Oldschool's intro…

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Hello all, I’m glad to be here now. Any way i’ll lay it out for all to get to know me. I’m 44, daughter almost 14, good job, ex wife is 38. I got married at 26 and had pretty much a great 17 years. We never really fought and when we did it wasn’t bad. Our daughter was born and life changed for the better, we one big happy. The three of us were never separate, never wanted to be. I make good money so we decided she would stay at home and raise our girl no problem, all is well until this past February, the s~~~ show begins.. I go to work with a kiss and a I love you like I had everyday and come home to crying and “I can’t do this anymore”, WHAT!!! Ok so I go through everything in my head to save the marriage (counseling, time apart, a priest, I’ll quit my job and we can move etc.) nothing works, nothing. She just keeps digging in her heels the more I try and esculating her want of divorce. Ok, I know you are all thinking she was cheating on me but my brothers I can tell you she was not so I will not waste any more time on that. She wants out right NOW, talking asset separation, custody, alimony, child support, retirement funds, everything, my head is still spinning she has got me off balance. So I come to my senses and realize this is going to happen and I start circling the wagons to protect myself. We decide to use one lawyer to file and we work out all the financials and terms on our own but I will say she knew all the alimony and child support due to her by doing a quick online search and using the calculators provided by the state to use as her starting point in negotiations. This whole time I still love this girl, family and friends are stunned this is all happening, then comes the Oldschool awakening. She comes home one morning, the morning we were to sign the final divorce papers at the lawyers office and starts an argument… So here we are yelling at each other with my daughter hearing it all, since I have conceal carry I have my gun holstered on my hip like I usually do and she knows it, never a big deal until today. I put my hand on the holster to adjust it without thinking and she screams as loud as she can and runs out the back door (uh-oh). So I follow her and she is gone, I walk to the front in my driveway and see her four houses away cell phone to ear (uh-oh). So I go back into the house knowing what is in store for me in the next five minutes, I secure the gun go to my daughter tell her I think mom called the police on me and I love her. Then I see the first squad car creep up and stop a few houses away, then a second, third, fourth, fifth (OH-S~~~). So this is going to go one of two ways, I come out or they come in for me. My daughter is in the house because my soon to be ex left her there to protect herself first and ran, so I walk out and these officers are everywhere coming from the sides of my house, the front right at me with guns pointed at me hands up thinking I’m going to get shot. After they frisk me they tell me what I already figured and ask me what happened in an all to friendly manner, all I say over and over is “she’s lying” nothing else. After 10 min of this they call an all clear and tell me she says she may have over reacted and does not want to press any charges, seems she realized my paycheck, pension and all else would vanish if her ill conceived plan worked and mind you the whole time my 13 year old daughter was watching from inside the house. That is the day I fell out of love, thats the moment I realized I WILL NEVER be in this spot again, ever. I went from happily married to that in 6 weeks, I never saw it comming. So needless to say the divorce was uneventful and over with earlier this month, I got 50/50 custody and the money and assets split about 50/50 (I saved my pension!) It will be tight financially for the next 4 years but then I’ll kick ass. So thats it, my story, my heaven and hell and how I made it to MGTOW. I’m glad to be here and plan to participate as much as I can to these forums. Oldschool..

Get a vasectomy.

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Welcome to MGTOW. That’s a hell of a story.

[Anonymous 43]

cops and guns, been there done that, walked away alive thankfully

when I was served my papers by the sheriff, my brother came around the corner into the entry way into drawn firearms.

Stay as far away from this woman as possible. After living within 200 miles of the c~~~ and harassment, tracking devices, bulls~~~ court summons and 3 private detectives, I moved 900 miles away and finally found peace.

Good intro Bro, welcome to a small island, shelter from the s~~~ vortex. welcome

[Anonymous 43]

this would be what falling out of love looks like…

racing to earth at 900 mph and hope the parachute works

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

Oldschool wrote:

Ok, I know you are all thinking she was cheating on me but my brothers I can tell you she was not so I will not waste any more time on that.

Good story! But if you really believe this, you still have a ways to go. Enjoy the forums!

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

The only thing that kept you from ending up on slab with a note tied to your toe was your “meal-ticket” status. You’re lucky to be alive. Welcome.

[ABParticipant 762]

Oldschool wrote:

• I got married at 26 and had pretty much a great 17 years.
• I go to work with a kiss and a I love you like I had everyday and come home to crying and “I can’t do this anymore”
• She wants out right NOW, talking asset separation, custody, alimony, child support, retirement funds, everything
• but I will say she knew all the alimony and child support due to her

I know it sucks, but this doesn’t sound like a snap decision, and if it was…

Oldschool wrote:

I know you are all thinking she was cheating on me but my brothers I can tell you she was not

…then that is questionable.

Regardless, welcome to the site, pull up a chair and get ready to take back your freedom brother.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Welcome home brother.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Thanks for the replies all. A weird part of me wishes I found evidence of infeldality in her, then I would be able to put a finger on it and say there it is , thats why, thats the smoking gun. I did my homework during the divorce.

Get a vasectomy.

[ABParticipant 762]

Oldschool wrote:

Thanks for the replies all. A weird part of me wishes I found evidence of infeldality in her, then I would be able to put a finger on it and say there it is , thats why, thats the smoking gun. I did my homework during the divorce.

Yup, the desire for closure is a f~~~ if you never receive it.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[Admiral CrunchParticipant 776]

welcome. Sounds like she talked to some of her women friends and they convinced her when was the best time to “cash out” for maximum profit (usually when a man is at his peak earning power). At only 38,she has plenty of time to Monkey branch to the next Beta bucks provider….

Women do not love men. Women only love what men can provide.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

[/quote]

Admiral Crunch wrote:

Sounds like she talked to some of her women friends and they convinced her when was the best time to “cash out” for maximum profit (usually when a man is at his peak earning power).

Yep, she finally got a full time job in the early fall of 2016. She works with a bunch of older women. I’m sure she may have made a statement to one of them about how she is not totally happy in her marriage and some divorced bitch got in her head how she needs to leave me while she still has the pretty left in her. Oh well, if thats all it took see ya later. She will hit the wall within 3 years.

Get a vasectomy.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Oldschool wrote:

My daughter is in the house because my soon to be ex left her there to protect herself first and ran,

Oldschool wrote:

I got 50/50 custody and the money and assets split about 50/50 (I saved my pension!)

Welcome brother and at least the cops saw thru her BS and the courts gave you equal splits (which in itself is f~~~ing amazing today!)

You know she was probably planning this for months,eh?

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Yeah, no woman leaves that long term of a marriage without planning it out. Funny thing is she and I had a normal active sex life up until two days before she dropped the bomb on me. Everything was normal, no signs of what was to come whatsoever. We even went on a shooting range date/lunch a week before. Let this be a lesson to the younger guys, the girl you marry who is 21 will not be the same girl when she is 38!

Get a vasectomy.

[MACHOParticipant]

Welcome Oldschool, Enjoy the forums and thank you very much for telling your story.

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

Welcome!

This is not over. I hope you are very careful around your ex and don’t ever find yourself alone with her and that you document everything!

You sound like a good father. Your daughter is lucky to have you.

Good luck and looking forward to hearing more from you.

BIB

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

Welcome Oldschool. Hell of a story. You really are lucky to be alive. Some of the guys already mentioned, she had probably been planning both of the incidents for a while now and whether you choose to believe it or not, an affair or two, or more is very likely in this scenario. You would be wise to avoid ANY, ANY contact with the ex ever again. You might want to consider a restraining order against her, and she is likely to do so on you, as well. I know some people meet at the police station to do child exchanges. It protects you from another incident like before.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Thanks for the advice, all drop off consist of the ex staying in the car and my daughter conning to the door so I really never have close contact with her.

Get a vasectomy.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome brother
Bullet dodge, literally and figuratively.
Sound like your ex got herself some coaching. My brothers ex decided she wanted out then for tactical reasons, spent almost a year with someone she claimed to be scared of. Rest assured her scombag advisors got her a sweet deal.
The s~~~ thing is that getting away with 50/50 sounds like a massive victory these days. Consider my hat tipped to you.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Welcome Brother…Hope you are keeping your strength up…The feelings come and go as our world is turned upside down quickly. The loneliness creeps in due to the free time we have now and lack of routine but it will get better…The other brothers here have made it and they have thrive…Stay strong and welcome to the brotherhood…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[Author]

Posts