The creation of a MGTOW. I have FINALLY discovered who I am! (Long story)

[ReclaimerParticipant 40]

Becoming MGTOW has changed my life.

But for years I was depressed.

I don’t know if it was clinical depression or not. But I was sad. At one point I did seek help. The GP referred me to a counsellor, who turned out to be absolutely useless. Good money wasted for useless management techniques and information that I already knew.

So I went on living with sadness in my life.

It began right after the break up of my second engagement, in June 2003, the night of the Winter Solstice.
She had cheated on me with her best friend and her boyfriend.
Yes. A threesome. With Becky and Chad.
But she wouldn’t admit it was cheating. We were on a “break”. A break totally instigated by her. I didn’t want to split. I thought we were doing well. “It will be good for us” she said.

The smarter me now knows she wanted an excuse to f~~~ other people.
At the time it was DEVASTATING.

So on the night of Winter Solstice in 2003, after a week of denials, I finally got her to confess to the dirty deed.
I already knew. A mutual friend had confided in me. At first she said it was oral only, telling me there was no sex. But I saw through her lies. The admissions followed shortly after accompanied by crocodile tears.
Rather than roll over and take it, like I usually did, I immediately ended the relationship. Four years of “love” was now circling the drain.
Yes, it hurt. But I’d had enough!!!!
After a few weeks she stopped calling and texting.
I’d cut her off cold and never looked back.

I have not had a single long term relationship since that day.
For 13 years, 10 months, and approximately 13 days, I have not had a girlfriend.
For the entirety of my 30’s, I was single.

After the break-up in 2003, I rebounded pretty hard.
At first I thought I’d immediately found love again, with the flashy, super smart, gorgeous Italian princess.
I even told her I loved her. Unbelievably, she said it back!
We even moved in together. It was a whirlwind month.
But little did I know that she was seeing her ex on the side.
I ended it.

I then had a series of short term romances.
There was the beautiful tattooed nerd. Later discovered to be a self harming psychopath. I ended it.
Then the sexy Dutch barmaid. Later discovered to be an erotic dancer (don’t you dare call me a stripper!) I ended it.
The gorgeous 18yo Daddy’s girl whose sexual appetite was insatiable. She f~~~ed one of my mates. I ended it.
Finally the demure nurse and mum of one. Revealed later to have bipolar disorder and severe man issues. I ended it.

Since those experiences in 2003/2004, I have had only the odd random encounter.
I have dated sporadically, but could never last more than a few weeks.
I used to think there was something wrong with me.
Why didn’t girls want to be with me?
Why does she always choose Chad and not me?
When is it my turn for love?
Will I ever get married?

Then in early March 2017 I discovered MGTOW. It was through a random video on Youtube that popped up in my feed, while I was looking for videos with advice on dating.
After that video, I searched for more.
Every single one resonated in my soul. The experiences were very similar to mine. The beliefs fit into my core like a missing jigsaw piece. These videos showed me a better way of living my life.

Now that I have swallowed the red pill, happiness has been revealed!

I don’t need a woman to fulfill my life and my needs.
They have delivered nothing but broken promises. False dreams.
Lies, lies, and then more lies.
Half of them ended up riding the c~~~ carousel.

I DON’T NEED THEIR S~~~ IN MY LIFE!!!!
I REFUSE TO ALLOW MYSELF BE TREATED HORRIBLY BY THEM EVER AGAIN!!!!

I won’t waste another minute on romance or love.
I won’t waste another dollar.
I don’t ever want to have children.
I won’t let dating have control over my life anymore.

I will focus on the betterment of life, without the need for love.
I will chase my dreams.
I will take up those hobbies that I always wanted to do.
I will invest time into me, and become richer both financially and mentally.

I am over it.

I am now into it.

I am MGTOW.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Reclaimer,

Welcome brother.Before I became a MGTOW, I wanted to become a mining director, through working very hard and climbing the ladder. The mining industry pays very well. One of my colleagues, who was a Mining Engineer contractor, was getting paid $750K. He was going through a divorce and was so miserable. I just thought to myself “What is the point of all of this hard work?”. Do I need so much money to pursue my passion in Electronics Engineering? As I sat in my office chair, I said to myself “No!”. I got up, went to my boss’s office and put in my resignation.

Pursuing my passion costs me peanuts, so why would I work very long hours? As of now, I have never been so happy in my life. No longer I am confused about life.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Welcome, Reclaimer. Pleasure to have you aboard.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Welcome Reclaimer. A lot of pain brought you here. Likewise for many of us. You will find brotherhood among us. Thanks for sharing your story and I know it helps to write it out. We are here. We listen. I hope you are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Don’t worry, the light is the sun, not another train.

[Anonymous 0]

Why does this seem like Tuna?

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

Welcome Brother. You were MGTOW before you even knew what it was. Same story for me.

Reclaimer wrote:

For 13 years, 10 months, and approximately 13 days, I have not had a girlfriend.

Don’t do that to yourself. It is not important how much time has passed since you have had to put up with female s~~~. That is 13 years of FREEDOM! Don’t feel bad about it.

Reclaimer wrote:

I won’t waste another minute on romance or love.
I won’t waste another dollar.
I don’t ever want to have children.
I won’t let dating have control over my life anymore.
I will focus on the betterment of life, without the need for love.
I will chase my dreams.
I will take up those hobbies that I always wanted to do.
I will invest time into me, and become richer both financially and mentally.
I am over it.
I am now into it.
I am MGTOW.

.

^^^^^^ Bingo^^^^^

[MACHOParticipant]

Reclaimer wrote:

Becoming MGTOW has changed my life.

Welcome brother Reclaimer 😎 I read your whole intro! Tons of very red pills you had to swallow there! Grab yourself some beers 🍺🍺🍺 you are home among friends now.

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Why does this seem like Tuna?

I wondered this as well. Give the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings R,

Your Red Pill stories are too familiar and remind me of myself in my twenties.

Before I found MGTOW, I eventually learned to become more dominant in my thirties and developed some skills which made the subsequent women I f~~~ed physically “fall in love” me for a short period of time.
That was another big mistake.
What a waste of time!

Here is a link to a post that describes some of the hard earned skills developed while using the “girlfriend option:”

Hard-earned-strategies-used-while-engaging-the-girlfriend-option

Those “skills” and subsequent RelationS~~~S forced me to learn some more hard lessons about “Woman’s Nature.”
AWALT.

Even in the best circumstances that a dominant man can make with women, the old advice holds true,
“The f~~~ing you get, isn’t worth the f~~~ing that you’ll get.”

Reclaimer wrote:

…..But for years I was depressed…..

A lot of bright and creative men have down time, especially with all of the crap that is happening to us.

The dark clouds are ever present when we are clueless about what is happening to us.

The harsh truths of the parasitic behavior of women is frightening and their narcissism damages a man’s soul.

Here is a post that is an example found in nature which illustrates the fate of a man who is a Blue Pill slave:

Parasitic-jeweled-wasp

Cheer up my MGTOW brother, you have stumbled into a Gold Mine!

Keep digging into the Forums and study the Archives.

Anyway, most of us, including myself, are really grateful to you for signing up as a member and making your first Introduction.

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

YZF-R1 wrote:
Why does this seem like Tuna?
I wondered this as well. Give the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.

The question of a man’s Bonifides happens because MGTOW is under constant attack and there is an army feminist infiltrators attempting to put an end to MGTOW.com

Here are some tips to help you further establish your Bonifides:

Do not give out any information about yourself that will enable our Great Enemy to identify you.

I am going to ask you some questions that you are not required to answer.

The first reason I am asking is because I want you to think about what is waiting for you down the MGTOW road.

Too many men, especially myself, who have spent their time as Blue Pill slaves have had no lives during that time outside their marriage.
Blue Pill men generally have few hobbies, friends, future goals, and interests on the Plantation because all of a man’s resources, including mental/ time, are used up serving his adult child woman and HER children.

The Second reason has to do with establishing YOUR Bonifides.

Think about the origins of the practice of people clinking their glasses before drinking a toast.

This practice was developed to prevent murder by poison.

It is a matter of establishing trust.

Giving away unearned trust is a Big Mistake.

MGTOW’s should be encouraged to establish their Bonifides as soon as possible, preferably in their Introductions, and later earn that trust in the Forums.

Kindly share some stories of what YOUR life looks like now.

How old are you?

Education/ Training?

Work situation and career aspirations?

Where are you from?

What are those hobbies you wanted to explore?

What kind of fun things do YOU do?

What are your plans for the future?

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[ReclaimerParticipant 40]

MGTOW_Mike wrote:

Reclaimer,

Welcome brother.Before I became a MGTOW, I wanted to become a mining director, through working very hard and climbing the ladder. The mining industry pays very well. One of my colleagues, who was a Mining Engineer contractor, was getting paid $750K. He was going through a divorce and was so miserable. I just thought to myself “What is the point of all of this hard work?”. Do I need so much money to pursue my passion in Electronics Engineering? As I sat in my office chair, I said to myself “No!”. I got up, went to my boss’s office and put in my resignation.

Pursuing my passion costs me peanuts, so why would I work very long hours? As of now, I have never been so happy in my life. No longer I am confused about life.

I’ve come to believe that’s what MGTOW is all about. Taking care of number one! Glad you’ve found your happiness mate!
I feel like my journey has just begun!

[ReclaimerParticipant 40]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

Welcome, Reclaimer. Pleasure to have you aboard.

Thanks mate!

BlacqueJacqueShellacque wrote:

Welcome Reclaimer. A lot of pain brought you here. Likewise for many of us. You will find brotherhood among us. Thanks for sharing your story and I know it helps to write it out. We are here. We listen. I hope you are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Don’t worry, the light is the sun, not another train.

Writing it out did help a lot. Made me really think about what I went through, and how it relates to how I feel now.
I wouldn’t change any of those experiences, as they led me here!
I definitely dodged two bullets with those engagement rings I bought, and then took back.
The light is bright. I feel like running!

MarketWatcher wrote:

Welcome Brother. You were MGTOW before you even knew what it was. Same story for me.

Don’t do that to yourself. It is not important how much time has passed since you have had to put up with female s~~~. That is 13 years of FREEDOM! Don’t feel bad about it.

^^^^^^ Bingo^^^^^

I thought I needed a woman to be happy, when it was the complete opposite I really needed. Feels good mate!

Love the advice about the 13 years.
13 years of FREEEEEDOM! Sensational!

Welcome brother Reclaimer I read your whole intro! Tons of very red pills you had to swallow there! Grab yourself some beers you are home among friends now.

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Cheers mate. Looking back, most of the women in my history were needy or clingy, and just downright rotten when things didn’t go their way. I wasn’t the perfect partner, but I never asked more of them than I expected in return myself.
Plenty of red pill moments. Wish I had thought this way sooner, but at least I have finally seen the light!

How many of our poor brothers are stuck out there in loveless marriages, or being totally dominated by someone who wants total control of their lives.
I know a couple. When the moment arrives, I’ll be sure to tell them about my life and my choices.

[ReclaimerParticipant 40]

Anonymous wrote:

Why does this seem like Tuna?

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

YZF-R1 wrote:

Why does this seem like Tuna?

I wondered this as well. Give the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.

Hmmm. Not sure what a tuna is, but it’s definitely not a good thing.
Is it possible you think I’m a woman?

Well, I’m not. But you can’t know for sure.

Are there many ‘tunas’ around here?

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

There are a few trolls once in a while, but they get kicked out pretty quickly.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[Anonymous 1]

A warm welcome. We are conditioned to consider women as goddesses from the very start, so when things fell apart, we blame ourselves. It might be really hard to reverse engineered this conditioning, even after several failed relationships.

So, from now on, be your own man. Consider your own well being. We don’t need woman (well only for some sexual releases) to have fulfilled life.

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