Please help me :(

[LastManStandingParticipant 638]

Okay to answer a few questions,

1. No I am not series about getting into a relationship with gf#2. I am not planning on monkey branching. In the future, I will never cohabitate. I know a lot of you dudes can live without affection. I am just not there yet. Hopefully soon.

2. We rent.

3. No joint bank stuff at all.

4. No common law marriage in my state.

[X11Spectator 4520]

Had a friend in this situation long before the word mgtow was invented. A group if us had to go and pack all his s~~~ up out if the house, he was there but didn’t do anything except console his GF. We never spoke just 5 guys packing one guys s~~~ into 4 cars then physically grabbed the guy and left.

Guy really appreciated it a month or so later.

Just be similar to snatching a loved one from a cult.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Billy&The Cloneasaurus wrote:

break it to her gently

Why?

I wouldn’t break it to her at all. Let her find out when all hist stuff is missing from the apartment and the old landlord is banging on the door demanding rent. By then her phone should be blocked from his and she should have no forwarding address. From then on even if she does manage to contact him his only response should be: “Please bring that to the attention of my attorney.”

LastManStanding wrote:

I know a lot of you dudes can live without affection.

Is that what you think you are getting?

Spoiler: you get affection from women by NOT giving them things. Like NOTletting them live with you rent free.

We rent.

No. YOU rent. She freeloads.

No joint bank stuff at all.

Good. Does she know about any of your accounts?

No common law marriage in my state.

Make damn certain of that. You might be very unpleasantly surprised.

As to everything else, see above. Find a new place. Move there as quickly and secretly as possible. You do not want your soon-to-be-ex to see anything coming to make her own plans.

You might consider getting a storage unit for a month and surreptitiously start moving your stuff a little at a time into it, but not so much that she notices. This will minimize the stuff you will have to relocate quickly when the day comes.

You probably also want to consider recording your interactions with her in case she tries to trump up some false charges. At the very least, document the f~~~ out of everything you do with her from now until you move.

Needless to say, there should be no more sex with her to minimize her chance at pulling an “Oops!” pregnancy to lock you down.

[Eric LauderParticipant 12043]

LastManStanding wrote:

I have been cohabiting with my girlfriend for three years. The relationship is basically me being her ATM and slave. I do all the cooking, most of the cleaning, pay for all the dates and about 60-70% of our bills. Sex in the beginning was plentiful and I was happy. Now, I basically get no sex, no affections, no love. All she does is sleep when she gets home from work or does bulls~~~ on her phone, iPad or kindle. I am very unhappy and want out. She does not even know that I am unhappy. I doubt she has the slightest idea about how miserable I am. Because I am so lonely, I have been dating another girl behind her back. I know, I know, I should not be seeing any woman, let alone two. But the mistress at least loves me and treats me great. She knows I have a girlfriend and doesn’t even want a serious relationship (at least she says) I have had a vasectomy, so I am not worried about pregnancy. I just need out of this mess. It sucks being so lonely and living with a woman. We don’t even sleep in the same room anymore. I snore, so I tell her I don’t want to interrupt her sleep. Even though I really don’t want to sleep with her anymore.

How do i break up with a girl I live with? Should I at least let her know I am unhappy first and see if she tries to fix things??

Thoughts? Advice?

Stop cooking and cleaning, for starters.
Stop paying, for starters.
If she ask what’s happening then tell her that she have to do “50% of the chores and 50% of the expenses”, then do nothing, she’ll have to do all.
Begin to search for another house to rent, and IMMEDIATLY stop paying the rent on the house you live with her. She shouldn’t know that you are looking for another house.

AVOID discussions: every time you discuss with her your chances of being screwed skyrocket.

This is the civil way.

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[AragornParticipant 277]

Affection?
If you need a friend, get a dog. It’s trench warfare out there, pal.

If you change the rules on what controls you, you will change the rules on what you can control

[PappadrilloParticipant 50]

If she doesn’t show interest in you, maybe she wants you to break up with her, so she can also play the “abandoned” character. Many of them love to play the victims; anyway, it’s not your concern. You’ve to stay focused on your needs and safety. I think the guys here suggested you some good exit strategies. Good luck!

Men of the Middle Age were not "oppressing" women. They were just SURVIVING.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

LastManStanding wrote:

How do i break up with a girl I live with? Should I at least let her know I am unhappy first and see if she tries to fix things??

Depends on the degree of crazy.

If you can, just give it to her straight.
“I don’t love you anymore. Goodbye.”

If you think there is any chance she will lash out and do crazy s~~~, then one strategy is to make her sick of you. “Feign Beta” and make her feel sorry for you. Become a disgusting grovelling over-complimentary suck ass. “You’re the reason I breathe” etc. All that s~~~ women HATE.

It’s not very complicated.

If your woman is anything less than totally loving , kind, and the most pleasant person you know…. “dump that bitch” (as Leykis would say).

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

Is it your house? You can kick her out if you want.

Are you sharing the rent? You have a right to leave—it’s your life!

I think you should have a stash of money somewhere (safety deposit box). Don’t share a bank account with her. When you have enough money to get your own apartment: sign a new lease and move all your stuff into that place when she’s not home (if possible). If she sits around all day, send her to the shopping mall with a few dollars. When she gets back, you’ll be gone. Leave a dear john letter w/o any insults. Just tell her the reason why you’re leaving and you’re not coming back. Leave some money for your share of the utility bills.

It’s important to pack up and leave WHEN SHE’S NOT THERE. Some women are known to go full psycho when you break up with them. They will smash your valuable stuff and break your car windows.

Best wishes to you, pal.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[Anonymous 12]

I always advocate the “prepare plan B, set in motion plan B, get the f~~~ out as a surprise” approach.
If from an emotional standpoint you are suffering, and are… “easing your suffering” with someone else… It´s time to get your mind straight and prevent further damage.

Rent a studio, cancel the current apartment, get a new phone number, prepare prepare prepare.
Live a double life. Ninja style
And when the time has come, Run.
Just vanish.
From both Girlfriends.

Neither will miss you for longer than… 48 hours, or less… for the time to find another wallet…
And you give yourself the chance to move on.

Do not talk about plans, do not let them know what you are up to, do not let them see your cards.
else they will make sure you suffer more and or cannot get out of the situation.

Treat your life as an ongoing divorce.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

I’m reading all this and thinking ‘what the f~~~…?”.

to OP: Look dude, you know the problem because you explained it to us. By your own choice, you’re living with a woman who is acting like, well… a woman. You are giving. She is taking. She is happy. You are not. You don’t have a unique situation here. What you have is actually a pretty common one. There is no mystery here to figure out.

The solution is so obvious that it’s hard for me to understand how you didn’t know it even before it was explained to you here. But if you couldn’t predict the way this woman would act when you moved in together, maybe you really can’t predict the way she will act when you try to move out (which is the only realistic solution, if that is not already clear to you). So pay attention here: When you move out, she will be unhappy. If she follows the most common pattern, her reactions will start with denial, then bargaining (seeking to keep you there serving her needs). When that doesn’t work, she will quickly progress to anger and probably seek to punish you for not serving her needs anymore. Obviously, the further away you are at that point, the better. They are frequently more creative and resourceful in finding ways to damage us than we are at finding ways to defend from it. Eventually, she will either accept that you are gone, or go stalker on you for a very long time.

Last: you are in the situation that you are in because, by your own admission, you can’t live without ‘affection’ yet. So let me clear this up for you once and for all. You aren’t getting ‘affection’. You were never getting ‘affection’. You were getting short term sex. It wasn’t ‘affection’. It was bait. It was used to get you into the situation that you are in right now. And, it worked pretty well, which is why it was used.

Your life will be a repeat cycle of getting baited, getting into situations where you are used and unhappy, and trying to escape… until you recognize the bait, and the situation for what they are. If you have any doubts about this, then move in wth the side chick and watch what happens…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Anonymous 13]

Do it, or don’t! It’s amazing how many things in life are THAT easy.

If you go and live with the mistress that will also go the same way.

All relations~~~s have a ‘Done By’ date stamped on them.

And read this thread because this is what happens WHEN she lies to get you out the house.

CAUGHT IN A LIE!

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

All the guys that already told you to find a new place and not talk to her gave you great advice. From this point on it is war and you want to avoid every possible bullet she is ready to shoot at you. Get money saved up, pack your s~~~ up while she is at work and get the hell out of there all in one day after you find a new place to live in. Find out the laws regarding your lease or rent with your landlord and make an arrangement with them to make sure not to tell your girlfriend you will be leaving.

Once you leave these are the things I suggest you do right away. Block her on every social media you have and block her phone number (if you are on social media get rid of that too while you are at it you don’t need it). Do not under any circumstances contact her or give out your new address to anyone she knows this includes any of your friends she might know well.

If you have to get a new phone number do it. Do you have a place you like to always go to like a gym or coffee place? Yeah forget those exist too find new places to hang out at she will try to hunt you down and confront you. Finally never cohabitate with a woman ever again I hope you learned your lesson. Don’t even let them leave a toothbrush at your place if you have to bang a girl go to her house to do it your place is off limits. Good luck you will need it.

[cj023Participant 723]

Grab a lightbulb drill small hole in the metal just below the glass, fill lightbulb with gasoline and a squirt of dish soap, cover hole with epoxy or caulk, screw lightbulb in desired socket, make sure switch is off….. if it gets that serious

[BufordParticipant 935]

It’s an old adage but it’s a great one….when you feel you’re trapped, the only way out is through. You know what you need to do, so get it done. Don’t however go running to this other girl, you’ll just be running into a different corner.

"This happens every time one of these floozies starts poontangin' around with those show folk fags. - Sheriff Buford T. Justice"

[AttonParticipant]

Thoughts? Advice?

Cohabitation is a bad idea stop doing it that simple.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

Whatever you decide to do, don’t kill her. ^^

Nor yourself.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[Anonymous 1]

LastManStanding wrote:

Because I am so lonely

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