere around 5’11” or 6’0″. I’ve run across women 4’5″-4’7″ tall who refuse to date guys shorter than 5’11”. I kid you not. I mean, I can understand a 5’10” woman going for that, sure, but a 4’5″ woman refusing to date guys shorter than 5’11”? Really? REALLY?

And for the record, I have a grand ol’ height of 5’7″, in a country with an average adult male height of 5’11” – I stopped growing around 7th grade or so, but I never really cared or thought about my height at all before I started dating. Or started *not* dating, depending on how you look at it…

And yeah, if guys started giving weight restrictions on dating profiles? Cue banshee-like wailing, accusations of sexism and comparisons with various farm animals. Heck, on some dating sites the admins would probably close down the account without a second thought or word of warning. “Equal rights”. Yeah, sure…

There lies serenity in Chaos. Seek ye the eye of the hurricane.

[WolfParticipant 890]

Ancientwisdom wrote:

On that note: a few years ago (when I started getting grey hairs in my side burns) I used just for men, because I wasn’t used to that look. I told a romantic interest this, and she acted shocked. “You DYE your hair”? As though Im some fraud. This same chick not only dyed her hair, had FAKE double D t~~~, got a FAKE spray on tan twice a week, wore wear paint to the nines, and complained about not having enough money while LEASING the latest Benz.

You hit the nail on the head here. Personally, I stay away from chicks that go over the top with looks. All women are trouble, but the really high maintenance ones are too much for me. There’s generally a strong negative correlation between IQ and how much emphasis they put on their appearance/social status.

Jason wrote:

You guys know what really irks me about the height thing? The woman’s height doesn’t matter; they *all* want a man of above a certain height – usually somewhere around 5’11” or 6’0″. I’ve run across women 4’5″-4’7″ tall who refuse to date guys shorter than 5’11”. I kid you not. I mean, I can understand a 5’10” woman going for that, sure, but a 4’5″ woman refusing to date guys shorter than 5’11″? Really? REALLY?

The magic height I have encountered is 5’10”, but at least 6′ is preferred. I hear ya – it makes no sense for a 5′ nothing chick to refuse to date a guy that is 6″, 7″, 8″ or even more inches taller than her.

I wonder how they will feel about the height restriction when they hit the wall?

[GrumpyParticipant]

Wolf wrote:

I wonder how they will feel about the height restriction when they hit the wall?

When they meet the Wall, it wont matter, as most will be at waist height anyhow.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

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