Whats your advice on breaking up?

[ironheartParticipant 944]

Translation for Alchemist: She wants to keep the hook in you, because she knows she can manipulate you again. She is doing it now.

She knows she has mental health problems, and uses you as her co-dependent victim. You have put up with her crap in the past, so she knows you are too patient and loyal for your own good.

She also knows that she can cause you more pain, so she is not done with you yet. Expect fresh phone calls and emotional manipulation within the week. Lots of empty promises from her about how she is going to change, and that you need to give her a fresh start, blah blah blah.

Chances are she learned this behavior from her daddy by crying tears, or from watching her mommy do the same to manipulate daddy/mommy’s BF.

High likelihood she is a BPD case or similar, or just a regular immature princess. The personality and practices are not much different.

My advice is turn your phone off, take next week off work so she cannot find you there in a crying jag, and do not check your email for two weeks. You have to take that time to reboot and “clear think” so you can pull the hooks out and see them clearly for what they are.

"Women have become so full of hatred that they are blind to reason and humanity. That which they practice will be the end of humanity, long before any war that men may fight.." "Women are predators by nature. Why else do you think they are so quick to gang up and go after a man they hate for showing any sign of weakness?"

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

alchemist wrote:

She wants to take a break for a month,

Translation:
If your replacement doesn’t work out, she’ll circle back around to you in a month (or two).
It’s a s~~~ test. “Agree” to it, but don’t “fall” for it.
If/when she shows up a month later, tell her “Sorry, I’m dating an amazing woman now.”
When she starts her s~~~, remind her that it was HER idea.
Obviously, DO NOT restart a relationship with her, and DO NOT have any contact with her.

[LeoYourKingParticipant 225]

1: Be sure she does not have nothing yours (any important $h!t).
2: Block her number from all you phones so she can not contact you.
3: Block her form all you social media.
4: Tell you friends to not talk about of her in front of you.
5: Tell you friends to not talk with her about you.
6: Get in touch with all the people you care about.
8: Never, but never look for her again in social media or in any way.
9: Focus in yourself and grow.
As TaxGuy said, it sounds like she is just taking all the energy out of you. I had a similar experience before my my MGTOW awakening. This story could help you for what could happen to her in the future. In my situation, my ex had big family problems that I tried to fix myself all the time. I also I was constantly trying to simplify her life by helping her with school and work. She demanded a lot of attention all the time by constant calling and texting. Also, she wanted us to get married as soonest possible so “I could take care of her.”
What happened was that I got behind in my personal goals. My school grades suffered a lot. Also, without knowing I started to lost touch with my friends and family. When I started to realize that something was not right I tried to fix it. I took some of my focus out of this woman. She noticed right away. She started to say things like, “you never have time for me.” “You are to egocentric and do not care about not body else.” “I do not get why you care about school and your job so much.” At the time I did not what was happening and my feelings were strong for her so I keep helping her and taking care of her because I was afraid of what could happened to her if I lived her. She tried to commit suicide when she was 14 so I knew I could not just left her.
Then the big bomb exploded. (I will be short in this). All this happened in less of 2 months. In finals week she got in a argument with her mom and left home by the next day she is living with her friend. By the next week she is living alone. (I tried to help her and convince her to go back with her mom but she refused. She wanted me to move with her but I told her that I was going to think about it). By the end month we broke up but I though it was just temporal not a big deal. Tow week later she started dating the guy 10 years older than her. She started drinking and smooching also the guy moved with her one month later. She lost her job and started working where her current boyfriend at the time was working, a cow farm milking cows. Also, she is not at school anymore and for what I hear she post very provocative pictures in social medial all the time.
On the other hand, I went partying and started to get As again. I graduated from university and started learning a 3th language. Right know I am just focus in my personal grow and making money. You got to stay busy my brother.
Best of luck!!!

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

Her life is her’s and so are her f~~~ ups.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Number one thing (IMO) is to NOT give a damn about “what she might do” or “how she might react”.

That’s just emotional blackmail.

“I’m not having any fun being around you anymore” is a perfectly legit reason. It’s all you need. Be direct. She’s not counting on you being direct, so use that to your advantage. As long as you don’t say something lame like “it’s not you it’s me”. That’s what women do because they don’t have the sack to be direct.

Sometimes the hyper-crazy ones are best dumped by making it LOOK like her idea. Like if you pretend to lose your job, or turn yourself into a sniveling weakling. You can get women to leave on their own while making them feel sorry for you. Better than her keying your car.

But a simple “I’m done” is very effective.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[alchemistParticipant 484]

Thanks for all the advice guys, I know whatever she does is her responsibility and there’s nothing I can do about it if she wants to make bad decisions in the heat of the moment … but I just hope she f~~~ing doesn’t, I can’t give no f~~~s, I have too much empathy- for all people. You know what? It’s more like pity and exasperation; She has the potential to have a good life but she could throw it all away in a hissy fit.

Keymaster wrote:

Be direct. She’s not counting on you being direct, so use that to your advantage. As long as you don’t say something lame like “it’s not you it’s me”. That’s what women do because they don’t have the sack to be direct.

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But a simple “I’m done” is very effective.

Pretty close to what I said to her- I walked her through to the logical conclusions, maybe not very directly, but my questions lead to an inevitable answer; she has f~~~ed up and I am done with her bulls~~~.

LeoYourKing wrote:

1: Be sure she does not have nothing yours (any important $h!t).I’ve got more than 90% of my stuff out, important s~~~ included
2: Block her number from all you phones so she can not contact you.
3: Block her form all you social media.
4: Tell you friends to not talk about of her in front of you.
5: Tell you friends to not talk with her about you.
no need to worry about those things, I’m a loner and don’t use social media
6: Get in touch with all the people you care about.
done and done, i can count them on one hand so that was easy
8: Never, but never look for her again in social media or in any way. hahahahah I want to put as much distance between us as possible, the idea of looking for her again is ridiculously stupid
9: Focus in yourself and grow. You know what? That’s what I was doing untill I moved in with her, I’ve been doing a lot more personal development again recently scince I moved away, it’s been fantastic 🙂

ironheart wrote:

Translation for Alchemist: She wants to keep the hook in you, because she knows she can manipulate you again. She is doing it now.

She knows she has mental health problems, and uses you as her co-dependent victim. You have put up with her crap in the past, so she knows you are too patient and loyal for your own good.

She also knows that she can cause you more pain, so she is not done with you yet. Expect fresh phone calls and emotional manipulation within the week. Lots of empty promises from her about how she is going to change, and that you need to give her a fresh start, blah blah blah.

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see them clearly for what they are.

Thanks to you, I will 🙂 that gave me goosebumps, I can’t thank you enough. She is kinda borderline, she just has these periods of lucidity where she seems so sane, but then it all goes to s~~~ again.

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