Well, I think I am screwed

[fixthem_flythemParticipant 89]

Perhaps I am just being melodramatic. It’s possible.

Lots of good advice here. It would appear that no sooner than when I posted my intro, that the s~~~ hit the fan.

Long story short, I am being falsely accused of child abuse. It’s a ploy to carve me out of my kids’ life. We were supposed to be heard yesterday, instead we ended up behind some long winded-c~~~ and the time expired for the day. We spent 3 hours in court to have a 6-minute say where the commissioner said “everything continues as it is”, which means I will not have had any contact with my little guy for a month once we get heard again. Upside, we are first on the docket for our day, and we can take all the time we need. Second action going is a custody mod to cut me out of his life entirely.

My lawyers seem confident and I like their plan. The facts just are not there to support her claims, and I didn’t do anything, anyway. I worry about what harm is being to him while he’s away from me, what’s being told to him, is she brainwashing him, etc. We are such an integral part of each others’ lives it just killing me to be away from him.

Anyone else been through this? I am kind of starting to feel myself slipping and mentally imploding. It’s a lot to handle.

If it floats, flies, or fucks, it is cheaper to rent....

[Anonymous 42]

PLAY WITH FIRE?>>>>>

YOU>>>>> GET BURNED!

[TrailbossParticipant 1844]

Happens a lot bro: And those court people hear it ALL DAY LONG! They know when bitches lie, and they know real abuse when they encounter it. It’s just bulls~~~. It takes time away from the kid, yes, but in the end: it will be ok and you will get your visitation. Just keep persisting. Don’t let the t~~~ get you down.

An educated, armed populace cannot be enslaved.

[fixthem_flythemParticipant 89]

Thanks, brother. I am throwing money, time, and energy at it.

If it floats, flies, or fucks, it is cheaper to rent....

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

A few of the guys here have been through something similar. I wish you the best. It’s nerve wracking. Don’t let anger draw you in. Any outbursts will be used against you. Stay calm and focused.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[fixthem_flythemParticipant 89]

Yes, Sir. That’s the intent.

If it floats, flies, or fucks, it is cheaper to rent....

[OldBillParticipant]

fixthem_flythem wrote:

Anyone else been through this?

Many men here have. You are not alone nor are you the first man falsely accused by some satanic c~~~.

I am kind of starting to feel myself slipping and mentally imploding.

Keep posting here. Every time you feel the need to vent, scream, or pound the walls talk to us here. We’re always here.

It’s a lot to handle.

Yes it is. It’s also standard operating procedure in a divorce. Go here: realworlddivorce DOT com. You can read what divorce lawyers have to say on the matter and learn about the other tactics your soon-to-be-ex will using. Here’s an excerpt:

In virtually every state that we studied, litigators told us about benefits offered by legislators to people who can testify credibly that the person they are seeking to divorce is abusing them or abusing their joint children. At the same time, litigators told us that the costs of making a false accusation, even when a family court judge believes that it was false, are non-existent or minimal. According to our interviewees, repeated false allegations can be harmful when seeking sole custody of a child, but a rational custody-seeking parent would generally make at least one abuse allegation.

She’s already accused you of child abuse so be prepared for an accusation of domestic violence too. As one lawyer interviewed explained:

Your typical divorce plaintiff wants four things: (1) the house, (2) the kids, (3) the husband’s paycheck, and (4) freedom to spend time in the house with her boyfriend,” said one attorney. “It might take her two years to get to that point in the family court with accompanying legal fees. She can get there in a day through the domestic abuse system, probably without spending a dime. All that she needs to learn is to say ‘I’m afraid of him.’ She gets a house, the kids, and money every month without ever having to give evidence, be cross-examined, or bring any additional witnesses to corroborate.

Good luck. Vent here when you need to.

Remember that the best revenge is a life lived well. Start working on making your post-married life a great one. She’ll be hitting the wall soon, she’ll be crying into pints of ice cream soon, even with the money the courts extort from you and give her she’ll be broke soon. Begin fashioning a life she will covet and cannot have.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[GregB0Participant]

fixthem_flythem wrote:

I am kind of starting to feel myself slipping and mentally imploding. It’s a lot to handle.

As Old Bill suggested, be prepared for your EX to continue being on the offense. If she can get you/keep you feeling overwhelmed, then you are at a disadvantage and she will win. Hang in there.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[Anonymous 12]

You entered the Arena.
Her mask is off.
The old HER is dead now.
What is there now is nothing but pure Hate and Evil.

She still looks the same.
But that’s all deception.
Keep your nose clean. Toughest advice.

[Anonymous 12]

Keep posting here. Every time you feel the need to vent, scream, or pound the walls talk to us here. We’re always here.

This. So. Much. this.
i am not going to promise much, but being here is much better than being alone with your thoughts and fears.

[Space CowboyParticipant 1466]

Other guys here who have been through it have given good advice in the past. Gather evidence and collect all texts and try to save any calls or correspondence. It’s all evidence if she messes you about, denies visitation or changes plans every time you arrange something. Keep any receipts and payments as well, reference transactions if you need to pay her anything.

Don’t give in to anger, let her do that and keep a record/evidence. Good luck, hang in there.

"Have you ever thought about any real freedoms? Freedom from the opinions of others...even from the opinions of yourself?"

[AttonParticipant]

Ask may 5 2020 about this kind of stuff.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Keep your hopes in tact. You WILL get through this. Justice finds a way. Let your bitch ex live with her lies while you procure a new and happy life on your terms.

The brothers are here for you if you need to vent. Good luck.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

OldBill wrote:

Keep posting here. Every time you feel the need to vent, scream, or pound the walls talk to us here. We’re always here.

This is so true. Come here and scream if you need to.

Space Cowboy wrote:

Gather evidence and collect all texts and try to save any calls or correspondence. It’s all evidence if she messes you about, denies visitation or changes plans every time you arrange something. Keep any receipts and payments as well, reference transactions if you need to pay her anything.

And Log, Record, snapshot, video. Save and copy everything. If you have old text where she saying anything nice about you get them. Print screen all social media.
Do it now before it gets taken down.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[fixthem_flythemParticipant 89]

Thanks, guys. Since posting, and since all this has started (and some fill-ins)

I’m already divorced, and she’s remarried. I have a girlfriend who is not taking all this well. This very well may break the relationship, which, I guess if it does, it does ans she wasn’t worth it to begin with. Seems like a waste of a year if she does bail, though. When I find myself talking to her about it I keep hearing the red-pill in the back of my head “you don’t need this…you don’t need this”. I’m not sure if that’s the situation speaking and dictating the desire to cut off all excess things and just focus on this or what.

I suppose i just deal with it and see what comes afterwards.

If it floats, flies, or fucks, it is cheaper to rent....

[SH3LLZParticipant 5569]

Anonymous wrote:

You entered the Arena.
Her mask is off.
The old HER is dead now.
What is there now is nothing but pure Hate and Evil.

She still looks the same.
But that’s all deception.
Keep your nose clean. Toughest advice.

Keep your nose clean. Very good advice. Don’t give them anything to drag you to the mat for. I was fortunate enough to have a GOOD WOMAN as my sons mom. We fought at times but she never came ‘after me’ to ruin me. Because of her good spirit and caring nature, my son grew up with both of us even though we were apart. I will always be grateful to her for that.

Heres the flip side of that coin though, While being out of work at times, I did fall behind on child support. While she didnt come after me directly, the courts will make your life LIVING HELL. I once had my bank account seized when I just started a new job and had set up direct deposit to that same account. Much F#ckery ensued!

There have been times when money comes out of my check and she never even gets it because the state has FEES all over the place. While I havent experienced the vindictiveness of my ex over my son, the state itself is just as vile and corrupt. I survived this far. Many aren’t as lucky… :-/

#ICETHEMOUT

#ICETHEMOUT!!! #MANOUT!!! #HIDEYOURWEALTH #VAGINAISWORTHLESS

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

fixthem_flythem wrote:

I have a girlfriend who is not taking all this well. This very well may break the relationship, which, I guess if it does, it does ans she wasn’t worth it to begin with. Seems like a waste of a year if she does bail, though. When I find myself talking to her about it I keep hearing the red-pill in the back of my head “you don’t need this…you don’t need this”.

Sounds like and opportunity to start fresh. Clear your head of woman and do what it is best for you.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[OldBillParticipant]

fixthem_flythem wrote:

I have a girlfriend who is not taking all this well.

Why did you even expect that she would? You were married and went through a divorce. Didn’t you learn anything about women from all of that?

I do hope this girlfriend isn’t living with you because that will just make for more of a s~~~ storm when you try to shed her.

You’re dealing with some seriously s~~~. You need to focus on that and that alone. Anything in your life that isn’t helping you focus on the issue at hand needs to be thrown overboard.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 12]

I would even go as far as “get rid of your current Girlfriend”

Look – it is simple.
If you entered the first round of the fight, and she is already bitching or looking annoyed, she will stop supporting you soon. Nobody wants to live with what might potentially be a Child abuser.
And an abuser you are, all right. To the Females… as you learned with sexual allegations… one word ruins your reputation. No more pussy for you, no hugs no holding hands and “i am here”… only nagging.

Soon it´ll be “i need time to reflect or jump on a few dicks, see if i can find one with less baggage.”

And let us be honest here for a moment, honest with ourselves… – Who would want to stick around a woman who needs to deal with this type of s~~~?
Nobody would.
We would rather ride the Motorcycle.
It makes very little sense. A lot of Baggage to carry for what. ten twenty years?
Get da fak outtahere…

Is she the one to hold your hand through all of this, from the first to the very last court date? And beyond?
Is she really?

Or is there a chance that 3 days after the Drama is over she has learned a few tricks and pulls a “he is an abusive man” on You too.
An abusive man Whose rep is already ruined from the previous battle…
Gimme Money or i will talk s~~~ about you…

[fixthem_flythemParticipant 89]

Anonymous wrote:

Or is there a chance that 3 days after the Drama is over she has learned a few tricks and pulls a “he is an abusive man” on You too.
An abusive man Whose rep is already ruined from the previous battle…
Gimme Money or i will talk s~~~ about you…

Jesus, I didn’t even think about that….

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