Please help me :(

[LastManStandingParticipant 638]

I have been cohabiting with my girlfriend for three years. The relationship is basically me being her ATM and slave. I do all the cooking, most of the cleaning, pay for all the dates and about 60-70% of our bills. Sex in the beginning was plentiful and I was happy. Now, I basically get no sex, no affections, no love. All she does is sleep when she gets home from work or does bulls~~~ on her phone, iPad or kindle. I am very unhappy and want out. She does not even know that I am unhappy. I doubt she has the slightest idea about how miserable I am. Because I am so lonely, I have been dating another girl behind her back. I know, I know, I should not be seeing any woman, let alone two. But the mistress at least loves me and treats me great. She knows I have a girlfriend and doesn’t even want a serious relationship (at least she says) I have had a vasectomy, so I am not worried about pregnancy. I just need out of this mess. It sucks being so lonely and living with a woman. We don’t even sleep in the same room anymore. I snore, so I tell her I don’t want to interrupt her sleep. Even though I really don’t want to sleep with her anymore.

How do i break up with a girl I live with? Should I at least let her know I am unhappy first and see if she tries to fix things??

Thoughts? Advice?

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

find a new place to rent, and then break up with her. This way you will avoid being dragged out in the back of a cop car.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[WallyParticipant]

Get out now, you are in a toxic relationship, and don’t take this the wrong way but you should not even live with a woman, you might as well swallow a bunch of worms and feed them by what you eat, honestly you would be better off, you know this, get out now!

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[AutoliteParticipant]

LastManStanding wrote:

Should I at least let her know I am unhappy first and see if she tries to fix things??

Sure, give that a try! If it works it’ll be a historical first. Just tell her that you’re going out for smokes and just don’t ever come back. If you don’t smoke, consider starting. It will help the facade along…

[LastManStandingParticipant 638]

k… Ill be back later to look at the replies. I appreciate the brutal honesty… I need it.

[joetechParticipant]

I was in your place two years ago. Get yourself ready to leave. Find a place to live, make arrangements to have your stuff moved out of there ahead of time, open a new bank account at a different bank and have the statements sent to a post office box, then bail. I didn’t do that and ended up homeless for a month and a half while I lived out of my car and made other living arrangements out of state. I’m still recovering emotionally, but I was abused in my previous relations~~~, so I have a lot of scars to heal. Protect yourself and never forget…you’re sleeping with the enemy.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[sidecarParticipant 35839]

Do you own your home, or are you renting?

If you’re renting, the solution is simple: find somewhere else to live, rent it, move there, stop paying rent on your current place. You may have to sacrifice your security deposit.

Meanwhile close any shared bank accounts you have or that she has knowledge of. The same goes for credit cards.

Getting a parasite out of a house you own is considerably more difficult. What are the common law marriage laws where you are?

And in the future:

No marriage. NO COHABITATION. No procreation.

Always at her place. Never at yours.

[Anonymous 6]

Your current live in is using you as a DICKSTAND and has been since she moved in with you. Don’t be a pathetic loser and keep the bulls~~~ going. That is you paying for her s~~~ and getting nothing in return. Make it stop, SOON. Grab your nuts and squeeze them. Keep squeezing your nuts until you get your s~~~ in order.

This is all.

[Sky-OParticipant 18949]

I had to stop reading and reply when I got to the part:’She does not even know that I am unhappy.’

Oh, Bro Bot, she knows and it gives her satisfaction. They thrive on the way they are able to make men they are with unhappy. They love it. And consider it an accomplishment.

Because deep down inside, she is inherently miserable. And, well – Misery loves company.

[bladeParticipant]

Move in with your mistress things will work out just fine .

When i see please help me i think a very dire situation like suicidal , accused of a crime someone hasn’t committed or not able to see there kids and serious bad s~~~ going down . Not playing around with two woman . Self inflicting drama nfg . Have you not any intrest on been on your own and living a happy life ? Have you not been reading the stories on here ? Codependency will lead you into trouble in many ways .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Billy&The CloneasaurusParticipant]

Don’t monkeybranch to the mistress. Keep banging her yes…but I think you’ve learned your lesson regarding cohabitation, etc. I agree with my brothers above. Get a new place, break it to her gently (after you’ve moved your stuff), and make your exit. I’ve been where you’re at, and it’ll be ok after a few months (unless she’s a total psycho).

The answer, is no.

[Anonymous 1]

Clean break don’t waste your life on being unhappy. It is way too short. Don’t worry about her feelings. She will use them to manipulate you. Leave as soon as you can without warning. Sounds harsh but its better than the ride down to the station

[Anonymous 3]

LastManStanding wrote:

But the mistress at least loves me and treats me great.

So did your woman once, or you would not be in this situation today…

I think by this time you should be familiar with the concept AWALT, but if you have any doubts consider a granade; it does take its time to explode, but inevitably it WILL. Do you want to bet you can get a dud?

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Dude your playing with fire wearing a paper suit. If she get’s wind that your cheating she’s going to send you to jail on a false accusation.

Be smart, don’t be a pussy beggar. Get rid of the “mistress”, you mean second girlfriend your spinning, and then, when the coast is clear dump your girl like a sack of potato’s by just disappearing one day. Find a place to stay and leave.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Be like Snagglepuss, and exit stage left, or right if that floats your boat.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Grumpy wrote:

Be like Snagglepuss, and exit stage left, or right if that floats your boat.

Heavens to Murgatroyd!

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Anonymous 18]

LastManStanding wrote:

She does not even know that I am unhappy.

She knows and doesn’t care.

LastManStanding wrote:

But the mistress at least loves me and treats me great.

Man. Spend time here other than when you need help. It might teach you a thing or two.

Your mistress is smarter than you. She knows how sweet your gf is and realizes she can upgrade to your main slot machine.

She is biding her time for now.

She doesn’t love you.

LastManStanding wrote:

doesn’t even want a serious relationship

Hmmmm, she does. But that depends how much damage you take getting your gf out of your life. But for you personally its a lose lose since in 6 months she’d treat you same as your main go to girl is now.

LastManStanding wrote:

How do i break up with a girl I live with?

Try reason. Tell her you need space. Although it all depends if she has another man in line. If not, expect drama.

LastManStanding wrote:

Should I at least let her know I am unhappy first and see if she tries to fix things??

I’d defer it to more experienced brothers here.

Sky-O wrote:

They thrive on the way they are able to make men they are with unhappy.

+1.

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

Good honest question, and lots of great replies. In my mind, the important thing is that you have the desire to leave; that shows that you understand the problem and aren’t willing to be the white knight anymore.

As far as leaving, there are lots of right ways and lots of wrong ways. Since you’ve already received some excellent tips on the right ways, let me tell you what NOT to do.

Don’t have a sit down with her to talk it out. Don’t tell her you’re planning to leave any sooner than you have to, if at all. If you’re doing the work and paying most of the bills, you’re hosting a parasite, and parasites will do whatever it takes to cling to their host, even if the host dies (not to sound morbid, but if you read the stories on here you know I’m not exaggerating).

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[MACHOParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

So did your woman once, or you would not be in this situation today…
I think by this time you should be familiar with the concept AWALT, but if you have any doubts consider a granade; it does take its time to explode, but inevitably it WILL. Do you want to bet you can get a dud?

Since you have been lurking on this site the red pill should have be working its way through your system. I don’t understand you here, you sound so blue pill! time to become more MGTOW!

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Wow, yeah. Get the f~~~ out. Do it on the sly, though, no conversation, no bargaining, no last minute disingenuous offers of blowjobs and sandwiches from her, no crying, begging, pleading and threatening.

Line up a place to stay (weekly apartments are fine for this), slowly move the five or six things in the house you simply CAN NOT live without to your office or “loan” them to friends, put a month’s worth of cash away and then one day when she’s out doing something that’s going to take a few hours, f~~~ing bail and leave no forwarding address.

During your prep time, don’t change your behavior or you’ll tip her off. Inside you’ll be feeling confident and ready to move, but outside you’ve got to act the same as you do right now. It’s important that she doesn’t get a sense that you’re up to something.

Dump any other women you’re seeing for now, too. You need to be free and on your own and away from the intoxicating scent of pussy. When you get your own place, you’re free and clear of the current roommate/girlfriend and you’re feeling good about things again, then you can dabble if you want. For now, though, letting another woman get close will just result in a repeat.

And whatever you do, don’t leave this one holding the bag on any rent or utility bills that you owe together. Send her your portion of the bills until the lease runs out in a money order in an envelope with no return address. She should not know where you are but if you leave her having to pay for something you agreed to pay for, she’ll be after you like a tom chasing jerry.

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