One Woman's Attention Grabbing Delusions

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

Anonymous wrote:

Welcome Louder.

what is it with women wanting to tell the world about their divorce? My ex did the same (blog) thing. I read it once soon after separation, it p~~~ed me off with the same sort of deluded thinking. me me me me me.

I vowed never to go near it again. Make it a clean cut, not a nasty festering wound that gets picked at.

Can I respectfully suggest you do the same and stay away from her s~~~. You will feel better and heal faster.

Ignore the information from (well meaning?) friends. Just let them know you DGAF; I’ve been doing that every time my parents ask how the ex is. ‘I don’t know, and I don’t care. I’m not interested in her life beyond ensuring she has her s~~~ together enough to look after the kids when she has them. Next question’

Hello unforgiven (awesome screen name and avatar by the way)
I don’t claim to understand the whims of females, other than emotions usually dictate their actions. I suspect that women like to brag up their divorce because they are truly weak and need the condoning words of others to assure themselves they are “ok” and doing “what’s right for you” is just dandy.

I like your take on the matter and am absolutely on board with the DGAF outlook, as long as the kids are safe and sound. I almost felt like exposing myself to her digitized tripe would help me in some manner, but I think the illustration you gave about the wound being picked at is very sound. I do need to avoid/control the curiosity aspect regardless of how entertaining the s~~~ she puts out there actually is.

I very much appreciate you sharing your common experiences. Glad to know you’re out there and thanks for the advice!

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

Monk wrote:

Thelouderthebetter wrote:

The last text he ever sent me said “you need to figure out what you did, admit it, and pull you marriage back together”.

He didn’t die a moment too soon.

Monk, this was a man that once confided in me that he once thought about leaving his family and going full nomad when his 4 kids were very young. I will never forget this conversation because I could tell he was saying this to me because he thought that’s where I was at. His discernment was for s~~~ and it stifled a true connection with his own family. I couldn’t believe he was so far off the mark, but it also adds to the bigger picture as to why my ex turned out the way that she did. She projected her daddy issues on me and it made for a very caustic situation when it came to my role as a father.

Thanks brother!

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Welcome! I’ve become convinced that some women (if not most) have the ability to literally turn into a different person from the one you met. I know that some of us will argue that it’s actually a phenomenon where they hide their true personality in order to get what they want (e.g., act “good” long enough to have a couple of kids), but I think that’s essentially a distinction without a difference.

Yeah… my ex-wife acted genuinely surprised when I stopped depositing my paychecks into our joint account after she walked out (with my lawyer’s knowledge and permission). Entitled little things, ain’t they? She’d been buying food, movie tickets, baseball tickets, etc. for her Chad and his kids… with MY earnings. Like yours, she’d also been stashing cash (making small purchases at stores with her debit card, and then getting “cash back” to avoid ATM withdrawals).

I’m glad that you have half custody of your boys. That’s a pretty big “win”, as you know.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

Fr Jack wrote:

Rise above her s~~~, and remain no contact.

Been working well so far!
Thanks Jack

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

What a s~~~ show man. Sorry you had to go through that. I remember when my uncle was going through his divorce. They were still cohabitating, and incidentally… still f~~~ing. He shared with me a story about how he went to go down on her this one time, and pulled her panties down and found what looked to be like another woman’s hair in her panties. He suggested not only was she sleeping around with men, but also with women while they were going through their divorce. I couldn’t help but LOL at the time. But jeez. Looking back.. How sad.

Thelouderthebetter wrote:

Shin wrote:

My uncles 1st wife left him for another woman 20 years ago (his gain really except losing the house and 2/3 of his teen children being manipulated to hate him).

I’m sure all this non-binary gender crap will only amplify this sort of behavior in the hive.

Hey Shin, that’s so terrible that your uncles kids went through alienation at the hands of a manipulative woman who apparently balances her self worth on getting others to tow her line. That’s complete and utter garbage and I hope parents who do that to their kids have a healthy day of reckoning. I consider myself lucky in that my boys are very young and my influence overshadows anything their mother can throw at them. I avoid conflict like the plague but will rise to defend at any cost when my children are involved. Glad your uncle has you on his side.

I mean, what does biology have on the sound and stable minds/emotions of our current society!?

Thanks brother!

I don’t like ringing the bell of truth very often (there’s enough guys here to do it), but the reality is, they all do it.

Monk wrote:

Thelouderthebetter wrote:

The last text he ever sent me said “you need to figure out what you did, admit it, and pull you marriage back together”.

He didn’t die a moment too soon.

The father had no way of knowing. Esp if everyone was keeping the truth from him.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

WPL wrote:

Welcome! I’ve become convinced that some women (if not most) have the ability to literally turn into a different person from the one you met. I know that some of us will argue that it’s actually a phenomenon where they hide their true personality in order to get what they want (e.g., act “good” long enough to have a couple of kids), but I think that’s essentially a distinction without a difference.

Yeah… my ex-wife acted genuinely surprised when I stopped depositing my paychecks into our joint account after she walked out (with my lawyer’s knowledge and permission). Entitled little things, ain’t they? She’d been buying food, movie tickets, baseball tickets, etc. for her Chad and his kids… with MY earnings. Like yours, she’d also been stashing cash (making small purchases at stores with her debit card, and then getting “cash back” to avoid ATM withdrawals).

I’m glad that you have half custody of your boys. That’s a pretty big “win”, as you know.

You said it WPL, “a distinction w/o a difference”!
The woman I married doesn’t exist anymore. I’ll let the photos do the talking.
They are nothing if not entitled. Somehow a woman’s emotions are able to provide the ability to justify any injustice she might inflict simply because she deems it so. You are one hell of a guy to have put up with your money being used in the manner you described. What utter nonsense and you’d think a modern, independent woman would have more pride and self respect than to act in such a way. Interesting where the line of equality actually fades and the truth is revealed.

Thanks for the congrats man. I couldn’t be happier with the time I have with my sons. Being a father without the dead weight around has been an absolute healer for me. Makes it ALL worth while.

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"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

Man, Photobucket really went to s~~~ over the last couple of years apparently:)
Lets try those photos again.

THEN

and NOW

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[Screamin1Participant 152]

Wow. Welcome. Those pictures nearly made me lose my lunch. What a horrible transformation. Bet that makes you puke in your mouth every time you see it. Which, you should not be doing. You need to stop searching for pain. Only interact as it concerns your boys.

I looked at that Village website. What a monumental piece of craptastic garbage. Women can pretty much justify anything and get a “you go grrrlll” from the hive. Nasty stuff. Enjoy your freedom man.

[Anonymous 1]

well – that’s attractive.

More holes in her face than a pincushion.

Those tatt’s will look good in 20 years, too.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

IRuleMe wrote:

What a s~~~ show man. Sorry you had to go through that. I remember when my uncle was going through his divorce. They were still cohabitating, and incidentally… still f~~~ing. He shared with me a story about how he went to go down on her this one time, and pulled her panties down and found what looked to be like another woman’s hair in her panties. He suggested not only was she sleeping around with men, but also with women while they were going through their divorce. I couldn’t help but LOL at the time. But jeez. Looking back.. How sad.

He didn’t die a moment too soon.

The father had no way of knowing. Esp if everyone was keeping the truth from him.

Thanks El C~~~o, and it sounds like your uncle had an interesting ride.
As for my deceased ex-father in law, he wasn’t totally in the blind. He called me once very early on after my ex started living with her new girlfriend. This was still before his leukemia diagnosis, and told me he was praying for me and his daughter. After thanking him I naturally asked him to pray about his daughters lifestyle choices and the fact that the kids are being forced into the middle of it. He told me he didn’t believe me because he and his wife “didn’t see that kind of behavior in their daughters character”. Again, his discernment was for crap.

The ex’s family did go to great lengths to hide this truth from him. My side of the family, including myself, were not allowed to visit. I just wrote letters to him. I also refrained from sending him any of the pictures that would prove what was going on. Figured if it was going to come from anywhere, it probably shouldn’t come from me since I had already said my piece and the man was dying. The funeral was in the spring of 2017 and I went to help with the kids. The ex actually had her new gal with her and here I sat in the back while the people I thought were family looked at me as if I was somehow responsible for what Hannah was doing. What was most incredible to me is that my ex used the platform of her fathers death to “come out”. This was the first time that many of our acquaintances were able to see what had actually transpired and to say shock was in the air would be an understatement.

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

Screamin1 wrote:

Wow. Welcome. Those pictures nearly made me lose my lunch. What a horrible transformation. Bet that makes you puke in your mouth every time you see it. Which, you should not be doing. You need to stop searching for pain. Only interact as it concerns your boys.

I looked at that Village website. What a monumental piece of craptastic garbage. Women can pretty much justify anything and get a “you go grrrlll” from the hive. Nasty stuff. Enjoy your freedom man.

Thanks Screamin1. I appreciate the solidarity man.
This all happened long enough ago that it’s really not a sore spot beyond the daily thoughts of having my family ripped apart for no good reason. I’ve actually got a pretty big sense of humor about it all. I’m not a victim and am sincerely happy to not have to share my home with this woman anymore. She was not a good wife and rarely fun to be around. The freedom angle is absolutely amazing and makes me so thankful to be in the position I’m in (all things considered). I definitely have a different outlook on life, relationships, and the amount of myself I wish to share with the opposite sex. Enjoying the journey and learning as I dig deeper into the MGTOW community.

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[ZarathustraParticipant 2246]

My wife also came out as a Lesbian during our marriage and we divorced. So I understand what you went through, to some degree. I echo a comment made by another on this post that I am sure my wife knew she was a lesbian when we married. She thought she could enjoy the cash and prizes that a marriage with man could give her, plus the social acceptance, until she found she could no longer refrain from sex with women. Never were my needs ever taken into account. I get that it is tough being Gay, to some degree, but it doesn’t’ give you the right to use someone else to maintain the illusion of heterosexuality just for your own comfort.

We had no kids so at least it was a little less complicated.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

I agree %100. Glad you didn’t have kids in the mix brother. There are so many future “discussions” that I will have to approach while also trying to avoid “bad mouthing mom”. Let’s face it, it’s tough being anyone really. Everyone is making a proper mess for everyone else and in the heat of the moment, we’re more likely to lapse in better judgment than to do anything constructive.

Sucks that you had to find out your wife wasn’t who she fronted to be when you married her. Are you like me though and thank God your ex didn’t make of with a man? I don’t know if it’s ego or what exactly but the fact that my ex ran off with a woman is kinda funny to me. It certainly would have stung like hell with another dude.

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Welcome Louder.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

WPL wrote:

Welcome! I’ve become convinced that some women (if not most) have the ability to literally turn into a different person from the one you met.

Agreeded
If they act like an NAWALT at first it won’t last.
That’s why AWALT.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[ZarathustraParticipant 2246]

Thelouderthebetter wrote:

agree %100. Glad you didn’t have kids in the mix brother. There are so many future “discussions” that I will have to approach while also trying to avoid “bad mouthing mom”. Let’s face it, it’s tough being anyone really. Everyone is making a proper mess for everyone else and in the heat of the moment, we’re more likely to lapse in better judgment than to do anything constructive.

Sucks that you had to find out your wife wasn’t who she fronted to be when you married her. Are you like me though and thank God your ex didn’t make of with a man? I don’t know if it’s ego or what exactly but the fact that my ex ran off with a woman is kinda funny to me. It certainly would have stung like hell with another dude.

I might be nice to have kids but no to have to negotiate with the ex about it so I feel for ya. I never thought about if I would feel worse if my wife left me for a man. I was just p~~~ed that I was lied to and manipulated.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

Zarathustra wrote:

Thelouderthebetter wrote:

I was just p~~~ed that I was lied to and manipulated.

Absolutely brother. Upward and onward!

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[ThelouderthebetterParticipant 178]

So back in 2016, before the divorce was finalized, I was going through a shed in my backyard and stumbled across an interesting fathers day card I had received from my lovely wife (at the time). When I received this I must have blocked it out entirely because had I been in any kind of a mood to argue with the pair of ovaries I was stuck with, I would have surly had something to say. Just imagine if a man reduced his wife in this fashion:

Happy to no longer be a sperm donor.

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

Women thinking bad attention is good attention.

In reality, it gives them bad reputation that know man will ever deal with it. F~~~ing losers.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

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