Women more controlling and aggressive in Relationships than Men

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

Women Can Be ‘Intimate Terrorists’ As Study Reveals They Can Be More Controlling And Aggressive

The general perception of aggression in heterosexual relationships is that it seems to stem from the man, but a new study has found that actually women are more likely than men to be controlling and aggressive towards their partners.

The idea that they are the gentler sex is a myth – at least as far as partners are concerned, according to psychologists.

Far from the popular notion of women tending to be victims of “intimate partner violence” (IPV), they were more verbally and physically aggressive to their other halves than men, the findings showed.

Just as many women as men could also be classed as abusive “intimate terrorists” who coupled controlling behaviour with serious levels of threats, intimidation and physical violence.

Researchers questioned 1,104 young men and women about physical aggression and controlling behaviour involving partners and friends.

Study leader Dr Elizabeth Bates, from the University of Cumbria, said: “Previous studies have sought to explain male violence towards women as arising from patriarchal values, which motivate men to seek to control women’s behaviour, using violence if necessary.

“This study found that women demonstrated a desire to control their partners and were more likely to use physical aggression than men. This suggests that IPV may not be motivated by patriarchal values and needs to be studied within the context of other forms of aggression, which has potential implications for interventions.”

In the 1990s a US sociologist from the University of Michigan, Professor Michael P Johnson, coined the term “intimate terrorism” to define an extreme form of controlling relationship behaviour involving threats, intimidation and violence.

Prof Johnson found that intimate terrorists were almost always men, a view that has generally become widely accepted.

But the new research, based on anonymous questionnaire answers, found that women were equally likely to display such behaviour.

Dr Bates, who presented her findings at the British Psychological Society’s Division of Forensic Psychology annual meeting in Glasgow, said: “It wasn’t just pushing and shoving. Some people were circling the boxes for things like beating up, kicking, and threatening to use a weapon.

“In terms of high levels of control and aggression, there was no difference between men and women.”

She added: “The stereotypical popular view is still one of dominant control by men. That does occur but research over the last 10 to 15 years has highlighted the fact that women are controlling and aggressive in relationships too.

“A contributing factor could be that in the past women have talked about it more. The feminist movement made violence towards women something we talk about. Now there is more support for men and more of them are feeling comfortable coming forward.”

Dr Bates pointed out that Prof Johnson’s original research looked at men in prisons and women in refuges, rather than typical members of the public.

Her study deliberately focused on young students in their late teens and early 20s because statistically they were most likely to be victims of aggression.

The analysis showed that, while women tended to be more physically aggressive towards their partners, men were more likely to be physically aggressive to same-sex “others” including friends.

Controlling behaviour was significantly linked to physical aggression in both men and women.

from – http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2014/06/26/women-more-aggresive-and-controlling_n_5532275.html

[RoyDalParticipant]

Controlling and violent women are out there. I have dated a few of them, both the verbal and the physical kind. They disguise it well at first, or mine did.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

RealityBites wrote:

Dr Bates pointed out that Prof Johnson’s original research looked at men in prisons and women in refuges, rather than typical members of the public.

I could tear that study apart a dozen different ways. But, what would be the point? All I would be doing would be akin to screaming at a brick wall of ignorance, hate, and bigotry against men.

Instead, I will just shake my head, and walk away, while reality eventually slams into that brick wall like a wrecking ball, shattering it.

[DaimosParticipant 23]

I guarantee no member of the scientific/ psychological community will ever acknowledge this to the public in fear of social back lash. How long before we hear about this on the news in the future I wonder.

[Anonymous 11]

My experience with controlling women is identical to Roy’s.

I had one start with telling me I could not wear socks. I still wore socks but things got pretty bad once the honeymoon phase ended.

I’d run at first sniff now.

[QuietlyquietlyParticipant 728]

“a new study…..”

It’s hardly news. This has been known since the 1970s, and been covered up every since, because it didn’t sell newspapers or get votes.

286 studies showing equal or higher perpetration of female to male DV

30 years of denying evidence

I’m actually surprised the feminist HuffPost even ran the story.

[StephenParticipant 0]

The statement regarding the ‘Fairer Sex’ is a misquote taken from the Christian Bible, re: Husbands treat your wives as the ‘Weaker Sex”, meaning that the husbands take responsibility for them giving them protection and safety. Since it was written, the constitutions of countries that were based on the bible, have taken these tenants and made them law. An unwritten law has always been that Men should not show violence to women. Even if justified. So lawmakers have weighted the law to over protect women, especially in the Family law area. Feminists, now twist this to their advantage, saying that males are the aggressors in all situations, boys rape without knowing it, women need safe havens everywhere, all work and sport areas need to be a level field, etc. Can you imagine watching a football game where play is gender equalised? For example; ‘The female kicker has just kicked xxx yards, but gender equalising has moved the ball xxxxx yards, or the quarter back has thrown xxxxx yards, but gender rules has moved it back xxx yards! The stupidity goes on. Take that situation and apply it to the work place.
I have found the women, I come in contact with, seem to be the first to anger and the slowest to calm down and twist words to get what they want. Try getting a straight answer from them!!!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Oh look a “new study” reveals VAWA (the violence against women act) is now officially toilet paper. As if the entire MGTOW archives of controlling c~~~ing violent female behavior never existed? Men have “studied” this s~~~ already, and we are already EXPERTS on women’s “studies”. As if the “crazy girlfriend destroys XBOX” videos on youtube for the last 8 years are not enough for a clue.

Women will be the first to hit and destroy something in any dispute. It’s not even a percentage . It’s a fact. Controlling in marriages and relationships? Women are so mentally sick when it comes to controlling behavior., they ALL think if you don’t want to live with that bitch…. “He should have his dick cut off HA HA!! HE DESERVED IT!!!”

“Studies” have now officially rendered VAWA a great big LIE and women don’t need any more protecting from violence than men.

Women “can” be terrorsists? F~~~ no kidding.
What they are complete s~~~ at >>>> is being intimate.

Merry Christmas.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[bobphiloParticipant 1772]

Daimos wrote:

I guarantee no member of the scientific/ psychological community will ever acknowledge this to the public in fear of social back lash. How long before we hear about this on the news in the future I wonder.

The researchers have acknowledged this in publishing their findings. It’s the media that hasn’t picked this up for fear of offending women.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

I dated a girl a few years back who was very controlling. Always trying to snap her fingers at me. Fortunately, I was 18 and fiercely red pill and when she did that I started hitting on her best friend. LOL. No s~~~ women are controlling. There can be a million studies done, for me I saw it all over the place. I didn’t wait till some study told me how to feel and how to act I just started doing whatever I wanted. There are more and more wake up calls coming every day. We can’t save those people who keep hitting the snooze button.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[bobphiloParticipant 1772]

Domestic violence against men is the most under reported crime in the country. Men are reluctant to report it because the police share the view of society that women are the only victims and often tell the poor guy, “what’s the matter, can’t you handle your women?”.

[bobphiloParticipant 1772]

I don’t see the point of condemning a study that you agree with. For anyone who has not experienced female violence first hand the results of a properly done study are a lot more compelling than any one persons limited experience. It might spare someone a lot of pain, change society’s views and promote laws protecting men from domestic violence. Putting down all studies, including those we agree with, makes us look like a bunch of unscientific yokels.

[MonkeyMindParticipant 5340]

It’s a common misconception that Domestic Violence is predominantly initated by the male in the relationship.

Studies have shown that more often than not, the partner trying to assert control over the other is the most likely to resort to violence – AKA Women.

If it were a solely a male problem, there would be absolutely no DV at all in Lesbian relationships and the most violent relationships overall would be within gay male couples. The stats paint a different story.

[StephenParticipant 0]

Only after the law is changed to equally value men the same as women can there be equality. The Family Law courts bias the law to see women as nurturers and so favour is given to females, but they do not look at their character, just the fact they have vaginas. The male character is called into question for the woman to get more money from the guy! Double standard. Men hitting women even to protect themselves against violence is indoctrinated from an early age, so that police will view men beaten up by women as not worth protection under law. The laws must be changed.

[Anonymous 29]

They have been taking the brave pill since third wave feminism and feel entitled. Give it another decade
and things will turn around when they start filling up jail cells.

[AnthonyParticipant 241]

Women are definitely more aggressive in relationships and when they’re single. I grew up with mostly women in my life. My dad had to work most of the time so he barely spent time with me growing up.

My mom and sister are controlling over-bearing little s~~~ storms if they don’t get their way.

The other women in my family may not seem aggressive at first, but some of the older tradcon women in my family are definitely passive aggressive when they don’t get their way.

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

Silverstone the Second wrote:

Fortunately, I was 18 and fiercely red pill and when she did that I started hitting on her best friend. LOL.

How did this turn out?

Anonymous wrote:

They have been taking the brave pill since third wave feminism and feel entitled. Give it another decade
and things will turn around when they start filling up jail cells.

Will this actually happen? Is there hope for justice?!

[Anonymous 29]

Oneforfreedom wrote:

Will this actually happen? Is there hope for justice?!

What goes around comes around as the saying goes.
It is not a question of justice but a question of natural order.

The c~~~s have won a lot of battles under the watch of their allies, magina’s and white knights but they have not nor will
they win the war.

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

This is all you need to see to prove that women are aggressive:

[BeeParticipant 700]

I have a story, from just an hour ago:
I spent most of the day buying supplies to tile the bathroom. Wife came home later, around 5:30. She informed me that she was not going to be cooking dinner. I heated leftover chicken wings. My daughter and I did not leave the kitchen clean to my wife’s satisfaction, and she lost her temper. She screamed at us for a while, hit our daughter on the top of her head while she cowered on the floor in the “tornado position” because she knew she was going to be hit. tipped over a chair, and flung the food she was reheating onto the table causing it to splatter around the entire kitchen.

I’ve informed her that hitting our child is not acceptable. I’ve also told her that the splattered food will stay that way until she cleaned it up. I’m trying to keep it together for my child.

Domestic violence takes many forms. It isn’t always as clearly defined as someone striking their partner. A lot of times it is manipulation, being a disciplinarian with children, going after pets, threats of leaving to get attention,

Update just now. She wanted our daughter to put away laundry. Daughter is slow to do it. Wife began loosing her temper again. She gathered up our daughter’s Christmas presents in a trash bag and threw them in the garage. She started screaming and started to throw some clothing into a travel bag as if to leave. I tried to stop her. I told her that she made her point and that it was time to stop. I got slapped in the face when blocking her way as she was leaving. She left anyway but without any change of clothes.

I don’t know that we will be staying together.

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