What just happened?

[IRuleMeParticipant]

crushhighlander wrote:

Hi guys, I wanted to talk to you about something whack that just happened to me these past few days.

I have this pretty cool friend of sorts whom I talk to at times. About 3 days ago he said that he met a girl for me to date. I actually haven’t told him about my MGTOW stance as he is in a rather vulnerable situation with his ex-partner and the very well known s~~~ storm of child custody stories we very well know. Anyway he said he thought she was perfect for me because she was nice and all this gibberish. When I asked for a picture I got a very unlikable surprise. Not only is she highly unattractive, but she’s a single mother and is rather ill. Nevertheless my friend told me that I should T least befriend her even if I want nothing to do with her at all. Being the nice sucker I am due to my staunch observance of the Golden Rule (which you may or may not agree with, but that’s a topic for another time) I reluctantly agreed. As I spoke to her, she gave suggestions that she was into me (gave me her phone number which I didn’t ask for), plus she ended the conversation by saying that she waned to know me better.

What I want to know is this. Did I inadvertently act blue pill-like by accepting to talk to her a bit (even just as friends), and do you actually think my pal just pulled a rather sleazy trick and decided to get me to talk to her so she would withdraw attention from him and focus it on me? Finally, what the hell can I do to cut this short without making it obvious, if possible? I very steadfastly welcome any suggestions and/or observances any of you guys may have. Thanks bros.

Why are you letting friends pimp you out? And why are you covertly entertaining chicks? Are you secretly wanting back on the plantation? Is what you see on this site not enough to tell your friends “no thank you”? Keep taking your red pills and wake up son!

[crushhighlanderParticipant 239]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

Did I inadvertently act blue pill-like

I think you just answered your own question. This man is an asshole and not your friend. You need to lose his number too.

As for the cow, it’s time for Ghost Protocol. She’s an ugly, desperate, single mom looking to latch onto something less unstable than her “no sex on the first date” policy.

You also need to revisit your stance on your golden rule. May I suggest the old-school Will Smith addendum: “Don’t start nothing, won’t BE nothing.”

I did, but I needed some more insight and analysis from fellow MGTOW’s. Everything you said was on point, I know we have a diligent form of thought but I’m sure we all have our slip ups at times.

And I love that quote from J in the first MIB movie. The bug had to be nuked. [Double entendre]

No more hassles, no more nonsense, no more drama. Long live MGTOW!

[IRuleMeParticipant]

crushhighlander wrote:

Samsquanch wrote:

Your friend’s opinion of you amounts to an ill, single mother. Not much of a friend if you ask me..

I think he’s confused. He was also serving me a loaded situation as he says she is “so nice”, but I came to terms after I saw that he didn’t do anything to date her even though he’s single now.

So what does “nice” have to do with anything? People today act like “nice” is some hidden door that gets unlocked and you just walk right in and claim the goodies.

“Nice” is a term people use to get you to justify doing s~~~. Nice doesn’t make someone entitled to s~~~. You are not obligated to be her f~~~ing friend! You are not obligated to hook up with her. So why are you doing your “friend” favors by obliging in his attempt to hook you up with chicks? WTF? “Nice” is another SHAMING term. by playing the “NICE” card, not only are you supposed to feel badly about saying no, you’re also meant to COMPLY. So you’re guilted into participation even though you know better.

Next time this happens… “No thank you”.

[crushhighlanderParticipant 239]

IRuleMe wrote:

crushhighlander wrote:

Why are you letting friends pimp you out? And why are you covertly entertaining chicks? Are you secretly wanting back on the plantation? Is what you see on this site not enough to tell your friends “no thank you”? Keep taking your red pills and wake up son!

Haha, no, not really, but as I previously stated here I fell into some sort of lust trap a few weeks ago, and my attitudes towards meeting people have been distorted. Therefore, even though the whole signal’s there, I faltered and relented to this no good situation. But better nix that now, which I did by blocking the one and negating her any more of my attention.

No more hassles, no more nonsense, no more drama. Long live MGTOW!

[crushhighlanderParticipant 239]

IRuleMe wrote:

crushhighlander wrote:

So what does “nice” have to do with anything? People today act like “nice” is some hidden door that gets unlocked and you just walk right in and claim the goodies.

“Nice” is a term people use to get you to justify doing s~~~. Nice doesn’t make someone entitled to s~~~. You are not obligated to be her f~~~ing friend! You are not obligated to hook up with her. So why are you doing your “friend” favors by obliging in his attempt to hook you up with chicks? WTF? “Nice” is another SHAMING term. by playing the “NICE” card, not only are you supposed to feel badly about saying no, you’re also meant to COMPLY. So you’re guilted into participation even though you know better.

Next time this happens… “No thank you”.

I get you, but I faltered. Never again, *I hope*.

No more hassles, no more nonsense, no more drama. Long live MGTOW!

[IRuleMeParticipant]

crushhighlander wrote:

IRuleMe wrote:

crushhighlander wrote:

Why are you letting friends pimp you out? And why are you covertly entertaining chicks? Are you secretly wanting back on the plantation? Is what you see on this site not enough to tell your friends “no thank you”? Keep taking your red pills and wake up son!

Haha, no, not really, but as I previously stated here I fell into some sort of lust trap a few weeks ago, and my attitudes towards meeting people have been distorted. Therefore, even though the whole signal’s there, I faltered and relented to this no good situation. But better nix that now, which I did by blocking the one and negating her any more of my attention.

GOOD. The important part is that you LEARN from this. I mean actually LEARN, so that if this comes up again in the future (rest assured it will), you know the PROPER response to make and don’t fall in this trap again.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Part of being red pill isn’t just KNOWING the s~~~, it’s being ON GUARD for the s~~~. What good is knowing the signs if you blow right passed them and crash your car? You’ve gotta work on your awareness part of being MGTOW and start recognizing situations and behaviors as they happen in real time and make the correct decision.

[MeisterParticipant 2093]

crushhighlander wrote:

Meister wrote:

You should look into the mirror and ask yourself what’s wrong with yourself.

You seem to have no discrimination or willpower.

Get your s~~~ together for f~~~ sake!!!!!!

Thanks for your words bro. I did need that glass of cold water in my face.

Meister wrote:

This “friend” is not your friend. He obviously does not have your well being in mind at all. This should be blatantly obvious, unless you are retarded.

Why are you going on “dates”?
I don’t think you can answer that question.

Why are you hanging out with a random, sick, ugly, old single mum?
I don’t think you can answer that question either.

I’m not actually going on dates, or hanging out really. It’s through Fakebook, which I’ve honestly thought of deleting for a while but I can’t quite do so as this is the only way I have of communicating with some friends and family who live in other parts of the world.

Yet, I figured it out. I blocked this person and will tell this guy if he brings it up that she wasn’t someone I was looking forward to talk to.

You do need a bucket of cold water in your face.

This dude is not your friend – he’s your enemy!

If friends and family want to contact you they can do so via email, phone and skype.
There is absolutely no need to use facebook and I think you know this.

Monk

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

You need to have a serious word with your ‘friend’.
And you need to cut that fugly single mother bitch loose.

[narwhalParticipant]

There is nothing nice or good about letting a woman who has no chance think there is a chance. Even if she did have a chance, it’s not a nice thing if she’s need of help.

This woman clearly needs help. She needs money, she needs to up her SMV, she needs medical help. Looking to get these needs met through a relationship is just outright wrong.

This is exactly why a Dr or therapist is not suppose to date their patients. A teacher is not supposed to date a student. A pastor is not supposed to date someone who comes in looking to learn about God. This is because you can’t pretend a provider/dependent relationship is an equal relationship.

On top of this, unattractive women are often desperate for attention. They will interpret any friendly behavior towards them as you asking to mother your children. I use to try and give them the benefit of the doubt, but I got tired of being called a jerk because I friendly to the girl no one wanted.

Ok. Then do it.

[crushhighlanderParticipant 239]

narwhal wrote:

There is nothing nice or good about letting a woman who has no chance think there is a chance. Even if she did have a chance, it’s not a nice thing if she’s need of help.

On top of this, unattractive women are often desperate for attention. They will interpret any friendly behavior towards them as you asking to mother your children. I use to try and give them the benefit of the doubt, but I got tired of being called a jerk because I friendly to the girl no one wanted.

This. This right here is what scares me to talk to any ugly girl.

No more hassles, no more nonsense, no more drama. Long live MGTOW!

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

crushhighlander wrote:

narwhal wrote:

There is nothing nice or good about letting a woman who has no chance think there is a chance. Even if she did have a chance, it’s not a nice thing if she’s need of help.

On top of this, unattractive women are often desperate for attention. They will interpret any friendly behavior towards them as you asking to mother your children. I use to try and give them the benefit of the doubt, but I got tired of being called a jerk because I friendly to the girl no one wanted.

This. This right here is what scares me to talk to any ugly girl.

Yes, even smiling at them just because it’s your reflex, will cause unwanted attention.

While at community college, there was a fatty who sat behind me and several of us would all join in conversation. She mistook my common decency as something more. Then when I told her no, I was the asshole. haha

There has been this fatty at the gym at the same time as me for the last month. I’m surprised she’s actually stuck to her workout.

In the past I most likely by now would have given her a nod or half smile of recognition, since we’re at the gym at the same time every weekday. Instead I haven’t even made eye contact. I’ve learned what being nice gets ya.

[ReclusParticipant 96]

crushhighlander – I went through a similar situation with an old “friend” who literally dumped his gold-digging ex at my door. Your “friend” is playing you; for what reasons you may never know, but he is probably trying to bring you down to his sad and sorry level. Just say you are not interested and walk away. Walk away from him too if need be – friends who pull that sort of thing are simply not friends.

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