Psychology Says You Might Be Better Off Single

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

Not that it’s news to most of us here, but I found this article interesting –

Psychology Says: You Might Be Better Off Single

To quote the article –

At the American Psychological Association’s annual convention in Denver, professor Bella DePaulo challenged the widely accepted idea that marriage helps people live happier, longer or healthier lives.

“The available findings are telling. For example, research comparing people who have stayed single with those who have stayed married shows that single people have a heightened sense of self-determination and they are more likely to experience ‘a sense of continued growth and development’ as a person,” said Professor DePaulo.

She continues: “Other research shows that single people value meaningful work more than married people do … another study of lifelong single people showed that self-sufficiency serves them well: the more self-sufficient they were, the less likely they were to experience negative emotions. For married people, just the opposite was true.”

“Single people are more connected to parents, siblings, friends, neighbors, and coworkers than married people are, and when people marry, they become more insular.”

“The preoccupation with the perils of loneliness can obscure the profound benefits of solitude.”

“It is time for a more accurate portrayal of single people and single life – one that recognizes the real strengths and resilience of people who are single, and what makes their lives so meaningful.”

DePaulo continues to explain that, while people who get married are often supported and celebrated by their friends, family and peers, being single often invites being targeted, stigmatized, and stereotyped by the same crowds.

As MGTOW our own empirical observations of the happiness of our single friends versus our long-term married friends would, I think, reflect professor DePaulo’s findings.
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#ManOut

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Marriage / divorce could cost my $500k.

I’m better off single.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Puts to rest all this ‘married people are happier/live longer’ BS propaganda spouted by Gov’t backed organizations in an effort to get the birth rate up.

Let’s not forget too that our consumer debt driven society suffers as well when we’re not making foolish financial decisions like taking out a 25yr mortgage on a house and a lease on a brand new vehicle for you and the
‘little lady’.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22545]

“Psychology Says You Might Be Better Off Single”

This has been known since Biblical times. The Bible stated if a man cannot find a good, loyal wife, he would be better off living in the wilderness than living with a shrew.

[bladeParticipant]

With man abandoning relationships woman are just getting more bat s~~~ crazy which means more buisness for them .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[WallyParticipant]

Interesting article that challenges the conventional narratives. Your right, not news to us, but interesting that the idea is spreading.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[hmskl’dParticipant 6411]

This evening .. would I rather be single with a happy little wood fired stove in the corner and having a nice pleasant dinner while watching a favorite concert on video?

or lonely .. and married to a bossy, loud and angry woman who hates cooking, yells during every meal .. constantly insults my choice of work, wastes $1000.00 per month on cubic zirconia off of tv ads .. has a Mother-in-law who wants to move in .. who is also a hoarder

I might be better off single.

[Anonymous 5]

Oz-Bloke wrote:

“The preoccupation with the perils of loneliness can obscure the profound benefits of solitude.”

This is exactly what I’ve experienced with myself and observed with others.
Most of our depression is psychosomatic, a result of attitude.
The moment I realised that the type of intimacy I craved doesn’t exist long term, I stopped being lonely for it.
It opened my eyes to the coolness of solitude.

Women, on the other hand, aren’t hard wired for solitude. They’re programmed to manipulate and excel in social groups. They’re f~~~ed without a man to own.
Remove sex from the equation and men don’t need women for anything.

[Anonymous 0]

Oz-Bloke wrote:

Not that it’s news to most of us here, but I found this article interesting – [snipped]

Great find. That professor has actually written a couple books on the subject. You can find them on Amazon.com or Borders.com:

–“Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After” by Bella DePaulo Ph.D.

and

–“Single with Attitude: Not Your Typical Take on Health and Happiness, Love and Money, Marriage and Friendship” by Bella DePaulo Ph.D.

[Anonymous 24]

Oz-Bloke wrote:

She continues: “Other research shows that single people value meaningful work more than married people do … another study of lifelong single people showed that self-sufficiency serves them well: the more self-sufficient they were, the less likely they were to experience negative emotions. For married people, just the opposite was true.”

“The preoccupation with the perils of loneliness can obscure the profound benefits of solitude.”

Two quotes that I strongly agree with. The first shows in part how women don’t really care much about what a man does when married as long as he is bringing home the bacon and does XYZ. Marriage clearly turns into a co-dependent relationship with land mines galore.

The second holds true for me for sure, I actually enjoy being alone or solo most of the time. Not that I am anti-social by a longshot, I do really very well with people face to face, and even though I like most of them for the most part, I just happen to prefer myself and alone time more than the average person, so sorry you 7 billion other f~~~ers out there, I NEED ME TIME BITCHES! Also, it is tough to read two books a week with someone in your ear 24/7.

Always good pieces Oz, thanks.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

I was married for many years, from early 80s you are playing a role , you have a person, the sex goes west even if the girl is smoking hot a man gets bored.

You compromise, you work, you compromise you work .. Its way worse now back then you could find a girl and “Work together ” Even that is not good, men are targets now any guy with a decent job , money assets is targeted.

You were made to feel you had to have a partner, so you took one..

Peace and quiet is good, reading books, riding motorbikes, being free , a few beers , watch some sport, no visiting in laws no pretending to be happy.

Marriage is great for a women , appalling for a man and in 35 years it has got way worse.

I really feel a man who marries now is a fool, unless the women is worth more earns more but with hypergamy this never happens, its quite funny a few Unicorn hunters have told me “They know someone where the women earned more” Lies as I see it.

They cant face the facts the only thing a women wants them for is money.

[Anonymous 42]

Faust For Science wrote:

he would be better off living in the wilderness than living with a shrew.

I’ve lived in the wilderness and I’ve lived with the shrew.

I choose WILDERNESS, HANDS DOWN!

I’d rather live with a big pot over my head with a little old lady hitting it with a dough roller than to live with the shrew!

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

I’m married Red Pill. I can’t think of one area I don’t compromise IN THE EXTREME compared to when I was single. My wife makes about 1/3rd more then me right now while I’m getting my business off ground and I end up taking care of the boys’ needs on the homefront the majority of the time. It’s a HUGE sacrifice and really rules my life. I’ve made the same $$ when I was single and had money for vacations, rent, buying music gear, camping any things I needed/wanted to buy, all my bills and no problems. Now, I’m COMPLETELY BROKE AND CAN’T BUY ANYTHING FOR MYSELF EVER. NO vacations, can’t afford a new gun, can’t go on any trips, can’t engage in any hobbies, etc etc…Since I’ve been married, 2010, I went from ZERO debt to….$57K in student loans, 2 cars $40K, $10K credit/dental/misc….It’s horrible.

Sex. Honestly, it’s 1-2 times a week and always good but the same…

I get really frustrated a lot about the fact that I’m trapped. The only thing I can do is hang in there till I make more money then try to pay this f~~~ing debt down. Her $$ and what I make now barely keep us afloat. When I bring in more it can pay the debt down so my $$ will of course pay our debts. However i suspect, If I were single my expenses would be so little, I’d be able to pay my debts just the same..Maybe even now.

I tell everyone and NO ONE seems to listen. Not my nephews, not my friend who JUST ASKED HIS GIRLFRIEND OF LESS THAN 6 MONTHS TO MARRY HIM and she accepted!!!?? WTF????? I do not get it….

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Jan Sobieski wrote:

Marriage / divorce could cost my $500k.

I’m better off single.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Anonymous wrote:

Also, it is tough to read two books a week with someone in your ear 24/7.

I feel your pain.

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

Anonymous wrote:

Not that I am anti-social by a longshot, I do really very well with people face to face, and even though I like most of them for the most part, I just happen to prefer myself and alone time more than the average person, so sorry you 7 billion other f~~~ers out there, I NEED ME TIME BITCHES!

I’m hearing you THX. Most of us have to deal with enough chatter and drama in our workday. Going home to more of the same was a nightmare and I’m so glad I left that all behind. MGTOW for the win!

#ManOut

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

PuniShredder wrote:

I’m married Red Pill. I can’t think of one area I don’t compromise IN THE EXTREME compared to when I was single. My wife makes about 1/3rd more then me right now while I’m getting my business off ground and I end up taking care of the boys’ needs on the homefront the majority of the time. It’s a HUGE sacrifice and really rules my life. I’ve made the same $$ when I was single and had money for vacations, rent, buying music gear, camping any things I needed/wanted to buy, all my bills and no problems. Now, I’m COMPLETELY BROKE AND CAN’T BUY ANYTHING FOR MYSELF EVER. NO vacations, can’t afford a new gun, can’t go on any trips, can’t engage in any hobbies, etc etc…Since I’ve been married, 2010, I went from ZERO debt to….$57K in student loans, 2 cars $40K, $10K credit/dental/misc….It’s horrible.

Sex. Honestly, it’s 1-2 times a week and always good but the same…

I get really frustrated a lot about the fact that I’m trapped. The only thing I can do is hang in there till I make more money then try to pay this f~~~ing debt down. Her $$ and what I make now barely keep us afloat. When I bring in more it can pay the debt down so my $$ will of course pay our debts. However i suspect, If I were single my expenses would be so little, I’d be able to pay my debts just the same..Maybe even now.

I tell everyone and NO ONE seems to listen. Not my nephews, not my friend who JUST ASKED HIS GIRLFRIEND OF LESS THAN 6 MONTHS TO MARRY HIM and she accepted!!!?? WTF????? I do not get it….

If your wife makes more then you, will you be getting alimony instead when you divorce?
Will she have to shoulder half of the debts?

Have an exit plan, stash money / gold somewhere and wait for your children to turn 18.

Someone have a good video about the cost benefit analysis of marriage.

MGTOW – Cost Benefit Analysis

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

[FermatParticipant 3478]

Marriage these days is more of a frigid business partnership that never terminates. Shrinks my dick just thinking about it.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[Anonymous 0]

I was reading some more about Dr. DePaulo. She has some blogs located here and there. For example: “Living Single” blog at Psychology Today or “Single at Heart” blog at Psych Central.

Below is a link where she has a bunch of articles debunking the myth that married people live longer than single people. Apparently that myth exists because the category of “single people” usually includes elderly folks that spent most of their life married but then got divorced or widowed, in other words, they’re not used to living on their own and end up letting themselves go to hell. But when you compare people who have always lived alone to married people, the live-alone people live longer.

(Makes sense, when you think about it. I’m definitely in better health than any married people I know, because I have the time and focus to work out and get in good shape.)

Anyway, here’s the link on who lives longest: http://www.belladepaulo.com/2013/04/debunking-the-myth-that-married-people-live-longer/

Also here’s a link to an article entitled: “Every Stereotype of Single People, Debunked by Science: Research shatters 11 stereotypes of single people.”

Link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201608/every-stereotype-single-people-debunked-science

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

PuniShredder wrote:

I tell everyone and NO ONE seems to listen. Not my nephews, not my friend who JUST ASKED HIS GIRLFRIEND OF LESS THAN 6 MONTHS TO MARRY HIM and she accepted!!!?? WTF????? I do not get it….

They are f~~~ing idiots. Let them ruin their lives.

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