Dumelang (greetings) from Pretoria, South Africa MGTOW men, its been about a year since I last posted here, (Staying With Abusive Single Mom-Please Help) this post and I’m back to update anyone who might have been wandering wtf happened between me and my crazy single mom. And Im hoping for some good advice like last time…
On the positive, i managed to get myself into aviation school and pay more than 60% of the fees, my moms cousin had to force her to pay the remaining balance…I passed all my tests and exams with distinctions in March, I am now a licensed flight attendant. Also, I’m getting good pay writing feature articles for an international website run by a multi-billion dollar beverage company… They pay me good money, about 500 Euros a month, depending on how many stories i submit, and great thing is I work from home. Its really wonderful and not a day goes by that Im not thankful, the money actually helped me pay for some of my flight school fees. I’ve also made really great friends who are supportive, we go to gym, play PlayStation, and chill like lazy Mexicans sipping taquila under a cactus… thats the good…
The negative is that Im still staying with my crazy mom, infact just a few months after my original post she called the police on me while i was upstairs in my room,(this was the 5th time) she called me down and when i came down there were two armed cops, male and female waiting for me with a restraining order, the female cop was completely silent, it was the male cop who was simping like crazy, aggressively intimidating me and asking my mom to give him permission to search my room for weed so he can have an excuse to arrest me. So in the document my mother wrote details of all the fights we had going back more than ten years, some exaggerated, some half truths (she left out the part where she stabbed me on Christmas 2012 and sprayed me with acid drain cleaner because i had just got my first salary and she felt entitled to half of it), but mostly lies…Not only that, the first thing she said on the document was that the international beverage company that’s been supporting me wants nothing to do with me cos of my “violence towards women” which was complete bull s~~~ cos Im still working with them today, infact the editor is a British woman who really supports me the way i wish my mom would [sic, i see why they say white women are more feminine], hell, she just approved a 200 Euro invoice on Monday hahaha. But Somehow, mom found out about the post I made here on MGTOW.COM and she lost it! She said that I’m vindicating her name and talking s~~~ about her on the internet, more BS cos i never spoke about my mom online until that MGTOW post..Even then I was completely anonymous using a false name and profile pic. She also wrote about how i smoke weed and its making me violent and aggressive and its scaring her..The document said that i should appear in court within a few weeks to explain myself otherwise the restraining order would be made official and i wouldnt be allowed anywhere near her or her place of work, and if she finds out I still smoke weed in the yard she will call police to kick me out…Basically it was a document telling me she has legal power to kick me out on the streets at any time unless i submit to her like a good little puppy,,
Not going into too much detail about all the s~~~ she did prior to me going to flight school, but by the time i had to appear in court, i was already at flight school (hahaha) and she doesnt wanna talk about that incident, presumably because she lied about the beverage company and she knew if they found out they would cut me off for good due to branding concerns and that would begin a whole new war between us…Fast forward to yesterday, she came back home from work irritable as f~~~ from as always and starting bitching about how the curtains and windows are closed, “they should be open cos its summer” but i told her when i open the curtains and windows you complain that the sunlight burns your furniture, or that its too cold, or too much dust enters the house…The argument heated, we swore at each other so loudly neighbors could hear us, then i called her a stupid bitch after she called me a pathetic son, but the main reason i said that is cos she was begging for me to hit her…I wanted to record her pn my phone saying it, she refused and thats why i called her a stupid bitch cos she thinks im stupid enough to fall for that ‘women abuse’ trick…
When she left for work in the morning, i found a note saying “on this day my son called me a stupid beech” lol she cant spell bitch, and there was a sad face drawn on it…Then her cousin called me saying mom told him what happened, so lets talk about it…But i told him to chill, its nothing to worry about, dont feel sorry for her cos thats what she wants…
…Thing is i actually found a place to stay, right down the road at my friends house. When his brother moves to New Zealand in a few months, his bro says I can move into the house provided i have a stable job to pay the rent. Im still searching for cabin crew jobs, but i’m confident something will pop up soon, not to mention with this writing money i could pay the relatively cheap rent without touching my main salary…Its just a matter of time…
But you see, for the first time i have no regrets about calling her a dumb bitch and telling her to f~~~ off, i actually told this to her cousin, he said its wrong but i dont care…Im so focused on my writing, theres editors in Europe I’ve never met in person approving my invoices and recommending me to other editors…Im making dope muscle gains in the gym, my aviation career is about to take off (long term plan is to become a helicopter pilot) im generally in a good space (not comfortable) but im happy, im focused and working towards my goals at a pace i can cope with based on the resources I have,,whenever im in this zone this is when she has her outbursts to try and put me down emotionally and psychologically cos for years shes been telling me I will never amount to nothing, then switch like a schizo and say she wants the best for me, she loves me. So I’ve come to the conclusion that though a small part of her wants the best for me, more of her actually wants to see me stay with her forever so she can have somebody to bash and kick around, and keep her company cos she is 61 years old now, shes getting old and her worst fear is growing old alone and im her only child. Even with all the money shes getting from her comfy government job, she is a very lonely old woman.. But the irony is, she keeps threatening to kick me out, but when i was at flight school for a month, she texted every second day saying she missess me…Very chaotic and confused woman, I feel like ive given her 31 years of my life, i can never get those years back, so now Im giving her the middle finger as i prepare to literally fly away…She will grow old alone in her big mansion, and i wont feel sorry for her, cos she made her own bed, now she can lie in it…
Am i evil for not pitying her?
Monk 1 year, 4 months ago.
