What was an event that led you to embrace the MGTOW lifestyle?

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

This is my first thread starter here. You guys seem pretty nice so I hope you like it.

What is a story you want to share about something that really helped to be attracted to MGTOW?

As I said in my bio, obviously, the fight to have me in my sons life was the main thing that drew me to MGTOW.

But since then I have seen how feminism is really driving people apart and when I found out women were by far more child abusers the whole “women fart rainbows” thing was over for me.

For instance: You hear stories about men being afraid to help children. One thread that stands out as being true on most MRA and MGTOW websites, the desire for kindness and concern for children, not male, not female, all children.

This is an inspirational story of a typical day in how men really are and really treat children: http://www.autismspeaks.org/news/news-item/man-dies-trying-save-boy-autism-drowning

What kind of world has been created when men are afraid to be kind to children?

I will not shirk to help a child in need just because I’m afraid of what some self important backward dyke get’s miffed.

Here’s a kinda intro to me, to put things in things about me in context.

Here’s what happened. I saw a young man, a fellow sailor, foundering at sea and I went out to help him. Then this feminist witch started hurling insults at me and him! I was worried she’d report me or something but there was no way I wasn’t going to help this kid.

I got him out of there, no feminist will get in my way, but I realize the risk I was taking, helping a child in public and that has to be weighed when ever helping a child in public.

This kinda changed the way I saw feminist’s attitude toward children, especially male children.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XMvykUHDcEg

btw: This woman didn’t report me but was from the neighborhood and started harassing me. I’ll tell you some more stories later.

…from before the 3rd wave feminist invasion.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Anonymous 5]

I feel your pain OP. I came to mgtow after searching for over 6 months for a website for men. I am a man and there is only 1 group in my city that meets once per week to talk about men/emotions/feelings etc. It’s an all mens group and I am glad it exists. However I needed more.

I searched the internet and all I got were phone numbers to help/suicide lines. Not my thing. Feminism exploded 6 months ago with the gamergate thing and I have NEVER been more p~~~ed off in my life. That is when the realization happened. I went on a crusade bashing the evil feminists. I soon got more educated and realized most of my problems stemmed from my ex girlfriend.

I searched the internet but couldn’t find a forum to post on that would listen to me. I actually made a tumblr account to read anti-feminism blogs. These linked me to youtube. The video’s led me to mgtow because I had no idea what the acronym “mgtow” meant. I googled it and fell in love instantly. THIS is the website and lifestyle I was looking for, but could not find it until 2-3 weeks ago. I have been living this way for 3 years or longer but I had no idea there was a name for it!

I am just so grateful I can share my stories here and hopefully other men can learn something from them and not make the same mistakes I did. I am just so happy I didn’t get married or have kids. Thankfully I didn’t f~~~ up that bad.

[Anonymous 5]

Oh and I agree about the children or women thing. I am so scared of being sent to jail or being wrongfully accused that I won’t help people in trouble. It may be cruel, but it is not my problem anymore. I can’t take that risk. If I am on the Titanic and it is sinking, then f~~~ the women and children. I am getting on a boat whether they like it or not.

Equal rights eh!

[John DoeParticipant 743]

Being born with a dick.

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

@johndoe, GREAT ANSWER!  LOL!

What got me to MGTOW status?  Two s~~~ty marriages to two s~~~head wimmenz.  Both put up a good front only to reveal what irresponsible spoiled entitled t~~~s they truly were after saying, “I do!”.  I have also had a long string of girlfriends throughout my life.  Some were educated.  Some were not.  But the two things they all had in common is A.) They were all entitled and B.) They were all dumber than a box of hair.

I’m in my late 40s.  I’m too old for this s~~~.  Hookers and hot rods for this MGTOW now!

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

[ScarringsParticipant 7]

What actually made me go mgtow was actually as little as watching a movie(don’t remember the name of the movie unfortunately) on television which stated that 50% of all marriages ended up in divorce, and that was all it took for me.

I was 14 or 15 at the time so i had no clue why so many divorced, but it didn’t matter because I was certain that I or my mate would not be any better, so i skipped the thought altogether.

It was a major blow to me tbh, since there weren’t many divorces among my friend circle, and it totally changed my way of thinking forever.

I’m sure that movie saved me from alot of potential pain though.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

I was 16 or 17 and sitting in terrible rush-hour traffic in the rain. Bumper to bumper. My mom was driving. We had an appointment for something in the city, and I thought this must be hell … 5 days a week…. 2 hours in either direction… for decades. Like a scene from a movie, I was slumped down in my seat staring out the window saying nothing…. and the camera was looking at me from the outside with rain against the glass. (just had to paint that picture for visual effect). I knew I would go crazy if that was my future. I said “I will never do this”. She asked what? “I will never sit in traffic for hours every day like these people. I would go insane.”

“DONT SAY THAT!” she said… “You don’t know that you won’t”.

“Oh yes I do. I will never do it.”

Then she started going on about people in the suburbs who are paying their mortgages, they have to do it. And I said no they f~~~ing don’t. $200K for a house… 4 hours in transit every day door to door….. and every few years you need to buy a new car!. What the f~~~ is the point? Buying a house to save money and you gotta buy more cars and gas and lose all that time. All I could think of was a hamster on a wheel.

It was probably the first moment where I knew I had to GMOW. And I did it instinctively ever since. Never really thought about it. Every single major decision I made in my life was against a never-ending wall of non-support, deterrents and non-encouragement I got no matter where I was – or who I was with. It’s like swimming f~~~ing upstream all the f~~~ing time. The current going one way… I was going the other.

I successfully avoided that 2/3/4 hour endless 5 days a week rush-hour traffic s~~~ TO THIS DAY.

Every once in a while I reminded my Mom of this conversation, because if she had it her way, I would live 3 minutes away from her (like my married brother with 2 daughters does). She conveniently doesn’t remember that conversation. He lives every day in organized, scheduled slavery like he is perfectly content. Now I live 2500 miles away and have been to every continent except Antartica. But I did make it all the way to the southernmost tip of south America. Close enough. I saw penguins in their natural habitat. My home town is the only city in the world where I dry my hands with the wrong towel, eat with the wrong spoon, drink from the wrong cup, think the wrong thoughts.

For me, that’s hell. I just had to get the f~~~ out as far as possible. And did.

MGTOW is a calling.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[JohnnyWayneParticipant 70]

@HR PuffnStuf: In this modern world, if H.R. Puff-n-Stuff helped Jimmy, all Whitchie would need to do is yell “PEDOPHILE” and poor old H.R.’s life would be ruined in an instant. H.R. would eventually be cleared of all charges while Whitchie suffered no consequences for the lies she has told, or for the lives she has ruined. Meawhile, with his reputation in tatters, and his livelihood lost, H.R. would exile to Lidsville. This, in an effort to peace together some semblance of the life he led before the lies and deceit destroyed him in the blink of an eye.
But alas, the damage has already been done. Even his friends The Banana Splits secretly wonder if H.R. could have done what he was accused of doing.

— The above didn’t happen to me, but did happen to a man whom I had known and respected for many decades. Those of us who knew him best knew 100% that the accusations were lies by the mother intended to separate that father from his children…forever. With zero evidence, with no witnesses, and with no input from the children, the State was all too willing to “err on the side of caution” and granted a permanent restraining order against him. Three weeks later, this loving father of two calmly walked out onto his front yard with a shotgun, and blew his own brains out.

This is what turned me completely MGTOW.

[…Spectator 1165]

damn.

[Blue2RedParticipant 19]

1. Being f~~~ed over (emotionally abused) in arguments repeatedly by my mom. Being bitched at by her, her mother, her mother inlaw, my aunts, my sisters, girls online, girls offline etc.

2. Seeing how society is structured to f~~~ men over should anything go wrong

[TheBardParticipant 974]

For me it was a few things that happened over a few months. After breaking up with my girlfriend at the time for the 4th time I started to want to date her again. She wasn’t really too much into the idea, but she would still hang out with me. While hanging out I would often say stuff to her like how much I like her and we should date again, basically be a pussy. In my mind I thought if I want to try again and she said yes then automatically the relationship would work. Also at the same time I was on ok cupid trying to find a girlfriend and about 2 girls messaged me although they stopped messaging me at some point so we never met. Another time I was hanging out with my ex I saw she was still taking to her ex boyfriend. Another day while hanging out with my ex at my house she had sex with me and I was saying things to her like “I love you” and when she said thank you back I took it as a compliment. Then one day when I called her she was all upset because she feel for her ex’s trick to have sex with her and she felt used. I originally planned on going to the walking dead season 2 premiere party at the comic book store, but I thought to my self “if I go to her house and make her feel better she will have sex with me and then we will be dating again”. She does have sex with me and it was very awkward. From the minute we start she isn’t into it at all. I keep saying I love you and she only responds with thank you. As I am feeling her up she is just paying attention to the tv which had the walking dead on it and she hates zombies. Before I even finished putting my dick all the way into her I came and that was the end of that. Finally a few weeks later at a Halloween party at her house and still wanted to date her but I heard her tell her step mom there wasn’t any chemistry between us anymore and she spent the night flirting with my friend who had a girlfriend. The next day she left early for work so she texts me to be gone before she gets home and that I used her for sex.

At that point everything went for circle and became totally clear. I was acting like a total pussy around her hoping she would date me again. I was desperate for a girlfriend I was willing to try and date these women on ok cupid that I didn’t even think to realize that they weren’t my type and no way a relationship would work, yet if I did go on a date with them I would have been so blinded I would have tried to make it work. I realized how I let myself miss watching the walking dead with other comics book fans to try and get some pussy and it backfired. I was so desperate I didn’t realize her saying thank you when I said i love you wasn’t a compliment. Then the new year came and by noticing how the women at school acted, my parents failed relationship, and how women my age seemed to just sleep around I had this huge awakening of I needed to stop being so desperate for a girlfriend and acting like it could work with any type of women. I realized I would have to adopt or do IVF if I ever wanted a daughter because not only was a women out of the question, but a waste of time. I said I would never get into the state of being miserable because I let a woman control my life. I am proud to say I haven’t looked back.

[…Spectator 1165]

The Bard: isn’t it interesting that they just bury us in s~~~ and start with a new guy and don’t tell us jack s~~~? i mean, f~~~. at least when we leave, we just go our own way. they OTOH……

don’t look back man. look ahead to international MGTOW day on Feb 14. this s~~~ will be hilarious man.

[TheBardParticipant 974]

Listenup: Yup she always goes from guy to guy. That night when she said he used her for sex one last time the story went he asked her to meet her at a place, she asked where and he text her the address. She gets there and it is a cheap motel. She goes to the room, knocks on the door, goes inside and he pulls out a box of condoms. They have sex and she spends the night. The next morning he says that was his way of saying goodbye one last time and then he leaves. She told me she went home and started screaming and throwing things to the point her neighbor came over to see if everything was ok. What I should have said was “it’s your own fault for going there when you say he asked you to come to a motel, what did you think was going to happen. You don’t deserve any pity” but instead I said “that’s terrible, im sorry that happened to you he’s a loser”. Stupid me lol.

[Anonymous 42]

@keymaster, in MGTOW we’re not that different at all….

My first time being a prick to a feminist was in the 7 grade, Mizzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Parkins. I hated her and it didn’t tale long either, minutes! I used to treat her like a pin cushion! needless to say my grades suffered. It didn’t take long for me to realize that all the “MEN” hated her too! All the “WOMENZZZZZZZZZZz” praised and adored her (a chicken coupe and Mizzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Alfa-Jina!). I knew my position insistingly. All the “MEN” liked me! Except MR.Foley (manjina). All the “MOMENZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ” hated Me!
My new found position had it’s advantages. Outside of school I got rides, In school I got Man to Man’s. I’m not saying it was easy, I had lots of fist fights with alpha males, and had my ass handed to me in a rubbish barrel, thrown out the bathroom window, and many other regrettable events. School yard politics wasn’t my thing.

Traffic; I fuking HATE IT! Was almost killed on the George-Washing Express /Cross-Bronx throughway “95 N”., everybody was going to fast and “WALLA” The entire freeway was dead stopped, red pills light up as far as the eye could see! Smoking my brakes to stop myself, others were doing the same, came to a skid stop within feet of the car in front of me, within milliseconds I knew I was F~~~ed from behind. I arrogantly and dangerously switched lanes to hide in a hole, the only hole! It sounded like thunder, then raining glass pellets and plastic parts, the guy that nailed the spot I was in was probably killed, I was not involved, so I proceeded on my way with my knees shaking. I now go through Connecticut 84-W./ NY Taconic parkway/ 209 Delaware water-gap, Allen town…..

@thebard, I know how you feel; being a total Jina-popsicle my self. I was ripped, dipped, and striped of what I had learned; I was kid that hated feminisum. We’re much alike! The womenzzzzzzz I was exposed to all had the same attitude as MIZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ Parkins. Till this day I can’t believe how the hypnotic effect of the precious “GOLDEN VIRGINA” had me under its spell. That s~~~ lasted for about 15 yrs. of my life; chasing a mirage of blissful happiness with some piece of s~~~ white-knight-princess, and it damn near ended my life. It’s not worth it when you go somebody’s Else’s way; searching for that diamond in the metropolis land fill…..F~~~ that! I’m a porcupine to the mono-gynocentric-mono-liberal-media, All I can say to them is go ahead MRZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ Parkins, attack the quills of truth, while I laugh my ass off enjoying your pain!!!!

[Anonymous 42]

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[TYEParticipant 291]

Honestly my decision to go MGTOW came from abuse against men seen on a day to day basis in our society. I have had awful experiences with most women I have ever had a relationship with, but seeing the constant divorce stories, and false rape allegations really pushed me over the edge.

[HammerdownParticipant 528]

This wasn’t really a red pill moment for me, but definitely one that showed me just what evil things women are capable of.

I have this “aunt”. I say “aunt” in quotation marks because she’s not biologically related to me in any way; she had a kid with my uncle, and already had a kid from a previous marriage that my uncle basically adopted and treated as his own. He worked long hours as a truck driver trying to provide for his wife and two children, all for it to end one day when he came home early to find her f~~~ing some random on the hood of his truck.

But anyway.

Anyway, we sort-of shunned her but since she was still the mother of my two cousins we sort of HAD to keep her close. I never saw why, but whatever. I guess why that’s why I’m the only MGTOW in my family. Anyhow, we all grow up, and her eldest son and I wind up having a mutual friend called “M.” M and I were almost inseparable in our youth, but right around the time I was starting high school we drifted apart. He really fell into a bad crowd and wound up doing drugs and other bad s~~~ much to the worry of his mother who was an absolute angel. Cared for three kids, plus ran a daycare and took amazing care of all us friends and her husband. Beautiful inside and out. Anyway, this spiral continues, and I distanced myself from M, only hearing things through the grapevine.

One day I get horrible news, over facebook no less: M has died due to drug complications. In the wake of all these emotions and grief, aunt rears her ugly head. It started pretty benign, posting about him on facebook (my cousin and his friends were over at her house a lot) and talking about all the bad s~~~ went on. Seemed normal at first. Then she posted something about a “memorial walk” for M. No idea what the f~~~ it was. I find out later that she was claiming that she had been sleeping with M. After all of this, M’s mother asks her to stop saying this (as the truth was very questionable; M only once mentioned that “One of my friends’ mom’s has a crush on me. Weird, right?”) and she responded with the most horrible thing I’ve heard said to a grieving mother that lost their son that week: “You don’t have a monopoly on his mourning.” They had to get the police involved to stop her from contacting the family.

About two weeks later, my cousin flies in from up north (where he moved to get away from his mother and surprise, is far happier, successful and sober) for the funeral. We wind up having a few drinks and catching up, and aunt is there. After exchanging a few greetings and small talk, what does she say to me, whom she hasn’t seen in ages? “Hey, are you going to be designated driving tonight? I am, and a lot of M’s friends are here so I’ll be really busy.” I just looked at her like she was wearing a rubber chicken suit and said flatly, “No.” I then left to talk to someone else.

So yeah, while it’s not THE event, it is one event that serves as a reminder that these women exist, and I’m willing to bet there’s far more than one of them out there.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Divorce was the initial spark. The ensuing trips to court turned that into a flame. Dating/online dating fanned that into a freakin’ inferno.

 

If I had to pick one event, it would the time I got judged for my shoes. Apparently, I was great in every way but had the ‘wrong’ shoes on. That’s when I figured out women were completely full of s~~~. Like many others, I was MGTOW without even realizing it. Then I discovered it and learned the true nature of the female.

Thank you red pill.

Fuck this planet.

[JimboParticipant 162]

For me, it was a gradual process. Though I just recently heard of the term MGTOW, I have been on a slow ride the whole way.

I have started noticed since the time I turned 13 that marriage wasn’t always (and more often than not never is) the happy lifestyle that people portray it out to be.

I noticed that women while they may like the chivalrous treatment of men, walk on the very men that treat them that way. I noticed the less I treated a girl or a woman in a nice fashion, the more times I got their respect, affection, and sex. I also noticed that they enjoy sex more than us despite them and society assuring us that was not the case. Hell, I guess at that part I couldn’t complain, I enjoyed some of that myself and then when the relationship ended after a day, a week, a month I could go on.

I notice that many old school women would tell the “young gentlemen” who were getting used, dissed, taken for a ride, and abused by manipulative women who were riding the c~~~ carousel so shamelessly in their better years only to either get bitter once they hit the wall or to go after those “young gentlemen” when the “young gentlemen” had good jobs and the c~~~ carousel threw them off. I watched some of them even get their “young gentleman” only to abuse the poor guy latter on.

I really did not think about all that too horribly much until marriage. I did end up having a relationship that lasted more than a month. (Much of which I was more dragged into.) After we got out of the JOP, things went down hill. Honeymoon night she smacked me with a bottle. I walked off immediately mumbling to myself, “I guess this was a bad idea.” She immediately stopped me and apologized. That was the beginning to a down hill slope. Shortly after I deployed to Iraq. This was my first time reality really kicked in and it was heavy dose in Red-Pill. I decided to divorce her while I was over there just a few weeks prior to redeployment. I notice many buddies also coming home to cheating spouses, loads of debt, and the list goes on. One good friend of mine found out he was getting divorced when he came home to an IM still open with three Jodie-boys referring to him as her soon to be ex. Worse, through the SRP we received these briefs talking about how we need to “respect our spouses’ new found independence” and how WE were the ONES that needed to be understanding. (Their independence? Whose paycheck were they living off of again? Moreover, what about our desires? Oh wait, MAN UP, SOLDIER UP, and FALL IN.) Needless to say, whenever there were arguments, rarely did the soldiers get the backing from the unit, the spouses on the other hand.

Needless to say, I went back to my old lifestyle. I had very little sympathy for the BS complaints of the spouses of soldiers about how their husbands “changed”, were “losers”, etc… Why would anyone in their right mind do so?

Years later after some calming, a half-way sound female friend who I had slept with, seeing some friends with some decent relationships, working with some seemingly decent ladies on TDY, and watching my mother struggle to find a good man (while struggling financially), I started to drop my guard. Still had the relationships that did not last more than a month but I did not have the drama I saw burning in my head. I finally met a girl through a friend who seemed to be very reasonable, incredibly sweet, and affection. She was awesome in bed and could keep me on my toes. She was incredibly good looking. I got into the most serious relationship I had in close to a decade, I almost considered a possible marriage with her. Well, seemed reasonable, mature, logical, sweet, and affectionate and I guess she was some of those things when she felt like it but she went belly up on all that. I stuck it out for a bit on her emotional roller coaster until I found out for sure she made it sound to mutual friends of ours that I was a violent rapey bastard. Well, needless to say, I gave her several chances to tell the truth and cross examined my friends on it. What was merely the cherry on top, was that she got p~~~ed when her mother liked me (her mother HATED her two previous boyfriends) and it ended in a break up.

I have come to several realizations in life on this issue and I honestly can’t see how on earth how men can possibly think marriage is a good idea, women for the most part have adult brains, and how anyone can stand the typical modern woman.

I mean, I have my F150 with 35 inch tires, 4X4, a BDS lift kit, and an upgraded air intake. I could have never afforded that nor would my last serious relationship would have approved in anyway of me getting it. I have a collection of guns that my ex-wife would never have allowed, nor would I have been able to afford being married to her. A year ago I bought another mountain bike and have taken it on some trails and rode it around town. I doubt my friends’ wives would allow them just to up and do that without consulting them. I just two weeks ago bought an Xbox 360 with 4 remotes and about 15 games for 300, on the dime. Please tell me any wife that would have been too happy about that one (even though she will spend 700 on some brand name purse or shoes she uses once or twice that she bought on your dime). My R/C Quad-copter arrive today. It is my first one and I am sure it will take a bit to learn to fly but damn, I had the time of my life it seems like just trying to get used to the controls in my Apartment.

I wonder what other joys the future holds for me in finding more hobbies I love. Who knows? Maybe I will go to Hawaii this summer with my bike and Quad and video myself on the summit of Mauna Kea or snap a picture of me on the beach of Waikiki and send it to an ex-girlfriend who really wants to go there but could never afford it and put in the captions “I’m in Hawaii, have you been yet?” Maybe I take another road trip across the US. Backpacking in Europe? Safari in Africa? Backpacking to Maccu Picchu? Hell, maybe I could start a Facebook page with the photos of things like that and other things that make me happy.

No matter what my future holds, I am Doing It My Own Way.

[…Spectator 1165]

Jimbo: most important thing i learned in the hood: never let your gaurd down. ever.

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