I posted this in the introduction section, but now feel here is probably a better spot to discuss what the categories are for reason why men would go their own way. Here are the categories I have so far. Please feel free to give feedback below…
Reactive: A man is trying to avoid pain and negative, rather than positively doing something.
* Wounded: Had bad relationship or relationships. Got hurt and suffered damage. Is trying to flee the past harm, heal, and the future harm. Such damage could be loss of property in a divorce, destruction of property, emotional harm, loss of identity.
* Rejected (true forced loneliness): Never had a relationship with a woman, and just can’t get one. The person can be out of the norms for what is appealing for a number of reasons. The person is an outcast by choice and just can’t get a date or have anything.
* Pragmatic Realist: A guy’s life circumstances are such, based on what he knows, that going his own way is what makes the most sense. On the relationship with woman side, the entire dating relationship/marriage just doesn’t fit where he is. The guy realizes this and moves on.
* Non-conformist: This can be connected with the Pragmatic Realist, but will often be more connected with ideals. A guy realizes his goals and aspirations in life, in a general sense, don’t fit any social norms, and really wouldn’t fit having a woman either, so he goes his own way. When looking at the relating to women, the entire social norms and structure just don’t fit what works for a guy. In a certain sense, this is akin to Objectivist, but more a reactive reality. It can be as perhaps a cross between Pragmatic Realist and Objectivist.
Proactive: A man is trying to do something and willing to sacrifice some things, including the classic partner relationship with a woman.
* Monk (mode): Follows a path of a monastic by withdrawing from the world, living modestly, avoiding sexual relations or dating relationships at least, and works on self. This can vary a lot. You see the term “Monk Mode” used, and this relates, and why you see it.
* Player: Can be related to Pick Up Artist (PUA), just doesn’t want the hassle of a relationship, and marriage.
* Rejecter (Idealist): Can’t find a woman who matches his ideals in life, so he moves on.
* Warrior (Alpha): Seeks power, on a personal level, and all parts of his life, and seeks to have everything be by his rules. Will engage with the world, and looks to acquire tools and money and anything to live free of constraints.
* Spartan: Into athletic and person development, and seeks to be a real man, and live austerity and a very focused life, which ends up being on his terms. The level of discipline here, by default, causes him to live life on his terms. You see elements of Warrior and Monk here. Athletes, body builders, etc… who go into a training form of Monk Mode, would fit into this. Everything is purposed and organized.
* Scholar: Focused on intellectual pursuits to the extent, he doesn’t have time or mental energy/focus to maintain a relationship with a woman. Isaac Newton can be seen as this.
* Artist: Similar to the Scholar, but due to the hit or miss nature of trying to make it as an artist, he is unable to financially provide for a woman and a relationship. It is similar to the scholar, in that the man is so focused on his craft, he doesn’t have time for a family or a relationship with a female.
* Professional: The person is so involved in a career, and so wrapped up in their work, they don’t have time to be able to date or have a woman, and raise a family. College students can fit into this also, particularly ones that work. A version of this also can be the person who is hustling so many jobs, they barely have any time for a personal life.
* Objectivist: A person subscribes to Ayn Rand’s philosophy of everyone living for themselves and their terms. They practice this and go their own way.
* Outcast Philosopher: A person has such a strong objection to the way society is organized, that they go off the grid as much as possible, and seek to live life by what they see as a better way. Such an approach can make them to be a hermit, and if there is financial austerity, it would be unappealing to a woman.
* Traveller/Wanderer (Vagabond/Adventurer): The individual has a career that causes them to travel so much, they just can’t settle down, to build a relationship.
* Dudebro: Bro’s before Ho’s. This guy has a far stronger preference hanging ou with his friends, and do guy stuff, like watch sports, play videogames, etc… that they just don’t have room for a woman in their life.
"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.
IGMOW (I Go My Own Way) 4 years, 8 months ago.
