1 kid 1st year of college…1 kid 11th grade.
I paid the 529 plans totally with my earnings.
Not that all of this came from huge salaries…it came from saving and sacrificing…
…I always bought very used vehicles, changed my own oil, did my own plumbing/electrical/painting, built my own garage, bush-hogged the acres, fixed the well used tractor, etc. etc.
I drive a 2002 Saturn. She drives a much later Lexus.
Forget all that other stuff…
…by FAR the worst of it all is that I spent my life dreaming of raising kids as well as I thought my dad raised me…he wanted me to be smarter, stronger, and more successful that he…I wanted the same for my kids. He taught me so much. Damn, I would do anything to turn a few more wrenches with him…he passed in 2002.
I text my kids 2x each day. Never a reply.
I offered to take them anywhere they wanted over the past 2 summers and spring breaks and winter breaks…no bites.
I weep about my failure with them…but they were taken away from me for their high school years.
Folks tell me that it’s just because of their age…their life is in the way…and they will come around later…in their 20s. I hope that surely comes.
I want you to take a deep breath brother. Sit down if you are not. Don’t be driving.
Your kids are not going to be like you. Its A wish for all fathers, but as soon as you tear them away, they become lost. Its just how it is.
Your money is really who you are. And since you were gone maybe in the military a lot, they relationship is just a weak one. My two older sons* are pretty much nothing like me. My ex is doing everything she can to make sure my son does not reach his potential.
Mothers hate it that when the kids are with dad, they come back to energized, or rowdy for their own good. They actually get to happy, and mom of course hates that.
It’s a sad day that this happens. But you can’t do anything about it man. And trust me, they have been grooming the kids from day one.
I want to be tell you what I have seen, but maybe you will be lucky.
But there is a bright side. Get them excited in what they like to do and join them. Most today are video games. So do car ones if you can.
Your going to be a fake Chad. Its the image that they respect at first that reals them in. All the kids today look for image, and what they want to see in their lives.
I know you want to have them turn a wrech. And I know you want to hear from them.
Sometimes brother. Kids just don’t care since they are p~~~ed that the break up even happned.
I wish Women would not do this. But this is how it goes. As long as women get rewarded for this. it will happen.
And whatever you do. If you become into lots of money, keep it to yourself.
Also someone said that she will feel s~~~y about her mistake.
No. She won’t. What she will feel bad about is that she did not get more from you.
One day, when she is older, she might go. Wow, you are so happy. LET ME GET THAT TOO.
Never speak to them again. Never acknowledge them again. Just get them out of your life anyway you can. She has you forever. So she will never feel bad. And By that I mean the best part of you to her. The ATM part.
There will be days where renuins come, or freinds come by, and go. Wow, How is that husbank of yours. And when she is all aloe, she will just blame it on you anyways. Its just how their mind works.
If they really could feel, or have a soul, they would die looking at themselves in the mirror.
You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home
iMickey503 2 years ago.
