Why I have NEVER married (and never will)

[KeithParticipant 482]

I just celebrated my 50th birthday last month and I have been joyfully single for my entire life.  I come from a large family and have 4 brothers and 3 of them have been single all their lives as well and 1 brother who mistakenly married at age 46 (10 years ago).  However, he is planning his divorce even as I write this post.

I decided to stay single because I watched my friends get married one by one and as luck would have it, I had a ringside seat and was best man in four weddings over the years.  Each and every one of my friends exclaimed their surprise and shock that the woman they married apparently ceased to exist following the wedding ceremony.  I feared this outcome and decided I should “wait and see”.

Each of my friends settled down and traveled the marriage road.  Slowly I watched the distance between us get larger as they faded away because of family obligations and I imagined that they married their “best friend” (yeah, right).  The times when I would try to arrange social gatherings (just guys, no wives), it would take a committee meeting for any of them to get “permission” and most times the requests were “denied” by the “best friend”, but I remained faithfully vigilant and supportive.

I watched each of them go through the money struggles, the child care struggles, the employment struggles, listened to the bitching about no sex, no love, no respect, in-laws, blah, blah, blah.  But these were my friends, so I remained faithfully vigilant and supportive.

Eventually, my friends wives started to bad mouth, insult and belittle me behind my back.  I was referred to as “irresponsible”, “self-centered”, “egocentric”, “unhappy” (that is wrong for sure), “emotionally unavailable”, “out of touch”, “probably a f~~” and my very very very favorite “an adolescent with a checkbook“.   I was perplexed that I was perceived this way because I was always generous, helpful, available and supportive.   I did ponder these assessments for a very long time. . . .

It finally occurred to me that I was perceived this way by the wives because my unbridled happiness was causing them problems in their relationships.  If I wanted something, I purchased it, this included boats, cars, houses, jet skiis, 4 wheelers, more houses, more cars and I never flew coach.  I NEVER asked permission for anything from any woman and as it turns out, this was problematic and was the reason why the distance between me and my friends became so vast.

Admittedly, I did weaken in my late 30’s and consider getting married, so I locked my beagle and my girlfriend in the trunk of the car for an hour.  When I opened the trunk, the beagle was happy as hell to see me, she was p~~~ed big time.  I kept the beagle and ditched the chick since she didn’t “understand me”.  (Bonus:  The dog loves baseball, she didn’t).

Many years have flown by and one by one each of my friends is now divorced.  My brother is the last straggler, but it won’t be long now.  As each of them has become suddenly single, things have returned to normal.  We go out, we drink, we laugh, we swear, we fart, we travel, we attend all major sporting events, we never ask for permission and we make no apologies.

It is true, everything that is old is new again.

Keith

 

ONCE UPON A TIME there was a man who never found a wife and he lived happily ever after. The End.

[DoinMyOwnThing40Participant 1000]

Welcome. Your reasons for not getting married make a lot of sense.

Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6419]

Very interesting post. The closest I’ve ever been to a marriage ceremony is being an usher at my cousins outdoor wedding … as close as I’ll ever want to get.

[Anonymous 1]

Awesome post!
I am in my 30’s (32) now, and I am getting to this conclusion. One of my friends just learned his wife is pregnant, and I already can hear some regret on his voice. He seems to be happy enough, but I can sense a “disturbance on the force”. Another two are married for a time now, and I have the impression they were castrated. It is sad really, since both seem to have so much potential. Stories like yours makes a huge impact on my decisions, so thanks again for sharing.

Cheers.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

What a great story. Thanks for making it and I have made it sticky for others to notice. Have a comment to add. More later.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[LucidLeoParticipant 65]

Welcome Keith and good on you, marriage is a trap and nothing good comes of it. Smart men never will let a woman put that ball and chain on them, and force kids on them. I am from a bigger family, I have 5 sisters and a brother. Three of those sisters are married and 2 are making babies like crazy, and I have never seen these kids, nor do I want to. I live 1000 miles away and have not seen my family in almost over 3 years. They love the marriage and settling down story.

[ByronParticipant 465]

Great story. I think there is more to their hate than you just being happy (although that is a reason, too).

I believe they hate men who do not self-enslave themselves and see through the charade just because they are not serving women. They will always try to put down such men, as you noticed, by utilizing any way they can. They hate your independence, they hate that you are not serving women but are serving yourself first (oh how egocentric of you to not serve their interests first), you must be a f~~ (for not selling yourself short for just a little bit of pussy), irresponsible for sure, kid at heart (you apparently have never grown up and embraced your slave purpose), and finally UNHAPPY. You could NOT possibly be happy by yourself.. that is just not possible!! You need to be a slave of family to be happy! Hasn’t nobody conditioned you?!

They truly hate such men, with passion. Because by staying single and having all the fun you can, you prove that you are actually stronger than them and their little schemes to get you to do their bidding.

Right on brother! I’m 29 but will do just the same as you. I have decided it even before MGTOW as my mother actually warned me about this years ago by saying women generally wanted to enslave my freedom and use me for their purposes. Told me to never believe them and have all the fun I could gather without complying to ANY of their schemes if I wanted to be happy. Spot on. I guess she knows women well.

[KeithParticipant 482]

Thanks guys.  It’s all true  and at the end of the day, why does anyone get married?

Marriage is like smoking, it’s hazardous to your health.

ONCE UPON A TIME there was a man who never found a wife and he lived happily ever after. The End.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I believe they hate men who do not self-enslave themselves …

You nailed it, Chrono!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[KeithParticipant 482]

Anonymous wrote:

Awesome post! I am in my 30’s (32) now, and I am getting to this conclusion. One of my friends just learned his wife is pregnant, and I already can hear some regret on his voice. He seems to be happy enough, but I can sense a “disturbance on the force”. Another two are married for a time now, and I have the impression they were castrated. It is sad really, since both seem to have so much potential. Stories like yours makes a huge impact on my decisions, so thanks again for sharing. Cheers.

Remain vigilant, even in the face of the social pressures you will have to endure as your friends wed.

In order to “hedge your bet”, deposit sperm for safekeeping in a sperm bank in case you want children in the future and then get a vasectomy.  Your friend’s marriage was like handcuffs, the pregnancy is the leg irons, you lose the ability to run.

Keith

ONCE UPON A TIME there was a man who never found a wife and he lived happily ever after. The End.

[clint englandParticipant 341]

Great post Keith.

I don’t go to weddings as a matter of principle, i don’t believe in them. In my younger days i would have killed to have met a ‘special’ girl, now older and wiser with a circle of friends who are either living the nightmare or divorced, i’m glad it didn’t happen.

 

Of course said friend’s wives reguarly try to ‘fit’ me up with their cat loving train wreck single friends but this has been remedied by not really socializing with them anymore. A little harsh maybe but i love the peace of my own space!

 

Yep, glad i missed the boat there!

Thanks again Keith. Spot on!

[experiencedParticipant]

You got the thumbs up from me, and then I cringed thinking of whomever saying, “those bastard MGTOWs advocate locking their girfriend in a car trunk with their dog,  no no it’s  true, here’s the quote:

” so I locked my beagle and my girlfriend in the trunk of the car for an hour. “

of course you are kidding but the readers of the cross reference will not be told that. Keith

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[BeerParticipant 11832]

clint england wrote:

Great post Keith. I don’t go to weddings as a matter of principle, i don’t believe in them. In my younger days i would have killed to have met a ‘special’ girl, now older and wiser with a circle of friends who are either living the nightmare or divorced, i’m glad it didn’t happen. Of course said friend’s wives reguarly try to ‘fit’ me up with their cat loving train wreck single friends but this has been remedied by not really socializing with them anymore. A little harsh maybe but i love the peace of my own space! Yep, glad i missed the boat there! Thanks again Keith. Spot on!

Haha, I love it man…I know exactly where you are coming from.  Its funny…its like the more successful and happy you are on your own, the more you find female friends/coworkers/relatives/friends significant others that have some sort of really nice girl they want you to meet.  I’ve learned to just say no lol…the only thing worse than the 90% chance of it being an overwhelming let down is the time the girl turns out to be decent, but you end up with the third party matchmaker constantly butting into your business, and if(when) you eventually break up you get drama from two women instead of one.

It usually goes something like this now.  them – “So we have this new girl Jen in the office that’s so sweet and she just broke up with her boyfriend and…”  me-“No.” them- “Are you gay?”

[clint englandParticipant 341]

Exactly Beer!  It can be tempting when their friends are attractive but because us mgtow/red pill guys know what the end game is, it really isn’t worth the hassle Lol!.

 

 

[Sam RavenParticipant 181]

I have lost count how many times I have been asked about my sexual orientation for staying single all this while. And while I just wondered maybe I should do something about my relationship, my instincts always kept pulling me away from a relationship. The likelihood of some c~~~ becoming my second mother was a thought too much to bear.

It finally occurred to me that I was perceived this way by the wives because my unbridled happiness was causing them problems in their relationships.

This is the effect MGTOW has on these types of women because it exposes them for the hypocrites and man-destroyers they truly are.

 

[JollyMisanthropeParticipant 3356]

Marriage and MGTOW do not mix, anyone who says otherwise does not get the concept of going your own way. Marriage is the antithesis of male freedom.

I have never been in a long term relationship, and at some point I thought myself a bit of a loser for not snagging a lady and having people constantly asking me if I had a girlfriend. I used to go to the chiropractor quite often when I was at the tail end of high school and into community college, and the chiropractor was a cool guy and all and we always shot the s~~~ but every time I’d go there he asked me if I had a girlfriend yet as if he was worried for me or something. It was just annoying as f~~~.

I guess most people can’t wrap their mind’s around the idea of a guy doing whatever the f~~~ he wants without having to require a woman around to participate in what he is doing.

I’ve just never come across a woman that I was intrigued enough by to actually say to myself that she might be worth pursuing and spending time with on a regular basis. This has become even more so as the culture continues to rot the minds of young people and creates legions of dumbed down, uninteresting people with nothing to really say.

She wouldn’t have to be a NAWALT, just someone that I can actually relate to beyond the cliche relationship elements that draw people in at the beginning but are no guarantee that anything satisfactory will come of it as time goes on.

The Children of Doom... Doom's Children. They told my lord the way to the Mountain of Power. They told him to throw down his sword and return to the Earth... Ha! Time enough for the Earth in the grave.

[Everything is all we’ve gotParticipant 233]

All I see now are people like my dad kidding themselves, pretending they’re happy when they no doubt feel dead inside married to a woman that’s trapped them and drained them of their freedom and money.

I find it scary the amount of guys who carry on marrying blind to the fact that the girl you get engaged to isn’t the woman you end up marrying.

"You can suffer from a life experience, or you can learn, move on and thrive."

[KeithParticipant 482]

Everything is all we’ve got wrote:

I find it scary the amount of guys who carry on marrying blind to the fact that the girl you get engaged to isn’t the woman you end up marrying.

Everyone changes somewhat in any “relationship” but what I find so very strange is how much men are expected to change after marriage.  I often wonder why a woman would marry a man she wants to change.

 

ONCE UPON A TIME there was a man who never found a wife and he lived happily ever after. The End.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 25018]

I was having dinner at my mothers house earlier tonight. My mom knows how I feel about the whole man/woman thing today.

So, just to bust my b~~~~, she leans in and tells me I “should” get married. I said “So you want me to give away my money supporting some woman”? “That’s right” she said with a smirk on her face.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[experiencedParticipant]

Keith wrote, ” I often wonder why a woman would marry a man she wants to change.”

It’s because the laydee doesn’t actually possess the buying power that she wants to. If she did, she would lure Mr. Perfect into marrying her.  Deep down inside she Knows that she should’ve gotten a better man because she is flawless and must prove justice to others by changing the guy into what rightfully should have been hers.

Or maybe it’s because women are never satisfied.

Or she’s employing ‘the best defense is a great offense’ to keep the focus off of what a loser she is, and derail his thoughts of, ‘how did I end up with this twut’   bfore they form in his mind.

 

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

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