Stop Explaining Yourself

[Anonymous 3]

I still see this here occasionally, guys explaining themselves. It’s time to bury this six feet under once and for all.

YOU DON’T EXPLAIN YOURSELF.

People ask you, the typical rhetorical questions: Why don’t you get married? Why do you stay single? Aren’t you afraid of being alone? Why don’t you date? Why do you hate women? Did you get hurt in the past?

And even here in this place, you still see guys responding to such questions as if we’re the ones who has got to do the explaining. How, I don’t get married because the system right now is toxic, the courts are biased, or I don’t hate women because I love women, just not the bad ones. Save your breathe. All you’re doing is making it seem as if you’re the wrong one. You’re not.

You simply don’t answer those questions. You just don’t. The people who ask these stupid questions, they’re the ones who have to explain. They’re the ones who should be telling you, why you should be doing those things in the first place.

Why don’t I get married? How about you sell me marriage? Why should I get married in the first f~~~ing place?

Why do I hate women? How about you tell me why I shouldn’t hate women, with all the information out there?

Why are you MGTOW? The f~~~? MGTOW is the default state of a man. It’s what we are, in our most natural, basic, spiritual state. Again, you are the one, who has to explain, and sell me the idea, of why I should leave MGTOW and do your cute little way of life, not the other way around. I don’t have to explain s~~~ to you.

They’re the salesmen, selling marriage and women, not us. We don’t have to sell MGTOW, it’s the default position. And a salesman doesn’t ask, why aren’t you buying this, no, they’re explaining to you, why you should be buying this because of this and this, that’s the way it should be. You have it all twisted.

So what do you do? You give him 5 seconds to sell you their stupid product, then you slam the door on his f~~~ing face, and you go about your day.

Don’t let them come to your door and make YOU explain yourself.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

YOU DON’T EXPLAIN YOURSELF.

Epic.

Anonymous wrote:

They’re the salesmen, selling marriage and women

… and they aren’t very good at it either.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[JimBoLeaParticipant 1891]

THE PATHWAY TO MY FRONT DOOR IS CHAINED WITH A LOCK. I DON’T GET ANY VISITORS, I LIKE IT THAT WAY. CALL ME ANTI-SOCIAL BUT THAT’S ME. IT MAKES ME HAPPY 🙂

LILITH IS THE HEAD SUCCUBUS AND SHE LIVES ON THE DARK SIDE OF THE MOON

[Ned TrentParticipant 4894]

hey man you’re back, long time no see…

Anonymous wrote:

And even here in this place, you still see guys responding to such questions as if we’re the ones who has got to do the explaining. How, I don’t get married because the system right now is toxic, the courts are biased, or I don’t hate women because I love women, just not the bad ones. Save your breathe.

Well yes, that’ll be the best timing for the cue of “the empty chair” right there…

I'd rather die a natual death with a clear MGTOW conscience somewhere off the grid than one within "modern" civilisation with a big stress mark on my forehead and a couple of dozen tubes plugged into my body. Back to the plantation..? Me..? Hey, literally: I won't ever fucking kid myself...YZERLMNTSIC

[Anonymous 1]

I totally agree, and I dare to add something else, stop giving them your informations/ideas. Women will use those against you or will simply spread those around to random people, and you will be seen as a creep or anything else in a mind of a bluepill/mangina/c~~~.

Don’t give ’em a flying f~~~, answer with questions, answer with bulls~~~ cooked for the best morons and see how they react.

“How much do you make per year?”
“It depends on the quantity that I sell each year”
“What do you sell?”
“I sell stuff”
“What stuff?”
“Hugh Mungus wot?”

They will see you as a closed book, and they can spend all day long wondering why you are closed, in the meanwhile you are having fun doing your stuff, and they are wasting their time.

[experiencedParticipant]

Great advice.
Key is to see it coming, anticipate.
“Triggers” like: “Why………..” should sound the Klaxon.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

experienced wrote:

Great advice.
Key is to see it coming, anticipate.
“Triggers” like: “Why………..” should sound the Klaxon.

Anything that ends with question mark triggers me.
I learned a trick from the movie zootopoia (I know a kids movie). The fox schools the rabbit to answer a different question. So when she s~~~ tests you. ‘Did I upset you?’ You answer, “of course not your hair looks great” or “yes, when I get rid of this headache.” It’s amusing.

http://changingminds.org/techniques/questioning/dodging_question.htm

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

FrostByte wrote:

Anything that ends with question mark

When anyone wants to provoke, question or get you to explain yourself, there are 4 very effective replies to always have at the ready:

• “That’s interesting. Why would you ASK that?”
• “That’s interesting. Why would you SAY that?”
• “That’s interesting. Why would you DO that?”
• “That’s interesting. Why would you THINK that?”

Without answering them, you will be amazed what will be reflected back to you….. and they do ALL the work. They tried to make it about you, but if you flip it, it ends up being all about them while you reveal nothing.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

that’s goddamn right. in a conversation, the one asking the questions is in control. if you’re explaining yourself, you’re answering a question. Instead, ask a question back. you explain yourself to me.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Well said, man. I’d hate to be the person who provoked this. They’re probably lying in an ice bath in a burn unit somewhere right about now.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

You make a great point. Explaining to these people won’t do any good. I think a lot of guys do it so others will understand. However, the people that ask these questions don’t care. They’ve already made up their minds about you. They’ve formulated this idea of you in their head, and they want you to scramble to prove them wrong. You don’t need to explain s~~~ because you didn’t do anything wrong. And even if you do explain then that means you’re mansplaining so who gives a f~~~?

You don’t owe them an explanation. These people are so dogmatic, that they won’t even entertain another point of view, they’ll just blindly follow what they’re told. The fact that they don’t even know is reason enough not to answer. MGTOWs don’t care, and most of us don’t even feel the need to explain why because it should be pretty f~~~ing obvious why if you have two brain cells to rub together.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[DJKevgeezParticipant 141]

JimBoLea wrote:

THE PATHWAY TO MY FRONT DOOR IS CHAINED WITH A LOCK. I DON’T GET ANY VISITORS, I LIKE IT THAT WAY. CALL ME ANTI-SOCIAL BUT THAT’S ME. IT MAKES ME HAPPY

I like that

[PenumbraParticipant 41]

My humble take on this:
As Men, we have a deep need to make sense. Even when we are certain of our Road we like to every now and then check in with other minds to reassure ourselves of our stance. Just to check that we are not completely insane.

But women don’t have this need.
They don’t need to make sense.
They only want to know what we are to them – what utility we have.
They are not interested in what we truly are.

They do not care for our well being.
They are not our natural allies.
Give them nothing.

Every man dies. Not every man lives.

[John DoeParticipant 743]

Silverstone the Second wrote:

You make a great point. Explaining to these people won’t do any good. I think a lot of guys do it so others will understand. However, the people that ask these questions don’t care. They’ve already made up their minds about you. They’ve formulated this idea of you in their head, and they want you to scramble to prove them wrong. You don’t need to explain s~~~ because you didn’t do anything wrong. And even if you do explain then that means you’re mansplaining so who gives a f~~~?
You don’t owe them an explanation. These people are so dogmatic, that they won’t even entertain another point of view, they’ll just blindly follow what they’re told. The fact that they don’t even know is reason enough not to answer. MGTOWs don’t care, and most of us don’t even feel the need to explain why because it should be pretty f~~~ing obvious why if you have two brain cells to rub together.

This^

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Always ask: “What’s in it for me?”

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

My response is to ask” “Why do you need to know?” They don’t neex to know, so it shows them that they are butting into your private life without your permission.

[solitudeParticipant 346]

Keymaster wrote:

FrostByte wrote:

Anything that ends with question mark

When anyone wants to provoke, question or get you to explain yourself, there are 4 very effective replies to always have at the ready:

• “That’s interesting. Why would you ASK that?”
• “That’s interesting. Why would you SAY that?”
• “That’s interesting. Why would you DO that?”
• “That’s interesting. Why would you THINK that?”

Without answering them, you will be amazed what will be reflected back to you….. and they do ALL the work. They tried to make it about you, but if you flip it, it ends up being all about them while you reveal nothing.

“Oh I was just being curious” Ugh

Response: “What positions does your wife enjoy the most?” “Just curious.”

[KimmurielParticipant 480]

Explanation renders you guilty. Either fight or fly away

"You meet a few exceedingly forsaken, Sit around the cooler refusing domestication" Aesop Rock

[SunStormParticipant 1277]

JimBoLea wrote:

THE PATHWAY TO MY FRONT DOOR IS CHAINED WITH A LOCK. I DON’T GET ANY VISITORS, I LIKE IT THAT WAY. CALL ME ANTI-SOCIAL BUT THAT’S ME. IT MAKES ME HAPPY

Snap.

I feel guilty that I should make more time for people, but mostly I feel bored in other people’s company. Don’t know what it is, I just feel most people don’t have a clue about most things and it’s pointless to try to tell them because no one really is prepared to reconsider their own opinions. I just feel like the guy with a big secret which no one can understand, and since they can’t get on my level I will sit here blissfully up on my cloud.

I’m not boasting, it’s just what it feels like to be a self actualised independent man.

[DanceMyOwnWayParticipant 2096]

Anonymous wrote:

I still see this here occasionally, guys explaining themselves. It’s time to bury this six feet under once and for all.

YOU DON’T EXPLAIN YOURSELF.

People ask you, the typical rhetorical questions: Why don’t you get married? Why do you stay single? Aren’t you afraid of being alone? Why don’t you date? Why do you hate women? Did you get hurt in the past?

And even here in this place, you still see guys responding to such questions as if we’re the ones who has got to do the explaining. How, I don’t get married because the system right now is toxic, the courts are biased, or I don’t hate women because I love women, just not the bad ones. Save your breathe. All you’re doing is making it seem as if you’re the wrong one. You’re not.

You simply don’t answer those questions. You just don’t. The people who ask these stupid questions, they’re the ones who have to explain. They’re the ones who should be telling you, why you should be doing those things in the first place.

Why don’t I get married? How about you sell me marriage? Why should I get married in the first f~~~ing place?

Why do I hate women? How about you tell me why I shouldn’t hate women, with all the information out there?

Why are you MGTOW? The f~~~? MGTOW is the default state of a man. It’s what we are, in our most natural, basic, spiritual state. Again, you are the one, who has to explain, and sell me the idea, of why I should leave MGTOW and do your cute little way of life, not the other way around. I don’t have to explain s~~~ to you.

They’re the salesmen, selling marriage and women, not us. We don’t have to sell MGTOW, it’s the default position. And a salesman doesn’t ask, why aren’t you buying this, no, they’re explaining to you, why you should be buying this because of this and this, that’s the way it should be. You have it all twisted.

So what do you do? You give him 5 seconds to sell you their stupid product, then you slam the door on his f~~~ing face, and you go about your day.

Don’t let them come to your door and make YOU explain yourself.

Another excellent post to bookmark. I get this a lot from women trying to s~~~ test me and from bluepillers trying to make sense of my behaviour or shame it. I naturally flip the script or sometimes answer very straightforwardly depending on how I feel, but I will be equally direct with them. However I do disagree with this post on one point. I think there are times we SHOULD answer these questions – WHEN it is coming from a man who is on the verge of taking the red pill. This man is not asking questions for entrapment or shaming purposes. He is asking because he sees something different in a MGHOW’s behaviour and is puzzled and affected by it. He doesn’t yet have the framework to understand it. He may even still spit out blue pill thinking or feminist conditioning but that man is a future MGHOW and answering his questions and explaining what we are and what we do SAVES LIVES.

If you fall down 7 times, get up 8

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