Why people tell us we are angry?

[Anonymous 9]

 

I find with a lot of people negative emotion comes out in the form of anger. Disappointment, fear, rejection, frustration, embarrassment.  Probably with men more so than women. My theory on that goes back to upbringing. Girls were allowed to be more emotional than boys. Their feelings matured, as they did. Boys were allowed to feel a certain few. Anger was acceptable as it went hand in hand for motivation in sports.

Part of my recovery from an alcohol addiction was to get in touch with my feelings. I found I feel negative emotions in different parts of my body and being sober some of them are intense.

When I got news of a friends suicide, after a domestic dispute, I could feel my heart drop in my chest. And then I felt anger.

When a young man was belittling me in a bar I could feel myself getting upset. There was warmth starting in my ankles. With every insult the warm feeling carried on up my legs. He stopped just in time. I had already checked out to see who accompanied him. He was drunk and I was sober. I was just getting ready to invite him outside.

When some guy started beaking about my nephew playing goalie in Mite hockey I could feel my stomach turn upside down. Again I just let it go but was aware of the feeling. I can’t so much control these feelings, but I can control what I do with them. I can accomplish a pile of work if I focus the negative emotion on the work.

I honestly believe men are MORE sensitive than women. We just weren’t allowed to be. And it does p~~~ me off when people look at me and tell me what I’m feeling.

JMHO.

 

 

[kbbroilerParticipant 886]

I hear about the anger stuff over and over. I think when it boils down to it the ones who are trying to get you in relationships or marriage they’re the ones who are angry. Think about it. They see you and get jealous that your life is stress free and have no problems. They try to use shaming and manipulation to try to get you back to the plantation. Also, people tend to put on a pokerface about their significant other and they try to sell you B.S which is not true.

[peterfaParticipant 833]

Why shouldn’t we be angry? Our lives are filled to the brim of injustice and lies rammed down our throats. The one thing we would want the most has an extraordinary price-tag. Our hopes and dreams are robbed of us. We’re promised a safe economic environment so that we can work hard keep our earnings but that is a lie. We’re promised that women love us for us an that they’re issues stem from being mistreated by men, but it’s because of the princess brainwashing since they were little.

It’s all f~~~ed up, we should be angry. That’s coming to grips with reality. If you saw black people becoming slaves for being black, why not get angry for that?

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

In reply to the titular question:

Accusing one of being angry is an attack strategy and nothing more.

It is designed to put one on the defensive (e.g. replying “no I’m not), to limit one’s available tactics (having to appear dispassionate to dispel the accusation), and to make one appear ill-tempered (classic ad-hominem)

My preferred course of action is to make fun of the question:

– You’re angry
– Go talk about your feelings somewhere else; this is not The View.

A clever trick was employed there – I said “your feelings” even though the feelings being discussed are allegedly mine.

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

They say we’re angry to DE-legitimize our stance. In reality, it’s not so much anger… at least in my case as apathy. They can’t conceive that a man wouldn’t want to slave away for his entire adult life for some ungrateful bitch. Seems to me they can’t/don’t/won’t understand. As a bonus I don’t feel inclined in the least to explain how they are wrong if they ever do want understand. If people want to think I made this decision out of anger… cool, whatever. I’ll be the one doing whatever the f~~~ I want, whenever I want to do it.

MGTOW is a very easy concept to grasp, but you have to want to understand it. The very people claiming we’re just “angry” are literally angry that we are going our own way, without them. I made happiness a choice, now it can never be taken from me. So someone else doesn’t like my choice in life, sounds like they have a problem, not me.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

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