Why I deleted Facebook, and why it's been a great decision

[Bob BashboshParticipant 160]

Oaken1 wrote:

..So those guys don’t live life by your rules,..so you just gotta burn that bridge… you date “cool chicks” and so do your friends…. those guys don’t….

SteelPearl wrote:

Well Oaken, I’m not going to argue with you in order to defend myself, all I’ll say is you sound a lot like the people who I didn’t see and it is in and of itself why I didn’t see them. I had other friends who I wanted to see, and didn’t get to, and they offered the mature and understanding response of, “It’s ok man, life is complicated and you gotta do what you gotta do, come see us next time.” I have nothing against deciding to remain stagnant in life and not DO anything, per se, and as I mentioned I know many people in that situation and they are in good company with one another I suppose, but If I have changed by should I cater to them? Why should I make them think I enjoy their company when I no longer do? It’s ok to let people go, man.

While I respect that people will always tend to gravitate towards others with whom they have much in common, I can empathise with Oaken1 sentiments.

NioZen wrote:

I’ve always been a private sort. What the f~~~ would I want an entire webpage devoted to my “amazing ego” for?
Look at me! Look at me!…

…And narcissism is a very feminine trait, all that preening and posing and looking oh so perfect and beautiful..

This, I thought, was an apt post with perhaps, some unintentional relevance. In any case, let me highlight a few choice sentences and phrases from your opening post for context:

SteelPearl wrote:

…getting the hell out of Nowhereville, WV…
…old friends…
…made no progress in life…
…still 16 years old in mind and in ambition…
…people I didn’t want to be around…
…done nothing with their lives…
…still live at home with their parents
…no jobs, no car, and no plan…
…wanted to hang out with me. I didn’t do it…
…people I used to care for…
…be “friends” just because you knew them…
…people who I’d all but forgotten…
…old “friends” who are now raising 6 kids…
…I had no desire to see them
…I chose not to respond to them or see them…
…people who I thought I may like or could stand to be around…
…that I had no interest in…
…people I never wanted to think about again…
…baggage of my old life…
…clinging to remain relevant…
…people I do not give a s~~~ about anymore…
…said goodbye and it’s been great…

Okay so those excerpts speak of ‘them’. Now let’s look at ‘us’, or more precisely, ‘me’:

SteelPearl wrote:

…My core group of friends…
…all made good…
…making it through life similarly…
…careers we enjoy…
…set goals and achieve them…
…track record of dating cool girls…
…healthy and fun hobbies…
…enjoy and excell…
…Evolving…
…people that matter…
…maturing into something greater…
…getting messages endlessly…
…all wanted to hang out with me…
…angry with me when I didn’t get to see them…
…people wanted to see me…
…seemed so emotionally effected…
…what living life is all about…
…cut my friends list down to ~250 people…
…Friend requests from people…

I envy you, you’ve clearly achieved what few people have or ever will. You’re free of cumbersome liabilities, you’re clearly exceptionally popular AND you have cool babes practically bending over backwards to participate in your clique. It’s a wonder that you even need MGTOW as a critical platform. If I was you, I’d be shouting jubilantly from the rooftops, spreading my message of solidarity. And amen about the losers, preach it brother! Can you imagine their conceit? As if an emancipated, healthy, ambitious, popular and almost certainly, fantastically handsome young man like yourself would care to bestow your patronage on them. They should be taking their cues from the mainstream press, not liberated peers like yourself. In short, I’ve got your back buddie.

[TheDigestedRedPillParticipant 165]

Once Fakebook is dead the Narcissistic Women will turn into crazy rabid animals ready to scratch, and bite anything that moves.

Society live's as if we have reached the pinnacle of human potential. Technological Advancement and Innovation, intellectualism, critical thinking is substituted for useless innovations, nasty narcissistic games, tyrannical laws that destroy the very foundation of family, and the world as we know it.

[Anonymous 24]

I deleted my Facebook account back in 2011 when they were removing Ron Paul stuff from peoples private pages. These were harmless political posts that were for some reason systematically removed by Facebook. It was all to Orwellian for me. That, and I had grown tired of seeing which Starbucks my friends from 20 years ago were at. I would say about 98% of my friends list were brainless twits talking about nothing.

[Random GuyParticipant 8]

I deleted Facebook 4 years ago. Then 1 year later, I got rid of television

I don’t miss either. I realized how much I was missing by keeping them in my life. Both of them made me a dumber person anyway

I still have FB. But I never look it. I own a T.V. But only use it for video games. I haven’t watched a T.V. program in almost 15 years. I don’t receive the newspaper. I have no clue about current world news. And have no desire to know it. “If it bleeds, it leads”. I don’t even consider news to be news. It’s just op-ed and sensationalism.

[El CidParticipant 6]

SteelPearl wrote:

I am 26 years old. When I was 21 I moved out of my hometown in my home state to California to start anew. My core group of friends and I all talked about doing this when we were growing up, getting the hell out of Nowhereville, WV. We all made good on this, but homesickness ended up kicking in for all of us, and we all went on vacation last month from our new homes to our old home. While there, it became extremely evident to me that old friends who have made no progress in life and who are still 16 years old in mind and in ambition are people I didn’t want to be around. I had several old friends who have done nothing with their lives, people who still live at home with their parents with no jobs, no car, and no plan… they wanted to hang out with me. I didn’t do it, and I permanently burned a few bridges to people I used to care for. My core group of friends who have always been most like-minded are all making it through life similarly. We have careers we enjoy, we set goals and achieve them, we have a track record of dating cool girls who fit in to the group, and don’t make a fuss if and when things end, we’ve found healthy and fun hobbies we enjoy and excell in. Evolving the same way with the same philosophy and same sense of humor. These are my friends.

I deleted Facebook after vacation was over. I’m done with the Facebook-era paradigm that makes people feel like they should stay in contact and be “friends” just because you knew them for some period of time or went to school with them. There is no need for this. The people that matter in life will never be far from touch. Cutting losses and maturing into something greater than what we were is my mission, and I surround myself with people who feel the same way. While I was in town, I was getting messages endlessly from people who I’d all but forgotten. People I graduated with but was never friends with, old girlfriends, old “friends” who are now raising 6 kids with pill whores… they all wanted to hang out with me and they were angry with me when I didn’t get to see them. I couldn’t stop asking myself why these people wanted to see me. I had no desire to see them, and yet they seemed so emotionally effected by the fact that I chose not to respond to them or see them. Is it because they’re trying to get some vicarious experience of what living life is all about? Is it because they’re so obsessed with Facebook that they really believe that everyone on their friends list are actually their friends? I think it’s both.

Even after I cut my friends list down to ~250 people who I thought I may like or could stand to be around, I was still inundated with things people had shared or liked that I had no interest in. Friend requests from people I never wanted to think about again. I had enough. I no longer needed this anchor to my past. There are elements of my past I will always hold dear, and things about my home I will always miss, but Facebook was baggage of my old life that I was trying to shed still hanging on for dear life, clinging to remain relevant. I can store photos on my flash drives or dropbox for myself to enjoy without needing likes and shares and approval from people I do not give a s~~~ about anymore. I said goodbye and it’s been great. Aside from being less distracted at work, I’ve found great new websites to browse! This very site, Art of Manliness, /r/Redpill, and others. The internet doesn’t feel stale and boring to me anymore. It feels new and exciting again, and it feels great to post with people that though I don’t know, are more like-minded to me than all of the people I left behind to rot on Facebook. Goodbye, social media, I don’t miss you at all.

SteelPearl wrote:

I am 26 years old. When I was 21 I moved out of my hometown in my home state to California to start anew. My core group of friends and I all talked about doing this when we were growing up, getting the hell out of Nowhereville, WV. We all made good on this, but homesickness ended up kicking in for all of us, and we all went on vacation last month from our new homes to our old home. While there, it became extremely evident to me that old friends who have made no progress in life and who are still 16 years old in mind and in ambition are people I didn’t want to be around. I had several old friends who have done nothing with their lives, people who still live at home with their parents with no jobs, no car, and no plan… they wanted to hang out with me. I didn’t do it, and I permanently burned a few bridges to people I used to care for. My core group of friends who have always been most like-minded are all making it through life similarly. We have careers we enjoy, we set goals and achieve them, we have a track record of dating cool girls who fit in to the group, and don’t make a fuss if and when things end, we’ve found healthy and fun hobbies we enjoy and excell in. Evolving the same way with the same philosophy and same sense of humor. These are my friends.

I deleted Facebook after vacation was over. I’m done with the Facebook-era paradigm that makes people feel like they should stay in contact and be “friends” just because you knew them for some period of time or went to school with them. There is no need for this. The people that matter in life will never be far from touch. Cutting losses and maturing into something greater than what we were is my mission, and I surround myself with people who feel the same way. While I was in town, I was getting messages endlessly from people who I’d all but forgotten. People I graduated with but was never friends with, old girlfriends, old “friends” who are now raising 6 kids with pill whores… they all wanted to hang out with me and they were angry with me when I didn’t get to see them. I couldn’t stop asking myself why these people wanted to see me. I had no desire to see them, and yet they seemed so emotionally effected by the fact that I chose not to respond to them or see them. Is it because they’re trying to get some vicarious experience of what living life is all about? Is it because they’re so obsessed with Facebook that they really believe that everyone on their friends list are actually their friends? I think it’s both.

Even after I cut my friends list down to ~250 people who I thought I may like or could stand to be around, I was still inundated with things people had shared or liked that I had no interest in. Friend requests from people I never wanted to think about again. I had enough. I no longer needed this anchor to my past. There are elements of my past I will always hold dear, and things about my home I will always miss, but Facebook was baggage of my old life that I was trying to shed still hanging on for dear life, clinging to remain relevant. I can store photos on my flash drives or dropbox for myself to enjoy without needing likes and shares and approval from people I do not give a s~~~ about anymore. I said goodbye and it’s been great. Aside from being less distracted at work, I’ve found great new websites to browse! This very site, Art of Manliness, /r/Redpill, and others. The internet doesn’t feel stale and boring to me anymore. It feels new and exciting again, and it feels great to post with people that though I don’t know, are more like-minded to me than all of the people I left behind to rot on Facebook. Goodbye, social media, I don’t miss you at all.

Amen to that. I’ve always said I’d rather make a phone call or go over to someone’s house. Oddly enough, I don’t really see people socializing on Facebook so much as playing the games there. It gives me an image of people going to a social club, sitting together, and deliberately ignoring each other.

[bobphiloParticipant 1772]

Just a Man wrote:

I deleted facebook over a year ago as well, never really used it anyway, never been in the trendy crowd, too dumb for me. I cut the chord 13 years ago to never look back, my “TV” is hooked up to a computer and has programs I like running, with no commercials I might add. I especially like documentary series like….the universe, through the wormhole, BBC Life, how the universe works, cosmos, national parks, etc. If anyone has other good programs like this they like please share, always looking for more to add.

I also prefer good educational channels. You might also like to look at the History and Military History Channels. I refuse to watch so-called reality TV, like the Kardashians, which retards make so popular. Facebook and social media are made for social cripples that have to tell the world about every boring piece of trivia in their lives. As humans we need more real face time and less Facebook time. One good online site you should try is Quora where intelligent people answer questions and discuss all types of subjects. A kind of Facebook alternative for intelligent people.

[RennieParticipant]

Another reason to get rid of it is now suckerberg has decided he will crack down on “extremist” speech – which probably includes MGTOW.

[Anonymous 22]

Rennie wrote:

Another reason to get rid of it is now suckerberg has decided he will crack down on “extremist” speech – which probably includes MGTOW.

Great, so that means he will go after the hateful anti-white, anti-male, anti-conservative feminists and liberals?

Oh, nevermind, I forgot that they can’t be extremists even if they kill someone. Only a white, conservative, straight man can be an extremist (even if he’s the nicest person on the planet)

[PhiloParticipant 84]

I avoided facebook for years and then finally got around to setting it up due to persistent nagging from others. After getting it set up though I promptly went about never checking it or doing anything on it again. Having it out there though does keep people from nagging me about “not being on facebook”. I’m sure my account will be deleted by facebook due to inactivity if it isn’t already gone.

This above all: to thine own self be true - William Shakespeare

[MrBurnsParticipant 83]

Rennie wrote:

Myself wrote:

chir wrote:

F~~~.. I never even had a facebook account, or a myspace account, or a twitter account. Stay in touch with friends via (GASP) a phone!!! I recently branched out into texting. Luddite? Nope. I’ve been in the IT field for 25 years. Don’t feel like being a slave to technology. Always know where the power button is.

Basically same story here. I’m a programmer and have been online since I was a kid, back when they had the BBS systems. When myspace and Facebook came out I had zero interest in them. For the longest time the internet was just a tool for learning, and a means to communicate with people for educational or professional purposes. This site is probably the first real introduction I had to “social media”. In particular, it exposed me to the craziness that takes place on Facebook and twitter and youtube. Previously I never really gave a s~~~ about it, just because the overall content is so “lowest common denominator” and seemed somehow at odds with how I thought the internet should be used (as a tool to accomplish s~~~). Now I take a slight interest in it only because it has gotten to a point where it can actually affect me (a twitter campaign, for example) and cannot really be totally ignored.

Also online since I was about 11 or 12 and I enjoyed the internet before the social media stuff enveloped it. People ran their own sites, created and hosted their own projects, some people had really good game concepts too. I guess you could say the internet got t~~~ified.

Same story over here. Never got into Facebook in the first place.
I don’t own a T.V. and haven’t since that writers’ strike in 2007-08. Can’t say I miss it.

[alchemistParticipant 484]

The only reason I have a Facebook account is because a woman made me one.
I barely use it and only keep it because sometimes it’s interesting to see what people I used to know are doing… but 99% are blue pill morons, so I just end up regreting looking at them… anger and pity are the two main feelings I’m left with by the majority of facebook users.

[Mister Man SmithParticipant 285]

I got rid of my facebook in 2008, that was also the last time I used my real name on the internet, I could see how facebook was nothing but a glorified telemarketing service, where they use the information people willing put in there for target advertising.
Seriously, it boggles the mind how some people can’t go 15 minutes without a facebook update they put absolutely everything about themselves in there, someone with nothing better to do can construct every step of a person they never saw before.

mistermansmithmgtow.blogspot.com

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Never have done FB. Never will. It would take too much time away from surfing, driving my race car, playing the guitar, rock climbing, working out, running my business, and going my own way.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Trey WilliamsParticipant 1]

I got booted from Facebook. They never gave me a reason. I wrote nothing but the truth on my page.

[RennieParticipant]

Trey Williams wrote:

I got booted from Facebook. They never gave me a reason. I wrote nothing but the truth on my page.

They have an annoying habit of locking up accounts and demanding ID without explaining why.

[Darth TyrannusParticipant 349]

DoinMyOwnThing40 wrote:

I wish I would delete my Facebook account. It has become an addiction for me. One day hopefully I will delete it. It really does keep you from actually doing things in life.

Facebook can be extremely addicting because it appeals to your ego. Once you understand that those people on there will not miss you and it’s just a waste of time? Then you’ll truly accomplish many things in life without those kinds of distractions.

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