Quitting drinking

[Hombre LibreParticipant 261]

RPB:

Your AV (Addictive Voice/Impulse) is kind of like the sex/marriage impulse. Your midbrain is only letting you feel the good parts…. Is a marriage and a sexy honeymoon REALLY worth the following decades of misery and fear and financial loss?

Is the booze-buzz REALLY worth: vomiting, headaches, and financial loss? Not to mention: damage to friendships and family, an automobile crash, sitting in a jail cell after being arrested for a DUI — and a possible manslaughter charge, if you kill someone with your car while driving drunk?

You’re addicted midbrain doesn’t even mention the negative parts of being buzzed and drunk! And alcohol will pretty much shut down your rational adult brain.

We don’t want to lose you, our MGTOW brother!

AVRT works and mindful meditation works.

HOMBRE

[RedPillBonerParticipant 541]

Hombre Libre wrote:

RPB:

Your AV (Addictive Voice/Impulse) is kind of like the sex/marriage impulse. Your midbrain is only letting you feel the good parts…. Is a marriage and a sexy honeymoon REALLY worth the following decades of misery and fear and financial loss?

Is the booze-buzz REALLY worth: vomiting, headaches, and financial loss? Not to mention: damage to friendships and family, an automobile crash, sitting in a jail cell after being arrested for a DUI — and a possible manslaughter charge, if you kill someone with your car while driving drunk?

You’re addicted midbrain doesn’t even mention the negative parts of being buzzed and drunk! And alcohol will pretty much shut down your rational adult brain.

We don’t want to lose you, our MGTOW brother!

AVRT works and mindful meditation works.

HOMBRE

Yes all of that makes sense. I have so much to lose as well. I’m a helicopter pilot so while I am on my week long work I don’t drink at all but when I am off of work I drink.

Much of the things you described before would ruin my career.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

It’s a wise man who can see he needs to change , as has been said there is nothing really good coming out of alcohol , but some people can enjoy a few beers and stop so.

Others it’s a problem, I have a love hate feeling about it a couple of beers with a nice meal is fine.

A hangover is a terrible waste of a day.

Good luck with it

[RedPillBonerParticipant 541]

Well I am on day 4 of a month long session with no alcohol. Tomorrow I go back to work for a week so won’t be drinking then.

I actually went to a sports bar today with a friend and had 3 club sodas with lime. He had a few beers. I was okay with it. When I thought about how good a beer would be, I thought about how bad alcohol makes me feel and the urge subsided.

It was nice to go to an establishment that primarily serves alcohol and tell the bartender no thanks, not today.

[coolthingy450Participant 1223]

Huh. I do drink scotch every now and again. But I never drank enough to get a buzz, or feel like puking with a headache.

I hate the taste of beer for some reason, but scotch just seems to taste good when I feel like drinking some.

But for the most part. It takes me three months or six to finish the bottle. And sometimes If I got a quarter of that stuff left. I just drain it, since the taste is half way gone.

Actions have consequences and consequences have prices. Cause and effect at work.

[coolthingy450Participant 1223]

I have two rules.

1) Don’t drink outside

2) Drink only on weekends.

The same cannot be said of my co-workers. They tend to hate scotch, and perfer something like vodka, Drinking until there is no tomorrow which I can never understand.

Actions have consequences and consequences have prices. Cause and effect at work.

[Anonymous 22]

A few beers every once in a while is fine. The problem is… sometimes when I go out, intending to drink only a couple of beers, then it’s suddenly so comfortable to stay in that terrace a bit longer and drink some more.

I don’t like that drunk feeling though.

[DanceMyOwnWayParticipant 2097]

RedPillBoner wrote:

Well I am on day 4 of a month long session with no alcohol. Tomorrow I go back to work for a week so won’t be drinking then.

I actually went to a sports bar today with a friend and had 3 club sodas with lime. He had a few beers. I was okay with it. When I thought about how good a beer would be, I thought about how bad alcohol makes me feel and the urge subsided.

It was nice to go to an establishment that primarily serves alcohol and tell the bartender no thanks, not today.

I’m currently doing the same thing RedPill but I stopped towards the end of June. I have a passion for Real Ale but I went to see one of my best friends in Yorkshire one weekend recently and we ended up hitting the pubs three days running. It’s expensive and it takes a toll on your well being. I don’t really like who I am when I’m drunk either. I make terrible decisions – guess we all do!

If you fall down 7 times, get up 8

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

RedPillBoner wrote:

I actually went to a sports bar today with a friend and had 3 club sodas with lime. He had a few beers.

What was the bill at the end of the night? I’ve done this a handful of times since getting sober – my bro will usually have 3-4 beers totaling $25-30 (NYC prices). My club sodas clock in at a few bucks, if they bother charging at all. My bank account’s way happier since i
1) Stopped spending $$$ on booze,
2) Stopped spending $$$ on dumb s~~~ while i’m drunk

[RedPillBonerParticipant 541]

MattNYC wrote:

RedPillBoner wrote:

I actually went to a sports bar today with a friend and had 3 club sodas with lime. He had a few beers.

What was the bill at the end of the night? I’ve done this a handful of times since getting sober – my bro will usually have 3-4 beers totaling $25-30 (NYC prices). My club sodas clock in at a few bucks, if they bother charging at all. My bank account’s way happier since i
1) Stopped spending $$$ on booze,
2) Stopped spending $$$ on dumb s~~~ while i’m drunk

Great point. My bill was zero. I just left a tip that’s it. Nice little bonus on top of not having that s~~~ty after drinking feeling.

[BraceParticipant 467]

John Woods 13 wrote:

ChauvinistPig wrote:

The thing that really irritates me most about drunk people is that they are always shoving alcohol in my face.

Doesn’t that sound exactly like miserable married blue pill manginas trying to convince men of the “benefits” of getting married?
Drug addicts promoting getting high, drunks promoting drinking and manginas promoting marriage are all trying to justify their mistakes by convincing others to join them in their misery.

this is gold. gonna use that on my dad whenever he brings up marriage

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

Hi All,

I have a long tepid history with alcohol but am what is called a “high bottom drunk.” (This means nothing “too bad” has happened like DUIs, arrests, etc.)

Rational Recovery is great, I quite for 2.5 yrs with it. The website is helpful and book is decent. They also have “meetings” called SMART, you can find them on the website. Unfortunately they aren’t as popular as AA and are at s~~~ty times. (If you work)

I ended up deciding to drink again, while on vacation with my ex-wife and drank for a few years until I eventually landed in AA.

AA is like a religion for sure, its been classified as such by the course int he US in at least half of the states in the US.

However AA did help me quit, its free and everywhere. If you’re not religious you can kind of ignore it, especially for the first bit while you get your feet under you. Keep this context in mind: It was created in the 30’s and we knew basically nothing about mental health compared to now, we didn’t even know what PTSD was! With that in mind, you can translate or ignore the parts that bother you.

There are also “agnostic/atheist” meetings and these are the ONLY parts of AA that are growing, and they are growing fast. All are listed on their website(s), just google them to find.

Its hard to go that first time but people are really friendly and each meeting is different so I suggest trying some different ones.

I go to mens-only meetings. The Coed ones are full of drama (by guess who?). The fellowship has been phenomenal for me, I’ve made many good friends who really care.

Another good option if you have coverage or can afford it is something called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT.)

Regardless of what they say in AA you can mix ‘n match several of these together – do what works for you, question and adapt.

I (also) recently started drinking last XMAS, and have been thinking about how I want to move forward. I have issues with AA myself but like the fellowship & sober company of good men working to improve.

I welcome anyone to reach out to me on PM if you have any questions about my experience, I’m happy to share.

Good luck.

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