I’ve done the online dating thing since my divorce in 2008. It has its good and bad points. Either way, I’ve gotten pretty good at it. I have good written communication skills so that gives me an advantage. I also have a good strategy which I will share.
1) I am a middle age man. Guys between the age of 35 and 55 are in the catbird seat when it comes to dating, especially if we date women in our age range. It is revenge for high school and college when women were in the catbird seat. The first important thing I’ve learned is to date women my own age or older who have been single for a while. They have already come to terms with the fact that their value has gone down. They may not be happy about it but the days when they could go to a bar with no money and have guys hitting on them or buying them drinks all night is a distant memory. I avoid the newly divorced or the women who have just gotten back into dating after a fifteen year marriage. They haven’t learned that they ain’t what they used to be and still expect it to be like it was when they were 27 years old.
I also avoid younger women meaning ten or more years younger than me. I married a fertile 30 something woman back in the 90’s. In seven years or less she will no longer be interested in you. If you are on this site you already know how that story is going to end. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice?
2) I only date women who are a day’s drive away. The long distance thing is the best way to preserve your sovereignty. Pick a part of the country you love to visit and start communicating with women from there. Love to golf? Set the search options for fifty miles within Myrtle Beach. Want to go to bike week? Search for Daytona Beach. Never been to New Orleans? About a month before Mardi Gras start chatting away. You will be able to spend a week in the Big Easy and not have to worry about paying for a hotel if you play your cards right.
3) I date lots of retired women. They have lots of time and their own money. They don’t want to get married because it will mess up their social security. The age thing really doesn’t bother me. Plus, a fifty-something man can attract the best looking sixty-something women in the country. Plastic surgery, hair extensions, skilled use of make up means they often look ten years younger. There is this great invention called the light switch. When it is in the off position everybody looks ten years younger.
4) Act like a gentleman. Don’t put up pics without a shirt. Lose the baseball cap. Above all else, don’t send pictures of your genitals over the internet. Only put up one picture of your motorcycle. (the motorcycle pic is important if you ride. For some reason it will repel the more controlling type of women. Biker chicks are more amenable to relationships on our terms.)
5) Let them know you are dating other women. If they want an exclusive relationship it is something they will have to earn. The moment you delete your profile and declare your undying love is the moment when you lose all power and respect.
Warratah 4 years, 11 months ago.
