Preemptive dumping?

[TicParticipant 4329]

Don’t be in a long distance monogamous relationship. It does NOT work. Women cannot be trusted to be on their own like that.

second, when a woman’s behavior takes a 180 and treats you with disrespect and apathy, it means she has someone else (either in mind, heart, physically or all three).

Two golden rules, my friend.

God bless peace and freedom.

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

Don’t live with her. Everyone makes mistakes but it really takes a low-life to cheat on a boyfriend/girlfriend. She did it once, she’ll do it again.

[experiencedParticipant]

Samsquanch wrote:

Don’t live with her. Everyone makes mistakes but it really takes a low-life to cheat on a boyfriend/girlfriend. She did it once, she’ll do it again.

This.
Is solid advice. As Cap said, they get “one chance”.
If they lie.
If they cheat.
If they treat any person like s~~~.
All the above indicate a fundamental flaw in their morals. A flaw which will not go away barring some mentally catastrophic event.
Every time any woman cheats etc. It is over. They can explain it to themselves and buy a dildo and a cat….. or start a collection.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[MajinParticipant 56]

Tic wrote:

Don’t be in a long distance monogamous relationship. It does NOT work.

It… kinda worked already until we were no longer at a long distance. xD

I think it can work if some criteria are met, including a not-so-long distance and meeting in person rather often. There’s not much difference… a female cheater would cheat on you the same way if you live 200 miles or 200 yards from you. My 1st girlfriend lived quite close to me and cheated on me twice in 2 years.

Samsquanch wrote:

Don’t live with her. Everyone makes mistakes but it really takes a low-life to cheat on a boyfriend/girlfriend. She did it once, she’ll do it again.

Look, as far as I know she didn’t cheat on me. Sure, it’s possible she just told a “lighter” version of what really happened, just in case I found out the truth, but honestly I wouldn’t have found out up to this day. From a rational perspective, there was no reason for her, other than wanting to be honest, to tell me anything. But yeah, there’s always the possibility she just wanted to be “half-honest”… I can’t know what was on her mind.

Besides, I had been briefly introduced to the guy before that episode. Much later I met him again by accident at the mall, we talked (not about this) and I’m positive he didn’t have a clue of anything… either because nothing really happened as she claims, OR because he somehow didn’t understand she was dating me when it happened, if something happened.

Anyway, it’s been almost 6 years now, so it’s too late to keep digging into that in order to find some hidden truth. I would dump her now if I found solid evidence she cheated on me back then, but I don’t think it’s gonna happen.

There's no fate but what we make for ourselves.

[ExpendableYouthParticipant 381]

Tic wrote:

Don’t be in a long distance monogamous relationship. It does NOT work. Women cannot be trusted to be on their own like that.

second, when a woman’s behavior takes a 180 and treats you with disrespect and apathy, it means she has someone else (either in mind, heart, physically or all three).

Two golden rules, my friend.

This should be saved and framed for future generations to see. Damn right!

[TicParticipant 4329]

Majin wrote:

tic douloureux wrote:

Don’t be in a long distance monogamous relationship. It does NOT work.

It… kinda worked already until we were no longer at a long distance. xD

I think it can work if some criteria are met, including a not-so-long distance and meeting in person rather often. There’s not much difference… a female cheater would cheat on you the same way if you live 200 miles or 200 yards from you. My 1st girlfriend lived quite close to me and cheated on me twice in 2 years.

Steeb wrote:

Don’t live with her. Everyone makes mistakes but it really takes a low-life to cheat on a boyfriend/girlfriend. She did it once, she’ll do it again.

Look, as far as I know she didn’t cheat on me. Sure, it’s possible she just told a “lighter” version of what really happened, just in case I found out the truth, but honestly I wouldn’t have found out up to this day. From a rational perspective, there was no reason for her, other than wanting to be honest, to tell me anything. But yeah, there’s always the possibility she just wanted to be “half-honest”… I can’t know what was on her mind.

There are exceptions to all rules. You modified your statement that it wasn’t not so long a distance and were meeting regularly. That’s not what I’m talking about. But, anyway, what I state I stand behind 100%. Long distance relationships don’t work because somebody is going to get lonely and seek attention else where. Women love attention and can’t be alone.

Simply do a search about the rate of divorce in the military.

God bless peace and freedom.

[MajinParticipant 56]

Tic wrote:

There are exceptions to all rules. You modified your statement that it wasn’t not so long a distance and were meeting regularly. That’s not what I’m talking about. But, anyway, what I state I stand behind 100%. Long distance relationships don’t work because somebody is going to get lonely and seek attention else where. Women love attention and can’t be alone.

Simply do a search about the rate of divorce in the military.

If you mean those relationships in which the couple gets to see each other every 3 months at best, then I agree with you. I wouldn’t take that risk either.

I wasn’t stricktly talking about these kinds of “real” long term relationships.

There's no fate but what we make for ourselves.

[BzsyParticipant 76]

May be just my outlook but when you said she had a thing for another guy and was treating you badly that’s a huge f~~~ing red flag to me. Her being younger and having more maturing to do is valid but I just see that being a peek into her true nature. Right now you’re a promising option for her and she wants to lock you down but she’s already displayed how she can be looking for something better. I wouldn’t move in with her, if you do be very f~~~ing careful.

[Gen.OivanParticipant 88]

You may also want to pick up a few books as well as pouring over these forums
I too am in a relationship and to help understand how to keep things in your field and going your way; you need to understand what makes a woman tick. How their mind works and that her words never follow her actions… Never.

I read “The Manipulated man” Esther Vilar

“The Rational Male” Rollo Tomassi

“Predatory Female” REV. Lawrence Shannon

As well as others but there is more than enough material there to study and understand. When you read those books take the time, understand what they are telling you, take notes look words up; just as you would if you were taking a college course on redpoll and those are your text books these forums are the classroom and the relationship is the real life experience you apply the teachings to.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

She has already used you, by admitting she loved the other guy, as to whether he f~~~ed her it hardly matters, she should have dumped you then.

If she was brought up by a single Mum she will expect the same life, clearly you are a worker and do well she sees that.

As as been said, f~~~ her off she is a using c~~~.

[MajinParticipant 56]

Bzsy wrote:

May be just my outlook but when you said she had a thing for another guy and was treating you badly that’s a huge f~~~ing red flag to me. Her being younger and having more maturing to do is valid but I just see that being a peek into her true nature. Right now you’re a promising option for her and she wants to lock you down but she’s already displayed how she can be looking for something better. I wouldn’t move in with her, if you do be very f~~~ing careful.

That’s… actually true. Having a thing for another person while in a relationship is not that uncommon in immature people, both men and women (specially in their teenager years), but indeed sometimes it may have more to do with a character flaw than with lack of maturity. I don’t have an answer to what it is in her case. Could be the worst indeed.

Gen.Oivan wrote:

I read “The Manipulated man” Esther Vilar

“The Rational Male” Rollo Tomassi

“Predatory Female” REV. Lawrence Shannon

I’ll look into them, thanks.

Buller100 wrote:

She has already used you, by admitting she loved the other guy, as to whether he f~~~ed her it hardly matters, she should have dumped you then.

When she told me about it I didn’t have the mindset I have today. I would have dumped her if I did. But as I said, I won’t dump her now over a thing I forgave her almost 6 years ago, unless I find out I forgave a lie.
What BigEazy said, however, is making me think. Did she mature or did she only learn to hide her nature better? I’ll think about ways to find it out (without having to put my neck on the line to test it).

Buller100 wrote:

If she was brought up by a single Mum she will expect the same life, clearly you are a worker and do well she sees that.

This part worries me the least. It’s true any woman can be deceiving and be a wolf in a lamb’s clothing, but the part in which women raised by single mothers are worse than others is usually due to lack of a strong male role model while she grows up, which is not the case since she grew up with her grandfather, who is a very noble man.
But, as I said, having a good male role model is not guarantee that the woman won’t be f~~~ed up, it’s just one less influence to make her f~~~ed up.

There's no fate but what we make for ourselves.

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