To Won’t Get Fooled Again
I just read a web page in which a wife outlined the aftermath of her affair which was discovered by her husband and seeking advice from the readers. It turns out that her affair had just ended when her husband discovered it and she was hoping that her husband would forgive her, and forget that anything happened, and their marriage would be salvaged. But here is the twist and the reason I include it here under this Thread.
The husband wasn’t about to forgive her at all. He said from that point on he wanted an Open Marriage and of course that floored the cheating wife. So she was now looking for advice since she was desperate to stay married (kids were also involved). In essence he said “Sure we’ll stay married; no need for a divorce. Although we will be legally still married, in practice we’ll be separate people living as husband and wife under the same roof just continuing along as usual. We will continue to raise the kids, do everything that parents do, Christmas, vacations, school functions etc. I will continue to be a good father to our kids, and I expect that you will be a good mother. We will continue to run the household just as before, with you doing the domestic work and I looking after the gardening, and repairs etc. You will have and be responsible for your car and I will be responsible for and have my own car. All the finances from now on will be split right down the middle. We each will pay half of everything including all costs associated with the kids. That includes mortgage and property taxes unless you want me to buy your half, in which case you will pay me rent. We will each be sleeping in different rooms. I get the master bedroom and bathroom, and you get the guest room and upstairs bathroom. We will no longer have a husband and wife relationship. That means we will no longer have a sexual relationship. We will be simply friends. If you need comfort beyond that you will have to find it outside or with your male or female friends”.
The terms of the Open Marriage will be “Not in this house, and not with anyone we know”. You can go and screw your ex boyfriend or as many men as you want. I will have the same freedom. I intend to find another woman who will be a faithful loving partner.
Of course the wife was p~~~ed and couldn’t believe that he would be entitled to have an affair. She wanted everything to be forgotten and forgiven. I thought about just how good this solution was. She could not accept the fact that he would no longer be her husband and sleeping with. I loved this solution. It avoided divorce and the associated expense. It kept the family sort of together and the kids with their two biological parents. What even pleased me more was that this set up would be a huge disadvantage to the wife. I can see how difficult it would be for her to secure a long term meaningful relationship. She would be back to one night slutty stands and she would soon get a reputation. She would have to leave if she wanted to set up house. The husband on the other hand would be in a great position to start anything he wanted, with the safety net of not having the freedom to set up house.
experienced 4 years, 8 months ago.
