Who else has dodged a major bullet?

[Anonymous 42]

I was 20, one miscarriage from Psycho Bitch (friends named her that), within a couple years of that I nearly ate a real bullet, I lined myself up for a kill shot and nearly did it!

[DethklokParticipant 153]

Anyone who is no longer with a woman has dodged the bullet. End of thread.

Anywho, there was the one that is now on her 3rd kid with 3 different fathers. Never before in my life have I been able to make my whole hand disappear like I did there. She married the 3rd father after I told her I just wanted a few boom booms.

Most of it is the usual, some daddy issues, more daddy issues, landwhales, entitled c~~~s, cheaters, surprise impregnation, the works.

[MENGINEERParticipant 583]

Went thru 2 miscarriages and an abortion myself.

No regrets..

[GrumpyParticipant]

Like most men, I’ve taken a few full force to the chest. I’m not proud of it, but I leaned some important knowledge and skills from it.
Taking a bullet isn’t too, too bad (metaphorically speaking). It’s this modern bulls~~~ attitude women have, that reminds me of Tap Dancing in a Minefield . Screw that.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Many years ago, as a much younger and much more trusting man, I navigated the following situation:

I’m dating a girl for maybe a year or so. She tells me her job is unstable because her boss is an idiot and is worried her paycheck is going to bounce soon. I encourage her to start her own business. The price for start up of her own business is about 10-15k for the business that she’s in. Given her skills and customer base, it’s not a difficult thing to get this loan from a bank, but there isn’t time for that process as the business where she is an employee is becoming unstable at a rate much faster. I agree to loan her the money to setup business immediately and for the time it takes (2-3 months) to get her loan through the bank. She assures me her credit is excellent so this should be no problem.

My credit is excellent as well, and I already have the credit cards with limits that will cover this. The set up goes well and the business becomes profitable almost immediately. But there are more and more delays in getting the loan transferred to her name. The introductory rate for a loan on my cards is low, but very temporary. As the expiration of the introductory rate of 4% on my card approaches, and the prospect of paying 21% on this loan looms, I encourage her more and more strongly to get the loan in her name under a regular business loan at a fixed rate of 4-6%, so that the card company doesn’t trap us in high interest debt.

She gets irritated at this, reminds me that ‘we don’t have anything written down here…’. and demands a ring.

The 10-15k is not worth suing her over. I don’t have the money to retain an attorney anyway. I soon find that her credit is so f~~~ed that she couldn’t have gotten a loan for 50$ from any sober banker anywhere in the world. The loan is totally in my name. If I don’t pay it, my credit will be as f~~~ed as hers. If I try to pay it, I’ve essentially acknowledged that it was a gift and i have nothing in writing to indicate otherwise.

She’s basically holding a financial gun to my head…or so she thinks.

I wait a few days and bring it up quietly to her as follows: I acknowledge that we do not have anything written down, but I have all those credit card receipts for the equipment and supplies in ‘her’ business… and there is nothing written down to say that I am obligated to continue renting them to her. She is free to buy it all from me at the price I paid for it, and I will not repossess it for at least 30 days if she wishes to do so. But because my credit is essentially max’d out by this debt, and I don’t have the cash around to buy her the ring she would like, it is impossible for me to buy her a ring unless I put it on my card. And it was impossible to put a ring on the card since it was max’d out by the debt for ‘her’ business…

She knew that in order for me to even be able to buy her a ring, she would have to transfer that debt to her own name. But she also knew that once she paid me the money she owed, I would be free to bolt. Having lied to me about her credit, and then threatening me the way she did… she had provided the strongest possible inspiration for me to bolt.

Trap backfired…

She eventually told her millionaire father that I had given her that business, but I had since become an asshole was threatening to bankrupt her with repossession of it. She played the damsel in distress on him as she had on me. He loaned her the money to pay me. She paid me the money, and I paid off my card. She never did get the ring (duh!) and I never had to repo’ all that crap I bought for her business. I went on to become very financially successful and am now semi-retired. She sold that business to pay back her father, and has been the employee of someone else ever since. she has never been financially stable and has asked for loans from me multiple times (which I have politely declined). She has been in and out of one marriage and multiple relationships with a long list of assorted criminals and losers since then. She is now post wall single and waiting on her inheritance so she can quit working.

We continued to stay in touch at a great distance. Years later, she admitted that her behavior had been a test to see if I really loved her. I told her that my agreeing to loan her that money was a test of my own to see if I could trust her…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Good reads here!

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[BDParticipant 1146]

Yes, great stories gentlemen,

I have been hit by and dodged many major bullets, yet… somehow… they don’t seem to bother me as much anymore… I do hope that it doesn’t happen to others, and that it why we all share on this site.

I was pregnancy blackmailed, physically assaulted sustaining real injuries by several different LTRs, stabbed, falsely accused, was robbed, my house was broken into several times, I was threatened with murder, one threatened to kill my pets, my passport and all email accounts were stolen, my house was destroyed and the list goes on and on… slow learner I guess…… and the law did absolutely nothing to protect me, in fact if anything, I was treated as a criminal and it cost me thousands in the end.

I came to Mgtow tired of dodging and being hit by bullets, and now Mgtow has given me the knowledge, self respect and wisdom to ensure I never deal with any bullets again. It takes time, but when it happens, when you reach the point of indifference and acceptance, you develop a self love that puts your own being above all else, you will learn to never f~~~ with people who disrespect you or are toxic to your life….. and to me, it is an amazing feeling.

Thank you Mgtow.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[TheBardParticipant 974]

I dodged a huge bullet with my second girlfriend. When I met her I was desperate to have another girlfriend and thought I was in love when really there wasn’t much chemistry. For the first week she was great, but then she became very bitchy and verbally abusive. She would throw a fit when things didn’t go her way, yell at me for not reading her mind, yell at me for spending my money on me without her permission, and didn’t really love me. Looking back now I see that she saw how I was going to college to be a teacher so she figured she would date me now so by the time I became a teacher we could get married and have kids and she would be set. She would act like such a child too. She threw a fit the night I went to a LAN party because I wouldn’t go clubbing with her and a friend and she said I should have told her I was going before I posted it on Facebook. Then when I went to go buy a LAN cable because I didn’t have one she threw another fit in the car and did that thing children do when they don’t want to talk to their parents. Even in Best Buy she was like “I am going over there I don’t want to talk to you”.

Looking back now I can see that if I stayed with her she would have gotten pregnant, married me, made us get a house we really couldn’t afford, had another kid, made me take a job I hate with long hours for the money, she would get a small job just to stay busy while the kids are in school, yell at me for never being home and not spending enough time with the kids, divorce me, take all my stuff, never let me see the kids. I am so glad I was finally able to tell myself to dumb her.

[No CountryParticipant 759]

I have dodged bullets, gernades and some bombs. I have no idea how I am still standing. I guess the Gods have pardoned me.

[RennieParticipant]

I have. If I had been successful with that first girl I would have become her dog, just like with the other guys. Seemed horrible at the time, but in retrospect it saved me from much worse.

[tripvanParticipant 193]

Two bullets from early on in my blue-pill days.

First ¨Soulmate¨ experience, in high school, I was submissive but had enough game to keep a girl interested. Emotional girl, very much like what I have read here, pulled s~~~ like TheBard´s lan-party girl “I am going over there I don’t want to talk to you”. I was going to the big wild world of college a year before her, so one day the chick popped the question randomly in a park. I made her wait 2 hours before saying no. I told her that I needed her to wait for me so I could ¨be the man¨ and ask her myself in a special way.

Saying this implied to her that what she was doing was not special. Subconsciously, I recognized it for what it was – a trap. Somehow we stayed together until I was able to open my eyes.

After the relationship I discovered she was cheating on me with some other douche, which made it easier for me to deal with the breakup emotionally. Here was an early experience for me about the Tom Leykis concept about any guy friends being a bad sign. She went out with that guy, and then married another, and now they have just had their first kid together.

Second ¨soulmate¨ experience, I was still blue-pill and young, caught myself in a relationship that was better in ways that the first was not. We had just started in the same degree at college together, and we agreed to pursue the relationship only so far as it was going to go, no stupid s~~~. But she still went crazy and said the whole I love you, soulmate stuff over and over, and I parroted it too. But we both knew there would be an end date. Very sexually open, but we hit a snag when I caught her drunk dancing and making out with someone else. The s~~~ stopped there, and I let her know in no uncertain terms how disappointed I was in her. She locked herself into my bathroom and started slitting her arms and wrists before I could break in and drag her out of there.

I had to acknowledge that if I disapproved of her behavior in the future, she might do this to herself again. Not wanting to be responsible, or be guilted out of expressing my convictions, I decided to break up with her. I decided the best time would be during her birthday party. My main thought was that she was going to be surrounded by people who love her, so she would not be susceptible to suicide. Needless to say, it was epic, and I copped s~~~ from her parents and some of her friends and ¨ruining the party¨ for her. And it might have been weird that I even decided to stay at the party for a little while longer, but I just wanted to make sure that she had not gone off the deep end.

So I left, and didn´t look back. And some of her friends saw me in a new light for having the b~~~~ to do that. She went out clubbing very shortly after, and found her current boyfriend, who she has captured and has remained with for the many years ever since. And she has taken to working at his father´s business, in a completely separate line of work from what we were studying for together. Was that surprising to me then? Yes. Is that surprising to me now? Hell no.

TLDR, in retrospect, with additional detail I might have missed out:

girl 1 finds the teenager she wants to hold down in high school, but knows she might lose him after high school -> she pops the marriage question herself -> after being shut down, she starts secretly spinning beta plate(s) -> loses first man -> goes to college -> chases after beta plate until realizes he was a bad ¨catch¨ for a provider -> finds beta provider -> unable to find work in field of study -> marriage to beta provider, with mortgaged house, and kid on the way.

girl 2 enters university to hold down a man -> finds c~~~ -> loses all drive and interest in her field beyond superficial -> becomes suicidal -> loses c~~~ -> looks for and easily finds beta provider -> finds work through her beta provider´s family, completely separate from her field of study.

Just a thought, but some women seem to chase their educational career, even through college, only to reach the point where they have a beta provider under lock and key.

Thanks MGTOW; the more I read others´ experiences, the more I am able to look at my own experiences in hindsight, and the more I am able to understand how they think. I only hope that this in turn helps someone else´s understanding of their own lot.

[MIKETOWParticipant 757]

As far as I’m concerned, I am dodging a bullet anytime a woman gives me her number and I don’t call her.

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