Feel Free to Hit Me with a Frying Pan.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I met this girl online from Arkansas and stupidly started talking to her.

We got along great, and shared a lot in common.

It got to the point that she started flirting with me and said that she was into me. I admit that I fell for it. Stupid, young, 27 year old me fell for it again. I took a serious nose-dive.

I fell for her.

She was extremely gorgeous. I mean, my type to a T. She had this accent that got to me every time when she started calling me and talking to me every night for a few HOURS. I liked it a lot.

She then said we should meet up and “see if things would work out.” She agreed to pay her way here and everything so that she didn’t feel like she was “using me.” Seemed fair.

Then, just out of nowhere, she told me today that maybe it was a “bit too rushed” and that she “wants to take it slowly.” I asked if she was still wanting to meet up with me in March. She said “I’m not sure yet lol I have a dentist appointment around sometime in that month.”

I admit. My stupid heart sank. My stomach has been hurting since then. I’m trying to be a tough man and I’m trying to continue to disregard women…but she seemed different. Until now. She says she still thinks I’m “cute and a great guy” but she “wants to see if it works out by moving slowly.”

Then I told her I’m gonna have to back off a bit. I was admittedly very angry…and I shouldn’t have let my emotions get to me. But when I told her that she just told me “well we can still text and talk like we’re friends!” She was even fine with us sharing our “dirty jokes” we had.

I was never with her in the first place, but this was literally the hardest-hitting “friendzone” I’ve ever faced. It was so bad that it felt like a breakup.

She told me before when she called me that she didn’t want me to feel like I was ever led on, and that she was interested in me…she just had “issues with her ex” because he keeps calling her and hurting her feelings. She says she’s very well over him but she’s “fresh out of that relationship and not ready for another.”

I just feel devastated. I know I shouldn’t think about it and I feel like I took a serious dose of blue pills when it came to her by putting her on a pedestal…but man, she was gorgeous and she was just the type I was looking for.

Then she dropped me like it was nothing tonight.

All women are indeed “like that.”

[Anonymous 11]

Yes, all women are indeed like that.

More than likely, her ex is not really out of the picture as he is actively calling her. Since this was online, you really have no idea what was really going on with her.

Personally, I’ve been hit by not over the ex issue so many times that I’ve lost count. They’ll do things like wave you in front of the ex to make him jealous. It’s not like your feelings even matter to them.

It sucks being used as a pawn in her games. We don’t need to hit you with a frying pan, because she already did.

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

look my friend, just because you made a SMALL mistake that doesn´t mean your stupid.

If you had started a relationship with that woman, then yes, that would have been stupid.

Think of it as a blue pill vacine.

A little bit, once in a while, to build up your imune system

[SpacemonkeyParticipant 1481]

She led you on so that she could get back with her ex or some other poor schmuck. “Take things slowly” my f~~~ing arse! Right now she is riding the c~~~ carousel and you are a distant memory. I know it is tough but forget the c~~~, have nothing more to do with her. AWALT!!!!

“Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.”

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I’m sorry, dude. We’ve all been there.

Women like this reach out to a man who cares when the guy who they said “yes” to hurts them. She’s angry at him for a while and wants someone who can validate her and make her feel better and the man who cares will do it.

And when she gets over being angry at him, she’ll tell the man who cares that she needs to “be careful” and “protect herself” which is basically her s~~~ way of saying “no” to caring and being cared about… and then she goes back to him.

That’s just how it works.

So what’s the answer? Stop being the man who cares and be the guy she says “yes” to. If there’s a chick who flips your switch, take her out for a couple of drinks, f~~~ her in a cheap hotel and then go home and get on with your life. Save yourself the effort and tragedy of giving a damn. She doesn’t want it, you can’t afford it and she’s not worth it anyway.

[experiencedParticipant]

M.C.
Sorry for your anguish.
Intentionally trying to deceive is lying. She lied to you.
Tigers don’t change their stripes ergo better off without her.
Wise of you to have not paid “her way” here.
Sad that the reality with all of them consists never of both sides contributing,
but of you contributing and her continued negotiating.
A few enough want the contact online, but checking them beforehand results only in the reality of a looming mismatch, (AND THEY KNOW THAT FULL DAMN WELL and when you state that for what it is, they want you even more). They use fifty guys to attempt ego greed satiation, rather than five that might be realistic prospects. WHY? Because they dump the guys at the drop of a hat.
She used the pull-push technique on you that believe me, has been done to me.
An emotional nightmare.
It is telling though, how women can state something and then “go back on it”.
Therefore it was a lie from the start, or her just not keeping her word eg. “I do” rots into “I feel”.
Later she may even realize that her sexual market value was decreasing while yours was increasing throughout this episode.

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"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

hit you with a frying pan? that’s something a woman would do (especially popular with women in Russia)
you punished yourself already by talking your way into the corner

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Anonymous 42]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

“I’m not sure yet lol I have a dentist appointment around sometime in that month.”

A MONTH for a dentist appointment! What is she a Great White???
When she gets back to you (and she will), drop that s~~~ like it was on fire! The last thing you want to deal with is a bouncing bewildered rebound! Kick that bitch off the court!
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[Anonymous 0]

A plus 1 for admitting it. You are a stand up guy MegaChris%. And when she gets back to you like we all know she will, string her along for a good time OR don’t even talk to her.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

It’s very strange, because she DID come back to me later last night and wanted to “make sure I was okay” and then told me “the last thing I wanted you to think was I was leading you on.”

She told me she still likes me and really wants me. The one thing she says is stopping her from anything? Herself.

That’s right. She says that because she’s so devastated from her last relationship, she may not be ready for another relationship for a long time. She kept clarifying that she did NOT want to hurt me and that she just wants to “take it slow” because she’s a very old-fashioned kind of girl in that sense.

She keeps trying to assure me that there’s NO other guy.

Yet, at the same time she’s also telling me not to “commit” to her. I wasn’t anyway. I just thought I had something good going there. It felt very different. She and I agreed on nearly everything. Heck, she even agreed with my staunchly anti-feminist viewpoints and anti-gynocentrist ideals. Yet…she got cold feet NOW?

I’m sorry, but…A DENTIST APPOINTMENT?

Who is she kidding with that? Funny that she never brought that up again that night.

She kept talking about her fears and insecurities. News flash lady: I have ’em, too! I’ve got all kinds of worries when it comes to this kind of stuff, and she KNEW that from the beginning!

“I like you and am attracted to you but I’m not over what my ex did to me.”

I’ve heard many excuses why not to give me a shot, but this is a new one to me.

[a bananaParticipant 288]

you should really drop her mate, shes clearly taking a lot of energy out of you, the fact you keep going back is only guna make it worse, i get the feeling u already know this but just though id say it “out loud” so to speak

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I just get sick and tired of literally the same game over and over again.

I get the (alleged) “sweethearted” girls who will flat-out lie to me about wanting me just so they can meet some emotional quota, then I have the less-than-kind women who will bluntly tell me that I’m not attractive to them at all, but if I was then I could treat them any way I wished (as I stated in my previous topic).

Either way, both are telling me they’re just “not into me.” Which is funny, because they start OFF initially into me because I’m not the “nice guy” type. My problem is they butter me up somewhat and I’ll start being nice to THEM. I try to stick by “I’ll be nice to you only if you deserve it.” But look where that gets me. It’s like it weakens my “attractiveness scale” or something.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

“I met this girl online from Arkansas and stupidly started talking to her.” Is there any other way to talk to a girl from Arkansas?

GM: Sick f~~~ing game isn’t it? If you are nice to them your “attractiveness scale” does go down. The terminology is all there for a reason, so here is a quick recap of your situation.

She initially thought that you might be a Chad, but found out that you were a beta (or just decided that you were for her purposes). You were too “nice” to her. So she put you into orbiter status. She probably used you to make her Chad jealous.

There is a reason they are not into YOU: because they are not into anyone but themselves. You don’t stand a chance against herself.

You need to watch Fast Times at Ridgemont High. There is a guy in the movie named DeMone. He has “the attitude”. “The attitude dictates that you don’t care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. No matter what happens my toes are still tapping.” His buddy replies with “yeah, you put that out to 100 women and maybe one will respond”. His reply, “Exactly!” Doesn’t give a s~~~ which one it is because they are all the same………….

Order the good wine

[narwhalParticipant]

Not sure what you’ve said to her, but in my opinion, you should just tell her the truth, and stick to it. Tell her that you don’t want to have a long distance friendship with someone you want to be more then friends. It’s not good for you. You don’t want to be the guy she talks to about her guy issues, so you really can’t be that good for her either.

So tell her to deal with her crap. If she ever wants more then that, then call you…maybe you’ll still be interested. I know that’s not what she wants to hear, but there is no point lying to her. If she ever does fly over to see you, that’s the only way it’s going to happen.

Personally, I wouldn’t mess with a long distance relationship. Too much work (and emotional investment as you know) with too little in return.

Ok. Then do it.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

Either way, both are telling me they’re just “not into me.” Which is funny, because they start OFF initially into me because I’m not the “nice guy” type.

Hey man! Stop telling my f~~~ing life story, even if you cut to the quick and tell it better than myself. Seriously though, it sucks beyond measure in my f~~~in’ book! Hands down.

Really sorry to hear it, but I wanted to chime in here as well, because I was in this f~~~in’ nightmare loop longer than I care to admit.

I made the mistake of thinking I was being disqualified because of using the “into me” vs “not into me” as some kind of standard that has merit.

IT DOESN’T. It’s just a rouse, a filthy lie, that is perpetuated onto us men as some type of lame ass “reasoning” to drag our souls through the freakin’ emotional meat-grinder.

I call it her catching us men her web. I am not really into country music, but this song nails it, on the vibe & picture I am attempting to paint here….

At any rate, the last one I had any type of physical relationship, was almost 5 yrs ago, BUT, the last one I tried to have anything with, I have never talked about before.

About 3 1/2yrs ago, I was all “caught up” with one that I just knew was The One. I am confident that you have met her too, seeing that you are describing her so well.

Seriously, we clicked beyond anything I thought was even possible. She was my unicorn. I remember thinking, it almost made up for all the s~~~ I had been dragged through by other females, along with a bunch of other s~~~ I thought and dare I say it, FELT.

Oh hell yes, my feelings were off the damn chart for her. Why I stated in my intro thread that I was once 1/2 WhiteKnight & 1/2 KingMangina.

I was a super sucker for her. We used to game together and everything. We would spend hours on end with each other. I wanted to make damn sure I didn’t get fooled again.

When I say hours, I mean like as much as 17 hrs at a time, between video call while we were gaming and talking. I am not at liberty of sharing specifics, for various reasons, but I was in love with her.

In short, she devastated me beyond anything any other female had ever done, AND I have had them do A LOT. It was almost 2 years before I heard from her again. She mentioned about how resilient I was, for never logging back into the game we once played together, among other things.

I don’t know exactly when I went full blown monkmgtow as it were…

I just know, because of her, I did. It was the final nail in the coffin of once was my heart, in regards to females and f~~~ing love.

Do I know how you feel? Hell no, I don’t. BUT, I have a damn good idea. I would rather I didn’t, truth be told.

For me, not only did I unplug from the matrix, but it also got completely destroyed…there isn’t even the remote chance of being tempted to get plugged back in for me. Not with how s~~~ is in it’s current state.

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

Dude you failed a s~~~ test at some point and didn’t know it, off to orbit you go.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[Anonymous 42]

She’s flying you like a cheap kite! Cut the line and watch her chase you! But be careful, first they hook you, then it’s Governor Mega filet & fry!

[Anonymous 11]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

I’ve heard many excuses why not to give me a shot, but this is a new one to me.

That’s exactly what that is an excuse. Since this is long distance thing, you have no clue what she’s really doing or how many other guys she’s orbiting. I promise you she has an agenda. Be kind to yourself and cut her loose.

As for the Dentist appointment, I’ve had root canals and been out w/in an hour.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

I’ve heard many excuses why not to give me a shot, but this is a new one to me.

Here’s the thing, a “no” you can work with… but a maybe? In my book, that’s far more final. Once a woman starts holding out on you because of something some other guy supposedly did, you know you’re standing in excuse territory with both feet.

Your only option then is to walk. Don’t even offer a parting shot… and sure as s~~~ don’t give her one by text or email… just say “okay” and leave with your dignity and sanity intact. Trying to figure out a reason where no reason exists will drive you mad as surely as trying to solve a Rubik’s cube where someone’s changed all the colored stickers around.

[The Long WalkParticipant 1282]

“Taking things slowly”

Translation: I’ll call you in ten years when my smv’s gone through the f~~~in’ floor and I need a ‘nice guy’ to support me.

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