Pride and ghosting?

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

I’ve had a scenario play in my head a few times this weekend. What will I do when someone interrogates me about my relationship status?. I live ghost style now but I’ve been lucky because I am a loner and my conversations with others is kept to a minimum. The problem in my scenarios is that I am a prideful person and I’m not sure I could lie in order to continue being the best ghost I can be. I’ve always been good at giving my words a nuance that betray their exact meaning but I honestly struggle with straight up telling a lie. What do you do if someone ask you a question like “why arnt you married?” or “why don’t you have a girlfriend?” The only choice I see for a guy like me is to say “That’s my business, and I’m not sharing it”. It would probably come off as rude but that’s the best I can come up with.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I say things like “family pot luck supper” or “my cousins want me to be with them during this holiday.” I am not actually lying, but I am not telling the whole truth either. A nosy snoop does not deserve the truth, at least not all of it.

I cannot force myself to lie. It is a character defect I’ve never been able to overcome. That does not mean I have to blurt out my personal secrets, not any more than I would appear without proper clothing in a crowded market. Some things are best left covered.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I’d say the truth is your best bet. Just tell them “I’m going to enjoy the holidays alone in the peace and quiet of my own home.”

Not only is it true so you don’t have to feel dishonest, but it is also disarmingly simple. Who can argue against it? But but but they will say, and all you have to do is say “That’s fine for you, this is what I’ve chosen to do,”

And if someone really gives you s~~~ about it, then you know they don’t respect you and it’s okay to excuse them from your life.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22558]

Tiga K wrote:

I’ve had a scenario play in my head a few times this weekend. What will I do when someone interrogates me about my relationship status?. I live ghost style now but I’ve been lucky because I am a loner and my conversations with others is kept to a minimum. The problem in my scenarios is that I am a prideful person and I’m not sure I could lie in order to continue being the best ghost I can be. I’ve always been good at giving my words a nuance that betray their exact meaning but I honestly struggle with straight up telling a lie. What do you do if someone ask you a question like “why arnt you married?” or “why don’t you have a girlfriend?” The only choice I see for a guy like me is to say “That’s my business, and I’m not sharing it”. It would probably come off as rude but that’s the best I can come up with.

I suggest just a broad, but simple reply. Such as, you could say, “I do not find the current dating pool to be attractive.” And leave it at that. You are not directly using any female terms. So, the person asking the question does not know if you are referring to women, or men. And it is an honest reply.

It is unfortunate that the art if being “tactful” is not taught in this present age. Being tactful is a wonderful diplomatic skill to have. It allows one to be honest, and direct, without be confrontational. Also, being “tactful” allows one to be insulting, without the person being insulted immediately realizing it.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Stargazer wrote:

I’d say the truth is your best bet. Just tell them “I’m going to enjoy the holidays alone in the peace and quiet of my own home.”

Not only is it true so you don’t have to feel dishonest, but it is also disarmingly simple. Who can argue against it? But but but they will say, and all you have to do is say “That’s fine for you, this is what I’ve chosen to do,”

And if someone really gives you s~~~ about it, then you know they don’t respect you and it’s okay to excuse them from your life.

Yep, Doc Fenderson nailed it.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Tiga K wrote:

What do you do if someone ask you a question like “why aren’t you married?” or “why don’t you have a girlfriend?”

Flip it right around on them…

“How do you know I’m NOT married?
‘How do you know I DON’T have a girlfriend”?

If they persist, you can escalate with “Are you asking to marrry me/be my girlfriend?”

FYI: A friend would make up a story about his fiancee that died in an car accident before they were married, and that his love died with her.
The woman that asked would be crying as she apologized, and he would take home one of her friends.

[NioZenParticipant 856]

“why don’t you have a girlfriend?”

“I multitask”.
——–
“why aren’t you married?”

Go on massive rant about ‘the state’ interfering in people’s lives. They’ll stop asking, and it’s a fun thing to rant about.

We only dream this bondage. Wake up and let it go. - Vivekananda

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

“I’m saving myself for god”….. then slowly reach over and hold their hand ….. and smile …

That should see em off a bit sharpish.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22558]

ILiveAgain wrote:

“I’m saving myself for god”….. then slowly reach over and hold their hand ….. and smile …

That should see em off a bit sharpish.

I admire the joke. But, never, ever make physical contact with someone else. Especially, do not initiate the physical contact someone else. Because, in this day an age, it is consider felony assault for a man, or even a boy, to make physical contact with someone else. And if you so much as brush against a woman, it could even be consider “felony sexual assault”.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Faust For Science wrote:

ILiveAgain wrote:

“I’m saving myself for god”….. then slowly reach over and hold their hand ….. and smile …

That should see em off a bit sharpish.

I admire the joke. But, never, ever make physical contact with someone else. Especially, do not initiate the physical contact someone else. Because, in this day an age, it is consider felony assault for a man, or even a boy, to make physical contact with someone else. And if you so much as brush against a woman, it could even be consider “felony sexual assault”.

But .. but … it’s god … and all that.

It’s not me touching them …. it’s god….. working through me.

Arrest him ….. I’m just the vehicle …. not the driver …. officer ?

[OldBillParticipant]

Doc is right on the money here. Simply tell them the truth.

You don’t need to provide details, you don’t need to explain, you don’t need to mention MGTOW, and you sure as hell don’t need to apologize.

Your private life is just that: private. It’s hard for the zombies making up much of our society to grasp the idea of a private life while they’re busily updating their Facebook pages, taking selfies, and tweeting about bowel movements, but your private life is your private life and thus the business of nobody else.

Q: “What are you doing for the holidays?”
A: “Enjoying some peace and quiet.”

Q: “Are you married?”
A: “I am not and have no real reason to be so.”

Q: “Why don’t you have a girlfriend?”
A: “I have no reason to have one.”

Tell the truth. It will set you free.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 9]

I simply say…

I’m good.

People like that aren’t worth having around.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6413]

One brief comment about Ghosting .. I do believe I Ghost during most of my current existence and not only for entertainment such as viewing films (i.e. staying home when others are out and about).
I’m not going to try and define what Ghosting means to me other than to say .. the more I draw back from traditional social relationships and associated commitments; the more worthwhile activity seems to open up in other areas .. and this might possibly be due to the lack of time that I must spend dealing with the conflicts that inevitably arise from relationships. There is an old Latin saying Cogito, ergo sum .. I modify to say Ghost, ergo sum. I Ghost, therefore I am. I no longer know any other way to live. To Ghost is not being lonely and sitting in a shuttered room. To the contrary, life has never been busier. Loneliness, is actually the last thing a guy going his own way has to worry about .. as you cut certain ties that bind, other areas open and soon you are just as busy .. if not more so.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Sorry, I kind of mis-answered the question as being about plans for the holidays rather than why you’re not in a relationship, different answer, same approach.

Here’s what I would say to a person I don’t care to really engage in conversation: “I am open to the possibility but have yet to find a woman with whom my life is better than it is already.”

If it were someone I’d be willing to actually engage in conversation I would say: “Honestly, I’ve dated a lot of women and I truly believe that every single one of them has, in some way or another, been only out to capture me and put my time, energy and resources to work doing what THEY want for THEMSELVES. I have given up hope of finding a woman who is not like that… and if I ever did meet a woman I thought for a moment might be interested in me for who I am rather than what I can do for her, I would be more inclined to believe I had gone insane than that she was different from the others.”

I suspect both of those statements would be conversation enders.

[Spank The MisandristsParticipant 2308]

When a man asks me, I’ll tell him the truth because a real man deserves the truth.

When a mangina asks me, I’ll tell him that I need to hump as many sluts as possible in my life time just to p~~~ him off.

When a female asks me, I’ll tell her that all women are out of my league because I can’t live up to their expectations in a sarcastic way, while smirking at her.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

OldBill wrote:

Tell the truth. It will set you free.

True story. I usually just tell people “Because I like being single.”

If they ask why, I say relationships add too much drama to my life and I want my life drama free.

I just kind of figured it worked so well because it makes them think you are messed up in the head, and you don’t have to bother explaining why you don’t want some c~~~ feminist in your life because a little pussy every now and then isn’t worth how miserable she will make you, and the potential financial consequences she could have. Basically if you are a little tapped in the head people seem to not push the issue…if you try to say women are the problem its just a s~~~ storm you then have to deal with from whatever women/manginas that may be part of the conversation…and well, I don’t really care enough to bother with them.

[Anonymous 3]

Spank The Misandrists wrote:

When a man asks me, I’ll tell him the truth because a real man deserves the truth.

When a mangina asks me, I’ll tell him that I need to hump as many sluts as possible in my life time just to p~~~ him off.

When a female asks me, I’ll tell her that all women are out of my league because I can’t live up to their expectations in a sarcastic way, while smirking at her.

Not bad. Very few men around though, and men generally don’t inquire on other men.

Everyone assumes I have a gf, or multiple gfs, or that I’m married, so I don’t have much issue with it. I just let them think what they want to think.

I’m going to start telling anyone that does ask that I’m a misogynist and see if that works any better now than when I was younger, when women would passionately argue that I’m not a misogynist. Women just want to argue with you, so just do what you want and let them. I also like to leave the toilet seat down unlike you guys, because I find it funny to hear women demand that I leave it up.

[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

I like the dead love in a car wreck thing, for whom one is still carrying a torch. It tends to shut the questioners up. I always have to prevent myself from having too much fun with it, and then showing a picture of JFK, or Mary Jo Kopechne (sp?) on my phone.

I suppose one could say one’s dead love overdosed, and then show a picture of Brittany Murphy or Heath Ledger (sp?). That would be even more delightfully and wildly creepy. Again, things I must not do in polite society.

I also like “I’m just too busy, and it wouldn’t be fair to someone to be in a relationship with them right now”, although I’ve had people argue with me on that. I then go all completely sociopathically dishonest and talk about how “it just wouldn’t be fair to a woman to not be able to fully give myself to her”. I feel like I’m in the Soviet saying it, and have to be careful not to smirk. Then the questioner and I can reflect quietly on just how special women are nowadays, although perhaps not with the same conclusions.

I’ve always wanted to be able to really f~~~ with people and say things like “I’m only attracted to children” or “I only have sex with my Japanese anime pillow” or “my dog died, and I haven’t had sex since then”, but given how psychotically insane we’ve gotten, one must assume that *no one* has a sense of humor, particularly a bloody or ribald one.

In Soviet America, jokes tell on you.

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

[HitmanParticipant]

i usually tell anyone that asks such personal questions that i am devoted to my career and have very little spare time to share with anyone ..

NioZen wrote:

Go on massive rant about ‘the state’ interfering in people’s lives. They’ll stop asking, and it’s a fun thing to rant about.

this is my next move which is lots of fun ! people aren’t expecting a political diatribe in response to why you are alone ! starts to educate them ..most folks just cut the conversation short at that point …

[Anonymous 42]

I’d just be myself, burp, scratch my nuts, lift my ass and fart, and say “that’s why”!

All joking aside, I tell people in real life exactly how I feel about relations~~~s! I can usually point to their own miserable failures as fine examples justifying my solidarity, and if their suffering isn’t enough, I can use my own examples like icing on the cake!
No one I know has to guess how I feel about most issues, I’m as straight with them as I am with you guys. They may not like what I have to say, but they trust my opinion because I don’t hide anything in shame. There’s nothing to be ashamed about when speaking the truth, I’m simply not willing to jump into an inferno, even if everyone else is happy swimming in a lake of fire…
I go my own way, I do my own thing, I say what I want, I do what I want, and I harm no one in the process. The only damage I do is to the swollen egos of narcissistic people, I kiss no ass, EVER! If someone’s feelings are to mild and tender, they’ll have scar tissue after encountering me! I spare no one’s feelings, I never hide the truth! F~~~, I stab myself with the sword of truth diligently! Why should I spare anyone else?

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