link to the other thread I made about the first week volunteering at the same kitchen
Okay, first of all, just for an introduction, I have been volunteering at this kitchen for about three months now and one reason why I volunteered is because I wish to get some kitchen experience to work in some sort of food preparation job one day. Throughout my time there, I had to deal with one girl there who is this sort of feminist/liberal type(because liberalism and feminism goes hand and hand) cook manager who I sort of had a problem with but then she was a bit tamed during the last few months there after I sort of realized what her problem was with me.
Like I said in the other thread from what I remembered, the first day that I saw the female cook manager there, she brought up that she was reading books on feminism to this probably female feminist volunteer there, and then I opened up my big mouth and wanted to have a discussion about it but I couldn’t, and then I thought that that was the reason why she did not really like me. The real reason though was because she also heard me saying that I wish to become a prep cook one day, and then she thought that that sort of outlook in life that I have made her think that I wanted to take her job one day as a cook manager there for some reason . I realized this, because a string of events happened after that day and just please trust my judgement, but I really think that I am right on this, because I guess that at that time, she probably saw how serious I took the job in terms of food preparation compared to everyone else that was volunteering there, and maybe she thought that that alone would make me a good candidate to take her job if I would somehow volunteer there for a year like she had at least before she got that job too.
Compared to the other cook manager who was a male that I dealt with also who was also some sort of food prep pro, who even showed me a bit of his way of prepping things to go along with what I learned off of youtube videos myself, the female cook manager I mentioned before was actually not much of an expert of actual food production, but I guess that they hired her because she knew how to speak three languages fluently(I later found out that she spoke this third language that came out of no where towards like my third month there) and I guess she had this personality that goes well with the cook manager job where she wears this sort of social mask just to try to get along with a long range of people as possible.
In the end though, I guess that what I said about that she probably thought that I was a threat to her job is right, because I had to do a lot of convincing in an indirect way to basically convince her that it is not the case, and only then did she not be as toxic against me as much anymore. Meanwhile, the male cook manager who is a prepping pro is the sort of guy who even if he doesn’t like you, he will still be professional with you to the point that he would even help you learn to prep if you ask, and he will help you with great care, because he probably knows that he is so awesome in food prep that he doesn’t have to worry about anyone taking his job, because he is that awesome.
This is what I learned throughout the three months there. I did a conflict management online program a while ago, and one thing I learned there from the message boards and not from the actual knowledge you have to study is that sometimes, being too direct can create controversy. The only way to deal with this female cook manager there sometimes is to communicate with her indirectly, just like she would communicate with me indirectly too with her toxic personality. So most of the times, I had to indirectly communicate with her to rest her fears that I did not even want her job because if I said it directly, she would probably just deny everything.
So in the end, her strengths is not with the actual prep cooking, but probably with her communication skills, weather it is through speaking three languages, or through being indirect or direct and she probably has this cooking show like personality to boot, but I do feel that she can be fake with me with her personality at times but I didn’t care, because all I really cared was to do my thing.
Now, Quebec get’s really cold in the winter, so after volunteering for three months there, and then after I then felt the really cold winter, I decided that it is not really worth taking the bus and metro and bus again in the cold to work for free, while also having to deal with some toxicity there which to me is just child’s play all at the same time for free also. I might go back there again though next year when the weather is better, but I might just find a job in the kitchen by then too hopefully.
From the conflict management program, the definition of a conflict is with two or more interests are being threatened, and in order to deal with the conflict, sometimes it is best to calm the person your dealing with’s fears if their interests in being threatened. I really was not looking for any problem, because I just wanted to volunteer, yet this female cook manager I was dealing with just had to look for one, and it was even obvious that she was gossiping about to the administration there too about me, while I never said anything bad about anyone to anyone else there to anyone else there just for the sake of being professional. I also did everything the administration asked me to do and even hinted me to do too, and no matter what bad things they said about me, they cannot take what I did for them away from me. Just wanted to let you guys updated. Thanks.
"Question everything" - Albert Einstein
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