Throwing up some blue pill-ness…bear with me.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I’ve done some stupid stuff these past couple of months that I’m not proud of.

Not slept with anyone, though. That’s a positive AND a negative. Financially I’m a lot better off, but emotionally and physically it’s really agonizing. I wish I could shut those off sometimes. Self-pleasure only takes care of the physical part temporarily.

I made a post a while back about that chick that I knew online (not through a dating site, but a blogging site) that I was talking to. She was great. We had good conversations and said how into me she was….but dissed coming down to see me this month (she was supposed to come down on the 11th on her own dime and everything). If any of you remember, it was because she “might” have a dentist appointment.

What I didn’t have a chance to mention is that she said that she “loved” me, but she wasn’t ready to see me because she’d been in a long distance relationship before and that she was afraid I’d “screw her over.” Funny, I was thinking the same about her…which is why I had initially stopped talking to her. One other friend of mine was thinking she was “catfishing” me (posing as someone perfect only to lead me on so she can get her emotional needs fulfilled but she’ll never follow through with her promises). Sure felt like she was. She was initially saying she didn’t want to see me yet because she wanted to “take it slow.” But then out of nowhere she suddenly became this submissive “good girl” that wanted me in every way possible. Even started sending me pictures of herself and “what she was doing to herself thinking of me.” OUT OF FREAKING NOWHERE. She was apparently embarrassed to show that side of herself. WHAT THE–!? So now she’s not wanting to take it slow, but she wants me to dominate her…but she STILL doesn’t want to come down and see me because she’s not ready yet?

Does this NOT sound like she’s leading me on still, even when she INSISTS she’s not?

Then, there was another girl from Tennessee. Ridiculously sexy, educated, and worked 12 hours a day as a nurse. As for HER, I started talking to her on a messenger that actually tells you if someone reads your messages while you’re talking. We had great conversation and chemistry, but then she suddenly “backed off” because she felt like she was probably competing and “she doesn’t do competition.” She said she’d be friends with me until I dumped any competition I had.

What kind of woman DOESN’T like competition? I’ve NEVER heard that in my life!

My red pill-ness kicked in and told me “she’s saying she’ll be ‘friends’ with you because she has other options. She’s lying to you about that, even though she will tell you she’s not.”

So, I had ONE girl promising she would come see me on HER terms. Oh, and she decided to tell me some guy friend that she used to know Skype messaged her and said he wanted to see her. OUT OF NOWHERE. Not to mention she told me that she didn’t know her Skype name which is why she never gave me it (not that I care, I never use Skype anyway). She felt like I “had a right to know a friend wanted to see her because she loved me and wanted me to know.” I told her “you tell me what kind of guy spends money to fly his way up to see you who DOESN’T want to sleep with you.” She said he’s “more mature than that” and “she wouldn’t let anything happen if he tried.” RIIIIIGHT. After the many stories on here that I’ve read of women that you guys know IN PERSON, I can’t believe that for a second.

Tennessee girl insisted that I was the only guy she had a thing for, and that most guys are intimidated by her and won’t even make a move because of it. She’s a smokin’ hot blonde. Again, I don’t buy it! NO guy hits on her!?

I’m cutting them off. I’m sick of literally feeling like they’re drawing me in just to cast me back out to crawl to them again.

It’s just hilarious that when I STOP talking to them, then they pull the “DO YOU HATE ME?” crap. Hating is a waste of time and emotional effort.

I shouldn’t waste my time with chicks online. This I know. It’s just interesting that the ONLY women that give me any time of day is either women online or my asexual almost-ex (we’re not even really dating, but she can’t get that out of her head that we’re not…I know, that sounds horrible).

Venting over. Glad I got that out. I just need to disregard all of these ladies.

[narwhalParticipant]

It sounds like a lot of words (and manipulation), but no action. The whole ‘I love you’ thing is manipulation, there is no action behind it. You don’t love someone you don’t even want to see.

I am not a fan of internet relationships, but if that works for you, then great. My advice would be to ignore what they say and start paying attention to what they actually do. If you’re enjoying the pictures this first girl is sending you, then enjoy them, just don’t pretend it means something different then essentially long distance mutual masturbation.

For the 2nd girl, it seems like you want to just call her bluff, so that’s what you should do. Let her walk if that’s what she wants to do.

It actually sounds like you are in a pretty good place overall, but you’re letting these women mess with you…got you thinking that you’re not.

Ok. Then do it.

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

Everybody makes mistakes, at least you didnt fall for the friendzone trap.

[Anonymous 3]

It’s all a game to them, man. I remember this one girl that I was going to get together with. She pulled the no first date card and said she wasn’t going to do the deed the first night, and would rather take it slow. I told her straight up, great, I’ll just fire up some porn and jerk off, it’s all good. And then, all of a sudden, now she says maybe she could help me. I thought to myself, so it’s not about the sex, you just want to control when and how I get off. I then insisted on taking it slow and she turned into little kitten. Her entire tone changed and almost seemed like she was crying. I ended up sealing the deal though, and then she backtracks and says “I thought you didn’t want me!” Yeah right.

There’s never any consistency to what a woman says, never. Whenever she says something in absolute especially. When she says she’s not doing something, oh believe me, she has done it with other people before. When she says she has never done something, just not to you. You get the idea.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I’m just looking back on our conversations. The last time I (stupidly) asked girl #1 to come down to see me, she said she “wasn’t ready yet.” This was AFTER she got all sexual on me and suddenly wanted me to be her dominant man.

I actually responded with “how about if I come see YOU?” (this was after she said some guy she hasn’t talked to in forever wanted to see her.) I then quickly said “wait, nevermind. You’re not ready.”

Nah, it doesn’t mean she’s not ready for me, it means she’s not into me but she wants to keep me around for her own emotional needs when the guy she’s Skyping isn’t around. That’s starting to become more clear.

[narwhalParticipant]

As KM would say, why are you asking her? Just tell her what you want. She either accepts, good, or she doesn’t and you move on…also good.

What are you wanting to happen here?

Ok. Then do it.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Oh, I DID tell her what I wanted. She said she “wasn’t ready but she still loves me.” When asked why she’d see some random guy she’s never met just because he wanted to see her, she said “because I don’t have any romantic feelings or any attraction to him.”

In what logical world does that make sense!?

Then again, we’re talking about a woman here. All this tells me is she’s just looking for other options before she’d “settle” with me. Well, now she doesn’t have to worry about settling and she can sleep with whomever she wants.

[Anonymous 42]

Hey Gov. I see you’re much more aware of the double-takes that roll off their tongues like a mouth full of marbles.
Every one of those chicks are mindf~~~ed to one degree or another, you need to get onto the express track and blow by them all.

There’s three ways of dealing with s~~~.

#1 Toss it back and forth until you’re both covered in s~~~.
#2 pick it up and throw it back in their face.
#3 At the slightest smell of s~~~, walk away!

Chalk me down for #3, I HATE S~~~!

[narwhalParticipant]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

Oh, I DID tell her what I wanted. She said she “wasn’t ready but she still loves me.” When asked why she’d see some random guy she’s never met just because he wanted to see her, she said “because I don’t have any romantic feelings or any attraction to him.”

In what logical world does that make sense!?

Her reasoning/excuses are irrelevant. If you don’t want to talk with her anymore because of that, then that’s what you should do.

Governor Megachris% wrote:

Then again, we’re talking about a woman here. All this tells me is she’s just looking for other options before she’d “settle” with me. Well, now she doesn’t have to worry about settling and she can sleep with whomever she wants.

I don’t think it tells you anything. She may not actually be interested in the guy, maybe she’s trying it out, may it’s a guaranteed bang. Doesn’t matter.

So are you saying you are no longer contacting this girl?

Ok. Then do it.

[experiencedParticipant]

Heed MG-Tower:
MiXeD SiGnAlS = whiff of s~~~ = leave her.

Your posts are always top notch.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[OgreParticipant 5863]

MegaChris, the toothache is adapting constantly just to keep you on the hook. She’s got something to hide, or she’d meet you.

Tennessee doesn’t want competition, which also means that she’d be the insanely jealous type.

Your spidey sense is going of because they are both playing games or crazy.

They are getting some satisfaction out of your exchanges online and you are not. At this point you know both of them well enough to say what you want, “I want to see you” or “Get here or go away”. The time sunk into them already could have closed the deal with people who really exist if that’s the route you want to go.

The upside is that neither one of these girls has cost you anything other than time, but with you money you can make more so have they really done you any favors by taking a bunch that is gone forever while giving nothing back?

My vote would be cut them both loose. If you’re still wanting to test them ghost and pop up later, but they are losses already.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

Talking to these flakes over the internet is just feeding their egos, their need for attention, and need for validation. They hang on every word you send, and practice their manipulation techniques.

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