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You know, I was watching some videos on Youtube, and it got me thinking… Why don’t the majority of women take their husbands surnames anymore? They either keep their maiden name or do the stupid hyphenation. They want the marriage so badly, why not take the husband’s surname like what has been done for thousands of years?
Funny story… When my ex-wife announced to her her family that we were becoming ball and chain, her aunt asked the question, are you keeping your name or taking his? She happily said she’d drop her name for mine. On the marriage license, she stated she’d take my name. After the wedding, I gave her the papers to formally change her name, in the three years we were married, she never did it. Yet, for her first husband she used both her maiden name and that hyphenated name s~~~. Her excuse… Wait for it…
I’m a modern independent woman. We no longer take our partner’s last name. After that wonderful contract, she asked for me to place her on the deed to my house. I said, talk to me in ten years. Let’s see if you’ll last. She went nuts. I should had filed for divorce then.I fully expect the ‘modern woman’ to despatch with the notion of taking their husbands name and instead the new husband to adopt her name. After all in bygone days the slave would adopt their masters name.
Why don’t the majority of women take their husbands surnames anymore?
It sure is curious.
They have a big problem taking his “name” . . .
but they have NO problem taking everything ELSE.If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.
Anonymous6Symbol of oppression. Some people (liberals) are even having the husband the the wifes last name.
Why don’t the majority of women take their husbands surnames anymore?
It sure is curious.
They have a big problem taking his “name” . . .
but they have NO problem taking everything ELSE.Only if you let them…
Symbol of oppression. Some people (liberals) are even having the husband the the wifes last name.
That’ just pathetic. I mean, I thought they wanted to be “traditional”. Such BS. I swear, marry the dude, have two + kids, divorce the dude for cash and prizes. I really think that is what the women talk about amongst themselves these days.
Symbol of oppression. Some people (liberals) are even having the husband the the wifes last name.
He’s a goner.
Only if you let them…
Not only did he ^ “LET” her … he vacuum-sealed his b~~~~ in a jar and gift wrapped them.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.Yea, I saw that one… Are modern men getting testicular ball removal during the engagement? Our ancestors must be rolling in their graves… I wonder if this was how the Roman Empire started to fall?
Yea, I saw that one… Are modern men getting testicular ball removal during the engagement? Our ancestors must be rolling in their graves… I wonder if this was how the Roman Empire started to fall?
My mother has a cousin. She was married at 17 in Germany to a military man. I don’t remember his role or rank. Her mother sat her down after the wedding and said “You are MRS. ______ now”.
… and she remained MRS. ______ until he died.
There was once honor in that and women were honored FOR that.Today’s women has no idea what honor means. Even The C~~~ington Post has an entire section dedicated to “making a case for the starter marriage”. They refuse to take his name and hold this issue under a magnifying glass as if it changes her inherent personhood, but in reality, they have already revealed their inherent personhood as a vacuous void, and are simply not marriageable under any circumstances.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.They want the marriage so badly, why not take the husband’s surname like what has been done for thousands of years?
The same f~~~ing reason you have to say PA instead of secretary ,Flight attendant not Stewardess , Actor (even if it’s a f~~~ing broad) Letter Carrier,Spokes person – Unless IT IS a broad – then Spokes Woman,lol
Personally I think the better Idea is men not becoming
husbands any more so the chicks don’t have to worry their purty lil heads over it.Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!
One of my buddies had the best response to his fiancé when she said she wasn’t sure if she was taking his last name. He just said “What makes you think you’re good enough for my last name? I’m still deciding if I’ll even LET YOU take my last name.”
Order the good wine
I fully expect the ‘modern woman’ to despatch with the notion of taking their husbands name and instead the new husband to adopt her name.
I knew a guy who actually did that. He dropped his name and took his wife’s name. I can only imagine what his marriage was like…
marry the dude, have two + kids, divorce the dude for cash and prizes. I really think that is what the women talk about amongst themselves these days.
From what I’ve observed of modern marriages I am certain that divorce is the ONLY reason why women want to get married…
My second wife never took my last name. She said it was too much of a hassle to change it. She went through hell changing her name back to her maiden name after her second divorce. Of course, I was her third husband. I didn’t figure the marriage would last. But when she left me for husband number four she had no problem taking on his last name. I guess it’s because she figures she’s going to die with this one. One for the money, two for the show, three to get ready, and four to go. What do you expect? She’s a redneck from Alabama with 17 brothers and sisters, and one of her brothers married his niece. I’m not making this up!
"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."
Yea, I saw that one… Are modern men getting testicular ball removal during the engagement? Our ancestors must be rolling in their graves… I wonder if this was how the Roman Empire started to fall?
My mother has a cousin. She was married at 17 in Germany to a military man. I don’t remember his role or rank. Her mother sat her down after the wedding and said “You are MRS. ______ now”.
… and she remained MRS. ______ until he died.
There was once honor in that and women were honored FOR that.Today’s women has no idea what honor means. Even The C~~~ington Post has an entire section dedicated to “making a case for the starter marriage”. They refuse to take his name and hold this issue under a magnifying glass as if it changes her inherent personhood, but in reality, they have already revealed their inherent personhood as a vacuous void, and are simply not marriageable under any circumstances.
Yea, that’s ain’t happening anymore. Chances are, the Mother’s nowadays are divorced as well. I heard of the starter husband, wife, car, house, life, etc. It’s all BS that these “empowered” women have been fed. Slowly, they are seeing the light I think. I mean, the other day, I was talking to a FCD, she’s single and dating. She has her own money, a family who loves her, friends, a roof over her head, a good job, good education, s~~~ load of savings, and a guy who digs her. She’s not happy. What else do you want? I don’t know. Geez.. They do not realize what they have.. It’s never been this good for them. Crazy.
One of my buddies had the best response to his fiancé when she said she wasn’t sure if she was taking his last name. He just said “What makes you think you’re good enough for my last name? I’m still deciding if I’ll even LET YOU take my last name.”
Then why is he marrying the FCD?
My second wife never took my last name. She said it was too much of a hassle to change it. She went through hell changing her name back to her maiden name after her second divorce. Of course, I was her third husband. I didn’t figure the marriage would last. But when she left me for husband number four she had no problem taking on his last name. I guess it’s because she figures she’s going to die with this one. One for the money, two for the show, three to get ready, and four to go. What do you expect? She’s a redneck from Alabama with 17 brothers and sisters, and one of her brothers married his niece. I’m not making this up!
… Speechless.
I think if she is unwilling to take her poor husband’s name, it should serve as a warning that she doesn’t plan to stick around long enough to keep it.
Anonymous42Well it’s about f~~~ing time!
Our sir names have been utterly s~~~ upon for more than 150 years!
You’ve heard of “in name only”, I’m here to tell you that’s US! IN NAME ONLY!
MEN HAVE SWINDLED IN WAYS HE DOESN’T EVEN REALIZE!
YOU ARE NOT THE OWNER OF YOUR CHILDREN!
YOU ARE NOT THE OWNER OF YOUR MARRIAGE!
YOU ARE NOT EVEN THE OWNER OF YOUR NAME!
Name the f~~~ing kid John D. State or just name them STATE F~~~ING PROPERTY!
LTMFB!
When I became ensnared my cupcake mused, “Maybe I’ll keep my maiden name or hyphenate it”. I said, “thats a great idea – we can just live together – no need getting married if you are keeping your name”.
Topic was dropped and never mentioned again….
You know, I was watching some videos on Youtube, and it got me thinking… Why don’t the majority of women take their husbands surnames anymore? They either keep their maiden name or do the stupid hyphenation. They want the marriage so badly, why not take the husband’s surname like what has been done for thousands of years?
Funny story… When my ex-wife announced to her her family that we were becoming ball and chain, her aunt asked the question, are you keeping your name or taking his? She happily said she’d drop her name for mine. On the marriage license, she stated she’d take my name. After the wedding, I gave her the papers to formally change her name, in the three years we were married, she never did it. Yet, for her first husband she used both her maiden name and that hyphenated name s~~~. Her excuse… Wait for it…
I’m a modern independent woman. We no longer take our partner’s last name. After that wonderful contract, she asked for me to place her on the deed to my house. I said, talk to me in ten years. Let’s see if you’ll last. She went nuts. I should had filed for divorce then.Isn’t it obvious? They’d have to go apply for a new social security card after they’ve filed to legally change their name. Then they’d have to deal with the hassle of listing previous names on tax forms… But then there’s the ultimate reason….
They have no reason to stick around
We know women are notorious monkey branchers. The thing is, most don’t know that WE know.
It makes perfect sense. If you ultimately knew that you were gonna leave the person you were marrying, would you adopt THEIR name? Most likely not. Taking your husband’s name is an investment.
When I became ensnared my cupcake mused, “Maybe I’ll keep my maiden name or hyphenate it”. I said, “thats a great idea – we can just live together – no need getting married if you are keeping your name”.
Topic was dropped and never mentioned again….
Notice the non committal once you dropped that bomb on her? “What do you mean JUST live together???” If you’re not going to invest in the relationship in the marriage phase, why do we need to be married then?
My ex did the hyphenated thing, and it really bothered me quite a bit. Her excuse was that her son had her maiden name, and she wanted to maintain a connection to him. My response was that his name should then be changed as well. She said that was just too difficult to do.
One of many signs I should not have ignored.
Besides the rise of feminism, I do think there are other legit logistal reasons. Back when wives rarely had careers, it was a lot easier to change names with little impact. Now that many are ‘professional’, it can cause issues at work. If they are a teacher for example, students have to start calling her different. It can negatively impact a woman in sales, where name recognition is important.
As already pointed out, so many women these days already have kids that can’t so easily change their name as well. Then of course, they have to revert the name on divorce.
These days, I’m less concerned. I am glad my kids have my last name.
In the alternate universe where I get married again, I may not even want her to take my last name. I imagine that would bother her, that it meant I wasn’t that serious about her.
– Don’t you want other men to know that I’m taken?
– If that’s all that’s stopping you from cheating, then I’d rather see you go.
Ok. Then do it.
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