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[AllenParticipant 146]

I don’t know your full situation, but if you can do it, take it slow and get a mediator rather than fight it out in court. You’ll walk away with a much better settlement and your dignity intact. This is how I did my second divorce and I got to keep most of my stuff and got 50/50 custody, it only cost me about $6000 total, and I didn’t spend a single minute in court. Only once did I have to sit down at the same table with the ex and the mediator. The only drawback was how long it took to get everything done. The savings in stress alone is worth the money spent.

Woman - I picture a man, then take away reason and accountability. - Melvin Udall

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Hello F,

Appreciate your Introduction and the great replies it has generated.

I have been where you are at and I understand your situation/ self-loathing.

Here is a link that summarizes my marriage and the succeeding RelationS~~~S:

/forums/topic/an-honest-love-letter/

However, you have found a gold mine here. So, keep digging.

Here is a link to help you avoid any problems you may have as a newcomer to this web site:

/forums/topic/list-of-unacceptable-blue-pill-baggage/

Here are some tips to help develop your “Introduction” which can be improved by adding more about yourself any time in the reply box below:

A good Introduction includes descriptions of Red Pills, lessons learned, and something about your actions as a man. The goal is for the newcomer to establish his Bonafides as a man on the MGTOW Road.

Without giving away specifics where others can identify you, kindly provide some Bonafides like what you are doing with YOUR life such as:

Work situation?

Education?

Hobbies?

What kind of fun things do YOU do?

Any future projects/ goals after your divorce?

Here is a link to a Post about how out of control and shameless woman are today. Feel free to comment there:

/forums/topic/todays-womyn-are-like-wild-boars-razerbacks/

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[CrankgankerParticipant 466]

Don’t sell yourself short bro. Your a Man and you will persevere. Take it a day at a time and try to be as calm and rational as possible. I cant give any solid advice for divorce as I’ve never been married but my personal opinion is to just get out as quickly as you can. The sooner you start, the sooner it ends.

You want to make me angry? I will take a bite out of that anger and shit out success.

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

I know that I must walk through the fire of court to gain my sovereignty (eventually) but I dread that like peeing on an electric fence. I am p~~~ed at myself for even allowing myself to be in this position. I am thankful for you men, that I might learn and be guided.

Take a page out of the female play book when it comes to divorce, and preplan. If you know you are going to take the step and leave, do it in an informed way. Hire an attorney that specializes in divorce, preferably one that specializes in representing men in divorce actions, and book an appointment to talk about your options.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

[MACHOParticipant]

Welcome fqndun, Ain’t reality a bitter pill to swallow! Hang in there, you found The site to refresh your mind. This unique site cares about man like you.

fqndun wrote:

Stupid fool here. Married for the dream of love and family, to a woman who married for security and money. I am a miserable son of a bitch. Just seeing my words here disgusts me. My accomplishments, personally glorious in the past, are like faded memories as the castration of marriage has taken its toll. Locked in this cage of matrimony, I know that I must walk through the fire of court to gain my sovereignty (eventually) but I dread that like peeing on an electric fence. I am p~~~ed at myself for even allowing myself to be in this position. I am thankful for you men, that I might learn and be guided

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[Anonymous 3]

Anonymous wrote:

Your not the only one who chased the white pickett fence, only to find that it doesnt exist.

Doc wrote:

Keep a steady course and roll slowly.

MarketWatcher wrote:

You are not alone and not to blame.

It is a Dream & you are now awake. reality can be a cruel judge. I woke up at about 40 from the American Dream. i snapped out of it, got my s~~~ together & slowly rebuilt my life, You can do the same.

Stick with the winners.
Stick with MGTOW

[CurmudgeonParticipant 64]

fqndun wrote:

I know that I must walk through the fire of court to gain my sovereignty

Fqndun: Take one day at a time…plenty of good advise in response to your post to consider. I’m a (anti-)family court alumnus 20 plus years ago and I remember how much it absolutely SUCKS. The time it takes for your journey thru hell to the promised land of PEACE and QUIET seems forever during the transition. Research this site and post when you can…there are plenty of guys with lots of experience here who may be able to help. Grace and Peace brother

No Bills No Boss No Bitch

[Remove me!Participant]

@fqndun been there, done that. I had the white picket fence, American dream, it was a nightmare.

Offense is better than defense. Get a great lawyer, and of course start hiding money.

Don’t fall in her trap of getting your buttons pushed/anger. It only feeds them. Ask the fellas in here about the NFG mindset. It’s amazingly great!

Life is so much better after my wife is out of my life. I’m sitting in MY CHAIR right now doing WHATEVER I WANT!

Like a bird on the wire, like a drunk midnight choir, I have tried in my way to be free.

[fqndunParticipant 59]

Thank you, men, for your advice and support. It is taken to heart and being implemented despite my lack of desire to do so. I would much rather everything “work out” but I know that she, and therefore us, will always be like this.

To improve the intro, as suggested, I am: too old to be in this spot, educated, professional, bunch of kids, involved with kids and community/fellowship, self employed, athlete, veteran, have some truly good friends who can count on me and I on them.

My money is my money and your money is our money.

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