Hey guys. I just want to post an update on my situation. I posted my story in the Introductions forum about a month ago.
A lot of good things happened in the past week.
The bitch finally moved out!!!!!!
This woman is the Queen of Clutter. She had piles of crap everywhere in my condo. I couldn’t open a draw without it jamming, or open a closet or cabinet without crap falling down off the shelves. I cant begin to tell you guys how much living that way really p~~~ed me off.
Although she still has some crap here. Most of it is gone.
At my insistence, she now has to call or text before coming by to pickup more of her stuff. I think it is really important to enforce that boundary. My condo is NOT her home anymore.
A couple months before all this disruption on my life, I started a whole food plant-based diet. I felt great and was rapidly dropping weight. I lowered my cholesterol and blood pressure dramatically. My GI function improved and I felt so much better. I highly recommend it!
After she announced her plans to leave, I found it very difficult to be around her. I was eating out every night and hanging out at the movies or in bars. Anything to to avoid her sorry ass. It’s impossible to eat plant-based in restaurants. All that eating out cost me a fortune and side-tracked my healthy eating effort.
First thing Saturday morning, I bagged up all the processed food, candy, meat, dairy etc. she left behind. I put it in my truck and hauled it to the dump.
I spent this weekend cleaning and reorganizing my kitchen. I scrubbed out my fridge and re-stocked it with lots of healthy fruit and veggies. I cleaned out the remaining clutter out my pantry and kitchen cabinets. I boxed up her remaining crap and left it in the garage for her to pickup. I also tossed out a lot of my own stuff that I no longer use. My kitchen is completely de-cluttered. I can easily get to everything I need. I can’t begin to tell you guys how good that feels.
Now for the legal stuff.
Earlier this week she made comments about alimony and getting some somekind financial interest in my condo. Staying true to her form, she brought this up as I was leaving her place after spending two hours on the phone with Comcast trying to get her cable TV and internet working. F~~~ing bitch has incredible timing. No good deed goes unpunished. My response was “good luck with that”.
A couple days later, I had a consultation with a divorce attorney. We were only married 3 1/2 years. I bought the condo several years prior to the marriage with a huge (almost 50%) down payment. The attorney said, “I don’t see a lot of exposure for you”. There is a moderate difference in our incomes. However, she works 4 days a week and I work 5 or more. Our hourly pay rates are about equal. There is a very small possibility she could get some alimony. But, due to the law in our state and the short duration of the marriage, it would be a small amount for less than two years. It appears that I will get through this s~~~ show with my assets intact. That said, he advised me to file for divorce sooner rather than later. Filing “stops the clock” on the length of the marriage.
I was going to try to get her to agree to mediation and then filing jointly. But given her attitude, I’m thinking of putting the attorney on retainer and having him file for divorce right away.
I saved the best for last.
I’ve been working as a contract employee for the last two months. I found out this week they are hiring me as a permanent full-time employee. I can expect the official offer sometime next week, when the background check is completed.
It’s been a pretty damn good week. Thanks for reading this guys.
"Nobody loves me, but my mother, And she could be jivin` too." - B. B. King
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