Slightly abused, and caught up on her 'cool' job – flight nurse

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Can someone on the outside objectively tell me that this woman was a bitch/user? That her job wasnt/isnt really that cool?

I am in narcissitic fog here, she over and over said how badass she was, about how Army bases ‘were s~~~ and they called us all the time’ and how nearby states ‘had terrible medical, we have to save them all the time’, so my trusting nature at the time was like ‘wow, she REALLY is cool!’ How she is ‘1 of 9 nurses in the state that are qualified to do this procedure’ ‘we alone get to use night vision goggles’.

With her built up of herself, and her beat downs of my activities, I stopped enjoying things like riding motorcycles because she said how dumb, dangerous, immature etc they are.

Throughout my day I catch myself thinking ‘wow, that bitch did some crazy damage to me, glad she is out.’ but then I will correct myself to ‘she was just trying to be nice, she didnt want to hurt me.’

Was this bitch a narcissitic manipulator? I am lost in the fog of her endless words, I want to hate her, to feel betrayed by lies, to realize 90% of her words were hurtful, but then I see her coy smile ‘I never meant to hurt you~!’ and I loosely believe it. God damn.
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[MyselfParticipant 353]

Look man, you come here to a forum of Men (do you understand what that word means?) and ask us, quote:

LightBringer wrote:

Can someone on the outside objectively tell me that this woman was a bitch/user? That her job wasnt/isnt really that cool?

Dude, she has a cool job. SO F~~~ING WHAT? Stop being a pussy and deal with it. Seriously.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

You have to stop trying to reason this out with emotions for a train of thought.
It will only end as a train wreck in your head…or in this case, a bullet-train train wreck.

LightBringer wrote:

Can someone on the outside objectively tell me that this woman was a bitch/user?

You have been told objectively, repeatedly. The question now is, can you listen to it objectively, or will you continue to listen emotionally?

LightBringer wrote:

That her job wasnt/isnt really that cool?

So what, she has a cool job. The issue isn’t about her, it’s about you validating (invalidating) yourself as her being your standard. This is how you got in the mess in the first place, and how she manipulated you with it.

Your choice regarding this is simple:

A. Continue to base your self worth (or lack there of) on what she has said about you.
B, Start going your own way, and base your self worth off of what YOU think about yourself.

Myself wrote:

Stop being a pussy and deal with it. Seriously.

You may think it’s harsh, but it’s spot on. call it tough love, us trying to shake you to your senses, but she has got you pussy whipped,
IF you opt for option A

LightBringer wrote:

and I loosely believe it.

And that is why you are failing…hoping to get through, it is a tough pill to swallow.
Sometimes it’s too much for the mind and it pops, to quote from The Matrix

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

Oh one of those “Put me down” bitches eh?.

Yup, had my fair share of those. One of them even made me question my skilled profession at one time (carpentry and flooring). Even the way I wash dishes was put down as well as house cleaning!!!. I eventually had to snap out of it like a bad dream, because, like in your case it “f~~~ed me up” for a while at least.

Best advice I can give, is totally ignore and go ghost with this female. You ride your bike to a restaurant, she shows up?. Ignore her and act like she ain’t
even there.

She tries to call or text?, DON’T answer it. She shows up at your place?, call the cops.

Bulls~~~, f~~~ her and the horse she rode in on. EMT, yeah that’s a great job, don’t get me wrong. However when a Female puts down your passion, hopes and dreams?, that it when a very fine line is crossed!. You’re better then that, so don’t let it f~~~ with you. That is Class-A manipulation as well as mental abuse. Bulls~~~, don’t put up with that crap, Bud.

I believe in You, you kick ass, and keep kickin ass!.

Peace.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Sorry I’m totally late to this, but I keyed in on something you said several posts ago. “Esp. after the first couple nights of sex she went silent on me (had a husband but I only realized about a year later) and EVEN THAT f~~~ed with me.” She is the epitome of everything that the menbers of the forum will warn you about. If she cheated with you, she would have cheated on you. I know you’re hurting right now, but even if a unicorn is out there looking for you, THIS BITCH IS NOT YOUR UNICORN! I don’t have much more to add since EMP killed on his first answer to you.

She has fed your need to be attached to something cooler than what your doing for a living and she has s~~~ on your manly pursuits because they would take you away from her/out of her sphere of influence. Best of luck to you, even if there is a good woman out there for you, she’s not it; and now she’s keeping you away from whatever you might aspire to do just as a hangover effect of the drug she gave you.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Anonymous 11]

Phantom wrote:

Dude, she has a cool job. SO F~~~ING WHAT? Stop being a pussy and deal with it. Seriously.

I don’t think her job is really all that cool. It’s an illusion you’ve built within your internal image of her. She sounds like she’s full of herself and a traitor to boot.

Quit putting her on a pedestal. Make a list of everything you detest about her. Trust me, It’ll be easy. Refer to it every time you weaken and repeat as necessary.

Here’s a start:
1)Cheater
2)Liar
3)Abuser
4)Narcissistic
5)…….

Which part of her having a husband and not telling you about it did you not understand? Anything she’s ever told you is not valid so punt this f~~~ing c~~~ out of your life and brain.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

Anonymous wrote:

MGTOW Age wrote:

Dude, she has a cool job. SO F~~~ING WHAT? Stop being a pussy and deal with it. Seriously.

I don’t think her job is really all that cool. It’s an illusion you’ve built within your internal image of her. She sounds like she’s full of herself and a traitor to boot.
Quit putting her on a pedestal. Make a list of everything you detest about her. Trust me, It’ll be easy. Refer to it every time you weaken and repeat as necessary.
Here’s a start:1)Cheater2)Liar3)Abuser4)Narcissistic5)…….
Which part of her having a husband and not telling you about it did you not understand? Anything she’s ever told you is not valid so punt this f~~~ing c~~~ out of your life and brain.

I was reading through this thread and finally someone NAILED it. Dude, shes a f~~~ing NURSE not a neurosurgeon. Its a two year education program. Shes a paid assistant to doctors. Its not that bad ass at all. Dont fall for her braggy behavior hook line and sinker. Shes a female douche bag. Weve all met douche bags. They are walking encylcopedias for every subject under the sun. Everything they do is so awesome and their s~~~ doesnt stink. All…Iies. Stop swallowing them.

Also, your defining and valuing yourself based on her. Every man does this at some point. Its easy to do, but its not healthy.

If shes so happy why is she looking for attention and sex outside of her husband? Shes full of s~~~. Just like shes managed to pull the wool over your eyes that she was married, and her husbands eyes by cheating on him, shes lying to you about how “great” and special she is.

You had low self esteem when you met her. Im sure she picked up on this and is exploiting it to make herself look better and feel better. A true narcissist. Shes ugly as s~~~ on the inside and defining yourself by her approval is so disrespectful to yourself. Realize how incredibly toxic she is how ugly she is (going home to kiss her hubby on the lips probably with the wiff of another mans cum on them) then realize you deserve better than that.

The end

Resident cynic.

[BDParticipant 1146]

LightBringer wrote:

and I met her while unemployed and ‘won her’ by ignoring that and talking about cool things, so I think it set the stage of proving I wasnt as much of a loser as I felt. Esp. after the first couple nights of sex she went silent on me (had a husband but I only realized about a year later) and EVEN THAT f~~~ed with me.

“won her” NO YOU DID NOT. You are delusional.
You were sticking your dick into a woman who was f~~~ing AT LEAST HER HUSBAND and probably even more guys.

If you were going down on her, chances are you ate some of her husbands jizz at some point in time, and vice versa. This chick is a whore. Brush your teeth.

Better go get checked for STD’s,, her glorious job exposes her to a lot of diseases as well.

You are missing the orgasm, rub one out.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Thanks guys taking all this stuff to heart, for that most part that bitch is out of here.

The one thing that is still hard is for a LONG time before I met her I had an interest in helicopters – joining the military machine never sat well with me and getting a pilot license in economically unrealistic so it was always an interest at the edge of my mind – so her and my interest got intertwined because she was doing what I long had a fascination with.

The issue now is, it is tough to tell if it was simple her in my life that has reactivated my interest in a huge way and will die in time, OR if it was a reminder of something I should actually pursue – which the only way would be military for better or worse.

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