To what extent do you blame your FATHER?

[AutoliteParticipant]

TaxGuy wrote:

So back to the original question: Do I BLAME my father? No, he is who he is. He’s a mixed bag of good and bad.

In my case I guess I really don’t blame my father. I mostly just blame myself for ever having listened to such an idiot! Even as a kid I kinda suspected that he was full of shhit. It just took me many years as an adult to finally realize that my little kid instincts were right… 🙁

[Branched offParticipant 10926]

I blame my father as little as possible for who I am today. He did the best he could with who he was.

The thing I found hardest was his weakness. This showed by his wanting to make everyone around him small so he would be bigger by contrast. This was very hard as a teenager when I needed to grow in confidence and he was telling me how weak and useless I was. In the end I think it had a profound effect on me and not all for the good. I decided I had to toughen up to not end up like him, hiding his weakness to himself by making those who he should have been lifting up, small.

I was not born a manual worker or someone who was fitted out for a life with more than an average share of physical danger or physical work. I was probably cut by nature to be an intellectual, an academic or a professional of some sort, a loyal husband and victim of one woman with 2 children and a large house. I chose the path I did to avoid being weak because I despised my father’s weakness. I have had a few adventures in life, had children with a number of women and work hard under the sun because of this. I am far more self reliant than my brothers but I have suffered for this as it was not my early beginnings or perhaps what nature fitted me to be.

Its not my dad’s fault and I love him but it did affect me. I can’t blame him but if he had only been stronger my path would have been smoother. I always try to make my children stronger wherever I can, taking an attitude of you should not be afraid or doubt yourself and just because it looks daunting now does not men it will be once you have faced your fear. I wonder if they will blame me for trying to toughen them, just as I blame my dad for trying to weaken me?

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

,…….I did not answer the question, just expressed some anger.

When it really comes down to it do not blame him. He just turned into an example of what not to be or do. My own bad choices I look at more in the line of this was the classic all american dream. House, car, wife, job, kids. Job, property, cars I have. Society set me up, women knocked me down.

Learned the mgtow way, live well just to spite the hell out of them.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3758]

743 roadmaster wrote:

Learned the mgtow way, live well just to spite the hell out of them.

Terrific !

MAN OUT !!!

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Monk wrote:

My mother was always an extremely unpleasant individual, but reflecting on the past – as you do when you get older – I realise that my father shares in the blame for the harm done to me as a child.

He was a clever man and essentially good hearted, but he was weak. He couldn’t cope with her behaviour and preferred to avoid confrontations, spending more and more time working away (reacting as many men do), leaving me at the mercy of a harpy.

He never slapped her down, never said no to her, with the result that she just got worse and worse (typical female reaction to a lack of external control), blighting my life for decades to come.

He had a responsibility, but failed to discharge it (bear in mind that this was the 1960’s/1970’s. He could have kicked her to the curb. Wimmin did not have the law behind them to they extent that they have today).

This describes my situation exactly. My father was an attorney, and could have destroyed my mom in court, but he let her steam-roll him.

Still, our dads didn’t have the internet back then, and women were still a “mystery”. Women are no longer a mystery – one can learn they are just evil vile creatures, which is why nature makes them small and physically weak, otherwise there would be no way to check them.

Our dads believed women were just ordinary humans, like them, with reason and normal desires and emotions. I don’t see any way our dads could have known how wicked women are, on the whole.

The bible does warn of women’s wretched wickedness, but it’s all been watered down. I think the puppet masters have understood women’s wickedness, which is why they have been able to weaponize it for so long, without us knowing.

Still, I have warm thoughts of my dad. After the divorce, he did the best he could for us, and even tried for custody when we were teens, but mom railroaded him, as always. He was just too nice.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Lord Humungus wrote:

When I was about 10-11 years old. My mother had secretly ran up about 100,000 dollars in credit card debt over the corse of a year buying Jewelry.

WHOAH!!!!!

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

bstoff wrote:

It’s just plain stupid to think someone is a “fckn joke and beyond pathetic”, just because they didn’t have the exact, same experience you had.

I will just assume you’re drunk or drugged up.

Sky-O said he’s about to jump out of a plane. Let’s hope he’s not drunk or on drugs. Or angry.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Branched off wrote:

This was very hard as a teenager when I needed to grow in confidence and he was telling me how weak and useless I was.

My father was a mechanic and he would always constantly remind me of how “useless” I was. He expected that as a kid I was suppose to have the knowledge and understanding of an adult so that kinda forced me to grow up fast. However, by my late teens my mechanical knowledge, skills and abilities far surpassed his own. That permanently shut him up regarding my ‘uselessness’… 😀

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Monk wrote:

to what extent do you blame your father?

How can I blame him for anything when I never met the man?

However I know exactly who to blame for that.

He was a clever man and essentially good hearted, but he was weak. He couldn’t cope with her behaviour and preferred to avoid confrontations, spending more and more time working away (reacting as many men do), leaving me at the mercy of a harpy.

When that harpy has the full force of our unjust gynocentric legal system behind her enforcing her will literally at gunpoint, can you blame him? What, exactly, do you think would have happened had he tried to be “strong”?

That wasn’t weakness. He was just sensibly making the best of an impossible situation.

He could have kicked her to the curb. Wimmin did not have the law behind them to they extent that they have today

Oh no. They did. Gynocentrism has been a thing forever. It might not have been quite as bad back then but it was still bad. You have to go back at least a hundred years or more before you begin to see men get a fair shake in our society and courts.

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