So what now?

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Hello everyone, I recently got out of an 8 year relationship, at least I think I did. I feel like she’s keeping me waiting around on her. She is having a hard time with work and blames that for her every problem which I feel is bulls~~~. Maybe it really is over. I haven’t seen her in about six months and have barely texted. My question is what now? I feel like I’m waiting around for something. I have hardly any friends I can hang out with, so aside from work there isn’t much to do. S~~~ is frustrating. What now?

[TaxGuyParticipant]

First off, welcome.

As far as what to do now, whatever the hell you want to do. It can be a hard concept to understand because you have been conditioned to do for others first.

First off, take care of yourself. Then just give it some time and try to figure out what interests you have. Then pursue those interests. Try to be patient with yourself, it will come with time.

Oh yeah, forget about her. One chance, per person, per lifetime. She burned her chance with you. Never go backwards in relationships. Trying again is WAY too much drama.

One chance, per person, per lifetime.

Order the good wine

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Thanks for the welcome Taxguy, I have seen many of your post before. Thanks for your comment. I just can’t seem to shake this nagging feeling that maybe I was the one at fault even though I did everything I could for her except buy her a house (where she wanted, and only where she wanted) and give her a kid or two. But I’m glad I avoided that trap at 28 years old. I feel like maybe she had only good intentions, or maybe I am just lying to myself, but the question still remains….what am I waiting for?

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

What are you waiting for? Maybe you are just like me, a slow starter….. Many even wondered if I’d heard the whistle.

Do you hear it?

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Hello chaff/flare, I guess I am a slow starter, seeing as how this is the only real relationship I have ever been in it’s hard to accept and move past this. But what do you mean by slow starter? What am I starting on now? Certainly not another relationship. I guess I just can’t believe how a person you were so close to for so long can treat you like utter s~~~ for no apparent reason. I have read so much on here about how women treat men and I’m thankful I didn’t get more involved than I did, but I still can’t believe how it happened to me. Maybe I’m still in shock over the whole situation.

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

Time fixes everything sooner or later brother. Be patient, work on yourself in all ways and think deeply about who you are and what you really need and want.

Hopefully sooner rather than later you will realise how blessed you are to be free. The men on here have vast and precious knowledge. Take advantage of it.

[SandalsParticipant 4254]

Workhard wrote:

I have hardly any friends I can hang out with, so aside from work there isn’t much to do. S~~~ is frustrating. What now?

Take a vacation in Bangkok. When you get there, you’ll know what to do.

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Thanks for your comment maxpower, that is the reason I joined, because I saw so many men willing to extend their knowledge to people they have never met and never will meet. It really does give me a sense of gratitude that people can still be that way.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

RPB said it. Listen brotha, when you cut yourself, do you look at your wound every hour and say “what the fuc, heal”?

What you have to understand about men is that they take into account the entirety of the relationship, the good times, the fun, the love and the promises. As hard as it is to fathom, women just care about the now… What have you done for me today?

Learn something that you have always wanted to learn:
Rock climbing, flying, scuba.. Whatever. Just make sure it’s challenging and something that excites you…that’s when you will hear the whistle

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Now that you mention it Chaff, that explains why everytime I would buy her a gift or take her to an expensive restaurant I would get laid that night and be bitched out for no reason the next day…

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

I guess I just need to feel like I’m not the asshole she made me out to be. I feel like deep down I’m not an asshole, that maybe she made me that way by being around her. But who can judge that?

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Are you an asshole?

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Workhard wrote:

Now that you mention it Chaff, that explains why everytime I would buy her a gift or take her to an expensive restaurant I would get laid that night and be bitched out for no reason the next day…

Dude, read more in the relations~~~s and marriage sections. This s~~~ is textbook. Don’t feel stupid, we all had to learn it

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

No I’m not…but is she an asshole? I can’t figure out whose to blame, I did what I could and it was never enough.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

^^^^^^^^^^ do above, you’ll see.

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[Anonymous 43]

lol the expensive restaurant thing…Oh how wonderful that you took me out lets go home and weaken the springs on the bed,

The next day… why did you take me to that expensive restaurant, I could have used that money on a new pair of shoes. Oh and you missed a spot when you shoveled snow at 4am this morning. See to it that never happens again, use a teaspoon if necessary. You can be replaced, you know.

[Anonymous 43]

hmm I did everything I could and it was never enough….

Yep, been down that road.

Did you frantically bring every object in the house to her to anticipate some future random need, glass of water, a salad, a pillow off the bed, some of the kids toys, an old spark plug from the lawn mower, some string, a left shoe, a fork, the book from her night stand, a postage stamp, then move a bookcase a foot to the left, open the window, rubbing lotion on her forehead…

[Anonymous 43]

best part of yr deal…relationship, not married, no legal or financial bulls~~~. Good job my man. I salute your good fortune. Sa Lute! and she’s been gone 6 months no contact even better.

Woot, I think we saved one here fellas!

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Hi 4thGEN and welcome to the forums. It seems you want people to tell you what to do, but there is no step by step bullet point guide book that you need to do now. The good thing about this site is we are here to guide you and teach you but you have to be the one to decide what is right for you because at the end of the day you are the only one that is going to live your life. With that said I understand your confusion we have all been where you are right now.

The first thing I would recommend you do is read up and watch this video on Briffault’s Law. Once you watch this you will understand the nature of women and there was nothing wrong that you did. You could have given her a golden palace with male servants to do what ever she wanted with along with all the money in the world and it would never have been enough. That is the first thing you should do is stop blaming yourself you are not at fault.

Second thing I would recommend is never ever get back together with her ever again. One chance per person per life time and there is a reason for that. She is right now riding the c~~~ carousel trying to find someone who she can leech off of because of her hypergamy it is in her nature all women are like that (AWALT). As soon as she finds someone with higher value to her than you that is interested in her and is willing to be her provider you are done and this has already most likely happend. Nothing you can do about this it is common do not beat yourself up about this. You don’t owe her a house, or a kid, nothing. The only thing that she has to offer you is her vagina, and if you think sex is love think again. Women do not love the same way guys do it is not in their nature. They only love what you can do for them at that moment and men are brainwashed into thinking females are more loving because they are emotional on a higher level as compared to men. But that is not the case men are capable of being just as emotional when they want to be and women have the ability to turn off emotions like a light switch. That is why she was able to leave you and not think twice about what she was doing to you because she turned her emotions off for you and moved on. This is where the red pill rage comes in because most guys who are sane are unable to do that and we can’t understand how they can just not love us anymore. Once you learn this is their nature the rage will subside and you will be at peace knowing you woke up finally to what really happens behind the hamster wheel brain of theirs.

Do not hate women, they will always be this way and will never change as this has been going on for thousands of years the only difference is we live in the information and technology age and are able to finally figure out all their secrets. If you need sex buy a fleshlight, watch porn or get an escort. Do stuff that you always wanted to do but never could because she would never let you in the past. You are off the plantation, you are no longer a slave and are free to do whatever you want. If you have to have a relationship with a new woman never invite her to your house always go to hers for the sex and never ever cohabitate with a woman period. Never pay rent bill for them if you do it could be considered support that the courts could use against you even if you don’t live with each other. Don’t tell them your secrets, they use that against you to manipulate you. You probably don’t have many friends now because that was her plan to isolate you and make sure you would be a beta orbiter to provide for her in case her monkey branching from one guy to the next didn’t work out. Her plan is to keep you in this state you are currently in so she can monkey branch back to you. Eventually she will try to manipulate her way back into your life, you need to block her phone number, get her off all your social media if you can and just live your life. My advice is get off all social media if you can as well it will be better for your well being as social media is a construct of gynocentric ideology.

There are great people here to assist you in whatever you want to do just ask if you are not sure read the forums here and also there are great books that you can read that are listed in the book section of this website like The Manipulated Man for example good book to read. Remember you are not at fault, do not blame yourself blame her for her behavior don’t give her the pussy pass just because she is female. She is a human being and she wronged you on so many levels one day you will open your eyes and see all the bad stuff she did to you that society taught you was ok for her to do. One day her looks will be gone and she will hit the wall and look ugly I know it is tempting to go back to her but don’t do it. Hope that helps remember we are here for you.

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

Workhard wrote:

Thanks for your comment maxpower, that is the reason I joined, because I saw so many men willing to extend their knowledge to people they have never met and never will meet. It really does give me a sense of gratitude that people can still be that way.

You are welcome mate.

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