Tough Situation, Ex-Wife, Mother-In-Law, invitation to enter my OWN place

[FreedomParticipant 295]

Your current trials are temporary. You will get through them. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling eternally doomed.

You will find a job. Maybe not today, maybe not the perfect job. If you keep your head, and persist, you will find a job and be ok, and it will be a rung on a ladder that supports you until you find an even better job.

Your emotions will cloud your judgment. You cannot think straight when you are full of frustration, anger, and desire. You must take time to relax and clear your head.

This one is hard….feel free to reject it if this is too soon. But, the house was never yours. We call it “ownership” but really its just temporary stewardship. That house will be around much longer than you, and many different people will live in it. You were always just a visitor. And it sounds like it was an expensive trip! Let it go. Not because it is fair, but because thinking of it as “yours” fills you with rage and clouds your judgment.

See clearly, and you will rise like a phoenix from these ashes.

Some inspirational music:

It is wise to fear dangerous commitments.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Freedom wrote:

Your current trials are temporary. You will get through them. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling eternally doomed.

You will find a job. Maybe not today, maybe not the perfect job. If you keep your head, and persist, you will find a job and be ok, and it will be a rung on a ladder that supports you until you find an even better job.

Your emotions will cloud your judgment. You cannot think straight when you are full of frustration, anger, and desire. You must take time to relax and clear your head.

This one is hard….feel free to reject it if this is too soon. But, the house was never yours. We call it “ownership” but really its just temporary stewardship. That house will be around much longer than you, and many different people will live in it. You were always just a visitor. And it sounds like it was an expensive trip! Let it go. Not because it is fair, but because thinking of it as “yours” fills you with rage and clouds your judgment.

See clearly, and you will rise like a phoenix from these ashes.

Some inspirational music:

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I can work with these thoughts, thanks. I will be able in time to convince myself too that the place was just a vessel. I’m in a new vessel now, as small as a shoebox but hey, here’s the deal: privacy (no nagging), peace and quiet, and above all MY RULES! Do my stuff my way, all of it, right down to stacking the dishes the way I want to! That’s worth something right there!

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Freedom wrote:

Your current trials are temporary. You will get through them. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling eternally doomed.

Amen brother. Take that advice to the bank and bet on it. Where I was 20 years ago and where I am now is like leaving the Matrix.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Point Of No Return wrote:

I can work with these thoughts, thanks. I will be able in time to convince myself too that the place was just a vessel.

Life is chapters in a book. Some are down right depressing and s~~~ty. BUT, if you take charge of your life get sovereign and Ride out the storm, you will be the hero in your book who saves HIMSELF.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[FreedomParticipant 295]

That’s worth something right there!

It’s worth a king’s ransom! Your autonomy is your most valuable possession. And peace and quiet are the foundations of true happiness.

It is wise to fear dangerous commitments.

[HitmanParticipant]

McDuncie had an interesting comment. .
Hmmm..
WTF?

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Hitman wrote:

McDuncie had an interesting comment. .
Hmmm..
WTF?

Oh, to be sure, it didn’t slip past me. I’ll be keeping an eye on Dunce. I just didn’t want to make the time while I was busy.

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Point Of No Return wrote:

Ok guys, this posting is not going to be pretty. I’m just typing this stuff out, and not making much to stop and think twice. I’m feeling like I need to strengthen my position without being an asshole. I want to strengthen it with reason as to using brute disgust (which I do like to use at times by the way). But here’s the thing, well, in particular today was tough because, firstly, I had a tough day listening to some person go on and on about what I need to do to stand out and get a job (with competitors being like 250, 500, even 1000 applicants… and wow, you got to come in FIRST! , well thjat’sw the only way to land the job )…any how.. so I get out of that meeting, blah blah blah , and I have a headache from the crap… then I have to rush home and eat something fast , because i have to be somewhere else on time for my visitation rights. so then I’m doing my best to ignore my headache and I get to the spot where I have to meet my sons… we sit down and talk…my older son is practiacally a teen and well, he got onto some topic and got insolent and I was not in the mood, so I didn’yt feel good about that and I turned to my younger son and gave him my attention, so anyhow, after the visit I bring back the little guy, and I knew I’d have to see ,very likely my ex (who I have being trying to avoid like the plague)…and then I get to MY property and the ex is there, ,, with her mother (and I get along with her mother) and my sons are there too, and then of all things…my ex INVITES me in to MY place (I can only go in if invited, ) well needless to say I didn’t go in, but her mom came out, and I talked with her mom, and it was tough because I have nothing against her mom, and we get along annd like each other ….but damned I’m MGTOW enough to know that she’s on Team Girl… but I can’t help it and she came all the way from s. america..and Ihadn’t seen her in a couple of years, and I was ,,,yes affected at seeing her, and also affected by my ex who invited me in even though this week we had a nasty email exachange that contained stuff that was not really nice on either side… so I got all confused and just turned away from them all and walked back a little….then I went back and spoke to my mother -in -law…and we talked for like 30minutes… and..well…Team Girl is all set up…and I’m all alone…and I know my ex’s mom means well for me… but I need to strengthen my way…but I need to have reason behind it…not just red pill hate or women-disgust (both of which I have and can use at a moments notice)…but with her mom I don’t want to use those ammunitions…I want to use reason…anyhow..what a damned mess this post is…I just needed to get this off my chest REALLY BAD

The mother doe snot like you and be very careful what you say to her.

AWALT

i would keep the conversatiosn to a minimum whilst maintaining a pleasant facade for your sons as I’m sure you od.

You did right not going in tehhouse.

AWALT.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[ThanasiParticipant 428]

Don’t trust these South American bitches.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Best to treat that house like the Neutral Zone in Star Trek and avoid going in. There is nothing to find in there but pain, and it might be a trap set for you by them. Don’t trust any women; their friendliness is often an act.

It is s~~~ like this why I will never get married again and never cohabitate again. Your story is just one more layer of armor that I will put on that will protect me from such an experience in the future, and protect both of my sons, since the more I read stories like yours, the more I am motivated to prevent my sons from going through the same.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

@op: I read your posts this morning with a heavy heart. It’s obvious you are still broken from the TRUTH about women. For me, I caught my ex on Facebook with her Chad back in 2011, so I’ve had much more time to process how these bitches can turn on you with ease. The lies she told me, until I told her I had copies of their messages. Utterly disgusting. That’s when I learned that a women will take her dirt to the grave unless she is exposed in some other way.

Anyway, you need to get to a point of imagining her with all holes filled by c~~~ and it not bother you. In fact, you should welcome the idea of it. That’s when you’ll know you’ve made REAL progress. Taxguy is right. She doesn’t care. Women that care don’t take strange c~~~ in the first place. Right?! I’ll tell you one thing that really helped me in my blue-pill moments of weakness. Make a long list of her bulls~~~ you tolerated and ask yourself one VERY IMPORTANT question about her. For your entire marriage, what has your wife really done just FOR YOU? Not the kids, not her family, not her job or hobbies, what has done for YOU?

Brother, I truly hope this helps.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Nero wrote:

@OP: I read your posts this morning with a heavy heart. It’s obvious you are still broken from the TRUTH about women. For me, I caught my ex on Facebook with her Chad back in 2011, so I’ve had much more time to process how these bitches can turn on you with ease. The lies she told me, until I told her I had copies of their messages. Utterly disgusting. That’s when I learned that a women will take her dirt to the grave unless she is exposed in some other way.

Anyway, you need to get to a point of imagining her with all holes filled by c~~~ and it not bother you. In fact, you should welcome the idea of it. That’s when you’ll know you’ve made REAL progress. Taxguy is right. She doesn’t care. Women that care don’t take strange c~~~ in the first place. Right?! I’ll tell you one thing that really helped me in my blue-pill moments of weakness. Make a long list of her bulls~~~ you tolerated and ask yourself one VERY IMPORTANT question about her. For your entire marriage, what has your wife really done just FOR YOU? Not the kids, not her family, not her job or hobbies, what has done for YOU?

Brother, I truly hope this helps.

Spot on Nero, and I do exactly those things to cope MGTOW-fashion. It takes time to handle them well and incorporate them into yourself, like learning to juggle or something, it just comes with practice; your self just learns it eventually.

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

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