No contact

[ghostParticipant]

It’s not the easiest thing to do but it works. You have to remember the pain and suffering you had to go through. Never give in or you will be taken advantage of AGAIN.

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

Yeah, its tough.

I havent contacted her for over a year and I STILL had a dream last night that that I was kissing her. The torment never ends

Brother, we need to stick together.

[ghostParticipant]

The_Young wrote:

Yeah, its tough.

I havent contacted her for over a year and I STILL had a dream last night that that I was kissing her. The torment never ends

You’re not alone. Stay strong brother. We’re all in this together.

[JVBParticipant]

Yes. I still get bouts of vengeance and it keeps me up. But I put it aside and don’t give her the space in my mind. For me the no contact is in my mind.

Peace is > piece.

[MagpulParticipant 59]

I have no intention of ever getting involved with my ex again, but I hope she contacts me, just so I can tell her to f~~~ off.

[ghostParticipant]

JVB wrote:

Yes. I still get bouts of vengeance and it keeps me up. But I put it aside and don’t give her the space in my mind. For me the no contact is in my mind.

Exactly. We must keep our minds in OUR control.

[ghostParticipant]

Magpul wrote:

I have no intention of ever getting involved with my ex again, butI hope she contacts me, just so I can tell her to f~~~ off.

DO NOT go down to her level. Maintain your high ground. Be nice and make her feel like she made the worst decision of her life. Otherwise, you give her affirmation that she did the right thing.

[MagpulParticipant 59]

ghost wrote:

Magpul wrote:

I have no intention of ever getting involved with my ex again, butI hope she contacts me, just so I can tell her to f~~~ off.

DO NOT go down to her level. Maintain your high ground. Be nice and make her feel like she made the worst decision of her life. Otherwise, you give her affirmation that she did the right thing.

That is a good point, and she would probably feel much worse than if I did that.

[JVBParticipant]

ghost wrote:

JVB wrote:

Yes. I still get bouts of vengeance and it keeps me up. But I put it aside and don’t give her the space in my mind. For me the no contact is in my mind.

Exactly. We must keep our minds in OUR control.

Indeed sir.

Peace is > piece.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Magpul wrote:

I have no intention of ever getting involved with my ex again, but I hope she contacts me, just so I can tell her to f~~~ off.

One little bit of advice. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy. If she contacts you, she’s looking for an emotional response, ANY emotion. It shows you still care. Even if you have to fake it, give her nothing. Whatever. No matter what happens, my toes are still tappin’. That’s the most effective way of getting rid of her. Telling her to f~~~ off will tell her that you still care.

Also, from personal experience, taking the high road feels pretty good. The quick jolt you get from telling her to f~~~ off can’t compete with the view from the high road. Plus, there’s not much traffic up there, and it’s almost all men drivers. The high road for a woman is usually just not the LOWEST road. They always have the ability to create an even lower road and have no trouble digging that road to get what they want.

Also, if your ex is contacting you like that, then most likely she’s a narcissist. She needs to steal energy from other people because they lack the ability to create their own. A “f~~~ off” from you gives her energy. YOUR energy. You tell her to f~~~ off and she will drag you into a fight. Remember, if you get in the pen with a pig, you get dirty and the pig is happy. If she is contacting you, she’s just mentally going through her list of people to leach energy from. Giver her none and she will stop coming to you for it.

More broadly, when guys say they don’t like “drama” this is what they mean. When a woman creates “drama” they are creating a scenario where they can drain your energy. If you can, try to feel your energy when you are done talking to someone. If you have more, then you created it together. If you have less, then they stole your energy from you. If you can do that on a conscience level, you will quickly learn who to cut from your life. Obviously this doesn’t apply to a true friend in need, but even then you will feel good about yourself for helping someone that needed it. You know the difference between someone that really needs your help and drama.

Order the good wine

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Magpul wrote:

Gambit wrote:

Magpul wrote:

I have no intention of ever getting involved with my ex again, butI hope she contacts me, just so I can tell her to f~~~ off.

DO NOT go down to her level. Maintain your high ground. Be nice and make her feel like she made the worst decision of her life. Otherwise, you give her affirmation that she did the right thing.

That is a good point, and she would probably feel much worse than if I did that.

OK, one more bit of advice. WHO CARES how she feels? Look out for yourself brother. Her “feels” are her problem. Do right for you.

Order the good wine

[ghostParticipant]

TaxGuy wrote:

Plus, there’s not much traffic up there, and it’s almost all men drivers.

Very little traffic up here. No women and no blue pill men. Wide open lanes. Don’t get jammed in traffic again when you can punch the gas as you please.

[MagpulParticipant 59]

TaxGuy wrote:

Magpul wrote:

I have no intention of ever getting involved with my ex again, but I hope she contacts me, just so I can tell her to f~~~ off.

One little bit of advice. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy. If she contacts you, she’s looking for an emotional response, ANY emotion. It shows you still care. Even if you have to fake it, give her nothing. Whatever. No matter what happens, my toes are still tappin’. That’s the most effective way of getting rid of her. Telling her to f~~~ off will tell her that you still care.

Also, from personal experience, taking the high road feels pretty good. The quick jolt you get from telling her to f~~~ off can’t compete with the view from the high road. Plus, there’s not much traffic up there, and it’s almost all men drivers. The high road for a woman is usually just not the LOWEST road. They always have the ability to create an even lower road and have no trouble digging that road to get what they want.

Also, if your ex is contacting you like that, then most likely she’s a narcissist. She needs to steal energy from other people because they lack the ability to create their own. A “f~~~ off” from you gives her energy. YOUR energy. You tell her to f~~~ off and she will drag you into a fight. Remember, if you get in the pen with a pig, you get dirty and the pig is happy. If she is contacting you, she’s just mentally going through her list of people to leach energy from. Giver her none and she will stop coming to you for it.

More broadly, when guys say they don’t like “drama” this is what they mean. When a woman creates “drama” they are creating a scenario where they can drain your energy. If you can, try to feel your energy when you are done talking to someone. If you have more, then you created it together. If you have less, then they stole your energy from you. If you can do that on a conscience level, you will quickly learn who to cut from your life. Obviously this doesn’t apply to a true friend in need, but even then you will feel good about yourself for helping someone that needed it. You know the difference between someone that really needs your help and drama.

Great posts guys, thanks for the clarity.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Magpul wrote:

Great posts guys, thanks for the clarity.

Just trying to keep you from making the same mistakes I have. I’ve been sucked of my energy many times, and spent way to much time in the pig pen. It never turned out good. At least not for me!

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 13]

Silence is golden.

[ghostParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Silence is golden.

It’s also very calming and peaceful.

[KolaxisParticipant 668]

Deal with toxins in your life the same way you deal with them in your body. You don’t play nice with cancer and hope it doesn’t kill you. You don’t tell it to go away and leave you alone. No, you cut it out and move on. Easier said than done, I know, but there are people here to support you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Jackie: How do you write women so well?
Melvin Udall: I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.

[joetechParticipant]

Exes are exes for a reason. Wipe her from your mind and the heart will follow. Give her no future with you. She’s part of the past now. Best to keep her in her place.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[ghostParticipant]

joetech wrote:

Exes are exes for a reason. Wipe her from your mind and the heart will follow. Give her no future with you. She’s part of the past now. Best to keep her in her place.

Wise words indeed. Thank you, Sir.

[MorpheusParticipant 2177]

I just call my last girlfriend, the witch. But sometimes, i do remember the things we did together. But i know it is like a kickback from a bad habit.

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