that girl you fell inlove with never existed

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Was it love or the idea of being in love–pink floyd.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[EtrangereParticipant 706]

shovelheadrider , MGTOWBladerunner

Man I saw things just like you did , it was just a few months ago I took the red pill and see love for what it truly is. Men love women , women love children and animals, That is the true nature of how love works , and I’m quite sure that’s how it’s always worked. The rest is just Hollywood bulls~~~

[Anonymous 54]

The Batman 2020 wrote:

Women can only hold their fake personality for 9-12 months tops then the reptile starts to show.

When i wasnt married i would keep a girlfriend for this long.Thats how to keep a steady flow of sex in your life.Dont get married cause the sex stops.

[AFTParticipant 2725]

I think women love men like how I love cars,

when I was 20 I was in love with this beauty

Now it has aged I no longer love it and I love this lovely beauty, but I know that it fades.

When the war cemeteries are half full of the corpses of dead conscripted women, only then will women have earned the right to speak of equality. Sidecar “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.” - Bob Dylan

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I fell in love with a woman two years ago because she was exceptionally beautiful and therefore sexually desirable, showed signs of being emotionally scarred and therefore in need of my strength and support, showed indications of interest in me and therefore worth pursuing and made herself hard to get, therefore appearing to be selective and loyal.

It turned out she was just superficially attractive, deeply emotionally scarred, feigning interest in me and playing hard to get. Her entire objective from the start was to hold me close enough to extract time, energy, treasure and attention from me but far enough away to have to give little or nothing in return.

Love? Not even. It was insanity. I fell into a trap which took me the better part of a year to escape… and even though my eyes have been opened since then, I still can not think of her or see her picture without experiencing some lasting effects of her poison.

The woman I wanted her to be was what I fell for but it simply did not exist. On the positive side, she did not kill me and my experience with her has inoculated me against other women like her, so there is that.

[Anonymous 1]

Stargazer wrote:

I fell in love with a woman two years ago because she was exceptionally beautiful and therefore sexually desirable, showed signs of being emotionally scarred and therefore in need of my strength and support, showed indications of interest in me and therefore worth pursuing and made herself hard to get, therefore appearing to be selective and loyal.

I went through this, twice. Both very attractive and both emotionally damaged, beyond repair. The first one cut all contact suddenly after a year together. 2 days after telling me she loved me, she was gone and in a relationship with a new man a week later. I was in bits, the pain was unbearable, each day was a new nightmare.

The second was a serial cheat, an emotional bully and a violent c~~~. It took me a long time to get to the realisation that this cannont continue. I ended the relationship and she’s tried to come back several times but i’m protected now. I haven’t heard from her in some time so i do believe the charade is over.

Stargazer wrote:

The woman I wanted her to be was what I fell for but it simply did not exist. On the positive side, she did not kill me and my experience with her has inoculated me against other women like her, so there is that.

This is so true. I’m still hurting from the last relationship. NEVER again.

airborne toxic event – sometime around midnight.
This lyrics sum up my feelings so beautifully. raw emotion.

[EtrangereParticipant 706]

I still can not think of her or see her picture without experiencing some lasting effects of her poison.

I’m with you Doc. I still think of Laura from time to time and we split up last September. It’s getting less frequent though as I’m super busy at work. I think that is the way to get rid of it. Make yourself busy and it fades with time. I know I post tons of TFM videos , but this one…though depressing is on point : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgeAQMcxZ-M

It’s funny how a womans love is compared to a love of cars above because that metaphor is used in the video

[narwhalParticipant]

I agree with everyone that a woman will adapt to your personality and then change when she thinks your hooked. Also agree that we tend to fill in the gaps of what we know about a person with positive things. Thus, that perfect girl is not really that perfect. I also think there’s a third aspect though.

I don’t trust my memory, particularly when it comes to emotions. I’ve heard people my age (40s) talking about how they’ve never been in love, yet they have been married, several kids, etc. Have they never been in love, or as has too much time passed? Did the person they loved change, making it difficult for them to see the person they fell for originally?

And of course, we’re referring to love as an emotion, which isn’t really the best definition. It’s an verb, and action. When asking the question of whether you loved someone or not, should you think about how you feel about them now, or how you remember feeling? Should you think about what you did for that person?

I don’t always like my kids. I don’t always want them around me. I get upset with them from time to time. But I know I love them, and always have. Did I love my ex-wife? I don’t feel for her now, and I can’t recall how I felt for her then. Perhaps I was just going through the motions. But there are no doubt there is a mountain of what appears to be actions designed to make her happy. Did I have ulterior motives? Was it all ultimately about getting what I wanted indirectly? Maybe. But if you ask me if I’ve ever been in love, I’m going to say yes because I know what I’ve done and what I’m capable of.

Now, will I do the same for some other woman? Highly unlikely.

Ok. Then do it.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

narwhal wrote:

I agree with everyone that a woman will adapt to your personality and then change when she thinks your hooked.

I have no doubt that this happens as well, but in the situation I was describing, she didn’t change… I just imagined her to be something she wasn’t. That was totally on me.

Sure, she was trying to maintain… to appear solid and normal despite her troubles… but I can’t blame a person for that. If I had gone in with my senses tuned to reality, I would have seen her for what she was and avoided her, but I didn’t want to see the reality, I wanted to believe… and it cost me.

Feminists talk about internalized misogyny but few people talk about men wanting to see the best expression of a woman’s potential as her reality. More subtle than a pedestal or the “Madonna” complex, I looked at this woman and saw what I believed she COULD be and then held that standard up in my mind… but it was a bar too high for her to reach. Even if she had been able to see that same potential in herself and wanted to reach it, she couldn’t.

For me, that was the worst part of blue pill thinking… the things I did and said for women in hopes that they would become the thing I believed them to be… tragic, to say the least.

[EtrangereParticipant 706]

I looked at this woman and saw what I believed she COULD be and then held that standard up in my mind… but it was a bar too high for her to reach. Even if she had been able to see that same potential in herself and wanted to reach it, she couldn’t.

For me, that was the worst part of blue pill thinking… the things I did and said for women in hopes that they would become the thing I believed them to be… tragic, to say the least.

the same holds true for me. I am embarrassed by how naive I was , how foolish I was. Well , my eyes are open now at the age of 49.

[shovelheadriderParticipant 2400]

When you have a girl that gets your dick breathing like a catfish head it cuts off blood for the big head.This blood loss makes hallucinating thoughts

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