Why do men put up with women who just gives up on the marriage?

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

I was at a client location and some sad dudes were conversing and trying to figure out what’s up with one of their wives. Sex stopped over a year ago. The house is in shambles. The debt is sky high and he thinks she’s cheating on him.

Why do they stay? As soon as the sex stops, the barbarians are at the gate. If your peach refuses to talk and work through things, why stay? It’s just going to get worse and more expensive (emotionally, mentally, and financially). I know men want to fix things (trust me, I was there. I know the feeling). However, as the old adage goes, it takes two to make a relationship work, only one two break it.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Because we value them.

They don’t wanna lose “the valuable women”. We where raised by a society that teaches us to protect and care for women, “because they are special “

“Tell your wife you love her every day, your queen”

But women are JUST PEOPLE, there is nothing special about them, they eat, s~~~ and fart like everyone.

They lie, cheat, murder, rob like everyone else.

Once you see the truth there is no going back.

WOMEN ARE JUST PEOPLE

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 42]

ForeverDone wrote:

Sex stopped over a year ago. The house is in shambles. The debt is sky high and he thinks she’s cheating on him.

Those are the tell-tale signs she’s banging chad like a teenager! They always revert to their teen years after they grow up and get married! Once a slut always a slut! Like a dog returning to eat their own vomit!

Don’t ask why, just recognize that’s the way it is! It’s like asking why water is wet?

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Carnage wrote:

Because we value them.

They don’t wanna lose “the valuable women”. We where raised by a society that teaches us to protect and care for women, “because they are special “

“Tell your wife you love her every day, your queen”

But women are JUST PEOPLE, there is nothing special about them, they eat, s~~~ and fart like everyone.

They lie, cheat, murder, rob like everyone else.

Once you see the truth there is no going back.

WOMEN ARE JUST PEOPLE

I find your argument insightful truth.
The burden of not putting woman on pedestals, not seeing them as princesses or damsels in distress IS on the man. It’s up to us to break our own programming. You can’t wait for woman to change; they won’t. Men put up with woman because they are waiting for the change hoping it will improve. These men will blame themselves for the problem, while failing to work on themselves as the problem.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10909]

Speaking from my own experience, I dicked around with divorcing my ex for 5 years before I figured out that things weren’t going to improve. Why? Because I didn’t want to start over. The thought of starting over both p~~~ed me off as well as intimidated me. I then realized that the longer I wait, the harder it’s going to be to start over AND I’m continuing to build assets and money that SHE is ultimately going to get.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

There is a business term/concept of “sunk cost”.

These men have invested time and money into a relationship/marriage.
This time/money is spent/gone/unrecoverable, hence the term “sunk cost”.

These men have two options:

1. Invest time/money into the existing relationship/marriage.
2. Invest time/money into a new relationship/marriage.

The decision is which option is the best investment/return of time/money from this point in time forward.
Unfortunately, the past sunk cost weighs heavily towards choosing the existing relationship, when most of the time it is not the best choice for the future.

These men believe that they are “saving” time/money by staying, rather than starting over.
Unfortunately, they cannot save money that has already been spent…

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

XSDBS wrote:

These men have two options:

1. Invest time/money into the existing relationship/marriage.
2. Invest time/money into a new relationship/marriage.

Unfortunately, option #3, go MGTOW is not considered enough.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[joetechParticipant]

Several decades ago I overheard two women talking prior to an upcoming wedding. The one woman’s daughter was the bride to be. She said, “These kids nowadays. My daughter told her friends, oh, if it doesn’t work out I’ll just bail.”
Women know going into marriage that the cards are stacked in their favor. Guys, on the other hand, slowly begin to learn the truth after getting married. By the time they realize it’s a trap, it’s too late. So they desperately try to fix the marriage in an attempt to avoid the divorce rape that he knows he will get if she dumps him. And while he’s jumping through hoops to please her, she’s setting him up for the fall. I’ve seen it a million times.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

After the end of the civil war, when the slaves were set free in the US, many just got up the next day and went to work in the same fields, the same jobs they were doing before, as if it was a regular day.

Why.

It’s what they knew. They were only familiar with the one dynamic they knew.

No other options were available as far as they could imagine. Their consciousness hadn’t been raised, and they didn’t understand……yet……how to fashion a different life from what had always been.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

[Anonymous 18]

ForeverDone wrote:

Sex stopped over a year ago. The house is in shambles. The debt is sky high and he thinks she’s cheating on him.

The 11th commandment was: Know thy cheating wife. It further elaborated this using the above mentioned points.

But Eve’s Society for Women Liberation circa 1100 BC removed it.

Because it was ‘sexist’.

So I shall renew the commandment: Thy wife taketh a neigbor’s c~~~ if she refuses yours.

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

FrostByte wrote:

The burden of not putting woman on pedestals, not seeing them as princesses or damsels in distress IS on the man. It’s up to us to break our own programming.

I think this is well said. I stayed in my relationship because it was comfortable and as a man I wanted to try to sort things out. Even when I began to be unhappy and unfulfilled I always found a reason to stay and continue making her happy.

Unfortunately this was at the EXPENSE of my own happiness.

As soon as I understood I am not responsible for other people’s happiness and I should focus on my own – my life changed. It was a difficult exit for me, but when it finally happened I know I should have instigated it a LONG TIME AGO.

Thankfully I’m still young and got out without any long-term damage.

I also use this site as a support system for when I get a little ‘low’. A lot of men are still totally unaware of ‘the other side’.

Now I’m AWARE of female nature I see it everywhere. Half the married men at work are unhappy and I smile to myself every-time they complain to me about it.

One of our sales reps books A WEEK in Scotland EVERY MONTH just so he can get some peace and quiet from his wife. We have about 2 clients up there. He goes for a holiday.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Because we understood responsibility in marriage…We understood what sacrifice and long haul means…For weemin, its just another game…For us, it was life…

Now we make a new life of our own…

And Carnages comments were deep and insightful…It was unexpected coming from Carnage, but it is good… Cheers to you brother…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Maybe, because as s~~~ty as it is having a wife as a “Room Mate”, It may be a whole lot s~~~tier if he leaves, and she drags him through divorce court especially if children are involved.

Currently, he still has a roof over his head, food to eat, and can see his kids as he wants.

When a LIBTARD Judge gets done putting him through the gynocentric “family” court divorce system he can find himself living in the Hotel Chevrolet with HUGE support payments leaving him eating peanut butter and jelly daily, and only seeing his kids on weekends.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Man, I hear it from so many guys, but the facts are true. The guy has everything to lose.

Even if he is just in a relationship where they have kids, same thing.

Its a sad sight man. I was not even married, and a woman destroyed my life. And the courts just help out. And the police will do whatever they want.

Again, you have no protection from women or the state. So your stuck. And all married men know it as well.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Been there myself until I realized one cannot fix stupid.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

joetech wrote:

Women know going into marriage that the cards are stacked in their favor. Guys, on the other hand, slowly begin to learn the truth after getting married. By the time they realize it’s a trap, it’s too late. So they desperately try to fix the marriage in an attempt to avoid the divorce rape that he knows he will get if she dumps him. And while he’s jumping through hoops to please her, she’s setting him up for the fall. I’ve seen it a million times.

Pretty much sums it up. I was in Walmart today getting my oil changed, and overheard two of the women working there chatting. One was saying “My husband has over 200k in debt in his name between the house and the cars, if I left him he’d be stuck with it all.” The other laughed a little and said “And he’d probably have to pay you alimony since he makes more.”

It was just a casual conversation between two people…a casual conversation in which they were both very well aware, and even found some humor in it, that she could at any point walk away on her marriage and f~~~ the dude over royally. Its twisted, and to be blunt, you have to be a f~~~ing idiot these days to agree to an arrangement that puts you in that position. There isn’t a pussy on earth that is worth half of the labor you’ll do in your lifetime…don’t sign that stupid marriage contract!

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

… Because it would be cheaper and less grief than Divorce?

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

“My husband has over 200k in debt in his name between the house and the cars, if I left him he’d be stuck with it all.” The other laughed a little and said “And he’d probably have to pay you alimony since he makes more.”

The debt, depending on State, would likely be split if the couple is living in a community property State. If it’s equitable, it’s fair game. All in all, the only ones who win are the lawyers.

They should all be shot. Pure greed and evil.

[Space CowboyParticipant 1466]

Because divorce ruins men, she doesn’t want or have to change, she’s won. To quote Churchill:

“You cannot reason with a tiger when your head is in its mouth!”

"Have you ever thought about any real freedoms? Freedom from the opinions of others...even from the opinions of yourself?"

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Sometimes it’s as simple as your 16 year old deserves the same chances that the siblings got when things were good.

It’s not always about cupcake number one, sometimes you have to let cupcake number 4 continue in the illusion.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

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