The Right to be Selfish and Happy

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

It’s not selfish if you earned it. It represents a cost to you as well as a gain. You are merely breaking even,

Demanding something they haven’t earned from someone who did earn it, now that is selfish. Ask yourself: “Who does that?”

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Welcome Anthony,
I think you’ve made the correct decision. It sounds like getting angry about how unfair and unreasonable the expectations placed on you was the force behind making the decision to break away. That’s not a bad thing. But you don’t have to be angry to make that decision. You can make it rather calmly by reminding yourself that you do not owe a relationship, or the benefits of a relationship, to anyone. The second thing to remember is that: all healthy relationships are VOLUNTARY on both sides.

That may seem simple and obvious enough to you, but to the people around you (the demanding bitch, the manginas etc.) this is the taboo statement no one is allowed to speak. She believes herself to be entitled to the things she demands. She will never speak about what that entitlement is based on, and if anyone else questions this, hostility and emotional outbursts are usually the result. The explanation of the reason for the entitlement is usually not forthcoming.

If you are willing, I’d be interested in your results to this little experiment: next time you’re in the situation where you are being challenged this way and ridiculed or criticized for not caving in to these expectations, just stop and take a slow deep breath. Then say, out loud but very calmly, “I don’t really think I owe a relationship to anyone.”

Let everyone hear you say it, calmly, just one time. See what the reaction is…

The reaction tells you immediately wether the other person thinks you owe them. If they disagree, ask them to explain why you owe them. But stay VERY calm. Then get some popcorn, sit back and prepare to be entertained. They are always ready to scream and fight about what they want.

They are NEVER ready to explain why you owe it to them…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[MadAnthonyParticipant 20]

This issue has been readdressed by my mother just recently.

Despite all efforts to prove proofs of me not always being selfish, she, and my Mangina father who always feels that I’m in the wrong, have made judgement on me. I hang up my phone when they yell. Then they deny doing so and tell me to apologize for it.

I’m tired of them. In time, when I finally can live on my own, I’m cutting the string.

I don’t live with mom anymore, she needs to be reminded of that.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

That’s far from the truth men aren’t being selfish. Women can work and provide for herself instead quite a few women rather live off a woman because she is too lazy to actually work. Look at all the bitches who makes a lot of money and they refuse to marry men who make less than they do.
Is it selfish to prevent a theft to steal your property? Of course not and it’s the same thing, in reality it’s women who are selfish.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[SOLI2DEParticipant 746]

MadAnthony wrote:

What annoys me the most when it comes to all women, from friends to family, they all feel that men must be selfless and miserable.

I disagree.

Considering that we, as men, do most of the work, and deal with most of the pain.

It bothers me that when a man wants to go out to get some food for himself, that a woman has the nerve to accuse you of being selfish, and then in an attempt to prove her point, to bring up past favors that are assumed to be thankless for.

I became a MGTOW because I couldn’t take it anymore. I couldn’t take it from the Mangina-type men that are in my family that support their accusations. I couldn’t deal with the daily shouting, screaming and holding any form of water over me as if I had to bow to them all the time.

I have the right to be single, selfish and happy. Not a slave, selfless and miserable.

Well said and I agree with you 100%. Single, selfish and happy

“Do not give your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.” -Proverbs 31:3-

[GrumpyParticipant]

As an aside.
How can I care or provide for others, if I can’t care or provide for myself first?
Selfish or prudent?
A truly selfish person is the one who coined the expression “give until it hurts” or believes that adage.
Personally, I’m done hurting myself for others.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[KeithParticipant 482]

It’s only “selfish” if you have a penis. If you have a vagina then it’s called “focusing on myself”.

It’s verbal jujitsu.

I have in the past said to fellow earthlings that I am on a journey of self-improvement, focused on becoming a better person so that the woman I may consider as a potential wife won’t try to improve every aspect of my past inferior life choices.

That shuts them up.

ONCE UPON A TIME there was a man who never found a wife and he lived happily ever after. The End.

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