What's the deal with married women no longer taking their husband's surname?

[MonkParticipant 16995]

(a) Genuinely practical reasons – hassle with passports, bank accounts and so on.

(b) It’s part of the ’empowerment’ and ‘male oppression’ kick.

(c) It leaves them ready to jump any time they feel like it.

Hyphenated names appeal because they are often perceived to have a social cachet.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

It’s not like they are planning on staying long in the marriage, so why should they bother taking the man’s name.
BTW that is a redflag that divorce rape has already been agreed to by you.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

It was a precondition. It was actually a nonnegotiable term of the deal.

Not that I’d ever do it again, but I wouldn’t have budged even way back when.

Anybody considering the contract needs a shrink anyway.

Screw them all for even letting it be a controversy. They get what they deserve.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I know most marriages go to s~~~ anyhow, but literally 100% of the people I’ve known in life where the woman kept her name or hyphenated resulted in her cheating and/or divorce.

[Anonymous 6]

I’ll never be getting married. However if I were to be getting married this would be non negotiable. I would be putting my neck on the line in a very real sense. The least the bitch could do is take my last name, seriously.

Get this I work with a guy who hyphenated his last name, his name and the name of the bitch who he knocked up. Seriously, they had a Vegas wedding were Elvis married them. He’s a bitch simp. Oh and I didn’t mention that his chick was a single, middle aged mom, with an ex-con ex husband. He makes me all the more appreciative of being MGTOW.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

narwhal wrote:

My ex did the hyphenated thing, and it really bothered me quite a bit. Her excuse was that her son had her maiden name, and she wanted to maintain a connection to him. My response was that his name should then be changed as well. She said that was just too difficult to do.

One of many signs I should not have ignored.

Besides the rise of feminism, I do think there are other legit logistal reasons. Back when wives rarely had careers, it was a lot easier to change names with little impact. Now that many are ‘professional’, it can cause issues at work. If they are a teacher for example, students have to start calling her different. It can negatively impact a woman in sales, where name recognition is important.

As already pointed out, so many women these days already have kids that can’t so easily change their name as well. Then of course, they have to revert the name on divorce.

These days, I’m less concerned. I am glad my kids have my last name.

In the alternate universe where I get married again, I may not even want her to take my last name. I imagine that would bother her, that it meant I wasn’t that serious about her.

– Don’t you want other men to know that I’m taken?

– If that’s all that’s stopping you from cheating, then I’d rather see you go.

My mother kept her married name until she remarried.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Beer wrote:

I know most marriages go to s~~~ anyhow, but literally 100% of the people I’ve known in life where the woman kept her name or hyphenated resulted in her cheating and/or divorce.

It’s like a prenup. She is already planning to divorce. It’s part of the exit strategy.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 1]

They should take the surname. They take everything else.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Anonymous wrote:

I’ll never be getting married. However if I were to be getting married this would be non negotiable. I would be putting my neck on the line in a very real sense. The least the bitch could do is take my last name, seriously.

Get this I work with a guy who hyphenated his last name, his name and the name of the bitch who he knocked up. Seriously, they had a Vegas wedding were Elvis married them. He’s a bitch simp. Oh and I didn’t mention that his chick was a single, middle aged mom, with an ex-con ex husband. He makes me all the more appreciative of being MGTOW.

I see that a lot too. I once said I’m happy for you guys. Now the gays and lesbians can experience the marriage fantasy just like us heterosexuals. He looked at me strange and said I am not gay. I said, oh.. You hyphenated your name, I just assumed that you were. Men don’t hyphenate their names dude. That’s a woman thing. He said, it’s a modern era thing and I should get with the program. I said, I see. I wonder what your response will be when you get raped through the courts.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

IRuleMe wrote:

narwhal wrote:

My ex did the hyphenated thing, and it really bothered me quite a bit. Her excuse was that her son had her maiden name, and she wanted to maintain a connection to him. My response was that his name should then be changed as well. She said that was just too difficult to do.

One of many signs I should not have ignored.

Besides the rise of feminism, I do think there are other legit logistal reasons. Back when wives rarely had careers, it was a lot easier to change names with little impact. Now that many are ‘professional’, it can cause issues at work. If they are a teacher for example, students have to start calling her different. It can negatively impact a woman in sales, where name recognition is important.

As already pointed out, so many women these days already have kids that can’t so easily change their name as well. Then of course, they have to revert the name on divorce.

These days, I’m less concerned. I am glad my kids have my last name.

In the alternate universe where I get married again, I may not even want her to take my last name. I imagine that would bother her, that it meant I wasn’t that serious about her.

– Don’t you want other men to know that I’m taken?

– If that’s all that’s stopping you from cheating, then I’d rather see you go.

My mother kept her married name until she remarried.

There was this FCD I dated about 10 years ago. She was already divorced once, and was going through the second divorce as well. In fact, she had the second dude adopt her kid so when they divorced, he was stuck with child support. Anyway, it was really only for the pussy, and she just wanted to have some fun. She was on birth control, but since she already had one mistake, I wasn’t taking the chance. Wrapped it up each time. She was two years older than me, and the sex was really good. I saw her a year ago, and she didn’t age very well. Still moderately thin, but the face, not sure what happened. Guess what, she’s married again to a cop who’s younger. LOL. She took his name, and the kid still has the second father’s name.

Strange bed fellows to be sure.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

FrostByte wrote:

Beer wrote:

I know most marriages go to s~~~ anyhow, but literally 100% of the people I’ve known in life where the woman kept her name or hyphenated resulted in her cheating and/or divorce.

It’s like a prenup. She is already planning to divorce. It’s part of the exit strategy.

I think that’s more for the second and third (or forth) time around for these peaches. The first time, they still have rose colored glasses.

[Anonymous 54]

They stopped takeing their husbands name, so they wouldnt be seen as his property any more.

If they keep ” their ” name, well thats their Fathers name.

Still a Mans name.

Stupid f~~~ing c~~~s.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Anonymous wrote:

They stopped takeing their husbands name, so they wouldnt be seen as his property any more.

If they keep ” their ” name, well thats their Fathers name.

Still a Mans name.

Stupid f~~~ing c~~~s.

Wow. It’s like deja vu. About a year after marriage, I brought it up again and my ex-wife did state changing her name would upset her father. Asked him about it, he said she should take your name. I think they lie so much, they don’t even know the truth anymore.

[~BSParticipant 3266]

my opinion is that it’s a sign of lack of full commitment as evidence of the high divorce rate initiated by women. Marriage itself is bad, but a woman not taking the husband’s name, an external symbol of fully committing to him, is a huge red flag.

That is not to say that a woman that changes her name wont divorce you just as easily.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

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